Love Note #2

Would have liked to write a note to "grieving Mother, but her words seems to have disappeared! (Unless it was on a differentpost?)

Dear sunday Marchand, thanks to B.net's community monitor (Beliefnet tiger) I located your post and now can respond as I wanted to earlier. As a mother, I can't evenIMAGINE how much your heart is breaking. The death of any loved one is difficult, but we pretty much grow up expecting to bury our parent. Losing a child HAS to be compounded by the very fact that it violates the "natural order" of things. And to find him must have added yet another layer of horror! Because I personally HATE platitudes and have yet found myself writing them of late, I want to be careful how I word this, but I do hope the passage of time will bring you at least a MEASURE of solace.I'm sure thoughts of wanting to "join him" are natural, but I sincerely doubt that your son would want you to take that route. Ask yourself if you would have wanted him to do that had the situation been reversed, and try to find a fissure you can sink your fingernails into and hold on. I will be praying for your needs and asking God to give you the peace which Nancy wrote about earlier. you've motivated me to put my arms around my own son (only metaphotically, since he lives fifty miles away and it's not possible at the moment; a phone call will have to suffice. You, however have nade me grateful that I can even do THAT! i HOPE YOU RECEIVE THE ANSWERS YOU NEED BEFORE TOO much more time has passed and that you will feel the presence of "The Comfortor" sooner yet! Keep returning here and keep us apprised of your situation; I'm sure that all of us who are praying for you wwould appreciate that. I'll continue lifting you up in prayer until I hear that you have BEGUN to heal. (And after, if you still stand in need; grieving is a long process) tHE PEOPLE HERE ARE TRULY BLESSINGS TO MY LIFE, and I'm sure they will be to yours if you decide to climb aboard! As support groups go, BBers are the cream of the crop! Here's wishing you some peace and comfort,
Margaret

I wanted to say thank you to Margaret and Lynn for their thoughts and kind words during what is the worst days of my life. It has been 9 weeks now since I found my son in his bed,I've done alot of crying a whole lot of crying--If it weren't for all the signs we've been getting that he's around I don't think I would have made it. But here I am, I would never have believed a month ago. I'm trying to stay strong for my other children-but the Pain is soo deep my Heart hurts soo bad like its been ripped into!! I'm still not able to leave the house still haven't got the tears under control but getting better. Thank you for all your love and support. Sorry it took so long to get back!!

Love To All of You