A British (I know, I know) academic has been having consensual sex with her brother since they were both teenagers, and though they stopped when he got married, she doesn't think there was anything wrong with it. Excerpt:
...it doesn't happen to everyone but it happens to some, and I don't want to be made to feel guilty about it. Incest is so often spoken about in the same breath as abuse, but if you're close in age and equal in relationship terms then it's entirely different. Of course abuse happens, but it can happen in any sexual relationship and there's an expectation that a family member would never hurt you in the way that someone else could. There's no comparison between siblings close in age having sexual feelings and contact and an adult forcing a younger member of the family to do something they neither understand nor want to be involved in.
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By the time he met Alison he was working and I was a student, and I knew that this relationship was different, but it still came as a shock when he told me he wanted to marry her. However, I was more shocked when he said: "You only have to say and I won't marry her, but then I want us to stay together and not see anyone else. We could be the old boring brother and sister who never got married, but ended up sharing a house because no one else would have them! I know this is meant to be wrong but I've never felt anything so right." This echoed everything that I've thought about our incestuous relationship over the years.
Ah yes, just like the late-Seventies philosopher Debby Boone counseled, "It can't be wrong when it feels so right."
Here's my question, though: If God doesn't exist (that is, if there is no such thing as absolute moral truth), why shouldn't the woman have sex with her brother? They're careful not to risk reproduction, its always been consensual, they enjoy it, and they don't feel guilty. So what's the problem?
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Dear all,
I do understand the negative outlook towards Incest. Just adding to the point what John mentioned, Incest is just a term given to intimacy and sexual relation between close relatives / blood relavites. The term coined by humans, of some who felt that it was wrong. The question is "Is it wrong?" NO.
I am from India. Basically a conservative nation. Its a mother of taboo to have someone speak about incest itself. I have had sexual relation with my sister and my mother. My sister is 5 years younger to me, she is married 9 years ago. We started indulging at our age of 17 and 12, we have always loved each other.
With my mother was purely extension of our love for each other. She had lost my dad at her age of 27, she was never allowed marry again. We started getting physical from when I was 20 and she was 40. I am married now.
Both do not know I was involved with the other. But, None of has felt guilty about our relationship.
You may want to have a look at Debatepedia's pro/con article on legalizing adult incest.
http://wiki.idebate.org/index.php/Debate:_Legalization_of_adult_incest#Con
When brother and sister are close in age terms they can often be close emotionally. In the case of familys where parents become divorced the siblings often become even closer. The bond becomes stronger and very close relations can develop. This can lead to incesteous action and is a natural reaction to the fact that they feel left to support one another. This is my personal experience and I feel happy about it. looking back on it I think it was some of the best sex of my life. This was perhaps because of the 'forbidden' nature of the actions. Now happily married but we still sometimes, shall we say, 'meet'now and again?
Is this an issue of morality or what? At this times, it is indeed not acceptable. Whether God permits this or not, considering the cultures of today, incest is taboo.
Incestuous relationships exist only in old testament (Noah) days. the bible says it all. it's extremely disgusting to have sex with your relative. besides, we have our own mind and conscience to know what is right or wrong.
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