Carrie Prejean sex tape scandal

Gerard Nadal,

You and Stari Momak remind me of an old segregationist, Judge Leander Perez. He disparaged the "filthy little negroes" for not knowing the "meaning of legitimacy." How can a child not born in wedlock easily understand or respect its meaning? How can he be held accountable for the choices of his parents?

You complain that gay relationships aren't monogamous and yet you demean them at every opportunity. How will relationships between gays ever assume the importance and dignity they should when families and society attack them? How can Christians complain that gay relationships are weak when they exclude us from the military, from employment, from housing, from equal access to insurance, and, in Christian Uganda, from even life itself for trying to form them?

As for Stari Momak's comments about gays not needing government sanction, I must say I'm flattered. Certainly, heterosexuals need sanction from Church and State to avoid having children out of wedlock and inflating the rate of violent and property crime, the rate of abortion, and cheapening the value of life.

Good comment, Geoff G. You asked how heterosexuals act when all the supports to good behavior are removed. I would say, look how heterosexuals act, even granted all the supports they take for granted. I've seen a precious few heterosexual marriages where the partners honored and supported each other, raised children in love, and took delight in each other's physical presence. But I've seen so many more where children were born by accident, for selfish reasons, in anger and ambivalence, where the adults' egos came first, and children came second or third. I've seen families where children were considered a burden, an annoyance, the wrong sex, wrong personality, troublesome and expensive, blamed for their parents' inability to deal with life. Don't think for a moment that conservatives and religious people never reject or neglect their kids. I've seen the hetero families who covertly use and abuse their children, sexually or emotionally. And God forbid they grow up and choose a profession, a marriage partner, or a faith that doesn't suit the parents' ego needs.

I've seen so many marriages where hetero sex made one or both partners miserable. I've seen heterosexuals who demanded sexual activities that humiliated a partner, or who denied the legitimate affection that their partner craved. There's only one thing sadder than an angry divorce, and that's a long-term relationship that curdles without ending, that turns vindictive or indifferent and lasts for years. Children suffer from heterosexual divorce. They also suffer from living for years with lies, affairs, coldness and anger, while being loaded up with a demand for phony gratitude, because "at least we stayed together." And yet, with all these faults and tragedies, and in spite of the many ways that heterosexuals waste and spoil the privileges they've been granted, we still let them marry.

Because you don't have to be a saint to earn the right to choose a partner and set out on life together, to do the best you can. All you have to be is human.

The latest on this story is that the boyfriend who leaked the tape says there are approximately 15 or so more of these and that she's definitely not the girl she makes herself out to be. He said he's never seen anyone who lies so much. He also says that she was NOT 17 at the time but 20. So the plot thickens.