Video: On Death and Dying

Monday February 2, 2009

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I can't adequately introduce the contents of this video. As I said a few moments ago when I taped it, I can't write today.

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Mary

May 22, 2009 8:50 AM

I have lost so many people I love. At 16 I found my Mom dead in bed. They say she died in her sleep peacefully. I needed her so much at 16, so it was very hard. My Dad had died just 11 months earlier. I thought my world had come to an end, but I carried on. I've lost 3 brothers, two husbands and my son, who was 36. That was in '99. There is no grief greater then loosing a child. He was hit by a car while crossing the street. He was so badly damaged that I could not see or hold him, which broke my heart. I hated so much after that, until I got into a bearevement program. Two years later I'm back to loving life and God. I've become stronger over time. I was so depressed that one day my daughter said to me "I want my mother back". Don't get me wrong, I still grieve and cry for all my loved ones, but I go on for them and help others cope. This is my mission in life as planned by God, and I will continue until it's my time to go. God Bless you all today and always.

Annette

May 23, 2009 9:01 AM

Thank you so much! My husband passed 6 years ago. I was lucky in the fact that I had 2 months with him from the time of diagnosis to death. I was with him when he died and it was an unbelievable experience. I knew when his soul was lifted.

I have read many books on death and dying. I've joined bereavement programs and soon you realize that live does go on. You learn to live again. You learn to focus on the good memories.

Your life can change in the blink of an eye and while we don't know why, we do know that God has a plan for us.
May God bless you and keep you.

Your Name

May 24, 2009 3:41 AM

I lost my mother 6 years ago, I had just graduated from high school 9 months before and was pregnant with first child. 2 months after I graduated my mother decided to move back home with her mother; since me and my brother were the last one of her kids to graduate high school. All of us were grown, and there were no one left to raise. My mother stayed gone for 6 months, then one day a week before Thanksgiving, I came home to find her sitting in the living room, waiting on me, like she would do, when I was coming home from school. I was so excited to see her, I could not stop kissing and hugging her. I looked into her eyes and could see that she did not look the same. Her eyes looked so tired and sickly. My mother died February 3, 2003. It had dawned on me months later after she died, that she came home to die, to be near us. I miss her terribly, my kids will never see her, touch her, or feel the warm hugs and kisses that we felt. As each year goes by it does not get any easier, just less hurtful. Now everyday I tell everyone who is special to me, how much they mean to me and I love them, because you never know what god has in store for you or that person!

dewy

June 24, 2009 7:49 PM

You are all so blessed and I am not to sure if any of you realize it. I am talking to each of you that left comments here on this page. I am here to tell you all how important your words are to me. I really am blessed by each of you sharing your comments here. I am a man who grieves daily due to my losses - both living and dead. When you lose a loved one you learn something about yourself. Whether your loss is due to divorce or death - you learn about your own capacity to love. It has shown me that our grief is proportional to our love. God has used my own grief (due to my losses of loved ones) to teach me about love and my own capacity to love. I never had anyone to love, or that loved me, that I can remember anyways - as a kid growing up. I was never shown love and I had no benchmark to measure it by except what I saw in church happening with other peoples familys. My mother told me she wished I was never born and she used to make me work like a dog as a child. I remember paying the entire house mortgage at 15 years old. I ran away it made me so mad. I have been on my own ever since. I am telling you this so you can get an idea what love is really about. Imagine if you never got to see your mother or even worse - your mother tell you she wished you were never born. My mom used to make me wash her feet while my brothers and sisters went out to play. I am telling you guys this so you can get an idea how blessed you all are. How are you blessed you say? You are all filled up with love from where I am standing. You have all had your cups filled to the brim and you just cannot see it - come stand here with me and lets see if the perspective does not change how you feel. I will tell you all this - now if only I could wash my mom’s feet. I break down and cry when I think about my mom. I would love to wash her feet - if only I could. Learn to love - share that love with others. I would bet everything I have that all your loved ones would tell you that if they could talk to you right now. In fact I am willing to bet that every one of you that has a loved one who has passed away is trying to tell you that from "the abode of the dead". That is where we will go when we die until the Day of Judgment. They are using me to tell you to learn to love one another while we still have a chance. Living a life without love is no life at all. You can take my word for it. God bless all of you.

carol

September 10, 2009 4:13 AM

my mother died this time last year . and i cant go on with out her but i do .
i miss her so much .
as a child my mother sent me to live with my father as my mum had all these kids and we had a bad stepfather.
i never got to know my mother till i was in my 50s. and she was the most fun loving person . and i lived with her for a short time after a devorce. then i had to leave again . and told mum i would be with her again . and i was not there when she died,
i feel so bad i wish i could turn things back,
but i cant,,

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