Singer songwriters are my heroes. They take thought and inspiration and turn them into magic moments. As a writer and poet, I am fascinated with the process they go through, but have not yet immersed myself in the songwriting genre…maybe someday. One of my favorite musical magicians is Asheville, North Carolina based David Wilcox. I discovered his songs via my hometown University of Pennsylvania member supported radio station WXPN 88.5 fm (streamed on www.xpn.org) On my way home from the gym last night, I was listening to his song called “Native Tongue”. He says that it is about the idea that (according to ecstatic poet Rumi)”What you seek is seeking you.” The line “Where you look is where love finds you.” jumped out at me and played peek-a-boo with my heart. I could actually feel it leap in my chest and a smile of contentment spread over my otherwise weary-from -a- long -day, face. It occurred to me that we often spend so much time ‘looking for love in all the wrong places’ that we sometimes can’t see it when it is waving its metaphorical arms in the air, jumping up and down, clamoring for our attention, calling out “Here I am….” What’s more important than that, I wonder?
So where was I looking yesterday? I was looking at the literal and metaphorical road in front of me as I made my way to a job that calls on every bit of insight, strength, resilience, creativity, spontaneity, wisdom, experience, book knowledge and faith I possess, working with folks with mental health diagnoses. Each day I pray that I have what it takes to hold this sacred trust. Each day, Spirit helps me deliver. Whew!
When I got there, I was looking at witholding judgement when there was resistance to ‘my ideas’ of how my day should go, when I had a schedule to keep and things kept filling up the space when I thought I had checked stuff off my to-do list. And yet….somehow I managed to get home in time to keep a phone appointment, write an article, do promo work and get to the gym for my ‘playout’. Love was in all those places, faces and experiences.
Love was also in the prayers offered for the son of a friend who is in the ICU, for my brother in-law who is also hospitalized and my sister and her kids going along on the ride with him, for my son to find his way in the world and a career in which he can use his talents for cooking and caring and support himself, for friends with challenging health diagnoses, for friends who have recently experienced the death of loved ones, friends who are in daunting financial circumstances ….all of these folks could use a miracle…or ten.
Love is in the desire to create a partnership in a mutually supportive relationship as I have witnessed modeled by my parents and others who I consider ‘spiritual power couples’, whose union serves the world as well as each other.
Love is in each word that comes forth in my writing, scattered like faerie dust and wonder for anyone willing to scoop up and share.
Where are you looking? Where has love found you?
http://youtu.be/MvJQQNs-YWs by David Wilcox




posted February 1, 2012 at 4:53 am
I stopped looking. I threw my hands in the air, because I was ure of what I wanted. I was sure this DID NOT exist, and set out to just have fun. You know what?! It struck me shortly there after like lightening….and I was wrong…it DID exist. I have now been in a solid realtionship with my knight in shining armor for 13years. He has proven that what I wanted DOES exist and I can have it and more! How muc fn is THAT? We have 2 beautiful children and share a life that is beyond my wildest dreams of what I thought ‘didn’t exist’…ha! (Silly me)
So? If you are actively looking or not…just keep a little grocery list or recipe of what love ‘is’…..it just may be the base of a delicious fullfilling meal, that feeds your soul and nourishes a home.
posted February 1, 2012 at 8:31 pm
I loved this article, because when I stopped looking is when I found the man I believe to be my soul mate. I never wanted to be so much in love, I never wanted to need or desire someone so much, but now that I have it, I don’t know how I would live without him. I can do this without loosing myself, which is testimony to the man he is, because he expects nothing in return except loyalty. Not too hard to be loyal to a person who has seated you in a throne and treats me as a queen. Thanks for your inspiring writing, and the joy I receive from reading it.
posted February 1, 2012 at 9:46 pm
Interesting that these two responses came from women whose marriages I admire; both assertive, accomplished, independent, successful, creative, talented…clearly their own women. That shows me that it is totally possible to have it all, and that it is not necessary to give up who we are to be in that type of relationship. Thanks Jewelee and Jacinta <3