There’s been a lot of back and forth in the office today about the proper way to appreciate a woman’s, er… ‘assets’. Naturally, it was brought on by the pictures of Presidents Obama and Sarkozy apparently staring at the rear end of a comely young lady who was passing by during a photo op. I think Gawker did a great job debunking the whole Obama Ass Ogle Scandal of ’09, making a great case that our sainted prez wasn’t ogling anyone inappropriately at the G8 summit. (GMA also had a funny video letting Obama off the hook.) However, I doubt one can say as much for French President Nicolas Sarkozy, who was fairly craning his neck (and popping his eyes) to keep the lass’s lower half in sight.
So, the question is, Is there an ethical (or unethical) way to admire a fine-looking member of the opposite sex?
Consensus among the women here at the office was, Sarkozy made them shudder. There’s a way to be discreet and still get your fill (if you must), they agreed, without offending anyone. But the resident male who was close enough to chime in said, “it’s not sleazy, it just means he’s a heterosexual man who loves women…”
Personally, I think it all lies in the consciousness of other people’s feelings by the person doing the ogling. I enjoy being admired, but I don’t enjoy being harassed. I don’t want to feel preyed on, disgraced, objectified or humiliated, so if that’s what’s in your head, have the grace to hide it in your behavior. I’ll do the same when I’m checking you out.
And when it comes to world leaders… well, I hold them to a higher standard, frankly. If you’re going to be representing my country on camera at a multi-national summit, don’t shame me by leering at a teenaged gal’s derriere, no matter how shapely it may be. Your behavior reflects the morals and values of an entire nation. Hear that, Sarkozy?
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posted July 10, 2009 at 3:30 pm
Great post. It’s certainly wonderful to be innocently admired–a sweet smile or a nice compliment could really make anyone’s day. But it’s another thing to snap your neck trying to get another look while licking your lips and making crude comments. It’s enough to make you want to whip out your pepper spray. I’m not saying Sarkozy was whispering “DAMN GIRL! BABY GOT BACK!” in the video/photo though maybe that’s what that finger to his mouth was covering up.
posted July 10, 2009 at 3:36 pm
HYSTERICAL!!!! Hhhmmmm…. “Sainted” is not the first word that comes to everyone’s lips when speaking about our current prez, especially mine. I like him well enough, but he’s human. No matter how hard he tries to appear otherwise; he is not a saint, he’s just a man. Having said that, I do think the Gawker breakdown is hysterical and mostly right, but I also think there may have been a wee glance–I can see it!!! And why not? As you say yourself, there’s something nice about a quiet appreciation and in no way could a glance be seen differently. And, quite frankly, Sarkozy wasn’t all that gross (this time). Am I missing something? I smell American-on-French bigotry!! I happen to like Sarkozy and his love of beautiful women. His culture is different from ours. And, I know that a lot of Yanks don’t like ‘em Frogs, and may be predisposed to thinking of them all a certain way, but … Hillary, I too would love to hold our leaders–all of them–to higher standards but a few of our current and recent (Craig, Sanford, Clinton, Spitzer, on and on and on and on) have already degraded that. It’s like, man, THIS is nothing! I think the whole thing is FunnY!!!! And I love this post!
posted July 10, 2009 at 6:19 pm
I’m loving that sweet booty. Lemme hold some gurl.
posted July 10, 2009 at 7:04 pm
He DID NOT bow to Queen Elizabeth II.
He DID bow to the King Abdullah.
He DID check it.
50 Cent:
“Lil’ mama show me how you move it,
Go ahead put ya back into it,
Do ya thang like there aint nothin to it,
Shake.. shake.. shake that a$$ girl.”
posted July 10, 2009 at 10:01 pm
Disgrace !!!
My heart breaks for Michelle
This Man obviously has little self control.
Whats next an affair ( like Clinton) and then a Baby( like Jesse Jackson)
I am not Judging him. However, He is the President of the United States and he knows full well all eyes would be on him and he did not give a damn about how his actions would affect his reputation or hurt his wife and children.
Lets pray for Michelle and her girls. And may God forgive Obama and his foolish, childish behaviour.
I have lost 90% of repect for him. he performed like a typical …????
posted July 10, 2009 at 10:44 pm
My goodness! Such blatant stereotyping! That is certainly more unethical than a bum-glance. Seems a little silly to imply it has anything to do with his race or sex. (Although I am guilty of saying it was because he was a normal man. I should have said a normal person.) I’ve had a glance at a bum from time to time, and you’re missing out if you haven’t. A lot of politicians recently, and throughout time, have done a lot worse. And, I don’t know man in the world (and I know a lot of GREAT men) who don’t look from time to time. Looking at the sea and swimming in it are two very different things. I think Michelle and the girls will be just fine. She looks like a woman who can handle herself and her man pretty well anyway.
posted July 11, 2009 at 12:31 am
Oh, Obama was definitely checking that ass out… and Sarkozy is trying his diplomatic best to keep from cracking up.
posted July 11, 2009 at 8:50 am
The idiocy of people’s comments never fail to amaze me. One glance of a photo out of context of the full video does not tell the full story, which apparently has not been seen by those commenting. Does anyone ever check the facts before they comment on a blog here at B-Net? It’s a shame that we live in a society which allows fallacious perceptions to become pseudo reality. Check your facts first! Go look up the full video to verify if that is what Obama was doing before you jump on the blame band wagon. I thought those who participate in B-net are people of faith and values? Where is the value in truth? Where is the value in non-judgment? Where is the value in honesty?
posted July 11, 2009 at 12:13 pm
“Our sainted prez”? Puhleeze, he may be YOUR sainted prez but for the 48% that voted for the adults he’s just another socialist loser doing his best to destroy our country.
posted July 11, 2009 at 1:52 pm
For all of you who said that you have lost respect for Obama, you never had any for him in the first place. Stop being so dam judgmental about everything you see. The media love to blow shit out of proportion. Out of all the picture they could have taken of the president, they conveniently took one of him allegedly checking out another woman’s ass. Due to Obama’s behavior, values and integrity; everyone thinks that he is a saint. He is human! I’m not saying that it is right for him to be blatantly checking out other woman. But, I believe that Michelle knows that people are jealous of their marriage and will do anything to see it fall apart. Michelle is not worried she knows that she has good man.
posted July 11, 2009 at 2:47 pm
Ed, I was being ironic…
posted July 11, 2009 at 4:44 pm
Where is the value in not taking yourself so seriously? LOL Who are the people of B-net? I’m a Christian, pro-choice, white, pro gay-marriage, pro death penalty, moderate, with very little money, living in a huge apartment, pretending to be good at yoga and shopping at the farmers’ market, but eating donuts sometimes and I’m as honest as I can be and I try not to judge but whatevs, I do cause I am normal. I saw the whole video. Still and all, it’s funny to think he was looking. And maybe there was a glance. Fact is, there wouldn’t be anything wrong with it if he had been. Now take a break and laugh a bit, at yourself first then me
posted July 11, 2009 at 5:38 pm
@Jason -
The video is out there.
Plenty of people have seen it.
Just because they don’t agree with the interpretation of what you saw doesn’t make them idiots any more than you.
posted July 13, 2009 at 11:53 am
Pretty hard not to notice and she is molto fina…, where is the footage of her walking toward them? Did she smile and wave too at both of them? I’m sure she enjoyed the attentions while she got it, but Obama moved on to the business at hand, now Sarkozy…..
posted July 13, 2009 at 11:57 am
Don’t lose respect for either! Wake up and understand male-bonding, “hey that’s good!”, and “hey, that stinks!” It’s in every normal guy- only an “unnormal” guy with questionable gender could miss that passing by!!! None of us buys everything we see on a menu!!
posted July 13, 2009 at 9:25 pm
He was gawking, no doubt of it. Had that been a Republican, you would have heard the stuck pig squeals from everyone from Barney Frank to Nancy Pelosi. I believe he disgraced himself, shamed his small children and disrespected his wife.
posted July 21, 2009 at 10:23 pm
I did not vote for the man. I would not vote for him. He most definitely was scoping the young girl’s stuff. I find it amusing that so many otherwise vain and self-important people have bent over backward to throw their dignity on the ground before Obama lest he be stained.
Bull. This is one of the few things he’s done that doesn’t make me want to unelect him. I don’t think he intentionally ogled the young lass. The move was reflexive and involuntary. He’d have had to be thinking “don’t look at her ass, don’t look at her ass!” to avoid looking. He was distracted by other things and thus fell victim to his instincts. It’s so seldom that anything genuine ever comes from Obama, that this is refreshing. I hope once Cap and Trade and the healthcare debacle crashes and burns, he starts acting like a regular guy and, more importantly, people start treating him like one.
posted August 4, 2009 at 10:28 am
I agree that the video exonerates Obama (and indicts Sarkozy!). It’s great to see such a great illustration of how pictures can, in fact, sometimes lie.
I just want to note that I don’t think the typical straight male naturally intends to be demeaning when responding visually to attractive women. It may be that culture teaches men and boys to bond over ogling women who seem to be unattainable – perhaps as a means of coping with the unattainability. (I don’t think this is exclusively male behavior either; women and girls are also more likely to ogle in an obvious manner when in groups.) Turning it into an unequal power dynamic is not okay, and it’s more so when the overall social inequality makes such antics symbolic of the whole. But the simple instinct to notice and enjoy some eye candy is fine.
The ironic thing is, the more insecure (and thus usually more harmless) an ogler is, the more “demeaning” it might feel to the ogled, since the insecure ogler is less likely to actually make eye contact and approach with conversation. It’s usually the ones who know how to turn a glance into a potential encounter with some banter who present more of a real risk.
posted November 5, 2009 at 7:38 pm
How can you honestly say Obama was NOT?
Come on now…