What's Huck's tipping point?
David Corn's been reading a book Mike Huckabee co-authored in the 1990s, and writes: In Kids Who Kill, Huckabee argued that school shootings were the product of a society in decline, a decline marked (and caused) by abortion, pornography, media...
But equating homosexuality with having sex with dead people? Jeez, you don't have to sit on the GLAAD board to find that offensive.
"It's not a bug, it's a feature!"
Ok, we know he's a nutcase. Now we just wait for the rest of the country to realize it, hopefully not the day after the election.
I'm going to disagree with your consultant friend. I wouldn't be shocked if Huckabee looses 5% of his support before the New Year over better familiarity, but I don't think it keeps him from gaining new support. I could see it hurting him in California and New York, but I don't see it being a net negative in places like Ohio, Virginia, and Florida. Additionally, there really are limits to how much damage the past can do. Bill Clinton, not the comparison Huckabee wants I'm sure, was thought to be sunk over worse stuff. A lot of it was simply dismissed as his past and an unwillingness if his opponents to address his present agenda. Like Clinton again, I think pushing Huckabee's negatives is going to be hard. The present GOP fields biggest issue so far has been their seeming irrelevancy.
Rod, I share your mix of feelings concerning Huckabee. I agree that the time may be ripe for a true populist (culturally conservative, but progressive on lunchbucket issues for the middle and working classes). On the surface, Huck seems to be that kind of guy. But even to a cultural conservative like me, some of his comments on hotbutton issues seem way over the top (and just plain stupid from a political perspective). And even though some have said Huck has a good environmental record, my web research indicates just the opposite. Example: he explicitly touts coal and nuclear power. No one who is familiar with those energy sources would promote them. I used to represent a farmer/rancher coalition in Montana that was fighting coal strip mines and coal-fired power plants. Coal is an inherently air-fouling,land-abusing source of energy. That's why the conservative farmers and ranchers of eastern Montana have fought it so hard for the past 30 years. I wish there were a true heir apparent to William Jennings Bryan on the scene these days. A genuine populist would advocate Judeo-Christian values in a winsome manner while at the same time embracing a grassroots version of the environmental message.
"But equating homosexuality with having sex with dead people? Jeez, you don't have to sit on the GLAAD board to find that offensive."
Wait a minute. I teach college ethics. Certainly if one can remove the millennia-long sanctions against homosexuality, then one also remove the sanctions against necrophilia. In other words, if one can remove the moral intuitions that sanction homosexuality, then one can just as easily remove the moral intuitions that sanction necrophilia.
In both cases, it comes down to moral intuition. There is no "bright line" that tells us that homosexuality receives approbation (approval) and necrophilia receives disapprobation.
Mr. Dreher, as a conservative, you ought to understand that. Moral intuitions, like virtually all other beliefs are grounded in TRADITION; and once one denies the authority of the tradition on one issue, the remainder collapses ad hoc.
Huckabee won't win or get the nomination. Best-case scenario for conservatives: Rudy is nominated and beaten in the general election, thoroughly discrediting the "war is all there is" wing of the party (along with the idea that social-conservatives should be marginalized).
Hopefully, his ideas set the stage for the shift in conservatism some of us on this blog hope for--social conservatism that sees that economic matters are often more prudential than ideological.
I am disappointed with what Huckabee said in that book. It sunk Santorum (that was when his polls really started going down), and it may do the same for Huckabee.
Environmentalism as sinful? Yes--if you look at the most vocal environmentalism as that which exalts the earth, plants, and other animals above those of humans. That kind of environmentalism, the one that refers to Homo sapiens as a cancer on the planet, does devalue the human race generally and individuals specifically. Add to it the assertion that humans are just another type of animal and life definitely becomes hopeless; sinfulness makes sense.
If I'm not mistaken, Rod, the environmentalism that you hold to (and the one that has received the most "converts" in the last decade) is that of stewardship--taking care of the planet as it is a gift from God, not the kind that insists we stop all our activity for fear of damaging a supposedly pristine environment. Using and abusing are different in stewardship, but the same in the sinful version of environmentalism.
"Huckabee won't win or get the nomination. Best-case scenario for conservatives: Rudy is nominated and beaten in the general election, thoroughly discrediting the "war is all there is" wing of the party (along with the idea that social-conservatives should be marginalized)."
Unfortunately, Don is right. It's going to be a very ugly 4-8 years with Hillary in office. A darn sight prettier than a Rudy presidency, though.
This may actually appeal to more people than many realize. Most people want to do and think the right things and when you look at how quickly opinions on homosexuality have change, I think it raises the question of how deep this change is. Have people really turned in their heart of hearts from what they were brought up thinking and what has been common in most cultures throughout time? Or have they tentatively started expressing agreement with what they have been told is the right way to think about the issue? I'm guessing that the changes in attitudes aren't quite as deep as many think they are.
If this is in fact the case, having someone like Huckabee saying these sorts of things, while padding it with niceties and expressions of love, I wouldn't be all that suprised to see some people who say, "see - you can be a good person and still think homosexuality is wrong. This can be a 'right' way to think about it."
Huckabee has the advantage of being much more charming, likable and funny than others who have made the argument so far so its harder to write him off as a hateful quack.
IOW, I'm not convinced that these sort of revelations won't help him a bit in many circles and make some of the older ways of thinking about homosexuality seem more acceptable in the minds of many people.
So what to do about a culture that breeds kid killers?
Give everyone a gun. What else?
What's wrong with having sex with dead people?
What are you- some kind of necropbobe?
God made me this way and I'm proud of it.
(Sound familiar?)
There is a certain point buried in there, namely that any breaking of a cultural pattern or taboo opens the way for other changes that are worse---though I would say that is true even for cultural patterns that really should be broken, like slavery or racism, for example. But obviously, yeah, equating homosexuality and necrophilia? Kinda a stretch there. Though there probably is a tiny group of weirdoes meeting in someone's basement who call themselves the Necrophiliac Anti-Defamation League. And Mr. Corns is wrong---there already is a NAMBLA.
But I think Rod has a good point about Huckabee; I was thinking of myself as a Huckabee supporter for a while, but when I look closer at him there's more and more that kind of makes me wonder. I may still vote for him, but I don't know. Sigh...I keep changing candidates every couple weeks. I'm starting to think every one of them is bad.
God bless.
Rod,
"It is now difficult to keep track of the vast array of publicly endorsed and institutionally supported aberrations—from homosexuality and pedophilia to sadomasochism and necrophilia.
Huckabee did not say what public endorsement of pedophilia or necrophilia he had in mind. But he did seem to be equating homosexuality with both.
Now look, I agree with more of this than disagree with it. And I'm willing to give Huckabee a pass on the bizarre inclusion of environmentalism in this list (a lot of Evangelicals have had a change of heart on this issue over the past 10 years). But equating homosexuality with having sex with dead people?"
Rod, this is not new. The "conservatives" did just that during the Parliamentary hearings into same-sex marriage in Canada. Gwendolyn Landolt of 'REAL' Women Canada went further and suggested that we have sex with babies. (In fact, Tom Wappel - a Liberal Member of Parliament but with an extremely strong conservative bent - said about a decade ago that homosexuality was comparable to necrophilia AND bestiality.)
In fact, I have posted some of these very same comparisons on several of your own threads. You make it sound like it's news to you when some of us here felt for a long time that you were a cheerleader for such 'thought'. Glad to see you've (somewhat) changed your mind.
David Layman,
"Certainly if one can remove the millennia-long sanctions against homosexuality, then one also remove the sanctions against necrophilia. In other words, if one can remove the moral intuitions that sanction homosexuality, then one can just as easily remove the moral intuitions that sanction necrophilia."
You seem to have forgotten that dead people cannot give consent. That's pretty conveeenient. Living adult homosexual persons CAN and DO consent to enter into relationships, and no moral intuitions need be removed. My (married) relationship to my husband is moral indeed.
"Moral intuitions, like virtually all other beliefs are grounded in TRADITION; and once one denies the authority of the tradition on one issue, the remainder collapses ad hoc."
Poppycock! Slavery and the sanctions against inter-racial marriage were based on TRADITION too, but somehow we intuit that they were wrong and that such TRADITION had no "authority".
And you teach college ethics???
"he explicitly touts coal and nuclear power. No one who is familiar with those energy sources would promote them. "
Well James Lovelock fatther of the Gaia hypothesis, and Stewart Brand creator of the Whole Earth Catalog and Coevolution Quarterly disagree with that sentiment regarding Nuclear power. Also, one of the founders of Greenpeace (don't have the name at my fingertips) has come around on nuclear.
I'm not posting under my name because I don't feel like dealing with the guff today, but can I just point out something which always irritates me in these conversations?
Huckabee wasn't equating homosexuality with necrophilia. He was offering a list of sexual perversions and included both necrophilia and homosexuality. He also included sadomasocism which far more people practice in some form or another than homosexuality and no one is jumping up and screaming "How dare he compare s&m w/ pedophelia".
You may disagree with including homosexuality in a list of sexual perversions, but it's just not at all true to claim that he is comparing or equating homosexuality and necrophilia.
Including two things in a list isn't the same thing as equating them as similar or equal in moral weight. This is a logical error that gets repeated over and over again and it drives me bonkers. That's all I'm sayin'.
"You seem to have forgotten that dead people cannot give consent. That's pretty conveeenient."
Hey, they can sing a living will before they go to Oregon for some assisted suicide, all to show love to the necro lover.
Actually, I think there was a case like this in Germany last year. I think it was more about cannabalism than necrophelia, but hey, who are we to descriminate?
Also, one of the founders of Greenpeace (don't have the name at my fingertips) has come around on nuclear.
Patrick Moore. See here:
www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/04/14/AR2006041401209_pf.html
David Layman: "Certainly if one can remove the millennia-long sanctions against homosexuality, then one also remove the sanctions against necrophilia. In other words, if one can remove the moral intuitions that sanction homosexuality, then one can just as easily remove the moral intuitions that sanction necrophilia."
First of all,...um, wow.
Throw a rock and you'll hit dozens of civilizations throughout history that have publically condemned homosexuality. Fine, I agree with that. However, homosexuality has been a part of normal human existence since the beginning of, well, human existence. It was not created by a decadent culture. Thankfully, a more enlightened hetrosexual America is viewing our homosexual brothers and sisters as people who deserve the full legal rights and priveleges that come with being an American citizen. This may cause dismay to folks like you and Rod and Rod's friend ("who's no supporter of gay rights"), but ours will be a better country when we treat all of our citizens with equality.
On the other hand, I cannot think of a single culture that has condoned necrophilia. I cannot even think of a significant "underground" movement or sub-culture that condoned necrophilia. If most civilizations (major and minor) have one thing in common, it is a respect for the dead, and they have created elaborate and solemn rituals to show this respect.
there already is a NAMBLA.
What do you have against the North American Marlon Brando Look-Alike Association.
"If most civilizations (major and minor) have one thing in common, it is a respect for the dead, and they have created elaborate and solemn rituals to show this respect. "
Well I think we've been doing a pretty good job of overturning that traditional respect with the "Bodyworlds" exhibits.
I'm new to this forum, so forgive me if it is not the place for a debate.
In response to "recovering ex-Pentecostal":
"Max Schadenfreude" is exactly correct in invoking the cannibalistic case in Germany (two men, by mutual consent, had sexual relations, after which one was killed and eaten by the other) : consent is morally irrelevant. Two people can consent to actions that nonetheless deemed by some other moral framework immoral. (The very fact that r-ex-P invokes "consent" means that that he and I have incommensurate sets of moral intuitions. I reject his conclusions, because I reject a premise--viz., that "consent" permits an action otherwise prohibited.)
Re slavery and interracial marriage issue: one set of m. i. can be either (1) replaced from without or (2) reformed from within.
Ex-racists can now recognize, based on their own m. i. , that the previous readings of those intuitions, were incorrect. But the fundamental intuitions remain intact, since the reformation itself depends on principles derived from the original set of m. i. . (Read C. S. Lewis, _Abolition of Man_ on this problem.)
SV Steve-
Come on. Those folks signed release forms and knew exactly what the exhibit was about. What they did was no different than people who donate their bodies to science.
"Bodyworlds" is a magnificent exhibit, and a true appreciation of the wonder of the human body.
Still busy working on that auto-post software I wrote about on an earlier topic ...........
FWIW: Huckabee apparently has stated publicly that there would be gay people in his administration, just as there were in (gasp) Arkansas. Interestingly, he didn't say anything about sadomasochists or necrophiliacs.
Maybe he just plum forgot them, or maybe he's evolved and sees some sort of difference? Maybe he was playing to an audience when he wrote what he wrote in '90s. There are a lot of people out there that make serious fundraising $$ by trotting out NAMBLA, necrophilia, bestiality in the same phrase as homosexuality.
For all those who say there's no equivalence taking place in Huck's quote, read this statement and tell me if you maybe don't see how his works read to someone like me
Oscar the Grouch declared to Bert that it was hard to keep track of the anti-intellectual behaviors of people in the South that are dragging America down, from fundamentalist Christian worship, whoring, wife-beating and incest to child pornography and gang rape of pre-teen girls.
Matt:
"However, homosexuality has been a part of normal human existence since the beginning of, well, human existence. It was not created by a decadent culture."
I'm grading tests--how did I get drawn into this :-).
No.
How do you define "normal"?
I am aware of many cultures where men and women engaged in same-sex genital relations. I am not aware of any where it was accepted as "normal". There was always a element of disapprobation, isolation, or social redefinition that placed the sub-community of those who had same-sex genital relations outside the umbrella of typical sexuality and family relations.
Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism, Islam, Judaism, and Christianity all regard it as contrary to their moral standards. Ancient Greece, as we all know, permitted it for adult males, but regarded the penetrated male as literally abominable--a thing contrary to normal human behavior.
Ironically, the Greek view was the exact opposite of ours: they approved of same-sex relations between adult men and underage boys, and disapproved of same-sex relations between two adult males.
The language of "consent," and the notion of a stable "homosexual" identity are modern social constructions, created precisely to authorize what no society has every authorized as NORMAL behavior.
(Buddhism and Hinduism reject the western concept of "self" on which the notion of a stable "homosexual" identity depends; that same concept was refuted by Hume; Kant tried to put it make together, but not in a way that saves the concept of a stable identity.)
Of course, that was deliberately vulgar on my part (and of course it was Oscar's opinion, not mine), but you get the point....what may be a discussion in the abstract and a jumble of terms to some people is a bit personal for me.
I for one get REALLY tired of being mentioned in the same breath with NAMBLA, pedophilia and necrophilia. Probably just like Catholic priests are rather tired of being mentioned in the same breath as pedophiles all the time now.
And I, a southerner, am tired of being mentioned in the same breath as whores, wife beaters, and gang rapists...:)
Margaret - you get it! :-)
Aaron: Re: Marlon Brandon Look Alikes: heh - good one (I get the reference); can I make that your "autopost" contribution? :-) :-)
As usual, the voice of reason is forgotten instantly, while the conversation fixates on bizarre political/sexual overstatements.
It's worth repeating what Bill said:
"And even though some have said Huck has a good environmental record, my web research indicates just the opposite. Example: he explicitly touts coal and nuclear power. No one who is familiar with those energy sources would promote them. I used to represent a farmer/rancher coalition in Montana that was fighting coal strip mines and coal-fired power plants. Coal is an inherently air-fouling, land-abusing source of energy."
Bill doesn't even mention the climatological aspect of coal, which is that we have little or no chance of avoiding disaster if we build lots more coal plants.
Kit,
I appreciate the refocus and promise this is my last comment, no matter what :-)
What I am reacting to is the anonymous post by a regular commenter arguing that just because things are listed together, equivalence is not being made.
There are some fundamental flaws that I see in that argument:
(a) not all writing is scholarly/dispassionate. So while logically you may be correct, Huck's writing was clearly intended to engender an emotional response to appeal to the greatest number of people, so he picks what are surely the most "disgust invoking" behaviors. This is standard technique in marketing and politics, n'est pas? Cconveniently he does not talk about fornication, pornography, or masturbation, surely more prevalent and more relevant to society's ills than 2 men trying to marry each other.
(b) to take Huckabee literally, one must believe that there actually is a problem of institutional support for necrophilia and pedophilia
(c) notice the construction and linkages. note that it's "homosexuality *and* pedophilia ...... to ..... sadomasochism *and* necrophilia. So the two areas where there actually may be changes in social acceptance (homosexuality and sadomasochism) are not linked together on one side of the range, but rather each is linked to something far more offensive (unless you think pedophilia is more acceptable than S&M?)
Jim, I think you're making too much of it. Most anti-gay activists see homosexuality as deviency. It gets included on any list of deviencies much the way if I'm running for mayor and I say, "because of the mayor's poor governence the people of this city are suffering as never before; from filthy parks to drug dealers on the corner to graffiti to murder and rape, life in this city is worse than it's ever been."
That doesn't mean that I'd be comparing or equating litter in the park with being raped and murdered. It's just part of a list of criminal behaviors. Likewise, I have never heard or met a anti-gay activist who was actually trying to create equivelencies between homosexuality and say, beastiality. Their point is pretty much always that these are behaviors which are deviencies (according to them) while not intending to create equivelencies between them.
Although I can see where getting including in a list with necrophilia and pedophilia would get old. But hey, at least you have company with the s&m folks!
Really, if you can swallow your revulsion long enough to actually pay attention to some one like James Dobson (as opposed to Freed Phlps who has literally 3 followers who aren't related to him), it is quite clear that their problem with homosexuality isn't that it is just so extremely devient that no sane person could conceive of a world where gay people aren't locked up or killed.
They aren't saying, "no one would accept necrophilia as normal, so why should we accept homosexuality which is just as bad as normal." What they are saying is, "if we breach this boundary, which people want you to think is reasonable and fairly harmless, then you can be sure that these other boundaries which are not so reasonable and harmless will go next."
This may seem ridiculous, but look at how things played out with a variety of other issues which conservatives were in a tizzy over back in the day: the acceptance of single parenthood, unilateral divorces, the denigration of the roles women traditionally held, the elevation of money making and self-fulfillment above family and self-sacrifice, the seperation of sex from marriage, etc. In each of these cases conservatives said, "if you do this, then x,y and z will follow." And liberals insisted that they were being ridiculous. Yet today, we live with x, y and z.
Just as an example of how conservatives see these issues and how they have been more right than wrong, look at Phyllis Schafly. The woman was obviously odd, but she predicted back in the seventies that in the future homosexuals would demand to be married. Back then EVERYONE, including gays insisted that this was completely ridiculous, alarmist, unreasonable and without merit. But she was right. She understood that what was happening with the feminist movement was a concerted effort to make men and women interchangeable. Once the uniqueness and differences of men and women which had been at the core of any understanding of marriage were eliminated, then there would be no difference between a man and a woman getting married or a man and a man getting married. And isn't this exactly where we are today?
For someone like James Dobson (to use and example I'm actually somewhat familiar with), he sees this continuum at work. If we accept gay marriage, then we are giving final, formal approval to the idea that men and women are interchangable, that the desires and rights of adults supercede the rights of children, that traditional families will not be accepted as necessary or preferable to other arrangements.
He is also arguing that by knocking down this barrier, we are providing the model and ammunition needed to knock down other, more destructive barriers. This is where the arguments like the one Huckabee made get brought in - to warn of this "slippery slope".
And he's not just pulling this stuff out of thin air, either. Polygamists are already making arguements for the legalization of polygamy based on pretty much the same ideas as the gay marriage movement has been using. A couple of years ago a prominent group of social scientist, gay rights advocates and scholars put out a manifesto called "beyond gay marriage" which explicately called for the acceptance of a wide variety of relational and parenting arrangements, including gay couples sharing children with each other as being equal to traditional families. In Europe where civil unions and such have been legalized we are already seeing all sorts of legally sanctioned arrangements such as plural marriages, kids with three legal moms and such.
Even if we are completely comfortable with the idea of gay marriage, the idea that accepting gay marriage could open the flood gates to all sorts of other currently proscribed and even unthinkable things ought to give us pause.
Anyhow, I can see where you're coming from, but I think you're reading into Huckabee's (and other, similar) comments the wrong way.
Now I have a question for you as a gay man (which I will not be upset with you at all if you don't answer - it's kind of a loaded question). If you were absolutely convinced that legalizing gay marriage would inevitably open the door to far more destructive things, like the dissolution of anything resembling normal families for kids to grow up in, polygamy and group marriage and even the acceptence of really gross sexual deviencies like beastiality and such, would you be willing to forgo the right to legal, widely accepted gay marriage? My point isn't to argue right now over whether gay marriage actually would open the floodgates to a brave new world of familiy destruction and weirdness, but more of a thought exercise about what our response should be if we were able to know that there was a terrible outcome ahead. IOW, would you be willing to forgo your own personal satisfaction and fulfillment for a larger benefit to society? What sort of trade offs are we willing and should we be willing to make in the struggle between individual liberty and societal good?
Again, if you don't want to answer, I understand. It's a really loaded question. But a few days ago we had a conversation where I mentioned that I thought that part of the problem with how many of the societal changes which occured over the last 40 years or so was that there was no real discussion about the inevitable fall-out of the changes we were contemplating. I think that if we want to handle this issue responsibly, these are some of questions we need to ask and conversations we need to have.
RebeccaT--thank you for your thoughtful commentary. I have a theory (shared by EJ Graff, who's written some interesting books on the subject) re why same-sex marriage would be a natural stopping point, rather than the entree to all manner of strange relationship formations.
If one believes--as I do--that there is a biological basis for sexual orientation, then this is key. The combination of sexual orientation and consent is the bottom line. Examples: People are generally heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. No one is "sibling-sexual" or "more-than-one-person" sexual. Therefore, even if you have consent--one of the prongs--you don't have orientation. Similarly re pedophilia, necrophilia, bestiality, etc. Children can't consent to sexual activity, nor can the dead or animals. So you may have the "orientation" toward those perversities (see! Even gay people think some things are perverse!), but without consent it doesn't pass.
I'm aware that a lot of people don't believe that there is a biological basis for sexual orientation, but for those who don't--explain to me how folks from every imaginable walk of life turn out gay or bisexual. Trust me, given the people I've met--it's not because they had some friendly adult gay person in their lives who taught them it was "cool".
Regarding your question to Jim about forgoing same-sex marriage if it was known chaos lay beyond--for the reasons cited above, I don't believe it would. As for whether I'd be willing to forgo SSM--I don't know. If I thought civil unions were less likely to cause that chaos, I'd perhaps settle for that. I really believe that if the twin prongs of orientation and consent are required for legally sanctioned relationships, you're never going to end up there. It will naturally fall out into two-person relationships between people old enough to consent and not related by blood (within prohibited ranges).
I appreciate Rebeccat's point, which is more or less the same one that then-Sen. Rick Santorum crudely tried to make in that interview in which he compared hsexuality to bestiality. His point was that in the Lawrence decision, SCOTUS severed sexual conduct from any concept, however watery, of natural law, and made sexual morality entirely a matter of individual choice. Justice Scalia, in his scathing dissent, wrote that the decision theoretically invalidates all morals laws. Under the logic of Lawrence (which overturned anti-sodomy laws nationwide), prostitution, for example, involves a willing prostitute freely selling her services to a paying client, the government has no right to make the judgment that their transaction is immoral, and therefore should be illegal. Scalia pointed out that in our efforts to decriminalize one form of sexual behavior and expression (sodomy), we had crossed a dangerous theoretical threshhold in the law.
I believe he was right. I wanted to see the sodomy laws overturned too, but legislatively. (It's not because I believe hsexuality is a morally neutral condition; it's because I don't see that it's the government's business to regulate private consenting sexual conduct to that degree of intimacy; mine was not a theoretical judgment, but one of prudence; the particular case at hand in Lawrence involved a gay couple who were caught in flagrante inside a private home that the police had invaded for another reason, and whom were subsequently charged for what they'd been caught doing). Anyway, post-Lawrence, I fail to see how polygamists can be denied a right to legal sanction for their consenting arrangements.
To answer your question, Rebecca, which is more than a fair one, here's my bargain:
if we *knew* (cannot stress enough the all-importance of that "know") for sure that legalizing gay marriage would have only an overall harmful effect on society, even though there was a sudden miraculous spiritual healing of gay people that caused all of them to embrace monogamy and live otherwise exemplary lives and there was a simultaneous spiritual healing of straight people that allowed them to stop fearing, taunting, abusing gay people and raise children in an environment where the children didn't need to worry about whether people thought they were gay ... in other words, even if all gay people and straight people were the finest people we could know, and we still knew beyond any doubt that it would irreparably harm society, then I would agree gay marriage should not be pursued.
Where we will always fundamentally differ, irreconciably I suppose, is that because we don't live in that ideal world and are not ideal people, we have a cause and effect disagreement. Is the current "sexual unwellness" (for lack of a better term) in our society today the result of greater acceptance of homosexuality and change in society's views toward women (i.e. we changed, and we got "sick" as a reesult), or wss the change required in order for healing to take place , but like chemotherapy, the healing is not coming without some temporary bad side-effects that will be ameliorated as the cure progresses. I think you worry and believe it's the former, and I'm hopeful and believe it's the latter.
I would argue strenuously that a wonderful gift straight people could give themselves (forget gay people) is a society where they do not need to be worried about people thinking they are gay. Men could dare to cook, dance, garden, enjoy opera :-), dress to kill :-), tell a male friend how much he means to him (that one I will not smile at because I think male friendship suffers from the "gay fear"), and not have to hold so much back or bend over backwards to compensate. (Men who are more comfortable in their own skins and not so anxious about being "the man" will probably treat their wives a heck of a lot better too.)
Women could grab the power tools :-), cut their hair short :-), wear flannel shirts to their hearts content :-), and not need to worry about whether they are "woman enough". All of those stupid taunts, fears and anxieties would be gone. I simply do not buy the idea that getting over homosexuality somehow means that everyone is interchangeable. Men would still be men, women would still be women. The interchangeable argument could be (probably was) applied to any sort of women's civil rights issue.
I would further argue that the increase in gay parenting, gays demands for marriage and the increasing acceptance of gays are because gays are sort of growing up, so to speak. Perhaps the 70s and 80s were like a big adolescent period where, closet doors opening, there was "irrational exuberance" and rejection of the values of the "grownups", but to me it is telling that the big issues of the 90s and '00s revolve around marriage, family and gay participation and leadership in religion.
I guess I would also argue, sticking with the "sick patient" paradigm, that of course there are multiple illnesses affecting this body, and perhaps we're still discerning what symptoms stem from which disease (or cure for that matter, if we can permit the idea the some changes will eventually work out for the good but have some painful upheaval along the way).
As I've said before, I think a compelling case can be made that much sexual sickness out there is from a culture of greed and selfishness that is all too willing to use sex in any possible way to sell product, partnered with a consumerist culture that is eager to be sold to. Giving women more roles and power in society may be a good change that happens to be coming at a bad time, and the harm some perceive to be coming from tinkering with gender roles is in fact arising from the greed/consumerist disease.
Jim, I have to get going with my day, but I just wanted to comment on a couple of your ideas. I would argue that it wasn't opening new roles and power to women in society which by itself was a problem. It was combining that with the denigration of work that women traditionally did, the denigration of the importance of parents and the rise of an ethos which sees money and aquisition as of primary importance that made the fall out from the women's movement such a mess.
Also, it seems that perhaps, like with the women's movement, there are two competing strains at work in the gay rights movement. On one hand, there are people who really just want to live normal lives as gay people. These are probably the majority, as women who were fairly happy with their lives were 50 years ago. However, there is an extremely loud, extremely strident group which wants to advocate for whole new ways of thinking about family, individual rights, the boundaries of human sexuality, parenting, gender and such who see the gay marriage movement as one step on the way to further freeing us from the old restrains of gender, family, parenthood and such. If we do not deal with this group which, like the radical feminists of 40 years ago may well be a minority, then I don't see how something like gay marriage can not open a pandora's box.
I don't think the extreme damage from empowering women, becoming less sexually repressed and making marriage more equitable was inevitable. But any hope we had of avoiding the disaster too many people now live with was demolished by an unwillingness to acknowledge that there was the potential for fall out and that we needed to take the radical voices more seriously.
Anyhow, I've got to go, but thanks for answering my question!
I really liked your answer, Jim. I have a slightly different take on the question. For those who suggest there would be harmful consequences to accepting homosexuals as equal to heterosexuals--because that's what this debate is really about, not just about marriage per se--I have a question of my own. What harmful consequences have already occurred, over the years, because homosexuals were treated as less than fully human, less than acceptable as human beings, and less deserving of the rights of an ordinary citizen? Look at the wasted lives, the ruined marriages, the suffering of children that has already happened. Do you really think it was such a great idea to preach that gay men and women could change their orientation and by "acting as if" somehow force themselves to feel different? Knowing some people whose parents were engaged in that type of "marriage," I have to say it doesn't seem so wonderful to me. To me, THAT is a mockery of marriage far worse than two men or two women getting married with their love for each other in the open light of day. Knowing men and women of an earlier era, who were forced into the closet, suffering fear and shame every day of their lives, I don't think that was a great solution either.
To listen to these people, it sounds as if everything would be okay if only gays and lesbians would be quiet and go away. But that really isn't true. EVERY choice has consequences. The old way had far-ranging consequences. It caused tremendous suffering. What made that suffering--pain that already happened, pain that is not hypothetical, but REAL--acceptable to you? Can you justify your choice of continuing it, the way you ask those who want change to justify themselves against the hypothetical problems that you project into the future?
It seems irrational to me to imagine that problems within heterosexual marriage are caused by anything but the participants themselves, and the heterosexually-oriented society within which those marriages take place. If you want to fix marriage, fix the people who get married. Deal with their hopes and fears and expectations of what marriage is supposed to be. I don't see how you can fix your own problems by focusing on someone else.
arg! I was leaving, but I just have to challenge sig. I completely, totally and utterly reject and catagorically deny your assertion that this is a discussion about accepting homosexuals as equal to heterosexuals. Just. Not. True. I would never in a kagillion years argue that someone was less human than me because of their sexual orientation.
The real question is whether homosexuality and heterosexuality are THE SAME. Is the difference merely cosmetic and therefor not worth worrying about and certainly not something which would be the basis for different expectations and roles? Or is it fundamentally different in a way which would make it reasonable to think about whether different expectations and roles are appropriate.
I'm sorry, but the sort of simplistic, fact-devoid trope sig raises is meant to shut people up and NOTHING else. It is not a serious argument, but unfortunately it is something which has been repeated so often as to be mistaken for one.
I would argue strenuously that a wonderful gift straight people could give themselves (forget gay people) is a society where they do not need to be worried about people thinking they are gay. Men could dare to cook, dance, garden, enjoy opera :-), dress to kill :-), tell a male friend how much he means to him (that one I will not smile at because I think male friendship suffers from the "gay fear"), and not have to hold so much back or bend over backwards to compensate. (Men who are more comfortable in their own skins and not so anxious about being "the man" will probably treat their wives a heck of a lot better too.)
Funny, I can do all that now. Well, I do not, in fact, garden, that's a good way to earn the equivalent of 25 cents an hour. And I don't cook, as I am lazy. (I am not 'crunchy', but I'm not a conservative either, so that works out.)
However, I volunteer at a local theatre that does a lot of musicals, and nothing says 'gay' quite like musical theatre. (This isn't that wrong a stereotype. All the gay men I've met in real life, as opposed to running across online, volunteer/work there, or they're dating someone there.)
I can do this because, as you postulated, I live in a society where I do not worry about people thinking I'm gay. They certainly can think that if they want, and possibly a few have, but I do not worry about it. (I personally suspect I read more as hippy/slacker than 'gay'.)
You might want to try moving here. It is more a mental move than any sort of physical one. It lets you do whatever things you want to do without worrying about how 'masculine' or 'feminine' they are.
Oh, and you want to know how to make children stop caring? Maybe if you stopped caring if people thought you were gay, you'd stop teaching them to care if people thought they were gay. Children do not exist in a vacuum.
Hey, rebeccat, I see that, as often happens, we seem to be talking about different things. I'm quite willing to believe that you accept homosexuals as completely equal to heterosexuals. I just don't get what you mean when you say that they should have "different expectations and roles." What would those differences be? It seems to me that if people are equal under the law, then you can't have different laws for them than you do for other people. Are you saying that you would be willing to pass laws granting homosexuals all the same rights that heterosexual people have--the right to form life-partnerships, to adopt children, to live together, to be on each other's medical insurance, to buy property together, to be each other's next of kin, etc. etc,--provided they don't call it "marriage"? Or is this not what you had in mind? Maybe you could explain how homosexuals would be equal and different at the same time. Then we would have some "facts" to work with.
As for this:
I'm sorry, but the sort of simplistic, fact-devoid trope sig raises is meant to shut people up and NOTHING else.
Now, now, rebeccat, it's no use saying "I'm sorry" when you're not! Seems to me I asked you some questions. How does asking a question equate to telling you to shut up? (And why would I do that, anyway, when it's clear that no one can? ; ) Okay, that was a rhetorical question, since I recognize you as another impassioned woman and that's just as it should be.)
So I repeat--seriously, what if you knew that forbidding homosexuals to get married had caused and would continue to cause misery and injustice for them and their families? How do you justify continuing to do it, in that case?
sig, you didn't ask a question. You made a statement that this is really about "accepting homosexuals as equal to heterosexuals" and made the unqualified claim that it was this, and not marriage which was the real concern. That sort of statement is really and truely meant to say, "If you disagree with me, it will be assumed that your real problem isn't what you claim, but that you see homosexuals as less fully human." IOW Shut up! I do object to that. And I am sorry for provoking conflict over this. I'm rather tired of the conflict.
As for being equal, but not the same, well look at men and women. As a woman who grew up in the "gender is a social construct age", implying that I am a man with alternate genetalia infuriates me. I am not the same as a man and I despise the implication that I am. But, that in no way means that I am not equal to a man.
In my marriage, my husband and I are equals. But he spends his time doing work which makes money and I spend my time doing work that ensures the well being and quality training of our family and kids. Completely different. But equal in worth.
And I don't doubt for a minute that there are homosexuals for whom different opportunities cause pain. However, no matter what we do there is going to be pain for someone. If we open the door wide and families become even further destabilized as the extremists claim more and more ground and the settings for children to be raised in become less stable and beneficial for them, then the damage could be much worse than the relatively small number of homosexuals who would like to be married and can't.
But for either side to pretend that harm has not or will not come no matter what we end up doing is to willfully take up residency in la-la land.
Rebecca,
You really gave me a lot to think about on a busy Wednesday morning. I do not feel like I addressed what to me is the most important part of your case: we are giving final, formal approval to the idea that men and women are interchangable, that the desires and rights of adults supercede the rights of children, that traditional families will not be accepted as necessary or preferable to other arrangement.
I do not believe men and women, as a group, are interchangeable. But as individuals, I know mothers who are not so maternalistic and I know fathers are really very good at that nurturing, and they have a very happy family situation worked out where she's the breadwinner and he stays at home. I simply do not understand why acknowledging that these situations occur sometimes and that societal disapprobation of non-traditional arrangements is not really helpful. In your scheme, does it make sense for mom and dad to both be miserable as part of putting aside their desires and rights in the interests of their children, simply so that they can accomodate a very specific norm and not make life complicated for everyone else, when in fact they can both be happy and do right by their children, just under a different formulation (i.e. she works, he stays at home)?
It is this point, "the desires and rights of adults supersede the rights of children", that is where the meat is. This argument has been used against gays adopting or having children. "Think about the sort of problems these children will have; aren't you being selfish"> I don't meant to hit you close to home Rebecca, but I hope you get the point that many people would make the same argument against inter-racial marriage, how could you be so selfish to marry and have children that would face the hostility of the world, blah blah blah. (For goodness sake, how many kids were kept from adoption or being placed in good foster homes because of this movement to make race a trump over all other concerns in where children were placed; there's a place where political correctness ran amuck all right).
Your languge, while purportedly about values, is focused on the specifics of the arrangement, making the arrangement itself a "value", and in effect you tell those who can not or would not live in that arrangement that they are putting their desires and rights ahead of the interests of children. I am no doubt taking your position to a bit of an extreme, but I want to keep the focus on values. But you do not permit for the possibility that the alternate arrangement may in fact be the way to put the needs of children first. Children needs a parent that's available to nurture and direct; this dad and mom find that dad is better suited for that task.
In other words, you talk about the "devaluing the traditional role of women", but in my scheme, it would be the value of having a stay-at home parent who exhibits the qualities and behaviors associated with parenting. A stay-at-home dad who drinks himself silly or otherwise neglects his children is not virtuous simply for being a stay-at-home parent).
Look, not everyone making alternate arrangements is acting on self-sacrificing principles. I won't deny that. But I think there is some blindness to the fact that there are many making alternate arrangements who are doing so because the traditional arrangement simply is "wrong" for them, and they know it.
Gay people who want to marry each other may actually share your principle of self-sacrifice and putting the needs of others first (all marriages require self-sacrifice as a starting requirement, natch).
David,
I fear a wire was crossed in what I wrote or how you read what I wrote. I'm certainly scratching my head trying to figure out what you are trying to tell me. Maybe it is quite clear to you, but it felt like an attack to me and I don't understand what I said to warrant the attack.
Jim
Jim, actually you made a jump to an assumption in regards to what I meant when I raised the objection to the idea of men and women as interchangeable. Science consistently find that about 40-60% of each gender trends fairly strongly towards "typical" gender "norms". The remainder is split between those who tend towards the opposite gender "norm" and those who are comfy right in the middle. Based on my experiences, I think this is about right and have no problem whatsoever with very flexible ideas about what men and women can do.
What disturbs me is the insistence that men and women are the same, when clearly they are not. There's an almost infinite array of ways that men and women can be alike or different, but (with the excedingly rare exception of some transgendered people) a man will never know what it's like to be a woman and a woman will never know what it's like to be a man.
I once heard Garrison Keelor joke that it was a good thing that gay folks were having to fight to get married since they wouldn't have to fight to bridge the distance between the sexes. He compared it to entering into competition with someone from the same team. He was kidding around, of course, but I think he made a good point.
Also, I wanted to point out that the issue with kids being raised in same sex relationships isn't just something that ignorant hicks with a gun rack in the back of the pick-up truck are concerned about. In France a couple of years ago the government conducted a study on the issue of gay marriage and rejected it, largely because, in their words, "A majority of the Mission does not wish to question the fundamental principles of the law of filiation, which are based on the tripartite unit of a father, a mother, a child, citing the principle of caution. For that reason, that majority also, logically, chose to deny access to marriage to same-sex couples." They also noted: "Marriage is not merely the contractual recognition of the love between a couple; it is a framework that imposes rights and duties, and that is designed to provide for the care and harmonious development of the child." This was not some religious group or anti-gay activist, but the government of France saying that a child has a right to mom and dad. It's not just gender traits or having two people or whatever. It's having a close, dependant relationship with someone from each sex who, ideally, is the person responsible for bringing you into the world to begin with. I know that this is hard and unfair for many adults and I am not denying the pain that this sort of restriction can cause or claiming that the lack of this set-up is an automatic invitation to failure. And of course, its a system that doesn't always work and can't always be achieved. However, there is a world of difference between making some accomadations for exceptions and treating them as no different and as desireable as the rule. I think that institutionalizing and normalizing depriving a childof the right to mom and dad can not help but be a bad thing as a whole.
Anyhow, I'm neglecting my kids and need to go teach some algebra, so rip away!
rebeccat, I see why you didn'† like my statement that arguments against marriage equality were really arguments against equality, period. And I hope you noticed that I took care to recognize your claim that you don'
Whoo. That is one bad software glitch. Unfortunately, I don't have time to repeat myself right now. Packing for the Christmas trip, making bread, etc. Maybe later.
Jim
I fear a wire was crossed in what I wrote or how you read what I wrote. I'm certainly scratching my head trying to figure out what you are trying to tell me. Maybe it is quite clear to you, but it felt like an attack to me and I don't understand what I said to warrant the attack.
I wasn't attacking you, I was simply taking issue with the idea that people 'have to' worry if others perceive them as gay. So, basically, I was agreeing with you, except stating 'Don't wait for society, what you care about is entirely in your control.'.
I still don't understand the argument that legalizing homosexuality = "Big Love" = Warren Jeffs.
No, really, I must be thick as a brick.
Conservatives, even in your disappointment (for those jurisdictions that have decided otherwise) that child-rearing has been eliminated from the marriage equation -- which it really hasn't, many gays raise children -- what about the question of PAIRING? Polygamy, last I checked, ain't pairing.
Marriage, to be blunt, has been a contractual relationship between a couple at least since medieval times and really since Genesis. Even if the definition is broadened from heterosexuality, how is it broadened from (to cite Genesis again) Noah's example of "two by two"?
Max,
I said: ""You seem to have forgotten that dead people cannot give consent. That's pretty conveeenient."
You replied: "Hey, they can sing [sic] a living will ..."
Um, people have to be ALIVE to sign a living will. People who are alive are the only ones who can give consent. Thanx 4 proving my point. (Oh, and let's not forget that wills,living or otherwise, can be and often are contested or ignored. Gay people know this all too well - we learn it the hard way: from experience.)
Rebeccat,
"I have never heard or met a anti-gay activist who was actually trying to create equivelencies between homosexuality and say, beastiality."
I have. Many of them. Want names?
"They aren't saying, "no one would accept necrophilia as normal, so why should we accept homosexuality which is just as bad as normal." What they are saying is, "if we breach this boundary, which people want you to think is reasonable and fairly harmless, then you can be sure that these other boundaries which are not so reasonable and harmless will go next."
This may seem ridiculous"
Yes they ARE saying that. And no, it doesn't seem "ridiculous" to anyone who has had that false premise of "other boundaries" hurled at them. Treating homosexuals equally before the law IS both "reasonable and "harmless". There is harm in pedophila, and lack of consent in both pedophilia and necrophilia. There is NONE in my marriage.
"If we accept gay marriage, then we are giving final, formal approval to the idea that men and women are interchangable, that the desires and rights of adults supercede the rights of children"
Nonsense. Women are NOT interchangeable with men. If you interchanged a woman for the man who is my husband, I'd be really upset. And as for the rights of children, there aren't any in my marriage. Nor are there any in either of my sister's TWO heterosexual marriages. It ain't a requirement, nor is it the topic of this thread.
"Polygamists are already making arguements for the legalization of polygamy based on pretty much the same ideas as the gay marriage movement has been using."
This is simply not true. The ONLY argument ever made by gay couples is that the two people who society permits to marry not be limited by the gender/sex of either. I have NEVER heard an "argument" for polygamous marriages used in the gay marriage movement (and I've been a pretty big part of that movement). This is pure, absurd fantasy.
"the idea that accepting gay marriage could open the flood gates to all sorts of other currently proscribed and even unthinkable things"
...like, um, bestiality? necrophilia? Pedophilia? Sadomasochism? See, perpetuating the myth adds zero to its believability. It is only an attempt to raise the scare (or ick) factor.
rebeccat, you must have absolutely no idea how utterly offensive your question to a gay man is: "If you were absolutely convinced that legalizing gay marriage would inevitably open the door to far more destructive things, like the dissolution of anything resembling normal families for kids to grow up in, polygamy and group marriage and even the acceptence of really gross sexual deviencies like beastiality and such, would you be willing to forgo the right to legal, widely accepted gay marriage?"
First there is an absurd assumption that a gay man would be "absolutely convinced" that his marriage WOULD "inevitably open the door to far more destructive things". He probably wouldn't see his marriage AS a "destructive thing" at all, let alone a gateway to even "far more destructive things"!!!
Then you follow that insult with the equally absurd conclusion that our marriage will result in you "normal" folks' families being 'disolved'! Where do you come up with these nonsensical fantasies?
"My point isn't to argue right now over whether gay marriage actually would open the floodgates to a brave new world of familiy destruction and weirdness"
It isn't? It sure comes across that way.
And then to ask him if he would give up his right to equal treatment before the law? What on earth makes you think we would? It's supposed to be guaranteed by the Constitution.
You try to couch it in terms of "forgo[ing] your own personal satisfaction and fulfillment" (What? Aren't WE entitled to the pursuit of happiness anymore? When did THAT become a heterosexual privilege?) and call it "a larger benefit to society". Sorry I see no benefit in treating gay citizens as lesser citizens. Perhaps you could explain how society is better off when that happens.
Rod,
I am disappointed, though not surprised, that you agree with Scalia. Here's why I do not...
"Under the logic of Lawrence (which overturned anti-sodomy laws nationwide), prostitution, for example, involves a willing prostitute freely selling her services to a paying client, the government has no right to make the judgment that their transaction is immoral, and therefore should be illegal. Scalia pointed out that in our efforts to decriminalize one form of sexual behavior and expression (sodomy), we had crossed a dangerous theoretical threshhold in the law."
No more so than if a different analogy had replaced the prostitution one, namely infidelity. Clearly immoral (anti-Scriptural), but would you criminalize it? How would the government have any more "right to make the judgment that cheating is immoral, and therefore should be illegal"? The polygamy argument you tacked on is 'extra pares' in that the participants do not marry all of the other partners, only the man is married to the wives, the wives are not married to each other. Same-sex marriage as heterosexual marriage is about a commitment to another (as in one) person. A polygamist man has not made such a commitment; he's spreading it around.
True dat x 2. But liberals weren't the only ones attacking Huck for that ad.
'Weren't the only ones'? Were they attacking Huckabee at all for the ad? As many people may be aware, I am somewhat on the left, and I only read this and few other conservative blogs...most of what I read is on the left. None of the major players that I read have attacked the ad. Of course, I'm not some sort of blog deity, for all I know I'm just missing all it.
But the three people talking about this, the only places I've read anything about this, are here, John Cole, and Sullivan, all of which are on the right (to some, rather disgruntled, extent) and all of which are simply commenting at the fact the right is attacking Huckabee, as it's confirming exactly what they think about the relationship of the GOP toward Christianity...the GOP is just using it to get elected.
No one on the left seems to be talking about it at all, except to link to those guys. kos, one of the few who has, was rather sarcastic about the attacks ago: http://www.dailykos.com/storyonly/2007/12/19/25747/037
If you don't mean bloggers, OTOH, the only attacks I've heard about were from Peggy Noonan, Ron Paul, and Bill Donahue, none of which are exactly card-carrying members of the left.
ScurvyOaks
"I'm not sure why we are somehow obliged to vote for a liberal just because he really, really, really believes in Jesus."
Sorta odd that the only person who's apparently letting his Christian faith guide his political beliefs has decided that, inexplicably, social services aren't all bad, and that the Bible doesn't say anything about lowering taxes or invading countries.
Wait, not 'odd'...'expected', that's the word I meant.
Either I'm crazy and posting in the wrong place, or bnet is. Probably me. Ignore that last post.
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