Despite of penchant for “crossing lines, Roseanne,like her namesake on her old sitcom,can be incredibly wise at times, but I ,ust disagree on getting rid of everything his mother taught him both because I hate, as a mother, to contemplate someone doing that to MY son and because by the time a woman is in a position to inspire changes, said man must be a pretty important person in the woman’s life and SoMETHING sparked an interest in the first place, which implies a good quaity or two! Besides, i’ve discovered that the only person one can really change is SELF, and that frequentlycreates a change in the relationship anyway. If you’re no longer relating to an individual(friend, lover, parent, child,OR mate) in the sameway, they’re FORCED to change the way they relate to you because you aren’t “playing anymore”! Best to leave all “creatin to the Creator, IMHO.

Margaret I would have to agree with you. When me and my husband met it was not under nomal conditions we were both rotten to the core drug users and abusers, but we both seen some good quility’s at least I saw them in my husband, and he say’s he saw some in me. What we have together now is what we built together and it takes the both of us to meet each other in the middle, we will always have differance’s and we have learned to respect those. I believe that we create each other into one being together, one can’t create what one wants. A couple has to want to change, and grow together, it is endless because people do change as age goes by and you learn something new in a relationship everyday. It is a long and difficult process.

Sorry Roseanne, who brought him into this world anyway? Even though I’m not always happy with the way my husband acts or my sons act, I will always be proud of them because they love me, with all my faults. My youngest son is a Mama’s boy and I thank God he is. He’s going through some really tough times right now and his wife has no compassion whatsoever. Besides God, I’m the only one he has to talk to at this time. He does have a counselor, but even he doesn’t know the basics of my son. A mother’s love should be unconditional. Not all mother’s feel this way and we should pray for them and they should pray for God’s guidance. I mostly listen with my heart and have learned not to give my big mouth a lot of exercise when it comes to his wife. If it is God’s will, their marriage will prevail.

Look at the comment from the flip side:
If guys need to be “fixed,” it explains why most gals under 30 or so go for “bad boys” and have no interest in the genuinely good (if never perfect, of course) guys out there.

I respect Roseanne as a comedian, after that she sort of looses any influence as a women or as a spokesman for women. My mom taught me a lot of things one of the most important was a respect for women and for others. She taught me to be a gentleman to be courteous not only to women but to everyone. We have been married for 46 yrs. I don’t really think my wife has tried to change me nor I her we accept each other as we are with all our goodness and with all our faults. We also thank God for his goodness and the fact that we found each other so many years ago.
Don

It’s funny how when a man is a loser we blame his mother and when a man is good we say “he must have had a wonderful mother”…just an observation on the hypocrisies of life.
We mothers obviously can’t win.
I was in the hair salon the other day with my 2 boys waiting for our hairstylist to finish with her previous client…a charming older woman of about 75, whose husband of about the same age or a little older sat in the small lobby area waiting for her. When she and the stylist came to the front desk, the gentleman stood up and said to his wife, “Oh, you look so pretty!” at which she beamed, patting her hair, and said “oh, thanks to Sallie (the stylist)” and as the man paid the bill, he thanked Sallie..”Thank you for making my wife pretty”….I nearly cried at the sincere sweetness of this obviously happy couple. The genuine love and respect they had for one another. It was a scene I doubt I will ever witness again….

Paula, I appreciated the story, especially since the husband’s comment was so spontaneous. Shows a good heart.
I raised four daughters and a son. I hope they all learned the qualities it takes to be decent human beings. If I have, they will reap the benefits….and so will their spouses.