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Monday June 23, 2008

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Fearless in Love: Being Fearlessly Single

I’ll admit it: I’ve been single, I’ve been married, I’ve been divorced, and along the way I’ve learned how to land on my feet, self intact, no matter what happens. (The presence of my sister and my two wonderful daughters helps, of course.) I hear this a lot from friends who have re-embraced being on their own after leaving unhappy marriages: there is nothing more grounding than the true self-esteem that comes from knowing yourself, and knowing you can handle whatever comes your way.

What are some activities—hiking, shopping, driving, sleeping—you enjoy most when you do them alone? List a few reasons why these times of solitude make you stronger as a person.

--Arianna Huffington

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Getting to know yourself and rely on no one but yourself has been my greatest undertaking. I was divorced after 27 years of marriage. I got an English degree then pursued a masters degree in special education and upon completion, I moved to Florida. I have always hated ice and snow and now I could CHOOSE and make some decisions for myself. Its been emotionally tough--the loss of "family" but now after 18 years it has all come around. The kids are grown up and understand so much more because of their own relationships. Wounds have been healed and the Truth has com to the surface for them. I have tried to be an example. Yes, when you are alone, you are so much freer to take care of your own needs, but I stil have that hollow place in my heart--that ache and I doubt it will ever go away.

Posted by: Copperbay | June 26, 2008 9:58 AM

" I just was reading some of your singles comments and I don't feel so alone anymore after reading some of these. I have been single for 3 yrs, not even dated, but during that time until this very day I count it a blessing only beacause I got to know myself, actually " who I am in Christ, and that I am some-one cause God makes NO junk. Do I want to meet someone, sure, don't we all, but first I think it's important to examine yourself, build good structure, solid foundation, so when I do meet that special someone, the foundation won't crumble. Does this make any sense to anybody?

Heaven Scent

Posted by: tricia newton | June 26, 2008 10:42 PM

Some people might find it bizarre, but I am so alone that I don't speak a word to anyone for a week or more. Sometimes I have to answer the phone for work, but other than that, I text message some aquaintances and remaim completely alone. I take care of animals, mostly dogs for a living, so it's just me and them. It is lonely, but I find myself getting irritated by anyone I do try to spend time talking to. I definitely deal with depression and severe anxiety, but it feels deeper than that...like I'm just done with the gossip, listening on and on to peoples' problems that they just never seem to want to fix...I almost feel more free not having to listen to anyone, but I feel like it's selfish and abnormal. I've never been married, and not even sure if I want to be. I live in NJ, and what I really want to do is move to FL like the person above wrote :) I just don't have that much courage.
~karen

Posted by: Karen | June 28, 2008 3:06 PM

I am so stuck and confused that I do pray there is a way to see clearly.I am so fearful of my wife and what else she may share. I am still in shock of what I have learned about the foundation of our marriage. 34 years and very confused. I am thankful for the so many blessing that I do have in my life but I haven't been able to get pass the secrets and the shame. Or is it that I am that stupid.
I thought that I had an unconditional love and perhaps I do, but maybe there was a condition that was a love-stopper.

Fear is a terrible thing. Thank God for God.
Bob

Posted by: Bob | July 2, 2008 12:53 PM

Everyone is single at some point in their life. Either they never get married...like probably me...hehe. Or they get divorced, or widowed. So it is important to know your own self and enjoy your own company. I love to sleep by myself!

Posted by: Katerina | July 5, 2008 8:00 PM

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