Hmm. More self-aware. How about other-aware? Starting an affair with a man involved in a long-term relationship with his 7-month pregnant partner, as Ms. Danes did, gives me pause – despite all attempts to remain detached and compassionate. Battling my own issues and experiencing that pain, I’m more keenly aware that I wouldn’t want to unnecessarily foist pain upon others.
It’s wonderful to have an example of the progress she’s made in psychotherapy (truly!), but I think that she may still have a long way to go.

I echo Lisa’s comments about the whole Danes/Billy Crudup/Mary Louise Parker ugly triangle.

Unfaithfullness in a 9supposedluy) committed relationship is SO DESTRUCTIVE FOR EVERYONE involved. I too, like lisa speak from experience and will pray that if Ms. Danes continues her therapy it will be to an eye for understanding why she allowed herself to become a key player in such a self–and OTHER– destructive, sordid mess. Not to be self-righteous, (///”…for All have sinned…”, butwhile it’s t’s nice that she feels it has benefited her carrer, I would hope for improvement of self-awareness and resonsibility for other human beings within her sphereof influence to be a higher evolution of outcome! If she learns from the experience, perhaps it will keep her from repeating that same behavior in the future.

SORRY TO ALL! I didn’t know that part of Claire Dane’s story! I agree with all of you. Therese

Having written the aforementioned comment, I soon after felt regret for posting it. While I am remain aghast at the behavior to which Ms. Danes was a party, my emotional reaction may have been offpoint. Yeah, that was … what is was. But I don’t want it to seem like I’ve written her off as a human being. We have, many of us, done things that were awful, that caused ourselves or others deep pain, that created chaos for others. I don’t want to be so fast to lose compassion.
Danes benefitted from psychotherapy, overcoming a longstanding and what must have been a terrifying neorosis. It *CAN* be done and, in that limited way at least, her experience can bouy us. And I think that THAT was the point Therese was fundamentally making here.

Lisa: Not “many of us, ALL of us! I, too believe that ANY success story which comes out of therapy deserves celebration. So, no apology necessary, T. If Ms Danes wasn’t so successful and in the public eye, we wouldn’t even be AWARE of her indiscretion, and I THANK GOD that MY mistakes aren’t out there for the entire world to judge me by! (There’s something to be said for not gaining celebrity)

Sheesh, people. When Claire Danes said that therapy has made her more self-aware and helped her to reflect upon her experiences and feelings who’s to say that doesn’t include the “sordid” affair she had? Who’s to say she hasn’t repented for that indiscretion? That relationship ended a year ago reportedly when she started talking marriage (http://www.contactmusic.com/news.nsf/article/danes%20crudup%20split_1018011). People make stupid decisions when it comes to matters of the heart, especially when they are 25 years old as Claire was at the time, but Claire wasn’t the one who left the pregnant Mary-Louise Parker. Save some of your “righteous” indignation for Crudup – a guy whose now left two women rather than commit to them.
Personally, even if Claire Danes had mounted a horse in the buff and pranced about Venice Beach I believe Therese’s article was still relevant. Here is a girl who had mental issues as a child who has found success through therapy. She spoke about it with dignity and that is a good thing for all of us. Too often people think about movies like “What about Bob?” or “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest” when they think of mental illness and therapy. A good therapist is a wonderful asset in one’s life. I’m glad Miss Danes found the help she needed.
Nice article, Therese. Hope you didn’t mind me spouting off.
~Douglas
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Glad psychotherapy helped her, don’t get me wrong. But you gotta admit, while none of us are perfect, that was one helluva “mistake” …