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Beyond Blue

When to Get Help

posted by Beyond Blue

Every depressive is different when it comes to crying “Uncle,” and calling the doc.
My guardian angel Ann says that if she stays in bed three days in a row, she will call the doctor on the fourth day (or maybe the afternoon of the third day).
In my mood/sleep journal, I record my symptoms (lack of appetite, a pretty major thing in my world, difficulty sleeping, crying spells, difficulty concentrating, inability to make a decision, lack of interest in hobbies and work, and definitely suicidal thoughts). If they persist for a week (with intensity), I’ll call my doctor.
I called her yesterday because Eric could tell that life had gone out of my face. And he was somewhat concerned. When someone else tells me that I’m depressed, it’s definitely time to call.
Sometimes I experience very physical symptoms. The year of my breakdown I came down with six urinary tract infections (and it wasn’t because of all the sex I was having). My immune system was shot, and I couldn’t fight off basic bacteria and viruses. I was obviously run down and needed rest.
But it’s usually not that obvious. Like a detective, I have to list the clues (triggers), the symptoms, and work with a COMPETENT doctor at getting healthy again.



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Jacki

posted July 12, 2007 at 3:58 pm


here i sit all depressed and for the 1st time don’t know how i can pull out of it. the last therapist that i had talked more above her religious beliefs and i would come away feeling like i was scum of the earth. guess i just wanted to write this …never have made a comment before.maybe this is a good thing cause at least i’m out of bed…been there 2 days no appitite, don’t even want to go out of the house for smokes. all this starting because yet another tooth has broken off and on disability no insurance or money to even get it pulled. just feel like i headed down a slippery slope.



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Rose

posted July 13, 2007 at 3:09 am


Hey, I finally got financial relief and am still being evicted from my house…I have lost soooo much in the last three years I am immune to anyone taking anything else from me. (Have you ever seen a U-Haul behind a hearst). I tried to pull a credit report and they asked for a credit card to charge me a dollar. Ha ha ha I don’t have a credit card. Don’t want one don’t need one. How about you and I quit smoking together????? I started again after about 10 years of abstainence. My sons braces are being repossed! They can leave his teeth in worse shape then when he started! I always believed your teeth are part of your personality. Mine are crooked (only a little) but very yellow. I realize you probably have nothing to smile about so it’s nice to know, I’m not in this boat alone.
Love You Lots
If I can help I will!
Love Rose



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claudia

posted July 13, 2007 at 11:29 am


Woke up nauseated, nervous, hands shaking. Took a shower and started crying and have been on and off since. I am once again on the verge of losing everything (again). Its the middle of summer in florida and I have no job and my son got fired from his and I don’t know how much more I can take. Im 51 years old…when does it all end? I am so tired of living……….its so hard.



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Moira

posted July 13, 2007 at 5:32 pm


Claudia, are we kin? I feel very like you do. I have never experienced loss of appetite with depression before but I have it now. I, too, am tired of living and have no money or energy to see a professional for this. Seems the world has forgotten those of us in our fifties.



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Ginny

posted July 16, 2007 at 11:15 am


How do you find a good doctor when you’re terrified of leaving the house? When the very thought of sitting in a waiting room makes you so anxious you become dizzy and ill? I had none of these problems until my doctor put me on a beta blocker that threw me into a major depression. I’ve weaned off the medication but the panic attacks and anxiety and agoraphobia are worsening. I know I need help, for my sake and for my 5-year-old, but how do you get help when you can’t get outside?



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terri

posted July 17, 2007 at 7:55 pm


my depression started with happiness- had a gastric bypass- lost 250 pds –developed a hernia- got that fixed only to find out my body would go through 21 more surgeries because i would reject the patches any and all patches , all the infections, open wounds, bowel obstructions. It took over 26 months of trying to get ssdi- we lost our house, we lost our van, lost my job, almost died a few times once was right in front of my two children which scared them to death, i have had chronic pain for many years and have dealt with some very un-understanding pharmacists that made me feel like a drug addict. My husband took my two kids last friday and took the beloved pets to the humane society and left me with out telling and not finding out till i walked through the door after coming home from a pain doctors appt that had just told me that my case was getting too complicated for her to handle and that after september 15th she will no longer me taking my case- talk about a run of bad luck and depression- i simply have no capacity to feel (or even care for that matter) anymore.



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Tracy Queen

posted June 26, 2008 at 10:45 am


Hi I am bi-polar and have been going through a very depressive state for the last year and two months. I am finally able to get out of bed and get dressed but besides that I have no motivation for living. I talk on IM almost all day just to be doing something. I hate to cook, clean or do anything. I go see my doctor every month. But he just doesn’t seem to care. Should I change doctors? I used to go a really good doctor but he put me on Lortab and I overdosed so my parents thought I shouldn’t see him anymore. But he really cared about me and about my problems. I have Fibromyalgia and TMJ and am on disability. He really seemed to take an interest in me. Should I go back to him?
I really need some answers!!



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Charles Moore

posted June 26, 2008 at 11:28 am


I see alot of people with depression and I need to say that I have battled depression most of my life have been up and down way too many times to count but the one thing that kept me going was my faith in God. God has always gotten me through the battles and I have come out stronger then before so people don’t let depression rob you of life look to God and you will have the victory because every problem has to bow in the name of Jesus. If you don’t believe in God I would suggest that you might want to rethink your view because I can say that I would not be here now if it was not for God’s help. Amen



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Patricia

posted June 26, 2008 at 1:06 pm


thanks for your input Charles Moore, I also have had a history of counseling needs and serious problems,,,physical, mental and even relationship,,,but if it had not been for my faith in God, I never would have been able to go on…I am on the mend and so thankful to my Lord…hope others will hear your advice..sincerely, Patricia



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Bev Y

posted June 26, 2008 at 11:52 pm


Thank you Therese, for this subject at this time. You are so wise for your young years. I know you don’t feel wise or young right now. But looking thru these much older eyes, I know you will help keep yourself grounded and bring HOPE TO EACH OF US.



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