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Hillary Fields: November 2009 Archives

Friday November 20, 2009

Mooching Off Your Parents: An Adult Child's Perspective

When is it time to cut the parental purse-strings? It seems these days that's happening later and later - or never, at least among some of the people I know. Maybe it's because our parents' generation earned more or saved more wisely than my own, but I seem to be part of a subset that's (at least partially) subsidized by loving, doting parents.

One friend I know uses her mother as her mortgage holder. Others accept help putting their kids through private school. I myself have been the recipient of my family's largess too often to enumerate. It's been an enormous help.

But is it wrong?

Wednesday November 18, 2009

On Black Friday, Would You Push Other Holiday Shoppers Out Of The Way?

We all know what's just around the bend: Black Friday! Even as I write out my shopping list of Thanksgiving cooking ingredients, I know that the day after, stuffed with turkey, I'll be eyeballing the 2009 Black Friday sales. And this year, with the recession hitting so hard, there are sure to be incredible deals for those who can lift their somnolent selves off the couch (even to get to the computer and shop online) and engage in some hardcore retail therapy.

But in recent years, the frenzy for bargains has led to some ugly incidents, such as the Wal-Mart employee who was trampled to death last November.

So my "What-if Wednesday" question for you bargain-hunting shoppers is: How far would you go to get the best deals?


Have any horror stories or funny tales of Black Friday sales past? Tell us in the comments field below. 

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Monday November 16, 2009

My "Oblication" Vacation: Holiday Survival Tips For That Stressful Family Trip

Oblication: I thought I invented the word, but one quick web search, and I find I'm not alone. Nope, I guess I will not be the only one trepidatiously packing her best behavior along with her sunscreen and her flip flops this December for an in-law-tastic family holiday vacation.

Now, what you need to know is, I struck gold with my in-laws, in much the same way I did with my husband. Not only are they smart, reasonable, caring, thoughtful, kind, funny, and etc., they even lean politically in the same direction as we do so we don't argue heinously over current events at the dinner table. But best of all, they live all the way out in Alaska. And we all know what they say about absence....

So normally, we're all very fond indeed.

My in-laws are generous with their time and advice, and, this vacation season, are being more than generous with their timeshare property too, giving up an extra week of their own time so we can all stay together for a week and enjoy the vacation together.

So why do I feel like a condemned prisoner being led, drum-roll and all, to the gallows?

(Read on for Hillary's holiday survival tips...)

Friday November 13, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Habitual Lateness: An Ethical Or Etiquette Issue?

We all have that one friend or family member who's guilty--they say they'll meet you for dinner at a quarter to seven, and seven-thirty rolls around before you catch a glimpse of their apologetic face. No matter how often you glance irritably at your watch as they breeze in, no matter how obviously it irks you, they simply cannot be on time.

If you don't have that friend or relative, you probably are that friend or relative.

What gives? And why does it matter?

Wednesday November 11, 2009

I Support Same-Sex Marriage. Why Don't You?

I think the Facebook group called "Against gay marriage? Then shut the f*ck up and don't get one" says it best. Here in NY, Governor Paterson (of whom I am not, generally speaking, a fan) has put a resolution calling for a vote on a bill allowing same-sex marriage on the state's agenda. That makes me just a little bit more likely to vote for him.

I cannot imagine another ethical position to take other than supporting our fellow citizens' right to marry. To criminalize love, to deny a portion of our society equal rights under the law, simply because of your fears, prejudices, or religious views, is despicable to me.

Monday November 9, 2009

Sammy Sosa Bleached Skin Rumors: Sad, Scary, Or None Of Our Business?

Is Sammy Sosa following in Michael Jackson's footsteps? Recent photos of Sosa show the retired Cubs baseball star with dramatically lighter skin after what he calls 'skin rejuvenation treatments'.

Friday November 6, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Kimberly Munley: One Brave Police Officer, And The Hero Of Fort Hood

I'm not one of those people who tosses out the word "hero" comfortably. I feel that news accounts of folks who are just doing the decent, ethical thing in a moment of crisis sometimes blow the term out of proportion and devalue it. Not so with police Sgt. Kimberly Munley, the hero of the Fort Hood's terrible incident yesterday. She, in my opinion, is the real deal.

Friday November 6, 2009

The Box: Would YOU Push The Button?

Cameron Diaz's new movie (also starring Frank Langella and James Marsden) is out today, posing the moral question, "Would you kill a stranger to keep your own family well? Watch the trailer and let us know:

Wednesday November 4, 2009

How To Get Out Of Jury Duty (Ethically)

How is it that two days of jury duty can feel like two months in purgatory? Can sitting in a room with nothing to do but read a good book, away from the demands of one's job, the ringing of...

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