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Q&A: ‘Is it OK to have sex with someone you don’t love?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Sex is rarely 'just sex'

Question submitted via Formspring.me:
“Is it OK to have sex with someone you don’t love?”

A great question!
The answer, is kind of complicated though; since what do you mean by “OK”?
People have different moral and religious views on sex, so let us look at it directly:
Is it fine for two consenting adults to have sex if they choose to?
Absolutely.

The number one issue, however, is that you both be on the same page about what is happening. For instance, if you are both in love, it’s fine. If you are both in it just for the sex that’s fine, too.

But if one of you is in love, and the other person is just in it for the physical thrill, you are going to have a problem.  The way women experience sex is often quite different than the way men experience sex.  Make sure you aren’t making love with someone who’s just having sex!

So to answer your specific question: if this person is in love with you, but you’re NOT in love with them, then no you shouldn’t have sex with them since they are only going to get hurt in the long run.

And you must be feeling some guilt already, or you wouldn’t have posed this question now, would you?

Keep us posted on how it turns out.

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B. Dave Walters

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