Six Psychological Strategies to Calm Down

Mind is very restless, forceful and strong, O Krishna, it is more
difficult
to control the mind than to control the wind ~ Arjuna to Sri Krishna

Introduction
In this modern world the art of Management has become a part and parcel
of
everyday life, be it at home, in the office or factory and in
Government. In
all organizations, where a group of human beings assemble for a common
purpose irrespective of caste, creed, and religion, management
principles
come into play through the management of resources, finance and
planning,
priorities, policies and practice. Management is a systematic way of
carrying out activities in any field of human effort. Management need
to
focus more on leadership skills, e.g., establishing vision and goals,
communicating the vision and goals, and guiding others to accomplish
them.
It also assert that leadership must be more facilitative, participative
and
empowering in how visions and goals are established and carried out.
Some
people assert that this really isn't a change in the management
functions,
rather it's re-emphasizing certain aspects of management.

Then again, there are those individuals that were raised in abusive and/or volitile (unstable) environments and in being so the "hard wiring" to the entire nervous system, (brain- chemicals released, as well as neural pathways) is set up differently than those who are not raised in such environments. The amounts of dopamine, seratonin, etc. are forever set at a different rate of release than people raised in calm, safe environments. The nervous system is set at full bore and it is such constantly, not just in a "flight or fight" type of situation. I, myself, had no startle reflex until about the age of 45 years old, and would remain calm in all types of crisis, from car accidents to house fires, kidnapping by a serial killer, etc. This probably saved my life more than once, and I did not understand the abilities that I had to remain calm in life-threatening situations when others were going off the deep end. At a Conference I attended while working with abused women and children, I learned about the difference in the brain that comes about through abuse before the age of five. And, the fact that it does not magically "rewire" itself. We are forever different because of this, and must try to learn to accept the fact that differences are ok, especialy if they are no fault of our own. Give ourselves the same understanding that we would another person in our shoes, and we will all be better off. Thank you.

I was "stimulated" at a very early age. I was told that I was in six foster homes the first nine months of my life - meaning, I had no bonding, no "mother/father" figures, nothing to hold onto. When I was adopted, as I got older, my father, while not an actual abusive parent, would suddenly get angry with no provocation, leaving me in a perpetual state of arousal. Not knowing what I'd done (or didn't do), would always set me off.

To this day, I feel I need a bit of a "touch" of anxiety to function. A fellow bipolar and I feel this same way. If there's not that "buzz" of perpetually "being at attention," I flounder and, when left to my own devices, am bored and unsettled. That's why my work as a mystery shopper and working on the computer doing surveys for cash, is so very important to me. At one time, I typed 121 w/p/m, so typing is my "fit;" I feel comfortable while typing and getting my thoughts down on paper as soon as I think them.

Thank you, Therese, for putting words, such as "overarousal" into my vocabulary!

Yes. I can identify with being overaroused. I was usually called overly sensitive. However, this made me somewhat psychic, and good at reading the "energy" of situations and people. This is on the plus side. On the minus side, having an alcoholic mother who was in my life till the age of 27 has made me chronically anxious. I still tend to wake up anxious every morning. I also have trouble staying asleep every night (always slept with "one eye open" so to speak...mom liked to get physical for no reason). Mom's been dead many years but it doesn't seem to matter. Even so, I choose not to take drugs to manage myself as I just feel way too wierd and "flat".
I have found great relief with EFT and other energy methods, along with self hypnosis tapes I listen to when I'm falling asleep. I don't know what I'd do with out that!
Even so, I don't think I want to change the good aspects of being this way. When I am in nature, I connect with it so much on a very deep level that many people can't relate to. For that reason, I'm an avid environmentalist. I also feel much more for those who are suffering, and that motivates me to help others in meaningful ways. Beauty, and things like poetry move me to tears. Those things I don't want to change. My brother is quite the opposite of me (numb) and I wouldn't want to trade with him for anything in this world. It's ok to FEEL. But, we must be gentle and take care of ourselves. Thanks for the helpful article. I can always use new tips :)

I can relate to most of the comments here, I too am bi-polar but do not know if it was my childhood that provoked it. Being left alone often to tend to my younger sister and finding myself in the house taking care of it most the time alone. To this day I am uncomfortable with emptiness in my home thus I have puppies to break the silence as I do live alone. In my early 20's I was abused both mentally and physically for 7 years by a husband who put his hands on me weekly and I often went around with blackened eyes and bruises from the beatings. Finally got the courage to break loose. I am now approaching 60 (this year) and still bear the scars of that relationship. Life is harsh at times and I have found turning to God and nature are my constant solace, deep meditation also keeps me calm. I pray for all that need strength every day I pray for the world and it makes me feel connected I thank God for all he has given me, in doing this I find it hard to get anxious and angry much anymore. In these later years, thru hard work and perserverance I have found a sense of peace and calm has come to my life. I grow orchids and just the fragrance of such wonderful flowers can make me calm. God bless each and every one of those here...never give up.

Although I'e never heard it put this quite this way before, it makes perfect sense. My sibs are all the same way and cope with it in various ways. I've been in therapy longer than most people have been alive, and am told that my problems are due to childhood issues and the "family of origin." Probably it is but I'm no therapist so what do I know?

My name even is the same as your example. In my particular case, I've been unemployed more than a year and that has pushed self-esteem down even further. Yet, I am very smart, have 3 degrees and great credentials. Objectively, I know these things, but I am still depressed and anxious about the future. Being Christian, I'm not suicidal and have had no choice but to be resilient. Thank you,

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Loving your overarousal is just realizing you are human, not perfect, and just uniquely you. It's about loving yourself.

HEAVEN CAN BE ON EARTH IF YOU SLOW DOWN BREATHING IN EVERY MOEMENT .REALIZING THAT EVERY THOUGHT HAS PURPOSE AND EVERY ENCOUNTER CAN MAKE OR BREAK YOU- TIME CAN BE ON YOURSIDE IF YOU START WALKING INSTEAD OF TALKING- THE PAST CAN ONLY HAUNT YOU IF YOU CHOOSE TO LET IT.THE CHOOSE IS YOURS. GOD IS ALL YOU NEED TO REMEMBER THAT YOU CAN BE MORE THAN A CONQUERE IF YOU CHOOSE THE RIGHT WEAPONS- YOURE WORDS ARE POWERFUL- EVERY WORD SPOKEN HAS A WAY OF PREDICTING THE OUTCOME
FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU WANT RATHER THAN WHAT YOU DON'T- UNDERSTANDING WILL CLEAR YOUR VISION ALLOWING YOU TO WALK INTO YOUR GOD GIVEN PURPOSE -ALLOWING HIM TO BE YOUR SOURCE OF ALL THINGS WILL BRING A FREEDOM TO EVERY SITUATION "LET GO AND LET GOD" HE WILL FREE YOU FROM YOUR MIND AND YOU WILL BECOME WHO YOU WERE MEANT TO BE IF YOU CLOSE YOUR EYES TO THE WORLD AND LOOK INSIDE YOU. YOUR NEVER TO FAR GONE! LOOK INSIDE FOR THE ANSWER -OPEN THE BOOK OF TRUTH (BIBLE) AND YOU SHALL BE RESTORED -RENEWED AND LOVE WILL BE RETURNED TO YOUR FOR WHATEVER YOU HAVE LOST WILL ONLY PREDICT YOUR LIFE IF YOU CHOOSE TO LIVE DAILY REMEMBERING THE LOSE OR LEARN FROM IT. GOD BLESS IT'S ALL IN YOUER HANDS