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I must confess that the idea for my prior post, “The Saints’ Guide to Anxiety,” was not wholly original. It was somewhat borrowed from the title of one of my very favorite books, “The Saints’ Guide to Happiness” by my friend, Robert Ellsberg.
It was difficult to find one excerpt to share, because there are so many, but here’s a piece that really struck me (since I feel like a moral failure so much of the time):
I have spent much of my life reading books about saints: medieval legends, spiritual memoirs, martyrologies, and manuals of devotion. If that is all it takes to be happy then, as Thomas Merton says, “I should have been a very happy person, a spiritual millionaire, from the cradle even until now.” Yet with happiness, as with holiness, it is not what we read but what we practice that makes the difference.
Each day brings new failures. I become impatient; I worry about small things and take other people for granted; I give in to distractions and remain inattentive to signs of grace; I daydream about heroic deeds, while neglecting countless opportunities for charity.
And yet, like everyone else, I yearn to be happy. This desire is one of the marks of being human, a sign that we are called to a more abundant life. No less than others, I have looked for happiness is one place or another, imagining it would follow once I had realized some ambition or had resolved a looming crisis. But experience has only confirmed the wisdom of the saints, both those I have studied and those I have known, whose happiness did not hinge on passing feelings or outward circumstances. They have shown that the true happiness we all desire is the other side of the holiness to which we are called. The two proceed from the same practice and converge on the same goal.
If holiness were the same as genius or moral perfection, then this goal would concern only a very few. But holiness is not about possessing “the right stuff.” Nor is it a code or prescription we must follow. It is more like the habit of being, a certain fullness of life, or “loveliness of the spirit.” It is a name for that quality by virtue of which all things or persons fulfill their purpose and reason for being. . . .
On this path we are never finished. We remain always and only on the way. For that reason, instead of talking about “saints” as if they represented some kind of different creature, we might prefer to speak of “those who walk the paths of holiness.” At once we have a sense of what unites us with the saints, our fellow travelers, much deeper than all that sets us apart. We are all saints “in progress,” to the extent that we desire to be. Some, to be sure, progress farther than others. But St. Paul made no distinctions when he addressed his readers as saints. They were saints by virtue of their calling to be saints.
By the same token there is no way to happiness. But there is a way of happiness, a way of lightness and balance, a way that allows us to take in experience and give it back with humanity and forgiveness, a way that awakens us to the particularity of each moment as well as its sacred depths. So often we proceed as though looking through a “mental telescope,” trained above the heads of our fellow humans, and what we see seems petty, commonplace, and meaningless. But then comes a moment when our yearning for happiness joins paths with the call to holiness. In the focus that ensues, we see the world in a new light. And in that light ordinary life becomes not only infinitely valuable but radiant and engrossing.
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posted September 11, 2007 at 12:14 am
“My Life has been a Love song, sung to me by God”, and it seems music is my Life, and all the music in my Life also reflects it. I’m a big fan of youtube.com, and all my Life can be documented there. This one pretty much says it all for a lot of us “Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places” http://youtube.com/watch?v=QyD8tppblgU We all start out as bright shining stars, to shed Light into the darkness. Along the Way, we meet the Power of Resistance and “Something’s Got To Give”, http://youtube.com/watch?v=hLBXYuD5aZQ … but we can get through it, as long as there is “Somebody To Watch Over Me” http://youtube.com/watch?v=26a6GfIIx_Q But perhaps the song that really says it all is “I Write The Songs” http://youtube.com/watch?v=26a6GfIIx_Q
LUV 2 ALL
Wisdum
just another note
in dis chord
posted September 13, 2007 at 3:08 pm
I kind of understand the passage i just read but no matter what i try or read or pray, It seems life no matter how hard i try for happiness it will never be there. I am so tired but i know i need to wait for the lord to call me. I cant leave this life without him calling me.
posted September 13, 2007 at 3:21 pm
Let your Buddha in the spirit of reality and actuality in the promise of Christ Jesus (Elohim). (Yeshua)
Let the enlightenment bring you inner peace in knowing that suffereing is part of life just as death.
Study Buddha & Christ. Thomas Merton & Thich nhat Hanh
The living Buddha & The living Christ.
Manu Salahudin Malik Ahmad de Azijah
Order of Mel-chis’e-dec
Grande Focus Vida de Universe.
Espirito Santo Deus.
posted September 13, 2007 at 4:19 pm
I have studied religion for years. I hold a PhD in divinity. I have found that we are all saints and that we all can be happy through all experiences of life if we just embrace the time and enjoy life to the fullest. An old Chinese Proverb says If you are always in a hurry, You will never get there. In that we all need to stop and smell the roses and enjoy life while we have it and are able. So to everyone: YOU are all saints.
posted September 13, 2007 at 4:25 pm
WHAT IS WRONG WITH ALL OF YOU?! LIFE IS ABOUT BEING IN THE MOMENT AND TRYING TO GIVE BACK SOMETHING. IF YOU DO THIS AND LIVE BY THE GOLDEN RULE (AS MUCH AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE), LIFE WILL BE GOOD TO YOU.
DON’T TAKE IT SO SERIOUSLY.
posted September 13, 2007 at 5:53 pm
it seems the term “saint” is not properly understood. the apostle paul wrote in Ephesians 1:1 “Paul and Apost of Jesus Christ, by the will of God, to the Saints at Ephesus…” . these people were still living and the term or word “saint” refers to a Christian, someone born again by the Spirit of God, someone who has received Jesus of Nazareth in their hearts as the Eternal Divine Son of God, who died and rose again.
http://www.ronrhodes.org is a great website for clarifying the difference between Biblical Christianity and catholicism and wrote a detailed book called “reasoning from the scriptures with catholics” and a smaller version, more condensed called “10 questions to ask catholics”, that would be a great help in brining catholics into a saving faith in Jesus. knowing “about Him” is not the same as “knowing Him”. He loves you and wants to fellowship with you. this happens through His Cross, His death and resurrection for you. ron rhodes has a great link at the bottom of his website explaining t his. God Bless You – patterson8865@bellsouth.net.
posted September 13, 2007 at 5:58 pm
oh – if you want to know the differnce between religions in a simple easy to understand way, “the compact guide to world religions’ by dean c. halverson and “so what’s the difference” by fritz ridenhour will provide clarification on this. each religion is extremely different as you will find out. on the surface they seem similar, but the foundations are quite, quite different. alan patterson – patterson8865@bellsouth.net
posted September 13, 2007 at 9:53 pm
WHAT IS WRONG WITH ALL OF YOU?:::THAT STATEMENT WRITE THERE IS NOT ABOUT GIVING BACK FOR TO GIVE BACK IN YOUR SINCE I HOPE IS TO BE IN THE SPIRIT WHEN YOUR GIVING. THERE IS NOTHINGWRONG WITH ALL OF YOU? FOR IF THAT WERE THE CASE IT WOULD HAVE TO INCLUDE::YOU:: LIVING IN THE MOMENT IS GOOD BUT SPIRITUAL PREPARING WILL MAKE THAT MOMENT MORE OF A CHRISTLIKE JOURNEY BECAUSE I HAVE DONE ALOT OF LIVING IN THE MOMENT AND WHAT I THOUGHT WAS A KIND GESTURE WAS IN FACT FOLLOWING MY EGO AND IN THE PROCESS THE ONES I SHOULD HAVE BEEN HELPING, SUCH AS LOVED ONES AND MYSELF ENDED UP LOSING WHILE THE ONES I AM HELPING THINK WHAT A WONDERFUL GUY BUT LIKE I SAID IF I AM NOT PREPARED SRIRITUALY THEN AGAIN IT IS ABOUT EGO E=EDGINGG G=GOD O=OUT MAY ALL OF :YOU: HAVE A BLESSED DAY AS WELL AS :MOMENT: LOVELINESS OF THE SPIRIT THAT IS SO GOOD TO HAVE READ. THANKYOU, THANKYOU, THANKYOU ::WILL::
posted September 14, 2007 at 9:48 am
“Loveliness of the spirit” inspires me to think that each of us has the capacity to follow a spiritual path which is meaningful individually and that our paths will lead us to this spiritual goal. Have you seen those whose loveliness of spirit simply simply surrounds their physical presence? Sometimes, I believe, these people are embodied souls whose spiritual presence is so powerful that we are attracted to them because our relationships with them bring us peace and tranquility.
posted September 14, 2007 at 11:35 am
no special comment as am inspired to strive towards being one myself
posted September 14, 2007 at 5:16 pm
… amen, Barbara.
posted October 5, 2007 at 1:04 am
I Know that my e mail adress is rather insufficent for this topic. But the LORD says come as U R. I have been through such an emotional journey with my life in the past 4-5 years! I would of never of made it without him! But I still lack alot of HAPPINESS1 I don’t know if I refuse 2 let my life go down the right road or if I’m looking in all the wrong places. I get so frustrated with my self everyday, I really want 2 be the Best mother,daughter,sister,and friend! But I can’t please nobody until I please myself but I just DON;T know how!!!?
posted October 31, 2007 at 8:12 pm
What a beautiful post, Barbara, I have known a few people who were “embodied souls” and whose inner tranquility and goodness were apparent to nearly everyone whose paths they crossed, yes, even to those who were at first suspicious and contemptuous of such grace and charity.
My mother was such a soul. She lived her life with unmitigated joy and giving to her family and others, never complaining although she certainly had the right to do so, however, her love of life and her warm and tender heart were always in evidence. She took life simply, unlike me, she was a realist and, although she had faith, it was a simple, uncomplicated sort, the best kind to possess. She never talked about her beliefs, she just lived her life as a good, kind, honest human being.
She suffered much throughout her years but seemed to know instinctively that this was simply a part of life and she embraced the suffering again and again, never complaining nor ever bitter, is it any wonder I so much wanted to be just like her but lacked her simplicity, acceptance and her wonderful nature.
As I look at her picture while typing this, although I miss her dearly and still grieve at losing my wonderful mother, I know that she, who brought so much comfort to so many, is truly happy and filled with a joy that I could not fully comprehend.
She was human, she had a few faults, hardly worth mentioning but that is what made her so genuinely real and contributed even more to her goodness. Although she lived her life “simply”, she had a great understanding of human nature and of those who were more apt to be less accepting of life, however, she never judged, for it was inconceivable to her that she was anything “special” at all, for she had no ego, nor
vanity, she just lived her life to the fullest even until the end when her mind was gone, her body “frail and failing” and her life no longer fulfilling.
She just kept going and I marvel at this “saint” whom I never truly appreciated until she left me and this world to enter into an “everlasting life” where she has been received with so much happiness and peace.
Many saints have lived just such a life as she for they were very human and suffered much but possessed “illuminating souls” that transcended their sorrows and heartaches which they accepted for and from God and His Son.
We all have known such people as my mother, perhaps not realizing until much later how truly they stood out from others by their acceptance and embrace of the trials and heartaches that is part and parcel of this world. This, of course, by their acceptance and willingness is what makes ordinary people, “saints” and no institution will “beatify nor canonize” such extraordinary souls but God will and surely does without ceremony.
posted June 24, 2008 at 5:08 am
I’ve called upon The Latter-Day Saints to help me…They sure are!!!
Sandra
posted June 24, 2008 at 9:38 am
The road to sainthood, as followers of Christ, is better said than done. Self-assumed sainthood only leads to hypocrisy. When my daughter became a Latter Day Saint, she converted her personality, not only as a saint but as a prophet, prophesizing about blessings in the family including her childless sister, ONLY IF, we will be converted to mormons too. And because we didn’t, she keeps telling others how bad parents we are and that she hates us much, and she called the immigration to have us deported. and that she will only respect us back if we will be converted into mormons. She blogs and puts her shoutout at Friendster about fornicators , forgetting she was one of them too.
WHAT IS A SAINT? As a Catholic, I learned that saints before proclaimed as one, go under strict scrutiny as to their deeds of heroism to the faith before they are canonized. The title of sainthood is not acquired by a simple baptism even to the desperate and miserable person.
posted June 24, 2008 at 1:06 pm
GOOD
posted June 24, 2008 at 2:09 pm
Religion is a touchy topic but quite interesting if we are to live a balanced life in both material and spiritual aspects. Some closed minds may not be willing enough to explore religion and find the truth. While it is true that God’s wisdom is vast, it is also true that knowing His prime lessons and live a clean life will not necessarily make us saint or give us passport to heaven after death, but living without having oppressed others and learn to forgive and love each other would lead to a full or meaningful life.
I am not a fanatic when it comes to religion so I frown upon people who claim to have heard God’s voice telling to do this and that but how come they are corrupt and disrespectful even to theirown parents? They claimed to be delegated by God to save mankind but molested women and girls, accordingly to propagate their good seed. In the past Philippines presidential election, 3 nuisance candidates claimed they ran for President of the country because God told them to do so. (many are called but few are chosen?) Or some recklessly use God’s name in vain because God will not strike them with lightning for lying and boasting anyway.:)
My sister-in-law had been religion hopping, hoping to follow Christ but suddenly has turned against Him by mocking His name with a surname like her ordinary neighbor, Jesus Dacua or Cristo as a term used to the person judging a cock fight. Because she said God’s name is Elohim, not Jesus Christ. Is she one Anti-christ?
In my part, God is in our conscience, if we do not compromise with our conscience, it will guide as well through our struggles and lead us to have good relationships – fruitful, peaceful and happy.
posted July 21, 2008 at 11:50 am
Great post!
posted July 22, 2008 at 3:20 am
As humans we are apt to be judgemental.We all know there is only one judge and he is not on earth.To follow a path,any path;we make a choice. After it is all said and done;we reap what we sow.
posted July 30, 2008 at 5:18 pm
Thanks for sharing your thoughts concerning sainthood Therese. It was well said and helpful to read. As Stacy noted from Gal 6:7, we will all be held accountable for how we live our lives. We who truly repent of our wrongs,ask Gods forgiveness,invite Christ Jesus into our heart,are most assuredly freed from fear. We are blessed with divine joy in our hearts because the Holy Spirit brings blessed peace to our Spirit. Because of the Holy Spirits presence there is no doubt that hope and happiness are very much a sign of sainthood. Obeidience to what Jesus taught, and is recorded in the Holy Bible, is the characteristic of being a Spirit filled Christian. It works for me. =)
God bless you,
Randy
posted July 30, 2008 at 5:43 pm
ALl my recognitions and commandation of the ones who wrote to me the awesome words of understanding of what real happiness it is, after all- and that is not what one owes, (toys and stuff, and even gifts) but just as you said that one day- that moment when our yearning for happiness joints with call for holiness- the moment when we realize for true how insignificant we are but how great is the One who created us in a miraculous, unexplainable way in the womb of our mother, who knew us before our conception and gave us a name to be called his children, his sons and daughters, a holy nation; is the monet we realize the great call we are born in this world for; the peace of the BODY OF JESUS CHRIST WE ARE CALLED TO FILL UP; WHEN we realize how intimate and deep He really knows us, our troubles and our longings; our motifs …
A HOLY KISS TO ALL WHO READ THESE WORDS OF COMMENTS AND ALLOWED ME TO GO THROUGH MORE AND MORE LIFE LESSONS’CHALLENGES…
FIBIA/PHOEBELDN@AOL.COM/
posted August 1, 2008 at 7:34 am
Just thought i’d add that some of us only have one judge and that is ourselves!!! Boy is that judge a harsh unforgiving creature quite capable of sentencing us to years of a kind of living death for something we would forgive in someone else like a shot.the Bible says we should be like children and most of mine pretty much get up everymorning with new schemems new plans new joys.I’m pretty sure thats the kind of spirit we should want for ourselves but how hard it is to forgive ourselves!!