I made a new friend on the flight up: Rob Schlein, head of the Log Cabin Republicans of Dallas County. Rob and his partner flew up as guests of the GOP. As he explains in the short video interview below,...
Rob is still pro-Bush, and in some ways is more conservative than I am.
I know just what you mean, Rod. I have a very good friend who is gay, and in most ways that matter he is far more conservative than I am. When it was decided that the Boy Scouts had the right not to accept gay members as Scouts or Scout Leaders, he simply let his membership lapse (he and I had been Scouts together, which is how we met, and he had served as a Scoutmaster and troop committee member), saying that as a private organization the Scouts have the right to admit or exclude anyone they want. He isn't particularly in favor of gay marriage, because he would really only be interested in marrying his partner in church, and he knows that won't happen. (He is also a better Catholic than I am in many ways.) Another reason he isn't enthusiastic about gay marriage is because, as an attorney, he's dealt with divorce cases, and he knows that gay marriage will inevitably lead to gay divorce (which has already happened). It's sometimes odd talking with him (though we seldom talk about politics, mainly because our friendship focuses on other things) because his positions are often so much at odds with what the media would have us believe is the "gay position" on these issues.
Elizabeth Anne
August 31, 2008 4:48 PM
It sure would be nice to see more folks understanding that "family values" and fair treatment of gay and lesbian Americans are not, in fact, contradictory terms. How can you be FOR family values while denying that a lot of people ARE family? I'm still a staunch dem, but I really like to see the GOP opening up like this to the Log Cabin Republicans. I've said it before - I'm just about a single issue voter, and this is my issue. It's nice to know that JOhn McCain seems willing to take the conversation further.
Elizabeth Anne
August 31, 2008 4:51 PM
David - I'm starting to think more and more that the press has less of a Liberal bias than a "keep everyone frightened and divided" bias.
David J. White
August 31, 2008 5:02 PM
Elizabeth Anne,
I think you may be right. If we weren't frightened and divided, we would have no reason to tune in night after night.
Elizabeth Anne
August 31, 2008 5:07 PM
Or vote for half the idiots who run.
Rob
August 31, 2008 5:14 PM
Since Rob Schlein is in favor of a strong national defense, I wish you had asked him about "don't ask, don't tell." But thanks for putting the interview up online.
stefanie
August 31, 2008 5:14 PM
That is really great, that the GOP invited the LCRs.
He didn't mention 2nd amendment rights, but that is an issue for at least some gays as well.
Rod, I hope you get to meet more LCRs at the convention, and engage in some good dialogue with them on these issues.
Daniel
August 31, 2008 5:36 PM
Good on him for being involved in the LCR and attending the convention. I imagine it's a pretty lonely fight and they deserve props for fighting the good fight.
Did he say whether they expect any top party officials to attend any of their events? I know McCain has a secret meeting earlier in the year with some top LCR people, but I wonder if Cindy or anyone is planning on meeting with them at the Convention. With the losses in the House and the Senate, the ranks of gay-friendly public officials in the party is getting thinner and thinner.
Rachel
August 31, 2008 5:36 PM
Rod, I went to the LCR website to find out more about it. I noted that its leadership is primarily male. What is the gender breakdown of LCR? Due to some early 1970's involvement in NOW in Kansas City, which I abandoned due to the incestuous relationship in that organization between women's rights and gay rights (I thought they should have been represented by separate organizations, despite also concluding NOW was simply too radical for me), I came to the (perhaps unfounded) conclusion that gay women were primarily liberal democrats.
If you run across some female LCR's, I'd love to see some of themm in your "flip flicks".
Reaganite in NYC
August 31, 2008 5:42 PM
Rod,
Thanks for posting this. More dialogue is crucial. How else are we going to learn from -- and understand -- each other? Appreciate the comments posted here by others, as well.
Hope you squeeze as much "learning" out of your trip to the RNC as possible. I'm guessing a lot of us on this blog envy you for being there and having the opportunity to meet all these folks from all over.
Rachel
August 31, 2008 5:42 PM
What happened to the video clip?
David J. White
August 31, 2008 6:00 PM
I came to the (perhaps unfounded) conclusion that gay women were primarily liberal democrats.
One thing the gay friend whom I mentioned above has said to me several times is that, in his experience as a gay man, gay men and lesbians really have very little in common with each other. In fact, frequently the only thing they have in common is that many of them (though obviously not all) are attracted to the same left-leaning political causes. Other than that, according to my friend, gay men and women are often actively hostile to one another. Any association between them is often a marriage (so to speak) of convenience.
Straight men and women have to learn how to get along with each other because, at the end of the day, they have to figure out a way to live together. The same isn't necessarily true for gay men and lesbians. So it wouldn't really surprise me if there were few women in the LCR, since it is likely that fewer gay women than men would find Republican policies congenial.
Rod Dreher
August 31, 2008 6:06 PM
Rachel, YouTube is telling me (on my site) that "video is not yet processed." Maybe the size of it is taking all this time. Sorry to disappoint, but keep checking back. I haven't taken it down -- it's just not fully processed yet.
Rachel
August 31, 2008 6:54 PM
David, thanx for your insight. It makes sense.
Rod, thanx for the update on the clip. The one you posted at the DMN Blog has the same problem. I'll keep checking back.
WeTheSheeple
August 31, 2008 7:26 PM
Have the Loggers ever READ the Repube platform? Change the GOP from within regarding gay rights? Yeah, that worked really well with the KKK and civil rights for blacks.
Not a single issue voter? If you can be fired from your job, can't get a job, get kicked out of your house, can't get health insurance, all because someone doesn't like you because you're gay, then all the "great economic policies" of the GOP won't do you any good. YES, you can still be fired JUST FOR BEING GAY in many states. You can be kicked out of the military and lose your pension & health care benefits if they find out you're gay.
When he's done with his rose-colored glasses, I'd like to borrow them.
Rudy Oeftering
August 31, 2008 7:34 PM
Thanks... It's great to know that our fellow Republicans are beginning to see that being Gay doesn't automatically mean you align yourself with radical left wing Democrats.
Liberty for ALL means Liberty for ALL
Rob Schlein
August 31, 2008 7:49 PM
Question for WeTheSheeple.
Have you noticed that the Congress who would pass laws to protect LGBT from job discrimination have been in charge of BOTH houses for 2 years?
Have they passed ENDA? ...Well No.
Have they repealed Don't Ask Don't Tell? ...Well No
Why not?
Democrats use their promises for equality to obtain gay votes, but I don't see them follow-through on those promises when they have control.
I would love to see equality for gay people advance, but not at the expense of creating a Marxist society that Obama and much of the liberal left espouses.
Rob
Rachel
August 31, 2008 8:12 PM
I like what Rob has to say. We all have a fantasy list for our party's platform, but neither party includes them all. I like that the LCR's have persevered in supporting the party which they hope will offer the most in terms of what's important to them. Their attitude is so different from that of the HRC Dems who threatened a McCain vengeance vote as well as the GOPers who threatened to stay home in protest, that is until Sarah Palin was selected for VEEP.
Whether one finds them disgusting/hellbound or accepts that things are what they are and that God can do his own judging, each one of these folks is one who had a right to be born, which means they have a right to live.
They also pay taxes and make positive contributions to their families, communities, and country.
cb
August 31, 2008 8:46 PM
Excellent post and even better comment by David White (his friend sounds a lot like mine that are gay). This points out the terrible problem of identity politics; just because you happen to share a characteristic (such as race or sexual orientation) with others, it doesn't mean you also share everything else with them, including political views.
Daniel
August 31, 2008 8:48 PM
ENDA did pass the House this year.
Lord Karth
August 31, 2008 8:57 PM
Rachel @ 8:12 PM writes:
"Whether one finds them disgusting/hellbound or accepts that things are what they are and that God can do his own judging, each one of these folks is one who had a right to be born, which means they have a right to live.
They also pay taxes and make positive contributions to their families, communities, and country."
I'll go along with you on that, Rachel. My major problem with the gay-lib movement, aside from the obvious crazies (the leather boys and drag queens kissing in the streets in front of the cameras) in their midst is that they want "approval" from the rest of the society.
Their spokesmen have a habit of saying "we're here, we're queer, get used to it". They're right. They exist. They live, and I have no intention of doing anything about that. And you're right, they pay their taxes and make contributions to families, communities and country. When they insist, however, on being "celebrated" with annual "GLBT" parades and paens in "People" magazine, that's where I draw the line. I don't like having that particular lifestyle shoved down my throat.
"Tolerance" is one thing, "approval" is quite another. But where their interests and mine coincide, I have no problem with them.
Your servant,
Lord Karth
Rachel
August 31, 2008 9:39 PM
I heard ya, LK. About 25 years ago I was in a workshop sponsored by a nonprofit for which I volunteered. It was a sensitivity deal for homosexuality. I already had (and still do) a gay brother. I thought a lot of the presentation was beneficial, but there was a Q&A where the moderators wanted us to say that we would be proud and celebrate having a gay child. Talk about having something shoved down your throat!
Well, I hoped I would never have a gay child for a lot of reasons, but among them was not because I would be ashamed. I didn't see why I needed to be proud and celebrate, any more than I would be proud and celebrate having a straight child. I would be (and am) proud to have, and I did (and still do) celebrate, having children. Period.
I do have a gay child, and I love her and I am proud of her; but I am proud of her for her accomplishments and who she is, and being gay has nothing to do with it.
Thomas R
August 31, 2008 10:23 PM
"than a 'keep everyone frightened and divided'" EA
TR: In a self-interest way this makes sense. There's a better chance for drama if "everyone is frightened and divided." Drama makes news. I would think a journalist would have understandable reasons to prefer an ideological fistfight to a calm discussion over tea and biscuits.
newenglander
August 31, 2008 11:41 PM
Lord Karth:
Stereotyping, are we?
I'm gay, and, quite frankly, I have no interest whatsoever in whether or not you approve or disapprove of my being gay. Are you assuming that most (all?) gay men and lesbians seek the approval of heterosexuals for the fact that they are homosexual and demand that straights celebrate their homosexuality!
This is simply not true! And certainly not in my case!
I'm not interested in shoving approval of my homosexuality down your throat, Bro! Very simply, it's not on my radar screen!
Is what I've said so very difficult to understand?
John
September 1, 2008 12:36 AM
"When they insist, however, on being "celebrated" with annual "GLBT" parades and paens in "People" magazine, that's where I draw the line. I don't like having that particular lifestyle shoved down my throat."
Why are we gay people the only ones who must put up with having a "particular lifestyle shoved down" our throats? We have the "heterosexual lifestyle" shoved down our throats in abstinence-only classes, "comprehensive sex education classes," the movies, sitcoms, prom nights and at family gatherings.
You guys come out of the closet every day without blinking an eye and yet freak out when we come out of our closets.
Why don't we hold ourselves to the same standards.
Lord Karth
September 1, 2008 1:21 AM
newenglander @ 11:41 PM writes:
"Stereotyping, are we?"
Not at all. I am responding to those of your particular behavioral preference who go out of their way to flaunt that behavior in public and demand that I call it normal. It's the leather boys who do whatever it is they like to do in front of the cameras who are the real stereotypers, and they are the ones I have the problem with. If you're gay, but you don't go out of your way to throw it in my face, or force me to pay for the consequences of your actions, I'm probably not going to have a problem with you.
"I'm gay, and, quite frankly, I have no interest whatsoever in whether or not you approve or disapprove of my being gay. Are you assuming that most (all?) gay men and lesbians seek the approval of heterosexuals for the fact that they are homosexual and demand that straights celebrate their homosexuality!
This is simply not true! And certainly not in my case!
I'm not interested in shoving approval of my homosexuality down your throat, Bro! Very simply, it's not on my radar screen!"
Totally cool with that, Bro. Heck, I'll call a press conference. Full print, visual AND electronic-media coverage. Now, as long as you're letting us all know about your particular Preferred Sexual Peculiarity (I'm a Triple Cream-Cheese Llama-Bondage man myself, but hey, that's just me), would you do us all a favor and tell the agitproppers who claim to speak for all of you to knock off the street theater ? Your "comrades in arms" are starting to frighten the horses.
Besides, some of them really need to work on their Finer Points of Clothing And Personal Grooming. I mean, it's like this, man; I saw one of those GLBT parades a month or so ago, and....well, let's just say that I thought the whole Village People/"Birds of a Feather" thing went out with Frankie Goes to Hollywood, "Soap" and "Hello Larry". So much camp I thought I had accidentally wandered into a RuPaul photo-shoot. C'mon !! It's 2008; could we at least have a little "Queer Eye for the Queer Guy", please ?
Your servant,
Lord Karth
fbc
September 1, 2008 1:54 AM
And there I was, all set to reconsider my "won't-vote-Republican-ever-again" position due to the Palin announcement, only to find out the Log Cabin Republicans are welcomed with open arms.
Thanks for harshing my mellow.
Reality sucks, but at least I can deal with knowing that the GOP is still just giving lip service to religious conservatives after all.
Thomas R
September 1, 2008 2:37 AM
So far as I know Palin doesn't believe in silencing or harming gay people. I don't think it's realistic to go back to pretending gay people don't exist or that they all like abortion and high taxes. Even from a religious conservative perspective we should be willing to love and listen to people with all kinds of "objective disorders." Whether that be drunks, kleptomaniacs, or gays. If you think that's liberal wishy-washiness you've been on Right-wing blogs too long. I think in many moderate mainline churches comparing gays to kleptomaniacs and drunks would be irritating, to say it among liberals would be outrageous.
John
September 1, 2008 3:30 AM
As a proud Republican I can say that my wife and I have spoken up quite often on this matter. To the dismay of many shockingly. I think it's important that we accept all people that want to join our party. I think if you share our fundamental beliefs that is what is important. I don't know when sexual preference became a fundamental belief. As far as we are concerned with the gays, we are really not concerned. I really don't see why if you want to get married how that affects me in anyway. I actually believe it's wrong that people get to vote on that it should be covered in the pursuit of happiness. Gays get married all you want Just vote McCain! God Bless!
Daniel
September 1, 2008 9:13 AM
"only to find out the Log Cabin Republicans are welcomed with open arms."
You can sleep comfortably knowing the Log Cabin Republicans are kept on the fringes and far-reaches of the party. No speaker at a GOP Convention is going to speak in favor of gay rights. The only openly gay person to ever speak at a convention--Jim Kolbe--wasn't allowed to speak about gay rights. They are still largely treated like pariah.
AML
September 1, 2008 11:01 AM
Daniel, if gays wouldn't spend so much time trying to persuade everyone that their "lifestyle" was normal (while many of them behave in public in a very abnormal way), regular folks would be happy. Even if regular folks consider their behavior to be sinful, we accept them as just another part of our community and are happy to leave the accounting to God.
fbc
September 1, 2008 11:19 AM
Thank you, AML, for the voice of reason.
Homosexuality is a perversion and an aberrant behavior that is inherently sinful. I pity those who are caught up in it, but I am angry at those who would promote it as just another "lifestyle" for they are cultural insurgents bent on destroying common morality.
If gays would shut up about it, not one person in 100,000 would give a damn what they do in private.
Demetrio
September 1, 2008 12:23 PM
For what it's worth, I served on my local and state Log Cabin boards several years ago. I stepped down partly because it felt like we were doing a lot to educate Republicans on gay issues, but not nearly enough to educate the gay community on Republican issues. I've been accused of being heteronormative (a hilarious word), which I happily accept. I don't really need to know or want to see what some people do in their bedrooms, and I don't think that flaunting that is a successful strategy for gaining acceptance. Oh well.
And to tie this in with another thread, I left the national organization when they decided to give an award to Andrew Sullivan. If he is what the organization wants to hold up as a model of a gay conservative, I don't want to have anything to do with them. We don't all think alike.
Thomas R
September 1, 2008 12:44 PM
"I am angry at those who would promote it as just another "lifestyle" for they are cultural insurgents bent on destroying common morality."
Being married four times is a lifestyle I think both Catholics and Orthodoxers reject. Is Mickey Rooney a cultural insurgent?
I'm fine if it's just another lifestyle or another culture. It's the idea that it's more than that and we must celebrate, rather than just tolerate, that I have a problem with. People have free-will and all that. If they want to be atheist or eat Moose on Good Friday that's their right in a free society. They don't have the right to demand everyone agree with them or that everyone "celebrate our love." There's plenty of heterosexual love I'm not going to celebrate either.
Karlton Banks
September 2, 2008 5:12 PM
All of you make me sick....I am a gay black man...and yes a republican.
You all make me ashamed to me a part of the GOP.
As a black man....I did not choose my color......as a gay man...I did not choose to be gay.......NO ONE CHOOSES TO BE DISCRIMATED AGAINST. God our savior created me in his image....and this is who I am. I have been with the same man for 10 years in a faithful relationship.....however you idiots would validate Brittney Spears many marriages before my one committed one. I am sick and tired of meeting hypocratical republicans and seeing those like those closeted gay congressman and preachers say that being gay is sinful and they are living it......
As I am a product of an interacial marriage....5 years before my birth...there was laws on the books saying that my parents union would be illegal...is that right....of course not...as my parents did not choose there race or their hetrosexuality.......as I did not choose my homosexuality.....so for all of you out there that do not feel that gays should have the right to get married...serve in our military or should not have the same legal rights....you are no better than your garden variety racist.....
The GOP will never get the votes of middle america, african american, and republican moderates if you all dont chill out and treat EVERY AMERICAN equally......The more concervatives support McCain...the more I am looking at Obama.....
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Rob is still pro-Bush, and in some ways is more conservative than I am.
I know just what you mean, Rod. I have a very good friend who is gay, and in most ways that matter he is far more conservative than I am. When it was decided that the Boy Scouts had the right not to accept gay members as Scouts or Scout Leaders, he simply let his membership lapse (he and I had been Scouts together, which is how we met, and he had served as a Scoutmaster and troop committee member), saying that as a private organization the Scouts have the right to admit or exclude anyone they want. He isn't particularly in favor of gay marriage, because he would really only be interested in marrying his partner in church, and he knows that won't happen. (He is also a better Catholic than I am in many ways.) Another reason he isn't enthusiastic about gay marriage is because, as an attorney, he's dealt with divorce cases, and he knows that gay marriage will inevitably lead to gay divorce (which has already happened). It's sometimes odd talking with him (though we seldom talk about politics, mainly because our friendship focuses on other things) because his positions are often so much at odds with what the media would have us believe is the "gay position" on these issues.
It sure would be nice to see more folks understanding that "family values" and fair treatment of gay and lesbian Americans are not, in fact, contradictory terms. How can you be FOR family values while denying that a lot of people ARE family? I'm still a staunch dem, but I really like to see the GOP opening up like this to the Log Cabin Republicans. I've said it before - I'm just about a single issue voter, and this is my issue. It's nice to know that JOhn McCain seems willing to take the conversation further.
David - I'm starting to think more and more that the press has less of a Liberal bias than a "keep everyone frightened and divided" bias.
Elizabeth Anne,
I think you may be right. If we weren't frightened and divided, we would have no reason to tune in night after night.
Or vote for half the idiots who run.
Since Rob Schlein is in favor of a strong national defense, I wish you had asked him about "don't ask, don't tell." But thanks for putting the interview up online.
That is really great, that the GOP invited the LCRs.
He didn't mention 2nd amendment rights, but that is an issue for at least some gays as well.
Rod, I hope you get to meet more LCRs at the convention, and engage in some good dialogue with them on these issues.
Good on him for being involved in the LCR and attending the convention. I imagine it's a pretty lonely fight and they deserve props for fighting the good fight.
Did he say whether they expect any top party officials to attend any of their events? I know McCain has a secret meeting earlier in the year with some top LCR people, but I wonder if Cindy or anyone is planning on meeting with them at the Convention. With the losses in the House and the Senate, the ranks of gay-friendly public officials in the party is getting thinner and thinner.
Rod, I went to the LCR website to find out more about it. I noted that its leadership is primarily male. What is the gender breakdown of LCR? Due to some early 1970's involvement in NOW in Kansas City, which I abandoned due to the incestuous relationship in that organization between women's rights and gay rights (I thought they should have been represented by separate organizations, despite also concluding NOW was simply too radical for me), I came to the (perhaps unfounded) conclusion that gay women were primarily liberal democrats.
If you run across some female LCR's, I'd love to see some of themm in your "flip flicks".
Rod,
Thanks for posting this. More dialogue is crucial. How else are we going to learn from -- and understand -- each other? Appreciate the comments posted here by others, as well.
Hope you squeeze as much "learning" out of your trip to the RNC as possible. I'm guessing a lot of us on this blog envy you for being there and having the opportunity to meet all these folks from all over.
What happened to the video clip?
I came to the (perhaps unfounded) conclusion that gay women were primarily liberal democrats.
One thing the gay friend whom I mentioned above has said to me several times is that, in his experience as a gay man, gay men and lesbians really have very little in common with each other. In fact, frequently the only thing they have in common is that many of them (though obviously not all) are attracted to the same left-leaning political causes. Other than that, according to my friend, gay men and women are often actively hostile to one another. Any association between them is often a marriage (so to speak) of convenience.
Straight men and women have to learn how to get along with each other because, at the end of the day, they have to figure out a way to live together. The same isn't necessarily true for gay men and lesbians. So it wouldn't really surprise me if there were few women in the LCR, since it is likely that fewer gay women than men would find Republican policies congenial.
Rachel, YouTube is telling me (on my site) that "video is not yet processed." Maybe the size of it is taking all this time. Sorry to disappoint, but keep checking back. I haven't taken it down -- it's just not fully processed yet.
David, thanx for your insight. It makes sense.
Rod, thanx for the update on the clip. The one you posted at the DMN Blog has the same problem. I'll keep checking back.
Have the Loggers ever READ the Repube platform? Change the GOP from within regarding gay rights? Yeah, that worked really well with the KKK and civil rights for blacks.
Not a single issue voter? If you can be fired from your job, can't get a job, get kicked out of your house, can't get health insurance, all because someone doesn't like you because you're gay, then all the "great economic policies" of the GOP won't do you any good. YES, you can still be fired JUST FOR BEING GAY in many states. You can be kicked out of the military and lose your pension & health care benefits if they find out you're gay.
When he's done with his rose-colored glasses, I'd like to borrow them.
Thanks... It's great to know that our fellow Republicans are beginning to see that being Gay doesn't automatically mean you align yourself with radical left wing Democrats.
Liberty for ALL means Liberty for ALL
Question for WeTheSheeple.
Have you noticed that the Congress who would pass laws to protect LGBT from job discrimination have been in charge of BOTH houses for 2 years?
Have they passed ENDA? ...Well No.
Have they repealed Don't Ask Don't Tell? ...Well No
Why not?
Democrats use their promises for equality to obtain gay votes, but I don't see them follow-through on those promises when they have control.
I would love to see equality for gay people advance, but not at the expense of creating a Marxist society that Obama and much of the liberal left espouses.
Rob
I like what Rob has to say. We all have a fantasy list for our party's platform, but neither party includes them all. I like that the LCR's have persevered in supporting the party which they hope will offer the most in terms of what's important to them. Their attitude is so different from that of the HRC Dems who threatened a McCain vengeance vote as well as the GOPers who threatened to stay home in protest, that is until Sarah Palin was selected for VEEP.
Whether one finds them disgusting/hellbound or accepts that things are what they are and that God can do his own judging, each one of these folks is one who had a right to be born, which means they have a right to live.
They also pay taxes and make positive contributions to their families, communities, and country.
Excellent post and even better comment by David White (his friend sounds a lot like mine that are gay). This points out the terrible problem of identity politics; just because you happen to share a characteristic (such as race or sexual orientation) with others, it doesn't mean you also share everything else with them, including political views.
ENDA did pass the House this year.
Rachel @ 8:12 PM writes:
"Whether one finds them disgusting/hellbound or accepts that things are what they are and that God can do his own judging, each one of these folks is one who had a right to be born, which means they have a right to live.
They also pay taxes and make positive contributions to their families, communities, and country."
I'll go along with you on that, Rachel. My major problem with the gay-lib movement, aside from the obvious crazies (the leather boys and drag queens kissing in the streets in front of the cameras) in their midst is that they want "approval" from the rest of the society.
Their spokesmen have a habit of saying "we're here, we're queer, get used to it". They're right. They exist. They live, and I have no intention of doing anything about that. And you're right, they pay their taxes and make contributions to families, communities and country. When they insist, however, on being "celebrated" with annual "GLBT" parades and paens in "People" magazine, that's where I draw the line. I don't like having that particular lifestyle shoved down my throat.
"Tolerance" is one thing, "approval" is quite another. But where their interests and mine coincide, I have no problem with them.
Your servant,
Lord Karth
I heard ya, LK. About 25 years ago I was in a workshop sponsored by a nonprofit for which I volunteered. It was a sensitivity deal for homosexuality. I already had (and still do) a gay brother. I thought a lot of the presentation was beneficial, but there was a Q&A where the moderators wanted us to say that we would be proud and celebrate having a gay child. Talk about having something shoved down your throat!
Well, I hoped I would never have a gay child for a lot of reasons, but among them was not because I would be ashamed. I didn't see why I needed to be proud and celebrate, any more than I would be proud and celebrate having a straight child. I would be (and am) proud to have, and I did (and still do) celebrate, having children. Period.
I do have a gay child, and I love her and I am proud of her; but I am proud of her for her accomplishments and who she is, and being gay has nothing to do with it.
"than a 'keep everyone frightened and divided'" EA
TR: In a self-interest way this makes sense. There's a better chance for drama if "everyone is frightened and divided." Drama makes news. I would think a journalist would have understandable reasons to prefer an ideological fistfight to a calm discussion over tea and biscuits.
Lord Karth:
Stereotyping, are we?
I'm gay, and, quite frankly, I have no interest whatsoever in whether or not you approve or disapprove of my being gay. Are you assuming that most (all?) gay men and lesbians seek the approval of heterosexuals for the fact that they are homosexual and demand that straights celebrate their homosexuality!
This is simply not true! And certainly not in my case!
I'm not interested in shoving approval of my homosexuality down your throat, Bro! Very simply, it's not on my radar screen!
Is what I've said so very difficult to understand?
"When they insist, however, on being "celebrated" with annual "GLBT" parades and paens in "People" magazine, that's where I draw the line. I don't like having that particular lifestyle shoved down my throat."
Why are we gay people the only ones who must put up with having a "particular lifestyle shoved down" our throats? We have the "heterosexual lifestyle" shoved down our throats in abstinence-only classes, "comprehensive sex education classes," the movies, sitcoms, prom nights and at family gatherings.
You guys come out of the closet every day without blinking an eye and yet freak out when we come out of our closets.
Why don't we hold ourselves to the same standards.
newenglander @ 11:41 PM writes:
"Stereotyping, are we?"
Not at all. I am responding to those of your particular behavioral preference who go out of their way to flaunt that behavior in public and demand that I call it normal. It's the leather boys who do whatever it is they like to do in front of the cameras who are the real stereotypers, and they are the ones I have the problem with. If you're gay, but you don't go out of your way to throw it in my face, or force me to pay for the consequences of your actions, I'm probably not going to have a problem with you.
"I'm gay, and, quite frankly, I have no interest whatsoever in whether or not you approve or disapprove of my being gay. Are you assuming that most (all?) gay men and lesbians seek the approval of heterosexuals for the fact that they are homosexual and demand that straights celebrate their homosexuality!
This is simply not true! And certainly not in my case!
I'm not interested in shoving approval of my homosexuality down your throat, Bro! Very simply, it's not on my radar screen!"
Totally cool with that, Bro. Heck, I'll call a press conference. Full print, visual AND electronic-media coverage. Now, as long as you're letting us all know about your particular Preferred Sexual Peculiarity (I'm a Triple Cream-Cheese Llama-Bondage man myself, but hey, that's just me), would you do us all a favor and tell the agitproppers who claim to speak for all of you to knock off the street theater ? Your "comrades in arms" are starting to frighten the horses.
Besides, some of them really need to work on their Finer Points of Clothing And Personal Grooming. I mean, it's like this, man; I saw one of those GLBT parades a month or so ago, and....well, let's just say that I thought the whole Village People/"Birds of a Feather" thing went out with Frankie Goes to Hollywood, "Soap" and "Hello Larry". So much camp I thought I had accidentally wandered into a RuPaul photo-shoot. C'mon !! It's 2008; could we at least have a little "Queer Eye for the Queer Guy", please ?
Your servant,
Lord Karth
And there I was, all set to reconsider my "won't-vote-Republican-ever-again" position due to the Palin announcement, only to find out the Log Cabin Republicans are welcomed with open arms.
Thanks for harshing my mellow.
Reality sucks, but at least I can deal with knowing that the GOP is still just giving lip service to religious conservatives after all.
So far as I know Palin doesn't believe in silencing or harming gay people. I don't think it's realistic to go back to pretending gay people don't exist or that they all like abortion and high taxes. Even from a religious conservative perspective we should be willing to love and listen to people with all kinds of "objective disorders." Whether that be drunks, kleptomaniacs, or gays. If you think that's liberal wishy-washiness you've been on Right-wing blogs too long. I think in many moderate mainline churches comparing gays to kleptomaniacs and drunks would be irritating, to say it among liberals would be outrageous.
As a proud Republican I can say that my wife and I have spoken up quite often on this matter. To the dismay of many shockingly. I think it's important that we accept all people that want to join our party. I think if you share our fundamental beliefs that is what is important. I don't know when sexual preference became a fundamental belief. As far as we are concerned with the gays, we are really not concerned. I really don't see why if you want to get married how that affects me in anyway. I actually believe it's wrong that people get to vote on that it should be covered in the pursuit of happiness. Gays get married all you want Just vote McCain! God Bless!
"only to find out the Log Cabin Republicans are welcomed with open arms."
You can sleep comfortably knowing the Log Cabin Republicans are kept on the fringes and far-reaches of the party. No speaker at a GOP Convention is going to speak in favor of gay rights. The only openly gay person to ever speak at a convention--Jim Kolbe--wasn't allowed to speak about gay rights. They are still largely treated like pariah.
Daniel, if gays wouldn't spend so much time trying to persuade everyone that their "lifestyle" was normal (while many of them behave in public in a very abnormal way), regular folks would be happy. Even if regular folks consider their behavior to be sinful, we accept them as just another part of our community and are happy to leave the accounting to God.
Thank you, AML, for the voice of reason.
Homosexuality is a perversion and an aberrant behavior that is inherently sinful. I pity those who are caught up in it, but I am angry at those who would promote it as just another "lifestyle" for they are cultural insurgents bent on destroying common morality.
If gays would shut up about it, not one person in 100,000 would give a damn what they do in private.
For what it's worth, I served on my local and state Log Cabin boards several years ago. I stepped down partly because it felt like we were doing a lot to educate Republicans on gay issues, but not nearly enough to educate the gay community on Republican issues. I've been accused of being heteronormative (a hilarious word), which I happily accept. I don't really need to know or want to see what some people do in their bedrooms, and I don't think that flaunting that is a successful strategy for gaining acceptance. Oh well.
And to tie this in with another thread, I left the national organization when they decided to give an award to Andrew Sullivan. If he is what the organization wants to hold up as a model of a gay conservative, I don't want to have anything to do with them. We don't all think alike.
"I am angry at those who would promote it as just another "lifestyle" for they are cultural insurgents bent on destroying common morality."
Being married four times is a lifestyle I think both Catholics and Orthodoxers reject. Is Mickey Rooney a cultural insurgent?
I'm fine if it's just another lifestyle or another culture. It's the idea that it's more than that and we must celebrate, rather than just tolerate, that I have a problem with. People have free-will and all that. If they want to be atheist or eat Moose on Good Friday that's their right in a free society. They don't have the right to demand everyone agree with them or that everyone "celebrate our love." There's plenty of heterosexual love I'm not going to celebrate either.
All of you make me sick....I am a gay black man...and yes a republican.
You all make me ashamed to me a part of the GOP.
As a black man....I did not choose my color......as a gay man...I did not choose to be gay.......NO ONE CHOOSES TO BE DISCRIMATED AGAINST. God our savior created me in his image....and this is who I am. I have been with the same man for 10 years in a faithful relationship.....however you idiots would validate Brittney Spears many marriages before my one committed one. I am sick and tired of meeting hypocratical republicans and seeing those like those closeted gay congressman and preachers say that being gay is sinful and they are living it......
As I am a product of an interacial marriage....5 years before my birth...there was laws on the books saying that my parents union would be illegal...is that right....of course not...as my parents did not choose there race or their hetrosexuality.......as I did not choose my homosexuality.....so for all of you out there that do not feel that gays should have the right to get married...serve in our military or should not have the same legal rights....you are no better than your garden variety racist.....
The GOP will never get the votes of middle america, african american, and republican moderates if you all dont chill out and treat EVERY AMERICAN equally......The more concervatives support McCain...the more I am looking at Obama.....
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