Crunchy Con

Salt, light and schooling

Monday June 18, 2007

One of the standard critiques of parents who opt out of public schools, either for private education or homeschooling, is that they're guilty of selfishness or other egocentric, anti-communitarian moral failure. If the parents are Christians, even other Christians will...
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Allison
June 18, 2007 7:38 PM

My homeschooled children don't live behind a baracade. I don't understand the animosity and scepticism--"You can't protect them from everything,"-- stance. We go to the grocery store, library, post office, parades, little league. We socialize with people in our comminunity. If we choose to homeschool, and attend church, and avoid TV does that mean we are not a part of society? NO! We are salt and light, just in a way tat respects the child's need for spiritual and intellectual shelter.

Connie
June 18, 2007 7:45 PM

History we know to be a lie? She's probably referring to tales that the earth is more than 6000 years old.

Don Altabello
June 18, 2007 7:54 PM

Or, Connie, it may have something to do with the cream puff versions of Islamic history that, for instance, fail to mention the Armenian massacres. Of course, I could give you other examples, but I'm sure you're a very smart person and don't need a list.

Erin Manning
June 18, 2007 8:15 PM

The funny thing to me is that I seem to recall lots of people sneering at the idea of trickle-down economics; these same people seem to believe in trickle-down education, in that they think that having students from wealthier, more stable, or more involved families will automatically improve the public schools.

I can understand the temptation to believe this, but unfortunately you have to look past the utter failures of the system of public education itself, the complete rot which exists from the federal Department of Education with its unfunded mandates down to the local school board with its incessant tampering and emphasis on testing over instruction.

And I should hand my children over to this system because...?

Scott Walker
June 18, 2007 8:42 PM

It may come as a shock to Connie, but the great majority of Christians I know are comfortable living in a universe that is quite a bit older than 6000 years...say about thirteen billion years older. The Scopes trial was a long, long time ago.

Connie
June 18, 2007 9:14 PM

Scott--not a shock, as I am a Christian and am comfortable with life as explained by science, not Genesis. We also happen to be a homeschooling family, and very probably the majority of Christian homeschoolers don't accept the 13 billion year old universe.

Maria Bremberg
June 18, 2007 9:51 PM

I thought the author was referring to either extremely anti-Christian or completely secular interpretations of history that are often presented in public schools. I would think that the "6000 year old earth theory" would fall under science more than history. This whole side issues really doesn't have much to do with her main premise, which I find very compelling.

Marko
June 18, 2007 10:41 PM

Two thoughts:

First, before my children were school age I wondered about being "salt and light." But I read a Cal Thomas column in which he pointed out that no mission agency sends eight-year-olds into the field. We homeschool and chose to be involved in the community through scouts, sports and similar activities.

Second, in one way we families who chose to homeschool or to send our children to private schools are actually the opposite of selfish. We "contribute" financially to the public school system through our taxes but pay for the other school options, leaving our money to be spent on other children.

watsy
June 18, 2007 11:13 PM

I wouldn't send my children into a hostile environment. I'm so very, very, pleased with our public schools. I find that the values that the schools enforce are very consistent with what they hear at home. You respect other people. You don't have to like everyone, but you do need to treat everyone with kindness. I can't think of anything that the teachers have taught that goes against what they've learned at home.

Ultimately, parents are responsible for raising their children. If you don't think that your child is safe or is receiving the right education, then private schooling or homeschooling is an alternative.

I don't feel as if I let God down by researching the schools prior to selecting a home and choosing to live in an area where my children could go to public school and be safe and get an excellent public education.

Don Altabello
June 18, 2007 11:28 PM

Connie,

My prior comment was a bit rash--I apologize. I don't think we should presume what the author is talking about without actually knowing. I know many homeschooling families--they don't believe in a 6,000 year old earth. Albeit the ones with whom I am most familiar are Catholic.

In looking at the "forest" of what the author is saying--I believe that the important point is that in areas where the schooling is less than sufficient to raising a child in the manner the parents desire, they should not be faulted for homeschooling or utilizing a private school.

We live in a very diverse society--and I think public schools have a huge challenge in forming universals upon which their communities can agree. In that atmosphere, far from fostering communitarianism, I think we find a moral vacuum. As religion/culture etc... always have been essential to the raising of children, I think it is only natural that many people want to take advantage of educational opportunities which offer this.

naturalmom
June 18, 2007 11:54 PM

I think Sally Thomas has a good point. As a recently joined member of the Religious Society of Friends, it strikes me that Quakers have historically had an impact on society that is disproportionate to their numbers in the general population. I think the reason for this is that they were acting, in Ms. Thomas's words, "from the locus of a distinct Christian culture, however microcosmic, that makes readily apparent what the truth actually is and that nurtures moral courage." Friends have not been heavily evangelical since the early days of their existence, yet the way have they let their Light shine has had great impact on individuals and society alike over the last 300 years.

That said, many modern Friends are falling victim to the same problems Ms. Thomas describes in the article quoted above. FWIW, I think the problem of excessive conformity is itself partly a result of institutional public schooling. (Whether by design or circumstance doesn't really matter in the end.) Resistance to blind conformity is yet another one of the many reasons we homeschool.

Russell Arben Fox
June 19, 2007 12:26 AM

A friend sent me Ms. Thomas's article, and I've been thinking about it today, and will probably want to reply to it at greater length on my blog. While I don't think I've ever made the specific argument she's responding to--the idea that Christians, as Christians, have an obligation to keep their children involved in failing institutions, as a way of witnessing to and propping up those similarly stuck in failing institutions--I have often felt that at members of a community and a country, one which is at least nominally committed to the principle of equality (a principle we all benefit from), doing our part of keep public goods like free schooling available to all is important. That's the communitarian aspect she's responding to...and it's a good response she makes. On the one hand, I think she plays fast and loose with the idea that making a commitment to a public school is tantamount to throwing your child out into "the world"--a school district is itself made up of people in neighborhoods whom you live near and can visit and form relationships with, as the many millions of folks who have had good experiences through PTA groups can attest. But on the other hand, she also is right about how homeschoolers can contribute to their local community in many other, very direct ways, simply by being around and being a visible example. So ultimately I'm a little conflicted about her piece. But that's not to say it isn't an excellent essay overall.

dymphna
June 19, 2007 7:50 AM

The modern salt and light theory is pretty much child abuse. Jesus never said to send your seven year old into a school where the teacher will mock them in front of the entire class, nor did He say to instruct your 12 year old to get beat up after gym class for preaching abstinence to his classmates. A parent's first job is to protect his or her own child.

Rod Dreher
June 19, 2007 8:16 AM

Russell, you hit on a point that preoccupies me. In theory, I ought to be fully behind the public schools. But leaving aside the problematic institutional aspects (e.g., the stuff Erin mentions), there is the question of the culture within the school. That's something you can't blame principals and teachers for.

I wonder how many of you ever saw the PBS Frontline documentary "The Lost Children of Rockdale County"? Back in the late 1990s, the producers heard about a syphilis outbreak in a public high school in this affluent Atlanta suburb. They made a film examining the culture of teenagers in the school. I remember exactly where Julie and I were sitting in our Brooklyn living room when we first watched it. It was completely shocking. Completely. Shocking. This letter to the producers, which is on the website to which I linked, gives you an idea of what the film is about:

Dear FRONTLINE,

It just so happens that I was a teenager in Rockdale County. I moved to Rockdale when I was 10 and lived there until I was old enough to get away without anyone sending the police to come get me and bring me back (about 17).

I had sex for the first time when I was 13. I was already drinking and smoking pot. I was engaging in these activities with my peers, frequenty on campus (I attended both Heritage and Rockdale County High Schools). I don't know about syphyllis, but I got herpes from a classmate and it was rumored that others were also infected.

We had a lot of spare time on our hands. I don't know if I can honestly say I was in the minority. I do realize that there were lots of "good" kids around, but I used to buy pot from the class president on school grounds and I engaged in sexual activity with members of the Varsity Football team on more than one occasion in the boys locker room. I also was involved with two of my high school teachers, one of whom introduced me to cocaine, sodomy, and ménage à trios.

I would sneak out of my house in the middle of the night and sneak back in before my parents woke up... My mother was at home every day when I got out of school. She was involved in my schoolwork and insisted on meeting my friends (male and female) before we went out. I had a curfew. I was a reasonably good student most of the time.

I've been reminising a lot about high school recently because my 20th class reunion is scheduled for later this year. I know that I was a "bad" girl, perhaps worse than most, maybe not as bad as others but if you think for one second that this situation is new or that it's indigenous to Conyers, Ga, then you're nuts!

"The Lost Children of Rockdale" are just a microcosm of America's restless youth in the late 20th century. God bless us all in the 21st century.

Elizabeth Payton
sacramento, ca

The film depicts teenagers out of control, especially when it comes to sex. But believe me, that's not the most shocking part. The most shocking part is that they all pretty much come from materially rich families. These families give them everything they could possibly want ... except what they really need. There's this one scene in which a teen boy who's gotten into serious trouble has an intense meeting with his family, and the family resolves that Junior is going to be spending his weekend nights at home with the family instead of hanging out with his pals. The final shot in that scene is taken from outside the family home at night. You can see mom and dad through the living room window, bathed in the blue glow of the TV screen. And upstairs, in his bedroom, is Junior, watching TV alone. Family values, see.

Anyway, there are two or three Christian girls in the film, who go to the high school. They don't want to be part of the freewheeling sex culture. And their peers make their lives hell for it. At the end of the movie, their parents have taken them out of the public school and put them into Christian school, just to give them a moment's peace and sanity. They left the public schools not because of the teachers, see, but because of, well, the public.

Rod Dreher
June 19, 2007 9:04 AM

More on the Rockdale County story. This is an excerpt from interviews on the film's website. This is from one with a father named Frank:

Was Amy addicted to drugs, do you think?

I don't know. It's very hard to say. My own opinion is that, you know, the parents cannot put as much pressure on them as the social pressure that's put on them [at school]. . . . Amy, like I said before, she was very smart. She had good grades in school. And she won't tell you this. But I think she kind of dumbed herself down. What I mean is she didn't want to study in school. She didn't want to make the good grades because they would not accept her in the group. . . You got to be accepted somewhere.
[snip]
I'm not a George Bush fan, but when he talked about the family unit and the [disintegration] of a family unit, that's the way it is. And as much--I do as much to destroy it as anybody else. We got TV's in every room of the house. I watch my programs. My wife watches her programs in another room in the house, you know. The kids watch it or play on their their Ataris, the video games. You mentioned a while ago about the time we spent together. Yeah. We would spend time together. But much of the time we had in the house together was not together. Our supper meal was a big meal when the girls were comin' up--and we'd always sit down to supper and had our meals. Until they got old enough and they'd come grab somethin' and run out the door and they'd go. . .
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Here is the transcript of the entire program. Excerpts:

PEGGY COOPER: My students were talking to me about the parties that they were having on weekends, and there was one place in particular that they had lots of privacy. The parents were off and gone. And they said that they were watching the Playboy Channel in the girl's bedroom. And there would be, like, 10 or 12 of them up there.

And so I said, "Well, is everybody watching it?" "Oh, yeah. They're all watching it." And so one of the little guys goes, "And we're getting pretty good at it, too." I said, "Good at what?" So he said, "Well, we- you have to do- the game is you have to imitate what the Playboy people are doing."

And one of them said, "And sometimes it's all mixed up, too. You know, it's just like- there may be three or four of us at one time. And it doesn't matter if you're two guys or two girls or a girl and a guy. It doesn't matter. You just have to do what they're doing."

NICOLE: There was this one time when we were all at a party. There's about 30, 40 people there. And this one girl, she- they had been drinking. They were pretty drunk. And she, like, was going to have- she told everybody she was going to have sex with almost every guy that was there.

And her and her friend went back in the bedroom. Her friend had sex with her boyfriend and came out. And then the girl stayed in there, and it was, like, all the guys lined up. And it was like they were from the door to the front door. I mean, it was a lot of people.

And we brought out the bag of condoms we got from the health department, passed them out. And, like, two guys would go in there, you know, and they were having sex with her. And they were, like, having oral sex and, you know, sex. And all the guys that- most of the guys that were there went in the room and had sex with her.

And then she came out. She was- she thought it was the coolest thing, just that she had just had sex with all them. Or maybe they thought she was cool or whatever. Then she was like, bleeding, and her hair had cum all in it, and it was all over her clothes.
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Dr. KATHLEEN TOOMEY: What was so extraordinary to me is these parents started looking for externally who to blame. "This has caused this," "T.V. has caused that," "External groups have caused this." But few of them - none of them that I can recall - ever looked to themselves. And the minister turned to me and said, "They don't see. It's them. It's the parents. They have done this. The kids don't talk to them."

What was extraordinary to me, a year after this outbreak, was here was a community in total denial about what happened.
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NARRATOR: Jennifer is 17. Her friends, Penie and Kira, are 16. They are devout Christians.

INTERVIEWER: Are you guys all virgins?

JENNIFER, KIRA, PENIE: Yes. Yes.

INTERVIEWER: Why? Why have you stayed virgins?

KIRA: Because that's- that's my morals that I live by. My parents have taught me from- since I was little that that's a good thing to do. I mean, it's just always been a right to me. It's always been right to save it.

NARRATOR: The girls say their way of life has isolated them from their peers.

KIRA: We got into high school, and high school's a lot different than middle school. Sex is the cool thing, and drugs is the cool thing, and drinking is cool. I went to one party in 9th grade, and I just- I just didn't like it after that. I mean- I mean, I wanted to go, I mean, because everybody wants to go to parties. And I got there, and I just knew that was not what I'm- that's not what I'm about. I'm about something different.

NARRATOR: The girls all left the Conyers public schools for a private Christian school called Springs Academy. Their circle of friends has narrowed, too, to those who share their beliefs.

JENNIFER: Guys definitely seem to be intimidated- I don't know by other Christian girls, but seem to be intimidated by me. Sometimes it's hard, and it's- like, you question yourself. It's, like, "Why is this worth it?" It's, like, "These guys are there afraid of me." It's definitely been lonely at times.

PENIE: It really is hard, you know, when you try to be good, and then people want to always tar you and say, "Oh, no. You're a hypocrite," you know? It's really hard.

NARRATOR: At times, the girls say, they have even been harassed by their peers.

PENIE: People like to say things. You know, they said that I was sleeping with- around with a lot of guys, you know, and that's not the case, you know? And they'd say I get drunk, and I was not doing that at all, you know? And drugs and anything else you can imagine. You know, none of that was true.
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[interview with a different set of girls]
INTERVIEWER: What kind of music do you guys like?

GIRLS: Rap.

INTERVIEWER: Like what?

GIRLS: Like, Master P. Tupac, definitely. Oh, I love Tupac.

INTERVIEWER: What do you like about rap?

GIRLS: The beat. The beat. And the words. And it's just, like, loud. You can really get up and dance.

CHRISTINE: And the way that it's, like- they can talk about something that's, like, completely stupid, like drugs and stuff. [crosstalk] But it's the way they put it, it sounds interesting.

INTERVIEWER: Give me an example.

CHRISTINE: I can't think of a song.

GIRLS: [singing rap] Oh, take three witches and put 'em in a [unintelligible] I take clothes off you, and I'm blowing [unintelligible] mind. Take one more before I go [unintelligible] Seven bitches get fucked at the same time. The [unintelligible] she can suck a ding-dong all day, all night, all evening long. Bitch has never done it. She says she never tried. [unintelligible] mother-fucking [unintelligible] if the bitch is a good trick. Anybody can talk to a bitch and get the bitch to fuck, but how many [unintelligible] talk to a bitch and get their dick sucked like me? A pimp that you never saw [unintelligible]

INTERVIEWER: That's about group sex.

GIRLS: Yeah.

INTERVIEWER: Is that something anybody does around here?

GIRLS: Uh-huh!

BRIDGET: Lots of people. A lot of people.

CHRISTINE: Yes, a lot of people.
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[Rod:] I'm not saying that every public school is like the one in Rockdale County. What I am saying is that I don't have confidence that the public realm in general is all that different from Rockdale County: populated by parents who have lost contact with their children, and who have given themselves and their family lives over to material culture -- and are utterly clueless as to why their children are coming undone. It's clearly not a question of poverty. It's a question of spirit, of virtue, and of community. Those people have poisoned the communal well.

Daniel
June 19, 2007 10:34 AM

"Second, in one way we families who chose to homeschool or to send our children to private schools are actually the opposite of selfish. We "contribute" financially to the public school system through our taxes but pay for the other school options, leaving our money to be spent on other children."

Dear God. Maybe part of the hostility to homeschooling is the sanctimony of it all. Just homeschool your kids, don't ask me to pay for your Bible curriculum, and quit talking about what a victim you are.

Homeschooling is a selfish act. And that's perfectly acceptable. Quit trying to rationalize it and embrace the fact you've made a selfish decision for the sake of your children. That's fine, but at least be honest enough to admit it's selfish. And be willing to admit that the choice means you lose the opportunity to impact the larger culture, at least in this tiny way.


elizabeth
June 19, 2007 10:39 AM

Great story Rod.

I know a similar one about a Catholic school in a local suburb. A friend's family sacrificed to send her daughter to that school. She refused to participate in the wealthy suburban students' culture of sex and drugs and they made her life a living hell. The administration would not interfere because they didn't want to offend rich, full-tuition-paying parents. Our friends had a partial scholarship. They pulled the girl out and she happily attended the local public high school that my son also attended. Both got in to good colleges and are doing very well.

Does that mean you can't trust any Catholic school? Of course not. Materialist parents who give kids things but not time exist in all areas of the country and some of them send children to Christian schools. Stop generalizing from a sick case to an entire system.

Parents have to do what they think is best for their kids. No argument. We moved our son from public to Catholic school for middle-school because that was a weak link in our public schools.

The inner-city HS my son graduated from last year has highly attractive magnate programs and a high degree of parental involvement and interest to college recruiters. It's all in what a school community makes of itself, not the fact of whether or not it is public or private.

Anonymous
June 19, 2007 10:48 AM

"That's fine, but at least be honest enough to admit it's selfish."

Except that it's not. The hostility is remarkable, given that it's a win-win for you secular folks: you get the grubby Christer parents and their annoying kids out of the system, and you still get their property tax money.

No more fights about the curriculum, sex ed, religion-oriented clubs, having to wrangle over religious accommodations and the like. Yet you're still pissed off. As Jesus said to the ex-leper in Life of Brian "There's no pleasing some people."

Dale Price
June 19, 2007 10:50 AM

"10:48 am" on June 19 was me. Still getting used to the new comment arrangement.

ossicle
June 19, 2007 10:56 AM

Didn't Jesus say nothing, or little, about sex? Aren't all/virtually all the "Christian sexual teachings" (which are a moving target anyway -- diferent churches have different teachings) just land grabs on the part of normal guys over the centuries?

Irenaeus
June 19, 2007 11:04 AM

I don't think it's 'sanctimony' to worry about how our children are being shaped and formed during the 30-60 hours a week they'd be involved in school and extra-curricular activities; if the local options -- public or Catholic or (non-catholic) Christian -- aren't up to snuff, too bad. As far as losing an opportunity to 'impact the culture': (1) as many have noted, homeschool kids still interact with the broader world, but in the contexts of neighborhoods, rec sports, etc. (2) No one takes to a task without training; no soldier goes to battle without boot camp; no athlete plays the game without practice. Homeschool kids will have *their entire lives* to impact the culture, and will do a better job if they are raised right in the first place.

I guess I'm less worried about perceived 'sanctimony' than I am the good of our children. If you can't handle it, well, I'm not going to be responsible for your psychological responses. That's on you.

Daniel
June 19, 2007 11:05 AM

"Yet you're still pissed off."

I'm "pissed off" at homeschoolers being "pissed off" and being such victims. That's what I mean by the sanctimony.

One of the things I always admired about conservatives was that they didn't fall for the "look at poor me, what a victim I am" mentality. But that seems to have been tossed to the wayside and now conservatives--especially social conservative--are constantly playing the victim and martyr.

As I said, if you want to homeschool your kids, have at it. But stop whining about how mean everyone is to you and be honest that it is a righteously selfish act and that's quite alright.

Irenaeus
June 19, 2007 11:14 AM

Ossicle,

Thanks for your honest question. If I may employreductio ad absurdum, Jesus said absolutely nothing about incest, or gang rape, or genocide, or etc. Being Jewish, he would have accepted the standard Jewish view of the family, which is that marriage is good and children are a blessing (this is why talk of "Judeo-Christian ethics" or "J-Ch tradition" isn't an ecumenical sop to the Jews but the reality of the case: Christianity is a Jewish phenomenon, an offshoot of Judaism). He did affirm the goodness and indissolubility of marriage in Matthew 19.1-9 (parallel in Mark 10.2-12).

Further, Christians accept the whole Bible, not just Jesus (who is usually interpreted through a fairly liberal lens by those who assert, "Well, Jesus didn't say much about X...); Paul and others had a lot of things to say about sex and marriage.

Finally, Catholic or Orthodox Christians also accept the tradition of the church on these matters.

Irenaeus
June 19, 2007 11:18 AM

Rod,

Interesting timing. I finished your chapter on education in Crunchy Cons about 4 hours before this post went up. Good stuff; but frightening in many ways. I've blogged about homeschooling and educational choices and sought counsel here, as my wife and I are talking about what to do with our kids.

M_David
June 19, 2007 11:39 AM

I've always been puzzled by the claim that by sending one's kids to a educational institution is some sort of public virtue. So many false assumptions here:

1) Just because the majority does it does not make it a good thing. Nobody has ever shown mass institutionalization of children offers a public benefit.

2) How did isolating children in institutional schools become more "public" than not? Homeschoolers certainly have more time to interact with the public. Whether they do so depends on them; however, public school students simply cannot. They lock the doors behind them.

3) How did "education" become the litmus test for "public"? Wouldn't recreation, religion, sports, or even give more back to the public? I never hear that not sending your kid to the public library is somehow hurting the public.

4) One should look with suspicion on self-serving logic. The public schools are free-all-day day-care. (I remember reading about a TV commerical that captures this perfectly as a mother, after tearfully waving good-by after the out-the-door morning rush, relaxes into her bubble bath with a smirk and a book.)


So no matter what one's personal educational choice, the public school=virtue thing never made much logical sense. Liberals have just latched onto this propaganda because the public educational institutions (school unions, textbook publishers, etc.) are in their corner - they teach sort of a bland secular worldview. People who are big public-school fans are generally fans for ideological reasons. They would be singing a different tune if public schools taught what they taught, say, in 1800.

Sarahndipity
June 19, 2007 11:41 AM

OK - let me preface this by saying I have zero problem with parents either homeschooling or sending their kids to a private school. There’s nothing “selfish” about it. They’re simply doing what they think is best for their family. And there are plenty of ways for homeschooled kids to socialize outside of school.

But what I do have a problem with is the notion held by some homeschoolers and private schoolers that public schools are always inferior and that anyone who attends public school is going to be corrupted. Kids aren’t stupid, folks. I went to public schools from kindergarten through college, and I’ve always had a strong faith, thanks to good formation from my parents and good CCD classes. Hearing the word “condom” in sex ed did not make me suddenly want to run out and have sex. I already knew I was going to wait until I was married. A child with a solid faith and home life is not going to have that faith ruined by attending public school, and the best parochial school in the world is not going to save a child who does not have a solid example from his parents. I’ve known many, many people who went to Catholic schools and abandoned their faith, as well as many public schooled people who have a very strong faith. I knew a girl in college who went to public schools her entire life and ended up becoming a nun.

My husband and I are fortunate to live in an area – northern Virginia – with excellent public schools, probably one of the best school systems in the country. My husband and I both graduated from this school system and in all likelihood we will send our daughter and any future children we have to public schools. Obviously not everyone is as fortunate, and if one lives in an area with poor public schools, it might be best to homeschool or choose private school.

And let’s face it – private school ain’t cheap. It’s hard enough these days for families, what with rising college tuition and housing costs, in addition to trying to do the things many Christian families feel are important, such as having a big family or living on one income.

ossicle
June 19, 2007 12:11 PM

Irenaeus,

Thank you for your thoughts. Those three factors don't seem very compelling to me as an outsider but I gather they're pretty persuasive to many practicing Christians.

Here are my thoughts on them, in the order you wrote them, with no expectation they'll modify anyone's views in the slightest.

1. "Reductio ad absurdum." I don't think this really scans, i.e., I don't think your mention of incest, gang rape and genocide constitute a reduction to absurdity of the point I'm making: Prohibitions against gang rape and genocide can readily be extrapolated from what Jesus said, which as far as I know is not true of traditional/conservative Christian views on sexual practices and arrangements. As for incest, while I think it's rightly frowned up by all cultures (and I think Jesus would have frowned upon it), in fact I don't think anything Jesus said touches on it especially so it kind of falls outside the rightful purview of Christianity. (Imagine that, something that falls outside its purview!)

2. "Christians accept the whole Bible, as well as the teachings of certain Church fathers." This just leads us down the path to cherry-picking. I don't mean to be sophomoric, but this point forces me to be the 100 millionth person to point out that religious folk seem to feel free to take what they like from the Bible and forget about what they don't like. There are hundreds if not thousands of rules found inside it, many of which strike the modern ear as comical (of the "you must not use a polyprene leash for your hampster" variety). Certainly, there are enough varying statements in it about sex and family arrangements for people to come to very different conclusions about, say, pre-marital sex. You obviously (along with many readers of Rod's blog) happen to be in a group of traditional/conservative Christians who have, entirely on your own contingent judgment, concluded that a particular set of interpretations of "the whole Bible" is the correct one. This is hardly insane, but it is by _leagues_ weaker to an outsider's ear than a strict reliance on Jesus's actual words would be. I think it's amazingly striking -- and I think you should find it so as well -- that Jesus never said anything about sex, and that what he said about family life is by and large opposite to much of what "family values" people would endorse. Bottom line: The imprimatur of Jesus is utterly absent on almost all matters relating to sex and family arrangements. What's considered by you and others to be "Christian" is merely the work of man. That doesn't make it wrong (I think lots of it is great, myself), but obviously it's considerably less than you're claiming for it.

3. "Catholics and Orthodox Christians accept the tradition of the church on these matters." I guess this is pretty much a subset of #2, so never mind.

-O

Christine
June 19, 2007 12:18 PM

Interesting comments all the way around on this topic. I must say that I agree with Sally Thomas. It is difficult for a child to be "salt and light" when they are not fully formed. Sending them to some schools (like the district in which I live) is akin to throwing them to the sharks.

Daniel has commented repeatedly about the whining of homeschoolers and the victim mentality he perceives, as well as the "sanctimony." Oh, and I nearly forgot, how selfish it is to home school. I know that I home school because after much prayer and contemplation the conclusion to which we (my husband and I) came was that in order to beOBEDIENT to God, we were supposed to home school. Is obedience to God selfish?

Christine

Dale Price
June 19, 2007 12:34 PM

Daniel:

Be careful with the "yous". I'm not whining or claiming victimhood about anything. Homeschooling is the choice we made, and we live with it. It doesn't mean it's the right decision for anyone else.

And you still haven't explained what makes it "selfish."

Rod Dreher
June 19, 2007 12:50 PM

Daniel, I would wager, does not have children. Which, if true, doesn't invalidate his argument, but it does put it in a certain perspective. I'm often embarrassed by the things I used to think and say with such certainty and ardor about child-raising before I had children of my own.

I know someone who chastised me on the subject of homeschooling, calling it "selfish" and "un-Christian." She put her kids into public school, to prove a point. I don't know what her public schools were like, but I do believe that putting your child into an educational setting that might not be good for her, only to prove a moral point, is selfish.

Similarly, in our family, homeschooling was really, really not working out for us with our seven-year-old, owing (we now know) to a particular learning disability that we were not prepared to manage, but his religious school is. It would have been terribly selfish had we continued to homeschool him so we could live out our homeschooling values.

My point is that there's no cut-and-dried answer that fits every family's situation. Parents who honestly ask themselves, "What is best for my child's education?" no matter where that question might lead are unselfish. For some, that could lead to public school. For others, homeschooling, and for others private or religious school. Depends on time, place and circumstances.

Sarahndipity
June 19, 2007 12:52 PM

Well said, Rod. It all depends on the situation.

Anonymous
June 19, 2007 1:11 PM

Well, I went and read the whole article and have some additional thoughts. First, her observations are apparently regarding schooling in England, which for all I know is very different from the U.S.

Here, there are certainly public schools which fail to educate and protect some children; there are homeschools which fail as well. I agree that young children can't be sent into a hostile atmosphere and be expected to fully defend their faith and home values. HOWEVER, I'm still stuck on the author's line about "history we know to be a lie." In this country, that usually turns out to be criticism of teaching evolution, or failure to teach that the United States is uniquely blessed as a nation by God.

No family should "blindly" hand their children over to any institution. Neither should public schools be rejected out of hand; I'm irked by the right-wingers who call them government schools. That's funny, they don't talk about visiting the government library, or driving on the government roads, or going to the government park.

If the Crunchy Con idea of local community is to be expressed and supported, seems to me the local public school is a great place to do that. The appalling situation in the Rockdale video Rod talks about isn't the fault of public schools; the blame falls squarely on the parents who didn't know what their kids were doing, or were too afraid of losing their friendship to intervene in their lives.

Part of Rod's myopia about public education is related to the fact that he's only experienced metropolitan school systems. Educational reform rarely looks at the issues of small, rural schools, which truly are the focal point of their communities. Personally, we've been involved with Catholic schools (we're Lutheran), homeschooling, and our local public school. Our educational philosophy is that we'll put our kids in the situation that's best for them at the immediate time, with no reflexive hostility (the kind that many conservative Christian homeschoolers have) toward public schools.

Connie
June 19, 2007 1:15 PM

1:11 comment was mine.

Oh, I forgot to add. Is there a great deal of difference between the parent who says, "I don't want you to teach my child about condoms" and the parent who says, "Why does my daughter need to pass algebra? She's just going to be a hairdresser anyway." In some subjects, the public schools are meant to deliver some conformity of education.

Rod Dreher
June 19, 2007 2:04 PM

Connie: If the Crunchy Con idea of local community is to be expressed and supported, seems to me the local public school is a great place to do that. The appalling situation in the Rockdale video Rod talks about isn't the fault of public schools; the blame falls squarely on the parents who didn't know what their kids were doing, or were too afraid of losing their friendship to intervene in their lives.

Yes, but the point out of Rockdale is not that the public school itself is bad, but rather that the public comes up short. The public school can only be as healthy and sane as the public whose children it serves. Which speaks to your Crunchy Con point: if the community is healthy, its public schools, whatever their pedagogical proclivities, will be a morally sane and disciplined place to learn. And if not, not. A parent who chooses not to put their children in the public school is not necessarily voting "no confidence" in the school; he may be voting "no confidence" in the public.

I should add that if I were a millionaire, I wouldn't put my children in some of the most prestigious private schools here in Dallas, for precisely the same reasons I'm not educating them in the public school.

scotch meg
June 19, 2007 2:09 PM

Connie,

A couple of points. In England, "history we know to be a lie" can include, for instance, being taught that Elizabeth I was a proponent of religious freedom of conscience. Which is true if you define religious freedom as believing what you want so long as you went to the village church (of England) or paid a fine. You weren't executed for choosing to pay the fine. Of course, you were executed if you were a priest. And you weren't supposed to assist at Mass. And you might be executed for hiding a priest...

Second, I used to agree with you about the need for a broad-based education. But for the last two years I have been tutoring a home-schooled high school student who is an enormously talented French horn player. Of the ilk who wins the first seat in national orchestras and appears on "From the Top." He can communicate clearly in writing when he cares to, he is a voracious reader, he is good at math, and knows a lot more than I do about environmental science. But literary analysis, together with writing critical essays of the standard which would be expected of him at a liberal arts college -- well, he doesn't see the point, and he refuses to work at it. And I wonder... is this necessary for him? If he hated math, would calculus be necessary for him? There comes a point at which true education is driven by the young adult. Maybe the future hairdresser, who can calculate tips but doesn't care for advanced math, although she can write enormously creative short stories, has a point, too.

I'm no proponent of the European vocational system -- but our own educational system used to allow for a much greater variety of educational ability and experiences -- and value such things as wood shop, auto mechanics, and home economics much more than it does now.

As far as condoms go, teaching what they are and do takes about five minutes. My (homeschooled) eleven year old understands the basic mechanism and its purpose. However, it is a rare gym teacher who stops with that. And I've yet to meet a public school teacher who will support me in telling my children that contraceptive use is immoral and why. So why should I send my kids to a school that will directly contradict me, and which will not even give complete and accurate factual information? That school which will NOT tell them (I know this because I foolishly allowed my oldest child to sit through this stuff, thinking it was what we taught at home that mattered) that they can catch STD's through foreplay and oral sex. That school which will not give them even a hint of the many, many potential side effects of OCPs? My husband the neurologist goes ballistic on the pill, because every single day he's in clinic he sees migraine patients who want other drugs because they don't want to go off the pill. It's the values that make sexuality education a hot potato. And I don't think Connie would want the sex ed class that I would approve -- so why should I put up with the one she likes? To enforce conformity in the public schools in this regard is not uniformly broad education -- it's the dictatorship of a certain set of values.

Daniel
June 19, 2007 2:41 PM

"Daniel, I would wager, does not have children. Which, if true, doesn't invalidate his argument, but it does put it in a certain perspective. I'm often embarrassed by the things I used to think and say with such certainty and ardor about child-raising before I had children of my own."

I do have children. Both in public schools.

I understand the desire to "protect your children" and therefore you choose to take them out of the public sphere, where you are the main influence. Which is why I don't have a problem with homeschooling or sending your kids to private schools I just don't want to pay for someone's Bible curriculum and I get tired of the defensiveness of homeschool parents. Make your choice and live with it. Stop rationalizing it and being condescending to us that stick with the public schools.

And it is selfish. Parenting is a selfish experience. It's all about our child. And that's perfectly find, but please don't say it isn't selfish to decide to cloister your children in a homeschool environment. I make selfish decisions every day about my family and so does every other parent. Just live with it.

Dale Price
June 19, 2007 2:52 PM

Again, why do you believe homeschooling is selfish? You haven't explained the basis for your repeated declarations on this score.

Daniel
June 19, 2007 3:03 PM

"Selfish (Self"ish) (?), a.

1. Caring supremely or unduly for one's self; regarding one's own comfort, advantage, etc., in disregard, or at the expense, of those of others."

When you parent, your emphasis is on your child even if it sometimes means disadvantaging others. I live in a community with good schools and I chose this community because of it. I could live elsewhere and maybe have a greater impact on the education of others, but I put my children's needs above the needs of the larger community or a community I rejected.

When you homeschool, you place the interests and needs of your children (or yourself) above everything else. You don't try to change the culture or improve the schools, but instead you choose to opt-out. That's a selfish act, but no different a selfish-act--arguably--than choosing to live in a specific community because of the schools.

The Crunchy Con philosophy is inherently selfish. It's a very "me" focused approach that includes influencing the outside world only to the effect that it impacts oneself and family. Look at Rod's fascination with intentional communities. There is nothing more selfish and insular than joining an intentional community. It's a very "me" act, just with a slightly larger family. And that's fine, but let's not pretend that the world or culture is improved because Christians decide to live off the grid and homeschool their kids in a quasi-commune.

Ledihn
June 19, 2007 3:09 PM

The costs of Catholic parochial school where I live are quickly creating a situation where only the elite can possibly afford it. I find this difficult personally as I try and figure how I can keep my three kids there. It also is very ironic in that their school is located at a Franciscan parish, where the friars are increasingly at the service of the kids of the well to do. This creates the equally ironic situation that material success i.e. making more money, becomes the only path to the best spiritual environment for our children. (I write as I sit in an airport awaiting a flight for a meaningless business trip that takes me from my wife and kids for several days that easily could be done if at all by phone in minutes, yet this is how I can make a few more bucks for the kids school fund.)

The dilemma for those who live in areas with poor government schools but can't afford to continue to send their kids to Catholic schools is something that causes this parent to loose allot of sleep. The choices seem to be excepting financial hardships if it will be enough, or moving, where God knows, with all that means for home and work, or dumping them in a huge governmental entity that by law is prohibited from supporting the truth we teach at home and is often hostile to it, where my kids if they maintain their faith will be marginalized if not outright scorned by their peers.

Erin Manning
June 19, 2007 3:43 PM

What a strange philosophy, Daniel.

Choosing to do things for the good of one's own children is only selfish if you see the family as inherently selfish, and children as properly belonging to the state and the larger 'community' with no role for the family whatsoever except to create children on behalf of the state.

But if the family is the foundational unit of society, then all the things done for the good of the family are by definition going to improve the state; yes, even homeschooling.

In other words, the only way it's selfish to keep one's children away from the public schools is if you've already determined that the public schools have some sort of legal or moral right to the children, which in the context of this discussion seems like begging the question.

Daniel
June 19, 2007 3:46 PM

"The costs of Catholic parochial school where I live are quickly creating a situation where only the elite can possibly afford it."

Then the church has failed. If it cannot provide a Catholic education for all of its parishoners, then it is the failure of the Church and a failure or priorities. I do feel bad that parents are put in this situation, but it means it is time to put pressure on the church to reprioritize and not expect someone to bail them out.

Daniel
June 19, 2007 3:54 PM

"Choosing to do things for the good of one's own children is only selfish if you see the family as inherently selfish, and children as properly belonging to the state and the larger 'community' with no role for the family whatsoever except to create children on behalf of the state."

Speaking of strange philosophies.

I think the problem is that you see the term "selfish" as bad, while I see "selfish" as neutral. There is "good" selfish and "bad" selfish. Just like there is "good" discrimination and "bad" discrimination.

Focusing only on YOUR family unit is inherently selfish, even if it is the foundational unit of society. If one believes families are the family unit, then you should act in ways that enhance and nurture all families not just the one inside your house or even the ones inside your church. You'd be as concerned about the families of illegal immigrants or Muslim "extremists" as you would be concerned about your own family.

The act of focusing on your own family's needs first is selfish. Rejecting the culture and homeschooling them means withdrawing even further from the culture. If that's what you choose to do, you aren't helping anyone else's family unit. You are barely helping the people next door. Thus, it is a fairly selfish decision.

And that's perfectly fine. So you don't deserve a parade for making the decision to homeschool your kid. So it's a fairly selfish act in the big picture of things.

caine
June 19, 2007 4:10 PM

Reading that Frontline material was too much of a flashback for me. I was in my 20's when my father died and was dealing with an adolescent sibling who was stuck in a world similar to that. High school kids hanging out at hotel rooms or abandoned homes every weekend, doing God knows what. I tried to convince my mother that NONE of his friends could be trusted and that he should just be kept in the house whenever he wasn't at school. It took her quite a few unbelievable episodes to realize just how bad it was out there.

That generation of teenagers was the first where a significant percentage were raised in daycare starting at 2-3 months. It's safe to say that is likely true for 50%+ of the current generation of teenagers. In ten years it will be more than 2-thirds. When children's formative emotional and cognitive years are farmed out to people paid relatively low wages for the work of a priceless vocation, are we truly surprised at their profound difficulties at developing independent self-worth or adopting an ethical core?

Anonymous
June 19, 2007 4:40 PM

"I think the problem is that you see the term 'selfish' as bad, while I see 'selfish' as neutral."

Please. Your dictionary definition is entirely pejorative. "Unduly," "disregard," etc.--all these are the language of negative judgment. So spare me the "neutrality" claim. Moreover, your declaiming rhetoric is not that of someone who regards it as a "neutral" decision. Frankly, you come across as awfully upset about those who decide to homeschool, all your disclaimers notwithstanding.

Moreover, you are engaged in a considerable amount of question-begging, as Erin points out. Your premise assumes that parents have a duty to submit always and everywhere to the state and culture, to the point of relinquishing any right to pass on religious values to their children.

Furthermore, your premise assumes that a parental decision is to homeschool is inherently illegitimate and anti-social (hence your references to not helping other families). Again, belying your claim that your definition is neutral.

Dale Price
June 19, 2007 4:42 PM

4:40 was me. Sigh. New system adjustment period.

Daniel
June 19, 2007 4:45 PM

"Frankly, you come across as awfully upset about those who decide to homeschool, all your disclaimers notwithstanding."

Who is upset? Have at it. Just stop being so defensive and quit all the complaining and victim whining. And keep your hands out of my tax dollars. That's all I ask.

Anonymous
June 19, 2007 4:50 PM

I am a retired public school teacher, senior high school, 30 years, in a big city. Although I retired in 1993, what I hear against the public schools in 2007 is not much different from what I heard then. Folks, the biggest threat to your children in a public school is not what the teachers have to say but what the kids say to each other.

Teachers are terrified of parents and their complaints and potential lawsuits and losing credentials which have cost them an enormous amount of time energy and money, credentials in which they have their lives and lives of their own families invested. You have to be a retired teacher with a safe pension to speak the truth.

It's what is cool that counts and whatever teachers have to say is not likely to be cool be it liberal, conservative, Christian, Buddhist, Moslem, you name it. Cool and what they care about is what they learn from each other.

You want to take your kids out of public school because you want to keep them away from the other kids who go to public school. The rot comes from their companions. It's the bad companions you want to keep them away from as long as possible until you have them shaped as you want them shaped. In private schools, you have a better chance at bringing your kids into the right companionship but the filter of who can afford to attend the private school is not fool proof either. And what other filter is there?

One of my favorite public school teaching experiences concerns a young man who was programmed into my class shortly after the start of the semester. He had been "kicked out" of a very fancy and a very expensive private school in our city. I could not imagine how this thoroughly genteel young man could have been expelled from a top-notch private school for behavior problems--until I talked to his mother. It was a drug issue. The boy had been shocked by observing his private school companions buying and selling drugs and he had reported their behavior to his private school officials who had winked at the problem, allowed the boy to be mistreated by his companions in their very expensive private school, the financial support of the parents of the same culprits being needed to keep the very expensive private school afloat, until finally the very rich and very high up professional parents of my student pulled him out of the private school and put him into the public school where he thrived happily until graduation in a little within-the-school enclave of fine boys and girls into which he was happily programmed as to his academic subjects by his counsellors.

Erin Manning
June 19, 2007 5:48 PM

Daniel, I hate to descend to 'tu quoque,' but nobody on this thread's doing as much whining as you are. :)

Here's what I, as a homeschooling parent, want from the state: Stay the he** out of my homeschool. Period. No whining necessary.

As for those like Daniel who feel entitled to have MY tax dollars pay for THEIR child's education, rest assured--I've no intention to fight to get even the smallest portion of my money back. I view my tax dollars spent for education in much the same way that I view my tax dollars being spent on public health clinics; and I wouldn't, barring a personal tragedy of epic proportions, choose to use either one. If the unflattering comparison I'm making there bothers you, go ahead and whine some more about it; it won't change the reality.

Daniel
June 19, 2007 5:54 PM

"Here's what I, as a homeschooling parent, want from the state: Stay the he** out of my homeschool. Period. No whining necessary."

If you agree to not complain about how homeschoolers are treated and expect validation from everyone about your decision, I think we can probably reach an agreement. That's my primary beef. Homeschool away.

jb
June 19, 2007 6:02 PM

Rod says:

My point is that there's no cut-and-dried answer that fits every family's situation. Parents who honestly ask themselves, "What is best for my child's education?" no matter where that question might lead are unselfish. For some, that could lead to public school. For others, homeschooling, and for others private or religious school. Depends on time, place and circumstances.
---------

So it's safe to say that you are a relativist when it comes to this issue?

Some people like butter brickle ice cream, some don't. Who are we to tell them what kind of ice cream to like.

Smells like weasel-words to me Rod.


scotch meg
June 19, 2007 9:22 PM

Daniel,

If homeschoolers are treated unfairly, why shouldn't they complain?

Let me give you an example. A local Scout council funds a scholarship which is described as being intended for an Eagle Scout from a particular town with preference going to a young man with an interest in conservation. An Eagle Scout who participated in a state championship environmental science team applies. The award is given to another Scout, not an Eagle, with no comparable, demonstrable interest in conservation. Why? No reason is given, but perhaps it's because the award committee is composed of teachers at the town's public high school. Oh, and this Scout also participated (at the request of the school) as a musician for every high school musical and in several school bands, and represented the school in District and State musical groups.

Why shouldn't his mother complain (she's a friend, not me)?

In other words, when people are treated badly, in order to change things, they must speak up. Of course, they shouldn't go around moaning and groaning and pointing fingers every time things don't go their way... what you seem to be proposing is that no one should complain, even about injustice. Please say I'm wrong, and that's not what you mean!

Irenaeus
June 20, 2007 2:15 AM

Ossicle, thanks for your reply.

First of all, I propose an experiment. When I was in college, I thought vegetarians were nuts, disturbed and dangerous. So I did the obvious thing: I became a vegetarian for a year to see what it was like. Once I did that, I found I could listen to vegetarians and vegans and really sympathize with them and their arguments. From the inside, it made sense. Here’s what I propose. I don’t know what your life situation is, but try this: be celibate for 30 days, read through the entire New Testament, finding passages dealing with sex and marriage, and concentrate on, meditate on, journal about your reaction to the, Also get a good book on traditional sexual morality. See if you can see differently from the inside.

Here’s some thoughts:

(1) You write that prohibitions against gang rape and genocide can easily be extrapolated from the texts. I would suggest traditional Christian morality can just as easily. See Matt 19, for instance.

(2) Incest falling outside of the purview of Christianity? You can extrapolate stuff about gang rape from Jesus’ teachings but not incest? I think I get what you mean, in principle, but for Christians, nothing falls outside the purview of the Christian worldview since God is God of all creation. (nb: that doesn’t necessarily mean theocracy!)

(3) You mention that Christians cherry pick stuff, and suggest that Bible is a big diverse mess that can’t be put together – a Humpty Dumpty situation. In some ways I agree. But I think the problem really lies in whether a denomination/congregation/person takes the Bible serious. There’s diversity on sexuality among Christian denominations not because they read the Bible differently, but because many of them, with the rise of modernity, decided that reason and culture and experience would be theological sources that would judge the Bible’s view of things. Throughout most of Christian history, there was remarkable consensus on sexual morality.

(4) My judgment is contingent – as is yours. And anyone’s. This relativist claim is simply an easy way to shut down debate. But I won’t let you go. I think you are wrong and care about you too much to let you off the hook that easily. Remember, just because things exist in relationship doesn’t mean it isn’t a given relationship.

(5) The problem with construals of the “whole Bible” is Protestantism – we’re severed from tradition. (This is why I’m considering becoming a Catholic or Orthodox Christian.) But there are traditional rules of thumb according to which Christians interpret Scripture, generally shared by all Christians: interpret the OT in light of the NT, interpret everything in light of Jesus’ death and resurrection, interpret the Bible in light of the rule of faith (like the apostle’s creed).

(6) One of those principles is that outsiders (historically, Gnostics) don’t have the right to interpret the Bible – the principle being, how can you understand sacred Scripture if you are not part of the sacred community?

(7) If you’re an outsider why do you care so much?

(8) I have a PhD in Bible from an Ivy, so I’m pretty familiar with what Jesus did and didn’t say. Doesn’t mean I’m right or unbiased, but at the very least informed, so don’t take that as a bullet, OK? At any rate, I find it striking that you can say “Jesus never said anything about sex” or that the “imprimatur of Jesus is utterly absent from almost all matters relating to sex and family.” What of Jesus severe words about lust and divorce in Matt 5.27-32, within the Sermon on the Mount, every liberal’s favorite passage? Or, again, Jesus’ words on marriage and divorce in Matt 19.1-9? Or Matthew 15:19: “For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.” Or Jesus’ acceptance of the ten commandments? Or what of Matt 19:18: Jesus replied, "`Do not murder, do not commit adultery, do not steal, do not give false testimony, honour your father and mother,' and ‘love your neighbour as yourself'"?

(9) Again, Jesus is not laying out a comprehensive, systematic treatise on ethics. That’s not what the Gospels are. (You sound more fundamentalist than most fundies I know in the way you read the Gospels, which is interesting.) Rather, the Gospels presume the Old Testament and the Jewish worldview and try to show how Jesus is the culmination, the fulfillment of all that.

(10) I could be wrong, but given your words about incest and the splenetic tone I detect, I think you may have personal reasons for not wanting to accept the traditional view on this. I myself, I’m reading against my human nature, which as a male is to do something other than monogamy within marriage. I’m reading against my natural prejudices.

Finally, I’ve blogged about this a little: Sex">http://catholidoxies.blogspot.com/2007/06/sexuality-and-liberal-jesus.html”>Sex and the Liberal Jesus, if you are interested.

Anduril
June 20, 2007 8:21 AM

And keep your hands out of my tax dollars

Out of your tax dollars? Don't homeschoolers pay taxes too?

Christine
June 20, 2007 11:46 AM

I am reading an excellent book called Catholic Education: Homeward Bound by Kimberly Hahn and Mary Hasson. There are many examples within the text which demonstrate the WHY of homeschooling in the context of Church teaching. Canon law is cited as are Pope John Paul II's "Letter to Families", and Declaration on Christian Education, no.3, as well as other texts.

This book has thus far supported my assertion that home schooling is OBEDIENT, not selfish, as Daniel continually claims. I have also noticed that Daniel repeatedly makes comments regarding the insularity of home schooling. He also commented on a "quasi commune."

I know my children are anything but isolated as home schooling children, and there is nothing "communal" about how we live. We go grocery shopping, and to the library. We swim at the YMCA. We visit with other familes. We go to nursing homes and hospitals to visit the sick and elderly. We attend Mass weekly, and we celebrate monthly on First Fridays with a group of other home schoolers and parishoners at the parish where we gather. We do "hide the light under a bushel basket."

I would argue that thos who do put their children in public school, if they have the means to do otherwise, are the ones who "hide the light." Public school students, as well as teachers, who are Christian are not allowed to share their faith. Any mention of Christian beliefs is considered proselytizing. I have seen this happen in local schools. Of course, I live in liberalville USA, where "gay marriage" is law, so I should not be the least bit surprised by this. :)

Christine

ossicle
June 20, 2007 11:50 AM

Irenaeus,

Thanks very much for your interesting and thorough reply. Apologies if my tone seemed(s) splenetic -- FWIW at such moments I intend to be vigorous and/or caustically playful, not angry. Successfully executing that maneuver, though, probably exceeds my talents as a prose stylist.

In the interest of keeping this relatively brief, I'll get the lede out of the way: You've refuted me. You're right and I'm wrong. I've learned a lot from what you said.

I have a few follow-up thoughts concerning your points #3 and #5, if you have any interest in continuing the conversation. If not, no worries.

Your point #3 --

"You mention that Christians cherry pick stuff, and suggest the Bible is a big diverse mess that can’t be put together – a Humpty Dumpty situation. In some ways I agree. But I think the problem really lies in whether a denomination/congregation/person takes the Bible serious. There’s diversity on sexuality among Christian denominations not because they read the Bible differently, but because many of them, with the rise of modernity, decided that reason and culture and experience would be theological sources that would judge the Bible’s view of things. Throughout most of Christian history, there was remarkable consensus on sexual morality."

I understand and accept your overarching point. With respect to denominations that accept culture and experience as theological sources (as opposed to those that do not, or who do so to a much lesser extent), one of things that irritates me most about traditional/conservative Christians is their continued decision to view homosexuality as immoral. It simply cannot last, given how attitudes are changing with each generation, and the science which increasingly proves that homosexuality is an innate/physical characteristic, and the fact that as more and more straights develop frienships with gays (or have them as children) we see that there is nothing disordered about them, i.e., they're just people like us and their love relationships are every bit as valid. The pincers are closing in: Condemning them simply doesn't pass the reality test, no more than accepting slavery would pass the reality test today. (That's why I was interested in this post --

http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com/the_daily_dish/2007/06/scripture_and_h.html#more

-- at Andrew Sullivan's site a couple of weeks ago. I'd be interested in your thoughts on it. [For my part, even though I do not think there's an exact analogy between condemning slavery and accepting homosexuality, I do think that for the reasons I mentioned, and for those provided in the post, the latter maps onto the former sufficiently well that traditionalists/conservatives should be persuaded and change their beliefs.])

Your point #5 --

"The problem with construals of the “whole Bible” is Protestantism – we’re severed from tradition. (This is why I’m considering becoming a Catholic or Orthodox Christian.) But there are traditional rules of thumb according to which Christians interpret Scripture, generally shared by all Christians: interpret the OT in light of the NT, interpret everything in light of Jesus’ death and resurrection, interpret the Bible in light of the rule of faith (like the apostle’s creed)."

Once again, I do understand and don't dispute the point you're making here. (What I'm about to say reminds me of what you said about me seeming more fundamentalist about scripture than the fundies you know, but whatever!) What I think is a problem, though, is that once one defines Christianity as more than just the discrete, well-defined Protestant island, and decides to expand its pronounced borders by including the surrounding shoals and sand-bars of tradition (i.e., R.C. and Orthodox), one enters the morass of "what is valid tradition, and how and when may it be changed?" I'm actually very sympathetic to that morass -- I would go R.C. or Orthodox myself if I ever signed up. But it is the thin edge of a wedge that can open the door to traditions changing or being added to -- as (per the above post) the Bible-endorsed tradition about slavery changed, and as I would like the Bible-endorsed condemnation of homosexual acts to change.

So much for brevity.

-O

Daniel
June 20, 2007 12:01 PM

"This book has thus far supported my assertion that home schooling is OBEDIENT, not selfish,"

Being obedient to your faith and being selfish generally are not mutually exclusive. The Vatican is not the state and therefore obedience to the church is not necessarily in the greater public interest.

Which is perfectly fine. Be obedient. Be selfish with "protecting" your children. I applaud it.

Christine
June 20, 2007 12:12 PM

That should have read we not "hide the light under a bushel basket.

Sorry about that.

Christine

Christine
June 20, 2007 12:54 PM

On obedience:

"We cannot have our own way when Our Lord points to a solution which goes contrary to our own best advisers, as we are not our own good doctors."
Francis Fernandez

Anduril
June 20, 2007 3:18 PM

Being obedient to your faith and being selfish generally are not mutually exclusive. The Vatican is not the state and therefore obedience to the church is not necessarily in the greater public interest.

May I infer then that you think obedience to the state IS necessarily in the public's best interest?

A Catholic would argue, of course, that obedience to the Church - that is, Christ - is ALWAYS in the state's best interest, even when that obedience is in conflict with the state's laws, or desired behavior of its citizens. A Catholic, for example, would argue that protection of the unborn is both immediately and ultimately in the best interest of the state, even though the state obviously "thinks" otherwise. This characteristic - elevating duty to Christ above duty to the state when these duties are in conflict - is one of the things the Roman Empire originally found objectionable about Christianity.

Anonymous
June 20, 2007 3:19 PM

To the other gripes about the new format, let me add mine about the loss of the preview utility.

Daniel
June 20, 2007 4:41 PM

"May I infer then that you think obedience to the state IS necessarily in the public's best interest?"

Obedience to the state is never in the public's best interest as a policy matter, unless you live under Communism or a theocracy.

What I am saying is obedience to the Vatican is not necessarily in the best interest of the U.S., for instance, given that 75% of people are not Catholic. Obedience to the Vatican's view on women, on contraception, on public health make perfect sense in the context of the church but can make for appallingly bad public policy if applied to a population that isn't Catholic.

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