A reader sends this link to an NPR story about pedophilic abuse among Hasidic Jews. Excerpt:
Four ultra-Orthodox rabbis in Brooklyn have been sued or arrested for abusing boys in the past three years. That's a tiny fraction of the actual abuse, says Hella Winston, author of Unchosen: The Hidden Lives of Hasidic Rebels. She says that in researching her book, she encountered dozens of alleged victims who told her sexual abuse is an open secret in the Hasidic community. But the community is so insulated and the rabbis are so powerful that few dare to come forward."If I become known as an informer, then people also won't want to have anything to do with my family," she explains. "They won't want to marry my children, won't want to give me a job. This is the fear."
But more and more accusations against rabbis have begun to circulate. Last August, politician and radio talk show host Dov Hikind devoted an hourlong program to sexual abuse. He interviewed Pearl Engelman, who spoke under an alias, about her son's case.
The calls flooded in. Hikind, who is an Orthodox Jew himself, represents this area in the New York Assembly. He says after the show, people started showing up at his office with their stories.
"Fifty, 60, 70 people," he says, "but you got to remember for each person who comes forward, God only knows how many people are not coming forward."
Hikind refuses to release the names of alleged perpetrators, although he is working with the district attorney's office. He says the people who confided in him are afraid to go public, which creates a perfect situation for abusers.
"If you're a pedophile, the best place for you to come to are some of the Jewish communities," he says. "Why? Because you can be a pedophile and no one's going to do anything. Even if they catch you, you'll get away with it."
"To me, it does not make sense," says Niederman, of the United Jewish Organizations, "that so many people have been violated and for so many years they have been quiet. Something does not add up. It's being blown out of proportion -- big time."
I don't know any of the facts in this case, so in theory, it might be being blown out of proportion. But I very much doubt it. We've been to this rodeo before. Catholics went through the same thing -- denial of how serious the problem was, until it could no longer be denied. I hope God gives the Hasidic Jewish victims of sexual abuse the courage to come forward -- and others within that community the grace to support them. And I hope God gives the DA the guts to go after the rabbis and others against whom there is credible evidence of abuse.

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Re: abuse and incest in religious communities vs. the community at large:
Many years ago (1980s or so), my one-time supervisor in Kansas City served a stint on the grand jury (he lived in Kearney, MO, so this was Clay County, not Jackson County), and one of the comments he made about it was how surprised and shocked he was to learn of all the incest, abuse, etc., cases.
That's quite right, Eric, and those were only the cases that came to the attention of the grand jury! That's got to be a small minority of actual occurrences.
One of my best friends was a victim of incest, growing up in a Hasidic community in Brooklyn in the 1970s and 80s. He survived, rebelled... I really need to read this book. Thank you for posting this story, Rod!
Yeah, the prevalence of incest and abuse is always a big surprise to everyone but the victims . . . and once any of those cases comes to light, the victims always get the same treatment:
You're the ONLY ONE. That never, ever happened before or since.
How dare you accuse such an important, virtuous man! BE SILENT!
Why would you even want to talk about something so disgusting? This just makes you look bad.
How shameful! There is obviously something wrong with YOU, or this never would have happened.
You must have been asking for it.
You must have consented. You could have avoided this if you'd tried harder.
You have poor judgement. You should have known better than to get yourself into this situation.
You must have somehow seduced this poor, poor man. Such a good man would never have done anything like that if you hadn't made him.
You are reflecting badly on our important, righteous community. Why don't you just go away?
You're exaggerating. It really wasn't so bad. Stop whining.
God will punish you for saying such things.
You're just a slut/bad girl/bad boy/anti-Catholic/mentally ill/atheist/sinner/homosexual--why should we care about YOU?
You just want money/attention.
And finally, the perennial bleating of "But why can't you just be nice and FORGIVE?" (i.e. pretend it all never happened so we won't have to deal with it.)
This circular rut is getting so deep the religious authorities probably couldn't see out of it even if they wanted to.
Kudos to sigaliris for summing up the shaming arguments used to smother the truth. This link here is to a lengthy list of excuses that another cult, Tibetan Buddhists, use to silence their troublemakers. Called "A Flaming Fistful of Reactionary Wisdom," it shows that dogmatism in add of rascality transcends cultural boundaries.
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