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April 2008 Archives

The Purpose of the Self-Esteem File

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I thought it would be helpful to remind readers where the idea of a Self-Esteem Forum came from, and the history of my self-esteem file…. Back when I was camping out, roasting marshmallows in the Black Hole, my therapist assigned [...]

Barbara on the Self-Esteem File

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Beyond Blue reader Barbara (formerly Babs) nailed the purpose of the self-esteem file in her letter to Margaret on the combox of my post “Margaret on Releasing Fears.” Articulated so beautiful, Barbara says this to Margaret: Dear Margaret, You mentioned [...]

Dear God: Addiction and Your Advocate

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Dear God, In John’s Gospel, Jesus says this to your disciples: If you love me, you will keep my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate to be with you always, the Spirit [...]

Henri Nouwen on Filling the Heart

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When I’m in that needy place, it helps me to read what Henri Nouwen wrote in his book, “The Inner Voice of Love” about all those persons, places, and things that we think are absolutely necessary for our wholeness. When, [...]

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6 Ways to Cope with Rejection
Your husband ditches you for a girl half his age after 23 years of marriage. The tenth job interview you’ve been on results in another ding letter. Your friends get together for a beer and don’t extend an invitation to you. We all endure rejection, but for us sensitive types, it can be devastati

posted 5:28:25pm Jun. 18, 2013 | read full post »

7 Ways to De-funk Yourself
The definition of FUNK: “to shrink from in fright or dread.” Oh yeah, and “a state of severe depression.” I like to think of it as the Diet Coke of depression … some of the same discomfort, symptoms, yuck, but also not the intense wrestling belonging to our friend, depression. When you’r

posted 4:57:05pm Jun. 05, 2013 | read full post »

How to Get Unstuck
Brain hiccups. We all get a case of them now and then. For some they are fleeting and all a person has to do is to take a deep breath, visualize their departure, and poof! They’re gone. Not so easy for the rest of us. If I counted up the moments I spent trying to escape the broken record of my tho

posted 4:51:05pm Jun. 05, 2013 | read full post »

Therapy Notes: Give Amy a Bottle
From my therapy notebook: I now know who to blame for my feelings of panic and anxiety … Amy. It’s all her fault. That’s what I call my amygdala, the delinquent cluster of neurons in the limbic system considered by most neurobiologists as the fear center of the human body, like the

posted 6:47:25am Apr. 25, 2013 | read full post »

8 Ways to Overcome Envy
I know that the fastest way to despair is by comparing one's insides with another's outsides, and that Max Ehrmann, the author of the classic poem "Desiderata," was absolutely correct when he said that if you compare yourself with others you become either vain or bitter, or, as Helen Keller put it:

posted 6:00:41am Apr. 23, 2013 | read full post »


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