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The amazing Mennonites. Again.

Sunday April 6, 2008

Once again, Mennonites in the news exhibiting the virtue of forgiveness at a level that passes all human understanding. Excerpt:


CHEWELAH, Wash. — For more than a quarter mile, Clifford Helm veered in his pickup truck through a grassy median and oncoming traffic. What finally stopped him was another pickup truck, the one carrying Jeffrey Schrock and his five children.

Carmen, 12, Jana, 10, Carinna, 8, Jerryl, 4 and Craig, 2, were killed in the collision. Mr. Schrock, who had been taking the children to join their mother on some errands, had multiple broken bones.

Now, more than two years after the accident, Mr. Helm has been acquitted on charges of vehicular homicide. Mr. Schrock says he has accepted that he may never know exactly what happened or why. He also says he has a friend he did not have before, Mr. Helm.

“The primary bond there is the accident,” Mr. Schrock said. “We’re both injured by that, physically and mentally.”

Last month, when Mr. Helm went to trial, members of Mr. Schrock’s extended family sat with members of Mr. Helm’s family in the courtroom. The Schrock family is Mennonite, and the head coverings some women wore stood out.

“Some people were praying for his acquittal,” said Mr. Schrock, 40.

He and his wife, Carolyn, made a different request. “We were praying that God’s will would be done,” Mr. Schrock said, “because we really didn’t know what God had in this whole thing.”

Friendship under such circumstances is complicated, Mr. Schrock said, like pretty much everything else that has happened since the accident. For him, the challenge has been to forgive Mr. Helm without expecting resolution, and to build a friendship regardless of the forces working against it.

“It’s what the Bible teaches,” Mr. Schrock said.

You will remember, of course, the story of the Amish (who share the same Anabaptist roots and culture as the Mennonites) back East who reached out to the family of the man who massacred their children. As I wrote at the time:


"This is imitation of Christ at its most naked," journalist Tom Shachtman, who has chronicled Amish life, told The New York Times . "If anybody is going to turn the other cheek in our society, it's going to be the Amish. I don't want to denigrate anybody else who says they're imitating Christ, but the Amish walk the walk as much as they talk the talk."

I don't know about you, but that kind of faith is beyond comprehension. I'm the kind of guy who will curse under my breath at the jerk who cuts me off in traffic on the way home from church. And look at those humble farmers, putting Christians like me to shame.

It is not that the Amish are Anabaptist hobbits, living a pure pastoral life uncorrupted by the evils of modernity. So much of the coverage of the massacre has dwelled on the "innocence lost" aspect, but I doubt that the Amish would agree. They have their own sins and tragedies. Nobody who lives in a small town can live under the illusion that it is a haven from evil. To paraphrase gulag survivor Alexander Solzhenitsyn, the line between good and evil does not run along the boundaries of Lancaster County, but through every human heart.

What sets hearts apart is how they deal with sins and tragedies. In his suicide note, Mr. Roberts said one reason he did what he did was out of anger at God for the death of his infant daughter in 1997. Wouldn't any parent wonder why God allowed that to happen? Mr. Roberts held onto his hatred, purifying it under pressure until it exploded in an act of infamy. That's one way to deal with anger.

Another is the Amish way. If Mr. Roberts' rage at God over the death of his baby girl was in some sense understandable, how much more comprehensible would be the rage of those Amish mothers and fathers whose children perished by his hand? Had my child suffered and died that way, I cannot imagine what would have become of me, for all my pretenses of piety. And yet, the Amish do not rage. They do not return evil for evil. In fact, they embody peace and love beyond all human understanding.

It's when confronted with examples like these that I want to run and hide. I am ashamed to say that I can't stand the purity of the light.

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Comments
sigaliris
April 7, 2008 10:17 AM

Thank you, dilys! I was thinking along those same lines, but you have expressed it so well, better than I could have.

ctb
April 7, 2008 11:01 AM

I heard this story on the radio this morning and my first thought was "were the children properly belted - was the two year in a car seat". Does the father feel any personal responsibility. I actually find it easy to forgive the other driver. If accounts are true (he wasn't drinking but blacked out due to unknown medical reasons) it was truly an accident. But the father...all those deaths may have been preventable. Seat belts work but if five children are crowded into the front of a pickup . . .I think the prosecutor charged the wrong driver.

I am not feeling so good about the Amish and Mennonites right now. Having adopted a dog from Main Line Rescue I was interested in seeing Bill on Oprah Friday. The horrific dog trade makes me feel anger and disgust with this community. Bill who has established relationships with the breeders is more forgiving ... they view the dogs as livestock and merchandise. Very well, but I wouldn't buy a pig or cow from a farmer who kept his animals in such conditions. These "breeder" make industrial farmers look humane. How can such cruelty be justified by a person of faith? Even if they view the animals as creatures they have a right to dominate can such monstrous behavior be tolerated? I will never feel the same toward that community and I will never buy from Mennonite farmers at the farmers market.

Grigory
April 7, 2008 12:39 PM

"There was also no indication that the man was drunk or otherwise chemically impaired. No one has been able to determine why he crossed the median. Testimony was entered into the trial indicating that he may have had some sort of blackout."

Ah - okay, that's why he was aquitted. I just assumed it was a drunk driver from the description in the lede of him going over the median. If it is truly an accident as you say, then their forgiveness is understandble, and admirable.

anoncritic
April 7, 2008 1:29 PM

I am ashamed to say that I can't stand the purity of the light.

I reject this. If my wife and kids were killed by some idiot, I don't think my anger and grief would allow me to be friends with the guy. Forgiveness is one thing. Friendship with the source of your loss is another. That is not "light," that's warped.

Maybe he didn't care much for his wife and kids.

anoncritic
April 7, 2008 1:38 PM

After posting it, I feel that the last sentence in my above comment was wrong and inappropriate. That's really not something I should say, especially after such a tragedy. Sorry about that.

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Rod Dreher is an editorial columnist for the Dallas Morning News, and author of "Crunchy Cons" (Crown Forum), a nonfiction book about conservatives, most of them religious, whose faith and political convictions sometimes put them at odds with mainstream conservatives. The views expressed in this blog are his own.

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