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Beyond Blue

Love Note #18

posted by Beyond Blue | 7:25am Monday February 18, 2008

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A girl can wait for the right man to come along but in the meantime that doesn’t mean she can’t have a wonderful time with all the wrong ones. -Cher



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Margaret Balyeat

posted February 18, 2008 at 4:39 pm


Isn’t that the whole point of dating> LOL



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Valentine

posted February 19, 2008 at 12:46 pm


How else are you going to know if you’re going to marry someone unless you date them.
Get out there and talk to people. You’ll get out and enjoy yourself and broaden your range of friends that may lead you to meet someone you like.
Yes, dating is scary and upsetting. But there’s plenty of reasons to date. It’s fun, exciting, helps you discover what you TRULY like and dislike in relationships, and it helps you become more charming and attentive. So, relax and enjoy each encounter as a new social adventure.
And after all, you’re not going to meet Mr./ Mrs. Right sitting at home, eating a pint of ice-cream, and wishing you were in a relationship. (Or was that just me who did that?)



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CLeo

posted February 19, 2008 at 4:54 pm


this is one of my anxieties, that one day I’ll have to be there dating again. After a certain age the prospects dwindle considerably and a woman, no matter how nice, intelligent, or attractive, is bound to go unnoticed by older men or even those of her own generation.
On the other hand sometimes people are much to quick to find ‘replacements’. The other night I met a couple in their late 60′s, they were ‘dating’. He told us, out of the blue and unsolicited, that his wife had “passed away” 5 months earlier. They were both acting like sweethearts and she was making plans to take him to Holland to meet her family, ’cause he’d never traveled outside the U.S. I couldn’t but feel good and sad at the same time.
He’d been married for over 40 years and said to have had a happy and solid marriage, yet it took him a short time to begin a relationship that’s not casual at all.
I wonder what would my husband do in the same situation, but I imagine that he’ll also not waste any time at all. This doesn’t seem to be the case for many women. Every night when I walk my pooches I go by a house where an older woman is sitting at the kitchen table looking at the walls, she usually has a bowl of something in front of her, but I’ve yet to see her eating. This troubles me, I don’t know the woman but learned her spoused died in May.
I’m tempted to stop and introduce myself to her, but something stops me.



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Joni

posted February 24, 2008 at 7:49 am


Cleo, If this troubles you, then don’t let anything stop you from going to talk to her, she may need some comfort and understanding, and as B/N members we all know we need support from many.
As for dating, I’ve always told my husband I’ve married for love, now at my age next time it will have to be for the money, LOL that relationships take along time to build and I don’t have it.



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