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Thursday July 31, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Podcast: An Interview with Dr. J. Raymond DePaulo

Click here for an interview on WYPR Maryland Morning of Dr. J. Raymond DePaulo, Jr., Chairman of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Johns Hopkins Medicine on the topic of "Prozac and Placebo" by radio host Sheilah Kast.

And go to the WYPR's website by clicking here to find a variety of interesting interviews on mental health.

From the interview:

Sheilah Kast: Now, Dr. DePaulo, what are the implications of this study for people who take this kind of antidepressant?

Dr. DePaulo: Well, the implications are that people who are reading the newspaper coverage of this will get, I believe, a wrong impression. The fundamental observation of the data is correct; that is, the more severe depression, the greater the relative benefit is for using a medication compared to placebo. But it would be incorrect to say that these drugs are ineffective or that they are no better than placebo.

Sheilah Kast: Why is that incorrect?

Dr. DePaulo: It's incorrect because, as the researchers point out, in severe depressions there is a substantial difference between the drug response and the placebo response. And I just think that that makes all the difference. In fact, most patients who are included in these clinical trials are milder and milder cases--the kind of cases that probably Dr. Dubin and I may not even prescribe antidepressants but rather treat either with psychotherapy or with psychotherapy and medications, but without a whole lot of urgency about whether to start the antidepressant immediately or not.

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Wednesday July 30, 2008

Categories: Mental Health, Video Posts

Video: Unload Your Guilt!

Guilt is one of the main rivers feeding into the great lake of depression. And that's unfortunate if you've been raised Catholic or Jewish. Or are prone to OCD behaviors like extreme rumination of thoughts.

Soooooo ..... as usual, I have to come up with a visualization technique that allows myself to unload some of the guilt. This one, I think, helps. Except for the fact that I stole the rocks, and I feel guilty about that, and I don't know how to get them back to the place where I found them without looking like a terrorist.

To view my YouTube video, click here.

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Wednesday July 30, 2008

Categories: Catholicism

There Is No Such Thing as Catholic Guilt???

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Thanks to my friend David Gibson, now I can't blame Catholicism for my guilt complex. To read his post on a recent study showing that Catholics (as well as other Christians) are actually no more guilt-ridden than anyone else, click here.

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Tuesday July 29, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

12 Ways to Keep Going

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A woman who lives with chronic pain said to my mom the other day, "You can't sit around and wait for the storm to be over. You've got to learn how to dance in the rain."

That's a perfect description of living with depression, or any chronic illness. But what do you do on the days you don't think you can take the pain anymore? When you want so badly to be done with your life ... or at least be done with the suffering? What do you do when anxiety and depression have spun a web around you so thick that you're convinced you'll be trapped forever in those feelings? When you want to switch places with the 85-year-old man in front of you at church because you're thinking he'll be out of here before you, and you wonder if you do the opposite of all the advice out there on adding years to your life, if you could possibly shave off a few from yours?

We've talked about this on various threads of Group Beyond Blue. From the discussions there and on the comboxes of Beyond Blue, I've compiled a few tools for moving past that harrowing darkness, suggestions on how to emerge from a place of panic, and techniques on how to dance in the rain.

1. Escape from the pain.

Lately, when my thoughts turn to death, I've been telling myself that I don't want my life to be over ... I want a reprieve from the pain. I'm usually at a loss on how to get there. I'm tired, frustrated, desperate, so my thoughts follow the path that has already been blazed throughout the years ... and I fantasize about death, intoxication, or some other destructive behavior that doesn't require a lot of imagination.

How else can I escape ... in a positive way? Instead of romanticizing about death or inebriation from booze, I can research new kayaking routes, bike baths, hiking trails, and camping sites. I can invest the time I lose in unproductive and dangerous thoughts into planning creative outings for myself and for the family that will give me/us the reprieve that I'm craving. I can be proactive about finding sitters for the kids so that my thoughts won't revert back to "stinking thinking."

It's so bloody hard to take that first step ... to Google the state parks in Maryland that rent canoes, and to tune up my bike for a nice ride. But those are life savors. Because they afford me the positive escape that I need.

2. Track your mood.

An essential piece of my recovery is keeping a mood journal. This helps me to identify certain patterns that emerge. As I said in my "Me on the Bad Days" post, bipolar disorder and depression can flair up seemingly out of the blue, like a thunderstorm. But often there are telltale signs that can clue me in as to why I'm feeling so fragile. You can catch these if you've been recording your mood over time.

Tuesday July 29, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Group Beyond Blue: Anti-Depression Measures

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A very helpful discussion thread was started at Group Beyond Blue at Beliefnet Community by Group Beyond Blue member Desertsutra called "Anti-Depression Measures," where people have listed what helps them keep going. Desertsutra begins:

I know there are lots of folks here who deal with this or have in the past, so I'm looking for suggestions. I'm sure that these have been posted elsewhere, so forgive my request for repetition. 

When it gets so bad that every day you're talking yourself out of it, what do you do to stop yourself? When you're, say, waiting for your new antidepressant to kick in or, like Therese shared a few weeks ago in her video of the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad week (month?), you know you just need to wait it out, what tricks do you play on yourself when your brain keeps saying that this will last forever and it's better just to stop suffering now?

This week, I've used guilt (just think how your sister would suffer) and intimidation (just imagine a hugely muscled security angel sitting in that chair between you and the kitchen knives) and responsibility (what will happen to that project that isn't quite done at work?), not to mention gentler methods of deep breathing, walking in the woods, reading b'net's daily joke, journaling and just plain staying at work so I'm safe from myself.

But I feel like I'm starting to get a little ridiculous with this . . . Anyone have any less embarrassing prevention methods they can recommend?

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Monday July 28, 2008

Dear God: Where's the Beef, I Mean Treasure?

Dear God, In today's reading (Matthew 13:44-46), Jesus says to his disciples: The kingdom of heaven is like a treasure buried in a field, which a person finds and hides again, and out of joy goes and sells all...

Monday July 28, 2008

Categories: Video Posts

Where's the Beef?

Alas, for some comic relief ... Do you all remember this? To view the YouTube video click here. To read more Beyond Blue, go to www.beliefnet.com/beyondblue, and to get to Group Beyond Blue, a support group at Beliefnet Community, click...

Monday July 28, 2008

Peace of Heart by Brother Roger

The following is a beautiful prayer I found by Brother Roger, who founded the Taize Community as an attempt to open ways of healing the divisions between Christians. The prayer is from the book "Seeking the Heart of God: Reflections...

Friday July 25, 2008

Larry Parker: Dreams and Rain

The other day I invited you to write your own "This I Believe" essay like the ones read over NPR. Beyond Blue reader Larry Parker/Doxieman122 (who is a candidate for the Member of the Month) blew me away with his. I...

Friday July 25, 2008

Categories: Mental Health

Sissy Jo: We Are All Connected

Thanks also to Group Beyond Blue member Sissy Jo for this beautiful reflection. (You can find still others if you read the "This I Believe" thread at Group Beyond Blue at Beliefnet's Community.) I believe that life shows its...

Friday July 25, 2008

Categories: Mental Health

Plaidypus: Dress Better than Your Enemy!

And thanks also to Group Beyond Blue member Plaidypus for this charming entry, which can be found on the "This I Believe" thread at Group Beyond Blue at Beliefnet Community. I believe that I am a person of worth.....

Thursday July 24, 2008

Categories: Video Posts

Video: Emotional Eating with Janice Taylor, Our Lady of Weight Loss

I admit upfront that I was a little jealous of Janice when she started her "Our Lady of Weight Loss" blog because I had to share my editor, Holly, with her ... and, well, I felt like the older sister...

Thursday July 24, 2008

Categories: Fitness, Food and Health

Nothing Tastes As Good As Being In Shape Feels

I found this great blog post from Craig Harper, one of Australia's most respected motivational speakers and educators from my blogging buddy Talia Mana's "Emotional Eating Carnival" (sounds like cotton candy, but it means collection of blog posts, sorry to...

Wednesday July 23, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

5 Steps to Problem Solving

In Steven Curtis's book "Understanding Your Child's Puzzling Behavior," he provides a table called "Steps to Understanding and Intervention" that I think can be applied to any problem we depressives encounter in our recovery. You can download the worksheets (described...

Wednesday July 23, 2008

Categories: Mental Health, Parenting

A New Support Group for Parents

One of the members of Group Beyond Blue, Deep Within, has started a support group called "Deep Within Our Children" at Beliefnet Community for parents or caretakers of children who have been diagnosed, or are being screened for mental...

Tuesday July 22, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Therapy Is Creative Problem Solving

A friend recently asked me what, exactly, about counseling was so helpful to me. I thought for a minute and then said, "I go in there with a mess of problems. I'm entangled in them. I'm overwhelmed. I don't see...

Tuesday July 22, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Group Beyond Blue: Problem Solving

I started a discussion thread at Group Beyond Blue at Beliefnet Community where we can tackle one of our problems and come up with creative solutions. Here is my post: As you'll see in Thursday's post, I'm trying to...

Monday July 21, 2008

Dear God: Wheat, Weeds, and Surrender

Dear God, In this week's reading, Jesus tells the parable of the wheat and the weeds (Matthew 13: 24-30): The kingdom of heaven may be likened to a man who sowed good seed in his field. While everyone was asleep...

Monday July 21, 2008

Khalil Gibran: On Sorrow and Joy

Then a woman said, "Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow." And he answered: Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And how else can it...

Monday July 21, 2008

On Surrender

The following meditation is by Murray Bodo, O.F.M, from his book, "Song of the Sparrow." We fight surrender to God and resist it. Then one day we wake up and realize that letting go is the only answer. And waking...

Friday July 18, 2008

Categories: Video Posts

Video: Making Jewelry, Making Peace

Awhile back I did an interview with one my mental health heroes, Fr. Joseph Girzone, who talked about carving sculptures from bars of soap to escape his depression. Now I interview another mental health hero, Priscilla Warner (who runs The...

Friday July 18, 2008

Categories: Anxiety

Priscilla Warner: Oh, Where Are You, God?

Following is one of my favorite excerpts from "The Faith Club": As I listened to Suzanne I felt that I was in the presence of someone with deep faith who had dealt with suffering and loss in a way...

Thursday July 17, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Don't Get Stuck on "Unstuck": Depression Is Real, and Drugs Help Me

I think I'm smarter today than I was two years ago. At that time had someone forwarded me Newsweek's interview with James Gordon, founder of the Center for Mind-Body Medicine and author of "Unstuck: Your Guide to the Seven-Stage Journey...

Thursday July 17, 2008

Categories: Depression

Peter D. Kramer: Prozac Nation?

Another of his classic essays is the following, titled "Prozac Nation?" in which Kramer refutes the modern wave of thought that we are overmedicating our country, numbing America to every hiccup or discomfort, and doling out antidepressants where there...

Thursday July 17, 2008

Who Is the Most Inspiring Person of 2008?

I know it's only July, but Beliefnet is gearing up for their "Most Inspiring Person of 2008" contest. The editors want to know who your picks are. Check out last year's gallery by clicking here, and then tell us...

Wednesday July 16, 2008

Categories: Video Posts

Video: Laughing with the Saints (and Fr. Jim)

Every time I watch this video, I laugh. Fr. Jim's joy and playfulness is just so contagious. I think he communicates more about hope and joy and how much God loves us with his jokes and laughter than most priests...

Wednesday July 16, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

9 Ways Humor Heals

I wrote this post awhile back, but Beliefnet featured it as a gallery recently, and the art can't help make you smile. To get to the gallery, click here. Of all my tools to combat stress-especially the stress of...

Tuesday July 15, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Fantasizing Too Much? Plan a Positive Escape

I've been feeling badly that I spend so much of my day fantasizing ... about a place not covered in dirty laundry, and where sex is spontaneous (not scheduled), and backrubs and pillow talk come before and after. At this...

Tuesday July 15, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

I Hoped the Ocean Would Help You See

I loved this story by Beyond Blue reader Melzoom on the combox of my post, "Dear God: Come All Who are Weary": My second suicide attempt was not immediately severe enough to put me in the hospital. My husband came...

Monday July 14, 2008

Dear God: The Fern and the Bamboo

Dear God, In today's gospel, we read about the parable of the sower (Matthew 13: 1-9), which, ironically, was the reading that Eric and I chose for our wedding (it's not all that romantic ... but read in terms...

Monday July 14, 2008

The Mustard Seed of Faith Is Enough

The following meditation is from "Song of the Sparrow," poems and meditations by Murray Bodo, O.F.M. God hears me.  We want to believe it with all our hearts, and so we pray mightily and storm heaven with our cries. And...

Friday July 11, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Group Beyond Blue is Beliefnet's Top Support Group!

I just now got official word that Group Beyond Blue was the winner of Beliefnet's Top Support Group contest. Yah! I continue to be amazed and delighted at the level of support and friendship and encouragement that is present...

Friday July 11, 2008

Categories: Mental Health

10 Tips for a Soulful Summer

Summer is my favorite season of the year. Probably because of all the light. But (this is going to sound weird, but I know you all know what I mean), sometimes I feel pressured to be happy during the...

Friday July 11, 2008

Categories: Mental Health

10 Ways to Bring Summer Inside

If you don't have the luxury of working from a laptop, like I do, which can be transported to a sunny spot, then you might have to bring summer to you. Beliefnet's Holistic Editor, Valerie Reiss, writes "10 Ways to...

Thursday July 10, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Suicide: Premeditated Versus Impulsive

Thanks to Beyond Blue reader Larry Parker for forwarding me the piece, "The Urge to End It All," published in last Sunday's New York Time magazine. It was quite timely for me because I spent the majority of my...

Thursday July 10, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Group Beyond Blue: Concentrate on the "How" of Suicide, Versus the "Why"

Group Beyond Blue member Larry Parker started a discussion thread about the New York Times piece on Group Beyond Blue at Beliefnet Community. There he writes: It's a little disorienting at first reading ourselves discussed in the clinical (literally...

Wednesday July 9, 2008

Categories: Mental Health, Video Posts

Video: "I WILL Get Better"

I don't know about you, but when I'm depressed, my self-talk goes something like this: "This is uncomfortable ... I wish I were dead." "I don't know what to do about x, y, and z ... I wish I were...

Tuesday July 8, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Pray, Laugh, Breathe: Two Days of Healing

I wanted to thank all my dear Beyond Blue readers for your care and concern after I published the video about my darker days. I really was mixed on whether or not to publish that. But I remembered my golden...

Tuesday July 8, 2008

Turning Fear to Faith

Ironically, yesterday's Gospel reading was about the hemorrhaging woman I talked about in my post about the statue of Jesus in the Hopkins's administrative building with the inscription: "Come, all you who are weary." It was a perfect reading for...

Monday July 7, 2008

Dear God: Come, All Who Are Weary

Dear God, I always get a little teary-eyed when I get to Matthew's eleventh chapter, which is today's reading (Matthew 11:25-30), that says: At that time Jesus exclaimed: "I give praise to you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth,...

Monday July 7, 2008

Footprints in the Sand

I used to have a "Footprints" plaque in the bedroom of my childhood house. Or maybe it was in the kitchen. I love the message of "Footprints", even if it's not sophisticated theology. It brings me much comfort because...

Monday July 7, 2008

Categories: Mental Health

Butt Prints in the Sand

Thanks to Patricia B. who posted the following on the message board of my "This, Too, Shall Pass." I initially hesitated to publish it because I know how much Beyond Blue readers love the poem, "Footprints in the Sand." But...

Saturday July 5, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Vote for Beliefnet's Top Support Group

Beliefnet has collected and discussed nominees for its Top Support Group contest. More than one member has told them that these groups sustain them, give them life, and get them through rough days. They also help people celebrate their...

Thursday July 3, 2008

Categories: Mental Health

Day 3: Your Wisdom

I haven't been doing a very good job lately of publishing all the wisdom that I find on the comboxes of my posts. Today I am publishing a small sample of those that have stuck with me and encouraged me...

Thursday July 3, 2008

Categories: Mental Health

Holly (not my editor) on Healthy Anger

Thanks to Beyond Blue reader Holly who posted the following comment on the combox of my post, "A Little Anger is Good." I think I'm at a similar place as you. I remember, before I got sidetracked in my recovery...

Thursday July 3, 2008

"T" on Emotional Affairs

Thanks to Beyond Blue reader "T" who posted the following comment on the combox of my post, "10 Steps to End an Affair": The biggest mistake I ever made in my life was to allow myself to become attached emotionally...

Thursday July 3, 2008

Categories: Mental Health

Taylor on Death & Dying, and Perfectionism

Thanks to Beyond Blue reader Taylor for the following comment posted on my "Perfectionism: Ring the Bells" post: I woke up at 2:00 am and could not go back to sleep. My mind went to this title about perfectionism. I...

Wednesday July 2, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Day 2: More of Your Stories

There were so many amazing stories written on the thread "Your Story," so I'm just publishing some of the first ones written there. Likes these from Group Beyond Blue members Luthitarian, iLiberty, and Lapatosu. To read more Beyond Blue,...

Wednesday July 2, 2008

Categories: Mental Health

Luthitarian: Turning It to Fertilizer

I was raised in a family that had pretty much shut down emotionally for a generation or two. Feelings were messy things you swept out with the dust bunnies. My parents never fought; they just gave each other the silent...

Wednesday July 2, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

iLiberty: I Am Jane Doe

I've never attempted suicide. I've never been hospitalized. I go to work nearly every day and support a large family. I've taken my meds regularly for the past 17 years without fail. I don't forget. I can't forget. The cost...

Wednesday July 2, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Lapatosu: There Are No Villains

I've survived the normal issues in an American woman's life in the 80's and 90's. Raising 6 kids through the teenage years, father remarries, mother's medical crisis', death of stepmom, car wrecks, job changes, alcohol abuse on my part, with...

Tuesday July 1, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Day 1: Your Stories

I have been thinking lately about what it means to be a leader (manager, moderator, fill in the blank), and, like I described in my post yesterday, I think it requires getting out of the way as often as...

Tuesday July 1, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Melzoom: I Will Never Make Those Mistakes Again

When my parents divorced, I was nine years old. My mother and I moved from a very remote area to suburban Detroit where she had grown up. We lived with my grandparents for a year before moving into our own...

Tuesday July 1, 2008

Categories: Depression, Mental Health

Jomaspan: Born Bipolar

I'm one of those people who believe that you are born with bipolar disorder. When and how it manifests is based on experience, but the raw ingredients are in your DNA. When I look back on my childhood, I can...

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