This is an awesome article but I think that if I actually used we out loud when referring to God people would think that I am crazy so you need to consider refraining from using we out loud. LOL!

This was truly beautiful and “we” all need to listen to this and read daily. Thanks for this one!!!

It has been three weeks since my precious husband died, I pray for strength and comfort, but the sorrow just becomes more deeply profound. I do not know how people live through such relentless grief. I do not know why to want to. June

When I read this my heart started to pound and I thought about looseing my Twin Sister three and one half years ago.I think up until this moment how emotionally torchering this has been for me and my children seeing me crying @times. I pray each and every day for Guidance and Discovery in the way of Good Health Strengh and Prosperity.I ask for Direction to continue to find Peace I’am An Artist and I find tremendous comforti in doing what I love most. God Bless All Of You

Just as the adjustment of tragic grief takes on a person feeling cut in half by the loss of a spouse, so is the breaking of the heart that it takes to open oneself up to the world. No change is easy, and permanent and change that says I am no longer able to have “me” time but “Knee” time is very hard. This almost seems too simple until you take it in. Our prayers are with those who have lost spouses. A friend of mine likened it to being torn in half and told, “It will be better soon, we promise.” “It never did,” he said. “I just learned to live with feeling at home with the grief.”

This is truely a touching article.It made me think about when my daughter died 6-21-99.Just the pain of losing someone so close is undescribable.Im only 26 years old and when I lost my daughter i was only 18.Most people will never understand the situation unless they go thru it themselves.I have been a christian for 2 years now and i cant imagine living my life without giving GOD praise everyday.He is the true healer.without him i am [we are] NOTHING.The pain will never go away but with Jesus help it will get better in time.I try to take it day by day with the help of the Good Lord by simply praising him.No matter where i am or who see’s me or even hears me.Jesus say in the word that if we be ashamed of him then when it comes time for judgement he will be ashamed of us.This means dont be ashamed to preach his word no matter where you are. people in this world are gonna talk and make fun of us anyway thru nomatter what we do.so if they make fun of us preaching the word…then praise the lord!!! more power to em.JESUS went thru alot more than just humility for our salvation and he didnt have to…

What a beautiful article. It made me think of my parnets who were married 65 years. Dad died in 2005 and mom just couldn’t stand the thought of living without him or using the “I” pronoun. She followed in 2006. Their deaths has hit me very hard and I have been struggling with depression ever since. I know I have to give myself time but I feel so alone without them. I thank God everyday for letting me be their daughter.

I’ve lost two husbands. One in 1989, at 35, of a massive heart attack. The second, in 2003, at age 74, of undiagnosed sepsis. It IS hard letting go of the “we” word; doubly hard when you’re just getting used to it. Both relationships lasted only five years each, and I miss them so horribly. As I often say to my friends, “I’d rather be a ‘we’ than a ‘me’.” Add to that grief is a diagnosis of bipolar disorder. Thank God I have a wonderful counselor who has seen me through these disasters on an outpatient basis, regulating medications, and giving well-thought-out cognitive therapy. She is a die-hard Catholic, and I don’t think I would have been more well-served than by her, a believer, who sees my love of God as something positive in my life. “With God, all things are possible,” even living without what should have been a life partner. But I have survived – I have to go on living. I can’t put on a shroud or widow’s weeds and withdraw from the world (which is all too comfortable at times). My husbands are dead – but I am alive…I have a “gentleman caller” who infuses my life with passion and excitement. It is all too true, that when God closes a door, he opens a window. I would never have known this wonderful man when I was married. To those who grieve – life DOES go on. Pray for comfort and release, and He will answer your prayers. God Bless All of You.

I would like to say, the “we” is so hard to stop using when we’ve lost one in our relatinship. When they are gone, either by choice or the heavens calling them home we all can’t seem to not let go of the “we”. We’ve all lost some one we love so much at some point in our life and when we lose the one we love, it’s hard letting go of them. I didn’t lose my partner, I left for many reason and still hard for me to let go. I still love and care so much, but with God on my side I will someday meet the right person he wants me to be with. God bless us all, and pray for the ones we lose.

Each day I am ever reminded that “I” is a mere word, often used precariously. God oftens reminds me of the fact that he is here with me always. Most often through the whisper of words that come from other people in my life and through other means and sources such as “Beyond Blue” and beliefnet.com. I cannot tell you how much I needed to be reminded that I am not alone. My burdens somehow feel much lighter than they did a short time ago. Thank you and much love to you! Elaine

Beyond the Blue sent me a “God-Breeze” today…thank you! Lorrie

My husband died suddenly, 3 days shy of our 15th wedding anniversary. I was 36, with children aged 9 and 13. Someone at the funeral told me it just gets longer in-between cries. I have passed this sentiment on to many in the passing 12 years. In the same breath, I normally add the quote “When God closes a door, somewhere He opens a window.” For me, that “window” is a wonderful man who has taught me that I can move on without forgetting the joy of that first true love. The most affirming part of this tale, is that I met this wonderful man at church. God has blessed me with a new beginning, and is there to rejoice in it with me, as He was when I was in mourning.

Eleven years ago,my youngest brother died from complications due to chronic kidney failure.Four years before his death at age 19,I donated one of my kidneys to him.Everything seemed to go well,until approximately eight months later,when his body rejected the kidney.The next four years were a living hell for my brother.He was always in and out of the hospital for one thing or another.He never spent more than two weeks without having to be admitted to the hospital,even if for only a day.When he died,I was there,I saw him die.Later,I had to tell his three year old son that his father was dead.My brother’s death traumatized me.It felt as though my soul had been destroyed.There was a great,huge emptiness inside me.Religion didn’t help me.Nothing helped.For the next ten years I existed in a perpetual nightmare from which I couldn’t wake.During those years,no amount of drugs or booze was enough to give me relief.What finally brought me out of it was my girlfriend.When I met Stephanie,the healing process began,because I took a risk,I opened my heart to someone,and love began to replace the hurt and pain I felt.I wasn’t living in a nightmare any more.God gave me this love,when I didn’t think there was a God.This is something i’ll never be able to express properly in words.God gave me the greatest gift of all.

No one ever wants to lose a loved on. But loss is a fact of live that we will all experience if we live long enough. If you are old enough to speak, then you are old enough to experience loss.
Grief is different for everyone. When my husband told me he had inoperable cancer I cried all night long. This couldn’t be happening to us…We love each other. Denial was the next order of the day. He was going to beat this, no matter what the doctors said. One night in prayer a calmness engulfed me. Or rather it was like being wrapped in comfort. In any case, it was hard to explain from a physical standpoint, but from an emotional one, in unspoken words I knew that my beloved husband was going to be taken care of, especially after he left my care.
We had no regrets, no unspoken words of affection. When he was gone in the physical sence I knew he remained, well planted in my heart. Do I miss him? Of course. But my thoughts are of a man who loved and lived life to the very fullest to the very end. I believe he had the best laugh in the entire world…and he infected people with it at every opportunity.

I lost my daughter three months ago and her dad my ex two months ago,this has me looking at my mortality and relying on Christ more now than ever. Yes its hard but I know he is right there with me all the way. This article has helped me understand more of his love for his children and how he makes everything okay. I will not fear death because it is the start of life.

I lost my sister to cancer 3 years ago. She was the very best friend one could have. She was my one and only sibling. She lived 6 years with the cancer but I guess I never really wanted to face her death because I never thought that time would come. But it did and our entire family was with her when she died. We all said our good bys and let her know that it was alright for her to leave us and be with our Lord. She died very peacefully and I will always remember the peace that her face showed when she breathed her last breath. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think about her and wish she were here. But that is a selfish wish because I know she is happy in heaven. That is what gives me peace. I will always have precious memories of her and be grateful that I had a sister in my life. Wanda

Wanda, I don’t think you’re selfish at all for wishing your sister was with you.That’s not selfishness,that’s just part of grief,it’s missing someone you loved very much.I am sorry for your loss.it’s hard to lose someone to illness.You find yourself sometimes questioning if it’s really part of God’s plan,if it somehow fulfills some unseen and unknowable positive function.You find yourself hating the doctors who are treating your loved one,because they’ve failed,they can’t stop your loved one from dying.As much as I hate to admit it,death is necessary for life to exist.I am so sorry your sister died the way she did,Wanda.

I am a registered nurse, I have seen death many times, I have also seen births. My mom is soon to leave me, we are very close, I finally saw her fears of life which she passed on to me. I can either keep these fears or let them go. I am working on the latter. For example, strange as it seems she passed on her fear for me to have children and really used to tell me not to, to be free! Why this happened I figured because she had a Down’s Syndrome child (my brother). I was afraid so I chose to remain childfree with the agreement of my husband. Now, when I see kids and families, I feel sad and anger at mom too but I made the choice and God has different ways for me to be a mother. I am now her mother, her caretaker, the mother to different needy pets along the way, and my nursing career has touched many lives I am sure of it. Thanks for reading. My best advice is be kind, everyone has some sad story, we all need a good listening ear and help each other.

So true, Marie…we all have a sad story but it is all to His glory. Let our Father make it a turnaround for a dunamis moment! Thank you Lord for the favor….!

my name is barbara one thing i have come to realize and accept and thats death the bible say to be absent from the body is to present witht the lord, the lord take pleasure in the death of his people,death is one call me all have to answer except;;; we shall not all sleep we shall all be change in a moment in the twinkle of an eye the dead in christ shall rise firstand we which are alive shall be caught up; to meet the lord in the air.there is comfort in knowing that the lord is with all i have lost my mother and father not to mention my 19yrs old son so i know what it feels like,we have that assurance that jesus will comfort them that mourn,our love ones are in a better place,and to lose one at the hands of some one else is cruel& injustice killed,sickness is bad, natural cause is not as bad.we just have to be strong & help one another,in time of death.

My heart goes out to all who have lost someone It has beeen almost a year now since my brother died the pain is still like aknife in my heart He had 2 of the worst types of cancer found about a year apart He was atrue man of God so I know he is safe in the arms of God still iask why him and yes selfish or not i wish he was here Death held no fear for him From day one he always said God is in control He was a living example of what he believed My baby brother i love and miss you see you and mom one day

Help!!!!, I am so frusturated and confused. I have a tendency to be angry at GOD when things are not going well in my life. I often look at
other peoples fortune and fame and wonder why life is so unbalanced and
disporportioned. I truely believe sometimes that GOD is a punishing GOD,mainly because that is how I was taught in order to stay faithful to my church. A fear factor to be compliant in attendance within the church.I do not have a healthy relationship with GOD and have never really felt that he listens/or answers my prayers. I know God is in control at all times…..Most people that I talk to about GOD have tremendous faith…They say the devil is taking over my thoughts. My question is if GOD really loved me and knows how I am struggling why is he not Stronger than Satan and help me through my troubling times?
I have met a wonderful Man whom I am truly in love with. I have been seeing him for nine months.This man sought me out……..but is so reserved with his feelings and fears commitment due to two past failed relationships/marriages.How do I remain patient and have the faith that this relationship will have a postive outcome for me…..I have tried prayer circles with no return feedback…….Where do I go…?

Having lost my parents many years ago, being divorced and my sone about to leave and be on his own, I also have felt to be alone. But, through the divine grace of God I have come to be blessed and encounter an intimacy with God and know for a fact that he is here with us all. Our flesh has a tendancy to rule so we have to adjust and remember who is in control. I say we are never alone.

Rosa: Have faith, he loves you. Nobody can do anything to you if God is with you. He loves you.:D June Perry, don’t give up. You can do it. I have faith in all of you. You are all in my prayers.:D

Diana and D June Perry,
Thank you soooo much for responding to my cry for help. It is so refreshing to know that there is understanding and support out there.
I wish I had the undeniable faith that you both have. I will pray for that. In the mean time would you please pray for me to find the peace, patience,hope and faith that this relationship will have a positive outcome. I hope to hear from you again, Rosa

I am presently going through a difficult period in my life. Up until November last year I would reflect on my life and think how easy life has been for me, no great conflict, no insurmountable challenges. Lets just say I lived a sheltered life. Situation changed drastically however when my 16 year old son was charged with murder. He was at a party when a fight broke out ….the rest is history. My entire family has been devastated and heart-broken by the unexpectedness of the event and I am stilling hurting. What I have learnt however, that during difficult times one can either run to God or away from Him. I have chosen to run to Him. Why run from a God who sees and knows everything that happens in heaven and on earth. One key verse that is comforting is Romans 8:28 “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” One other lesson I have learnt is not to take tomorrow for granted. How does anyone know what is around the next curve? Preparation is key; pray, praise, fast and study the word of God, you will be well cushioned for the next unexpected blow. I learnt the hard way. Mr son is in prison awaiting trial. Please pray for us. Thank you.

I pray for all of you that visit this site , in the name of Jesus , Lord touch all your people as you have my life in such a way that they will not doubt your love and your power in their lives , let them know you are there by manifesting it it their lives , oh Lord please ease their hearts and minds and give them peace undescribable…And I now declare in done in Jesus sweet Holy name I pray , Amen…and Amen …. your friend in Christ Jesus , Randal

Just a couple of weeks ago my mom decided to have surgery cause she has a

I go threw things but I know God will see me threw,keep prayer strong

Hi everyone, I just saw this little book called”what do we means when we say god?” I likes to hear their’s opinions, I dont againt anything, cuz i have my own opionins about my life why does god want me to be deaf?
Age 39- I’m on vacation in Maryland!!

My husband and I are going through very tough times financially…I have been praying about this for a long time and I feel like giving up..I see people who have money spending it like crazy…my dad passed away 2 yrs ago and left everything to my step mother…he had told my older brothers over the years that all seven of us would be taken care of when he died……..my step mother has disinherited us and lives in a beautiful condo in Florida…..blah blah blah….I just keep asking God to give us some financial relief…

First of all i would like to say THANK YOU for this e-mail. you have given me a boost of strength that i had forgotten i had. also i would like to say may GOD bless each and every one of you. please remember when the night is the darkest GODS light shall always shine thru.AGAIN i wish to THANK YOU and PLEASE send me more of this encouragement.

THKS A LOT FOR ALL THE ENCORAGING WORD ITS HELP ME A LOT COZ SOMETIME I FEEL LOSE AT DEPRESS I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WHEN MY HUSBAND WENT FAR WITH ME, WITHOUT WE EXPECTED IM NOT TOTALLY READY FOR THAT. I USE 2 BE WITH HIM FOR 6 YEAR WORKING TOGETHER BUT ONE DAY THEY SENT HIM HOME COZ WE ARE ILLEGAL HERE I FEEL SO SAD AND ALONE AND MISSING SO MUCH MY HUSBAND PRESENCE.NOT UNTIL I READ UR MESSAGE I FIND OUT THAT I NEVER BEEN ALONE COZ GOD IS ALWAYS WITH ME.THKS FOR REMINDING ME..GOD BLESS U MORE…….

my exhusband and i are going thru a divorce he was abusive in every way even sometimes withe our 2 yr old son.im going thru the courts system.please pray for me that i win my case in the courts.

im sorry i also want some help of connecting to belief.com support group i have been trying and trying to get on but no one has asnswered my email i don’t know may pass word anymore.every time i do the reconnect wiht my email address it comes back to me and say that it is wrong shat am i doing wrong.can someone please email how to reconnect again because i would like chat with the support groups

Over 11 years ago, after 8 years of marriage and two wonderful children, my now ex-wife abruptly left me for another man. And much like a high speed powerboat traveling at full throttle, she did not care what type of wake of destruction her actions left behind. She took our children, and most of the household goods, while leaving only debts, and most everything else in disarray and confusion.
This almost devastated me financially, spiritually and emotionally. I went into a deep depression, as each day seemed only to be filled with deep despair, disappointment and sorrow.
The only hope I had was my relationship with my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
At first, I prayed for her to come back with my children. But, eventually, He revealed that He purposely rid me of her, as it became apparent that we were simply, unequally yoked in faith. Much like a cancer that must be surgically removed at a great deal of pain to body and mind, so must a spouse be removed that does not believe in God as we do.
As painful as a realization as that was, I realized it was His way of keeping me singularly whole.
By faith, I attended a wonderful Christian-based divorce recovery program called DivorceCare. By working the recovery program while completely placing my entire life and trust in God, I was able to recover from what was diagnosed as a case of clinical depression. Only by His divine truth, mercy and grace, did I quickly discover that the pain of losing the “We” (my spouse and I) through a divorce had to happen in order for “Us” (God and I) to emerge triumphant in His promise of true joy and everlasting life.
That is why this article (“The ‘We’ Pronoun”) was so inspirational. It fortifies the belief that we Christians should always keep foremost in our minds and hearts…
God is ALL we need to carry us through our journey to eternal happiness.
That is, He must be the top step on our “Ladder of Life”.
The second step below that of God’s must be reserved for ourselves, because without that immediate connection and deeply intimate relationship with Him, we are doomed for failure in everything else we endeavor in our lives. The next step in our Ladder of Life must surely be reserved for our family, as they should be our source of strength here on earth, followed by steps set aside for our friends, work, etc.
That way, if everything else on our “Ladder of Life” happens to disappear (as it somewhat did for me), you can always say that there is STILL an…”US”. God is our constant companion, no matter what comes and goes in our lives. WE must learn to have unequivocal faith in that belief, or we will simply be doomed to constantly being deceived, disillusioned, and disappointed by those that are merely being human when they leave us for something ostensibly but arguably better.
There is no one to blame – that is just a basic human frailty. If given an “outwardly” better choice, we as humans, will always take it.
However, we Christians must learn to endeavor past that in the “natural” and look for the sometimes hidden Divine. We must learn to discern which is the righteous path – His path, over seemingly better, sometimes much easier trails.
The “US” in us must NEVER forget that God never abandons us…
WE are the children of the most High God – and our Father will NEVER abandon “US”.
The sooner we completely surrender our trust in that, the faster we become firmly planted in the garden of eternal joy.
US is all “We” need…indeed.
Many blessings to all…

I just want to say that I forget that JESUS is always with me, but when I am most alone and crying I look at this huge picture on my wall that my sons gave me with a clock on it and remember that he said he would never abandon me or forsake me. And then I dont feel so alone. He had given me everything i could ask for. And for that i am grateful and i am not rich by any means. but i am not lacking either. i have shoes and a coat and clothes, not alot but enough to keep warm. i have a home and a cat and food. i have enough money to pay my bills. so god has truly blessed me. all i can say to him is thank you.