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Seven Tips for Making Yourself Happier

posted by Beyond Blue | 12:45pm Wednesday May 9, 2007

Every Wednesday is Tip Day on Gretchen’s blog. I might actually start a similar feature myself, but on Tuesday’s (“Tuesday’s Tips” sounds catchy, no?). Let me know if you’d like to see a regular feature like this on Beyond Blue.

I asked Gretchen for her favorite “Wednesday is Tip Day” post. Here it is!

Seven tips for making yourself happier IN THE NEXT HOUR.

You can make yourself happier–and this doesn’t have to be a long-term ambition. You can start right now. In the next hour, check off as many of the following items as possible. Each of these accomplishments will lift your mood, as will the mere fact that you’ve tackled and achieved some concrete goals.

1. Boost your energy.

Stand up and pace while you talk on the phone or, even better, take a brisk ten-minute walk outside. Research shows that when people move faster, their metabolism speeds up, and the activity and sunlight are good for your focus, your mood, and the retention of information. Plus, because of “emotional contagion,” if you act energetic, you’ll help the people around you feel energetic, too.

2. Reach out to friends.

Make a lunch date or send an email to a friend you haven’t seen in a while. Having warm, close bonds with other people is one of the keys to happiness, so take the time to stay in touch. Somewhat surprisingly, it turns out that socializing boosts the moods not only of extroverts, but also of introverts.

3. Rid yourself of a nagging task.

Answer a difficult email, purchase something you need, or call to make that dentist’s appointment. Crossing an irksome chore off your to-do list will give you a big rush of energy and cheer, and you’ll be surprised that you procrastinated for so long.

4. Create a calmer environment.

Clear some physical and mental space around your desk by sorting papers, pitching junk, stowing supplies, sending out quick responses, filing, or even just making your piles neater. A large stack of little tasks can feel overwhelming, but often just a few minutes of work can make a sizable dent. Try to get in the habit of using the “one minute rule”–i.e., never postpone any task that can be completed in less than one minute. An uncluttered environment will contribute to a more serene mood.

5. Lay the groundwork for some future fun.

Order a book you’ve been wanting to read (not something you think you should read) or plan a weekend excursion to a museum, hiking trail, sporting event, gardening store, movie theater–whatever sounds like fun. Studies show that having fun on a regular basis is a pillar of happiness, and anticipation is an important part of that pleasure. Try to involve friends or family, as well; people enjoy almost all activities more when they’re with other people than when they’re alone.

6. Do a good deed.

Make an email introduction of two people who could help each other, or set up a blind date, or shoot someone a piece of useful information or gratifying praise. Do good, feel good–this really works. Also, although we often believe that we act because of the way we feel, in fact, we often feel because of the way we act. When you act in a friendly way, you’ll strengthen your feelings of friendliness for other people.

7. Act happy.

Put a smile on your face right now, and keep smiling. Research shows that even an artificially induced smile has a positive influence on your emotions–turns out that just going through the motion of happiness brightens your mood. And if you’re smiling, other people will perceive you as being friendlier and more approachable.

Some people worry that wanting to be happier is a selfish goal. To the contrary. Studies show that happier people are more sociable, likeable, healthy, and productive–and they’re more inclined to help other people. So in working to boost your own happiness, you’re benefiting others as well.

Feel happier yet?



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Lynnette

posted August 11, 2007 at 9:24 am


Yes I feel a little bit happier now, as I was reading this articale I also straighted up my desk area, looks and makes you feel much better and happier when things are neat and clean.



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sandra

posted August 11, 2007 at 7:48 pm


I feel much better..some of the things are easy to do.. some not so much.. but yes ill start with the easy one and gets down to the harder ones.. am off singing my lungs out.. hehe this is fun.



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Debbie

posted September 12, 2007 at 8:51 am


I agree with all of these, but the only one I do on a regular basis is make time for friends. I make it a point to once a week take 3 or 4 hours and spend it with a friend, running their errands with them and doing lunch or dinner together, while we are doing their errands I usually get some of mine done that I don’t normally take the time to do for myself, but I will take the time for my friends. It bothers my husband that I have so many close friends, when all he has is acquaintances, because he never really takes the time to get to know anyone. By having so many close friends, when you do have a problem, they come to help cheer you up. By listening to other people’s problems you realize everyone has the same problems, some of us just handle them differently. I would be unhappy without my friends. Now for the clutter on my desk, I can’t bring myself to clear it maybeone of my friends will(lol)



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craig rolle

posted September 17, 2007 at 12:06 am


i agree with almost every sugestion that was made in the paragraph on finding happiness after reading it i was very uplifted. i donot have many friends in fact i find my self being alone alot. i also learn that you need a friend to talk to about your problems. normally i talk to a few of my colleages at work who i can trust.i agree that clearing your desk of old papers and rubish will help up lift.i also send ecards for birthday,s and anniversary,s to friends and family



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gina

posted November 29, 2007 at 11:19 am


((I clean out my cloest for a garage and made a enough money to go shopping.No,i didnt go shopping i proud of myself and now my husband can put his clothing in the same closet .I didnt realize i was be so selfish.but my husband never said a word he a humble man and that one of the reasons i love him i brought a sign that says OURS for the closet. I feel better!



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