Interesting study. This really makes me think. But it totally makes since that the women would get jealous if their partners were rating other attractive women.

i failed to see the humor in a remark because i was too busy being jealous of the person telling the story.

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I agree strongly with dustmyblues comments. I believe jealosy is rooted in fear; and fear ignores God’s presents in our lives. You have a powerful ministry Theresa that helps thousands, way beyond anything I will ever accomplish. God has blessed us with your willingness to share your talents, may He bless you with the security and serenity of knowing He is with you in all of your efforts.

Thought that was interesting, however us men have jealousy issues as well

It is hard to put a face on shame sometimes. These “barometers” of our life’s success or failure were not created by us, or even God. I am rebelious of getting swept up in them. I hold these values for my children also, hoping to help them see that a test score does not define them. What a tragedy that becomes for many.
Shame-based people who function on tip toes sometimes, have a tougher time not reacting emotionally to these, less-than-human, measurements. Soon, men will have to walk around without underwear on. Women already seem to have evolved to that point, and seem a wee more subject to the scrutiny of examination. I am just rambling on my own perceptions.
I don’t like it either. I don’t like what it does to me emotionally. I reject our society’s methods of ranking, and it is ok to feel that way. I am not going to be remembered for these things. I (you) might be remembered for how couragiously I helped others live.

I believe this study would be the same for men as well.
Most violent crimes against women are committed by their
partner, and almost always due to jeolousy. Be it
another man,a successful career or her love for her
children superceeding her attention for her “man”
as they like to think.
Women rarely resort to violence due to jealousy.
we just move on and concentrate on our sucesses
and the welll being of our children. In time we
find a man that is of VALUE and worthy of us.

I deal with my wife’s jealousy all the time. We have been married five and a half years and I have never seen jealousy to the degree as I have witnessed in her. I have to be careful about turning my head to observe my surroundings because she will assume I am checking someone out. I have almost walked away from her over this issue but have decided to try and stick it out and maybe get past it. I limit my activities to things where there are not other women involved because I don’t want the back lash. I have observed her tense up when we are somewhere and suddenly another attractive female becomes present. My wife is attractive. I am happy with her appearance. If I was to leave her it wouldn’t be over looks, but jealousy. Many times she has confronted me over checking out another woman that I honestly was not even aware of this woman. Once, she became very angry in church because she said I was making eyes at the piano player. In reality, I was looking up at the song lyrics projected on the wall while I was singing. I could go on and on…

After reading Every Man’s Battle and Every Woman’s Battle as well as attending Dynamic Marriage, I think it would be normal for any man or woman to be uncomfortable with their mate rating the attractiveness of the opposite sex. It sets you up for trouble and I don’t think it lines up with what God would have us do. IMHO

Gary, I feel so sorry for you and your wife. Jealousy blinds a person to what true love really is. Reading 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient, love is kind…”, I thought that it was a bunch of hoo-ha, until I was able to be mature enough in my love for my husband to really understand the meaning. That took awhile. Maybe meditating over these verses can help her see what true love is. She has it in you. God Bless.

I culd agree with this artical. I too am sometimes blinded my my own jelousy, it’s hard to focus on my own self if i see someone more worthy or more beautiful than me, but than it’s my own mind thinking such things out of total nonsence. I need to open up my mind and except my own beauty that others see with there own eyes not my own.
This is just a true statement I wanted to share: No one is perfect
Have a wonderful day all you.

Sounds like this is a common physiological reaction among the women because they feel uncomfortable with their partner looking online at other women. It sort of revolves around the self esteem question and trust issues too. Keep in mind in the Christian tradition it is a sin to covet. God wants us to be happy with the blessings, beauty, brains etc that He has given us.

Let’s do a test on men this way and see what happens. I have had too many men in my life that they were so jealous they started seeing things and hearing things.

I came out of a relationship of 23 years … a marriage that dissolved when alcoholism ran rampant resulting in abuse, infidelity, excessive gambling, and lies. It was a marriage originally founded on a strong faith. After the marriage dissolved, I became involved in a relationship with an old college friend. We split after 3 years, due according to him, on my jealousy. As I reflect, it wasn’t jealousy, but trust. He would regularly talk about other women, focusing on their beauty … and my imperfections. I should do this … or that … wear this … try this make up. It was control on his part … and lack of self esteem on mine. Instead of support, which I needed so desparately, especially after leaving a troubled marriage, I received criticism and expectations. It was not a relationship I needed and I am better off without it. And … I woner … Is it really jealousy on the part of many women … or in fact … A lack of support and respect from the partner?

I think the researchers might have missed the core issue on this one. The women couldn’t identify the targets on the screen because they were not looking at the screen in front of them. They were looking at their boyfriends screen to see just what kind of trailer park tramp that he was rating as hot.
God help him if he let out a wow, or a uhm-ah-ah… probably would walk out of there with a black eye. Poor dumb bastard

I don’t know if jealousy is good or bad. I just wanted to thank you for the enlightening information you pass on to everyone. It is very generous of you to do this and helps many people. Thank you.

Jean – I couldn’t agree with you more. While I feel I may possibly be more jealous than I should be I strongly feel that my partner’s actions fuel this fire.

Jean,
thank you for making that question & answer clear! I’m at the end of my divorce and I still question a lot of things…. I don’t remember the last time he said I was beautiful nor would he-ever. I know I had my faults in the failure as well; it was very hard to get over certain insecurities, specially if they were being fueled by him (ironic enough, he made comments about my weight, but I saw the “women” he went and cheated with. That’s just the tip of the iceberg).
Jealousy, anger, hate, ect. all horrid feelings I had towards him and towards myself. But now that it’s over, I am so much happier.

! It has nothing to do with jealousy but morals and respect. God says if u even look upon a woman with lust you’ve sinned!

Real jealousy (and not envy) is one of the toughest and trickiest emotions to understand and get a handle on. Even when you step back and analyze situations that cause jealousy in a rational way, it’s still very tough to deal with at times. Since women are generally more emotionally driven (if not overly sensitive) compared to most men,it definitely has to be harder for them to deal with. Most of what is being discussed above has to do with jealousy in relationships. Of course, there are many other things that cause a person to be jealous. Personally, as I’ve gotten older and after having been in a successful long-term relationship, I don’t feel this emotion too often. With the benefit of experience ([‘m hardly a teenager anymore), I think I’ve become good at beating this emotion 95% of the time and consider myself fortunate in this regard. However,I haven’t reached the Dalai Lama level of serenity yet. I don’t think too many people do.

Don’t think the emotion exhibited was “jealousy”: more like, be a man, stop being so easily manipulated, and don’t rate the other ladies and have some respect for your woman. So, not “jealousy” but more like “my dude is so unsexy.”

Who decided what kinds of images would qualify as “unpleasant” and how they were connected with the gendering of the man’s right to judge a female’s performance at all. True jealousy means we are feeling possessive about someone or something we have a right to possess. Is that even the emotion that is truly being assessed here? Perhaps the high handedness of the evaluative process and its inappropriate assumption of male superiority had something to do with rattling the women’s concentration. I think we have to be careful not to respond so affirmatively here to the presumption of gender difference or gender-driven behaviors. This study is far from divorced from acculturation and bias. Any intense emotion will rattle one’s concentration, especially when she or he is suddenly pressed into subordination without his or her consent. The women should have simply left, given the circumstances and how they were treated.

Why can’t the experiment be reversed and have the women evaluate pictures of men while their men are onlooking? This would result in some interesting findings I bet.

You have done it once more! Amazing read.