Beyond Blue: November 2008 Archives

Not my lessons, of course. I like to focus on WHAT I'VE BEEN ROBBED OF because of this darn mood disorder. Ahem. OTHER PEOPLE'S LESSONS. I thought this was a very cool gallery, especially for BLACK (and blue) Friday.

Beliefnet asked our readers what lessons they've learned from their battles with depression and would share with others. Read on for their answers and suggestions to help you heal, day by day.

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Again, this title is too positive to be my own. But we must start the holiday season with a heart of joy, no? Here's a good beginning ...

What is it about a short quotation that carries so much power? Anyone who has ever been moved by "I have a dream" or "I think, therefore I am" knows that a single, simple quote can change a day, a life, a world. 

For those who suffer from depression, words of uplift and inspiration are always welcome. Explore these quotations and see if a few simple words might change your day, your life, or your world.

Here's an intriguing interview with Professor Robert Emmons, who is well known within the Positive Psychology field as "Father Gratitude" because he has been researching gratitude for 10 years, and has conducted all sorts of studies to try and help people practice the skill of "emotional self-regulation" or raise their happiness level. He is the author of "Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier."

I want to be upfront, though, with you all and say this: although I find the studies and suggestions of Dr. Emmons, Martin Seligman, and all psychologists within the Positive Psychology movement to be helpful, I don't rely on them to bring me out of a depression. Because that's not their purpose. The techniques these folks present are geared toward the person with a normal happiness-level, or suffering from MILD to MODERATE depression. When I used them while in a suicidal state, they made me feel worse, which is why, to compliment this interview, I am also publishing my video on gratitude, that says if you are incapable of gratitude this Thanksgiving, that I think God more than understands and is with you in your whines and gripes (at least, geeze, I hope so).

For those capable of growing your gratitude this Thanksgiving, check out the article "Enhance Happiness and Health By Cultivating Gratitude: Interview with Robert Emmons" found at SharpBrains.com, by clicking here. I have excerpted from it below.

SharpBrains: What are the 3 key messages that you would like readers to take away from your book?

First, the practice of gratitude can increase happiness levels by around 25%. Second, this is not hard to achieve - a few hours writing a gratitude journal over 3 weeks can create an effect that lasts 6 months if not more. Third, that cultivating gratitude brings other health effects, such as longer and better quality sleep time.

SharpBrains: We could then say that we can train ourselves to develop a more grateful attitude and optimistic outlook in life, resulting in well-being and health improvements, and even in becoming better-not just happier- citizens. And probably one can expect few negative side effects from keeping a gratitude journal. What do you think prevents more people from benefiting from these research findings?

My sense is that some people feel uncomfortable talking about these topics, since they may sound too spiritual, or religious. Others simply don't want to feel obligated to the person who helped them, and never come to realize the boost in energy, enthusiasm, and social benefits that come from a more grateful, connected life.

SharpBrains: Judith Beck talked to us recently about her work helping dieters learn important mental skills through cognitive therapy techniques. You talk about gratitude. Other positive psychologists focus on Forgiveness. How can we know which of these techniques may be helpful for us?

The key is to reflect on one's goal and current situation. For example, the practice of forgiveness can be most appropriate for people who have high levels of anger and resentment. Cognitive therapy has been shown to be very effective against depression. In a sense both groups are trying to eliminate the negative. Gratitude is different in that it is better suited for highly functioning individuals who simply want to feel better - enhancing the positive.

To read the entire interview click here.

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I know that the Thanksgiving holiday is all about gratitude. But what if you can't get there just yet? What if you're encased in fear, and listing your blessings only deepens your depression because you feel like a loser, a whiner, a spoiled brat of an American for not feeling truly grateful?

I know this sounds unpatriotic and totally self-absorbed but this is what I say: don't sweat it. You're not there yet. It's okay.

One day you will be, and your gratitude won't be forced.

I wish all my readers a very happy Thanksgiving holiday--those who are at a place in their recovery where they feel truly grateful, and those who aren't capable of compiling that list just yet.

To view my YouTube video, click here.

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I realize this is the week we are technically supposed to be grateful. But continuing with the theme of yesterday's vent, I thought I'd publish a letter I wrote to God awhile back. One way I pray to God is by venting, yelling at him, accusing him of a bad creation job. And as I said yesterday, I think this indicates that God and I have a good, healthy relationship--a real and organic one that involves lots of bickering and arguing. Here's my letter:

Dear God,

The bipolar lady with brain tumor, abnormal aortic valve, and short right side

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