A reader calling herself Gramma writes: “My clutter consists of piles of old magazines and newspaper clippings about important subjects: politics; religion; history; civil rights movement; black history; women’s history; sociology; etc. After I got rid of about half of it, the remainder is keeping me from renovating my home, selling it, and moving to be nearer my son and his wonderful family. Although I know I would be much happier after I move, something (laziness?) is keeping me from finishing the job. The rut I’m in is obviously so comfortable I’m not motivated to climb out and achieve my remaining life’s goals: writing my autobiography and several other books; traveling; and doing more volunteer work. Since I’m now 70 and still in good health, I need to ‘get with the program’ and achieve my goals before it’s too late. What’s wrong with me?”
What’s right with you, Gramma, might be the better question. You’re rounding a bend, and you sound deep enough “as is,” without the papery clutter of those “important subjects.” Don’t hate the mess, but get outside help to liberate yourself. Hang a crystal over the worst of it, play exciting music as you clear it away.
posted January 3, 2007 at 3:32 am
I’ve heard the same words come out of my mouth, but when I hear Gramma say them, I wonder why she’s so hard on herself. Gramma sounds like a magnificent woman. I also understand what it’s like to be hampered by too much of a good thing, like information and the potential knowledge it offers. Like Gramma, I’m a collector of articles and references on a broad range of topics. A few years ago I cleaned out every last file, pitching dupes and anything available electronically. I streamlined how and what I filed. I gave away anything I was clinging to for wont of an appreciative audience. Now everything has a home and mine is much improved. When I did this purge I learned about holding on and letting go, where my values and illusions were strongest; the very information I thought was liberating me was actually holding me prisoner. Today I think twice before printing, clipping or filing anything new. I’d like to think I’m a much smarter and more discriminating collector of information and ideas. Perhaps. I do know how to get started again if and when I feel immobilzed by uncompleted tasks or unrealized goals: just doing. At first it may be just one thing, as if by rote, but eventually I’ll be doing what matters most, first. I write down almost everything and include a planned end/complete date. This helps me stay focused, balanced and mentally free to enjoy my life. This article (which I tossed once I found it online!) is full of practical info for getting “unstuck”. http://www.parade.com/articles/editions/2005/edition_03-20-2005/featured_0