Everyday Ethics

Recently in By Hillary Fields Category

Friday November 20, 2009

Mooching Off Your Parents: An Adult Child's Perspective

When is it time to cut the parental purse-strings? It seems these days that's happening later and later - or never, at least among some of the people I know. Maybe it's because our parents' generation earned more or saved more wisely than my own, but I seem to be part of a subset that's (at least partially) subsidized by loving, doting parents.

One friend I know uses her mother as her mortgage holder. Others accept help putting their kids through private school. I myself have been the recipient of my family's largess too often to enumerate. It's been an enormous help.

But is it wrong?

Wednesday November 18, 2009

On Black Friday, Would You Push Other Holiday Shoppers Out Of The Way?

We all know what's just around the bend: Black Friday! Even as I write out my shopping list of Thanksgiving cooking ingredients, I know that the day after, stuffed with turkey, I'll be eyeballing the 2009 Black Friday sales. And this year, with the recession hitting so hard, there are sure to be incredible deals for those who can lift their somnolent selves off the couch (even to get to the computer and shop online) and engage in some hardcore retail therapy.

But in recent years, the frenzy for bargains has led to some ugly incidents, such as the Wal-Mart employee who was trampled to death last November.

So my "What-if Wednesday" question for you bargain-hunting shoppers is: How far would you go to get the best deals?


Have any horror stories or funny tales of Black Friday sales past? Tell us in the comments field below. 

Subscribe to receive updates from Everyday Ethics or follow us on Twitter!


Monday November 16, 2009

My "Oblication" Vacation: Holiday Survival Tips For That Stressful Family Trip

Oblication: I thought I invented the word, but one quick web search, and I find I'm not alone. Nope, I guess I will not be the only one trepidatiously packing her best behavior along with her sunscreen and her flip flops this December for an in-law-tastic family holiday vacation.

Now, what you need to know is, I struck gold with my in-laws, in much the same way I did with my husband. Not only are they smart, reasonable, caring, thoughtful, kind, funny, and etc., they even lean politically in the same direction as we do so we don't argue heinously over current events at the dinner table. But best of all, they live all the way out in Alaska. And we all know what they say about absence....

So normally, we're all very fond indeed.

My in-laws are generous with their time and advice, and, this vacation season, are being more than generous with their timeshare property too, giving up an extra week of their own time so we can all stay together for a week and enjoy the vacation together.

So why do I feel like a condemned prisoner being led, drum-roll and all, to the gallows?

(Read on for Hillary's holiday survival tips...)

Friday November 13, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Habitual Lateness: An Ethical Or Etiquette Issue?

We all have that one friend or family member who's guilty--they say they'll meet you for dinner at a quarter to seven, and seven-thirty rolls around before you catch a glimpse of their apologetic face. No matter how often you glance irritably at your watch as they breeze in, no matter how obviously it irks you, they simply cannot be on time.

If you don't have that friend or relative, you probably are that friend or relative.

What gives? And why does it matter?

Wednesday November 11, 2009

I Support Same-Sex Marriage. Why Don't You?

I think the Facebook group called "Against gay marriage? Then shut the f*ck up and don't get one" says it best. Here in NY, Governor Paterson (of whom I am not, generally speaking, a fan) has put a resolution calling for a vote on a bill allowing same-sex marriage on the state's agenda. That makes me just a little bit more likely to vote for him.

I cannot imagine another ethical position to take other than supporting our fellow citizens' right to marry. To criminalize love, to deny a portion of our society equal rights under the law, simply because of your fears, prejudices, or religious views, is despicable to me.

Monday November 9, 2009

Sammy Sosa Bleached Skin Rumors: Sad, Scary, Or None Of Our Business?

Is Sammy Sosa following in Michael Jackson's footsteps? Recent photos of Sosa show the retired Cubs baseball star with dramatically lighter skin after what he calls 'skin rejuvenation treatments'.

Friday November 6, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Kimberly Munley: One Brave Police Officer, And The Hero Of Fort Hood

I'm not one of those people who tosses out the word "hero" comfortably. I feel that news accounts of folks who are just doing the decent, ethical thing in a moment of crisis sometimes blow the term out of proportion and devalue it. Not so with police Sgt. Kimberly Munley, the hero of the Fort Hood's terrible incident yesterday. She, in my opinion, is the real deal.

Friday November 6, 2009

The Box: Would YOU Push The Button?

Cameron Diaz's new movie (also starring Frank Langella and James Marsden) is out today, posing the moral question, "Would you kill a stranger to keep your own family well? Watch the trailer and let us know:

Wednesday November 4, 2009

How To Get Out Of Jury Duty (Ethically)

How is it that two days of jury duty can feel like two months in purgatory? Can sitting in a room with nothing to do but read a good book, away from the demands of one's job, the ringing of...

Saturday October 31, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Losing The Halloween Spirit: Trick Or... Hide From The Kiddies?

I, who think on Halloween so fondly, savoring everything from its sugary overload to its creepy crawly costumyness, have today crossed a line into fuddy-duddery that I never dreamed would come to pass. That's right. When our doorbell rang, I hid from the trick or treaters.

Thursday October 29, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Michael Jackson Autopsy Pictures: Innocent Curiosity Or Ghoulish Obsession?

For those whose morbid curiosity is driving them to take a peek at Michael Jackson's autopsy pictures, I say, if you must look, keep a moment of pity in your heart. Keep a spark of humanity in your mind. One day it will be you on the cold slab.

Tuesday October 27, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields, Civics

Jury Duty: Do You Try To Worm Your Way Out Of It?

I've got jury duty - pleh! I seem to get called every time I vote, renew my license, or, heck, breathe too loudly while walking past a government office. This time 'round, I even got summoned for TWO courts at roughly the same time, so I have to juggle how to serve and which one takes precedence.

Sunday October 25, 2009

Daylight Savings Time 2009: Why Can't We Keep It All Year Round?

First off, no, it's not today that you have to change your clocks. This year, we "Fall Back" at 2 AM on Sunday, November 1st. Secondly, I'd like to take issue with a whole society adjusting its schedule twice a year.

Saturday October 24, 2009

Rat Stuck In NYC Sidewalk Creates Quite A Moral Kerfuffle

I was reading Gothamist this morning and saw what was, simultaneously, the saddest and most hilarious little 'human' interest piece posted last night: a rat got stuck in a crack in a New York City sidewalk and a reader snapped a photo.

Thursday October 22, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Help, I Caught a Resentment! How Do I Throw It Back?

Grudges. Not elegant, ladylike, or particularly admirable. Pour on the Pepto, bring on the Bismol, I've got a burning resentment. I won't say against whom or what. I'll just say it's the kind where, when you wake up at 5AM when the cat mews to tell you she's hungry, you roll over, accidentally have a stray thought about the issue, and boom! You're burning, hopping, fiery mad.

Wednesday October 21, 2009

Yours, Mine, And Ours: How Do We Decide How To Spend Marital Assets?

Like most couples, my husband and I have limited funds. Deciding how to spend them can be a source of tension, to put it delicately. Last night, my husband and I had one of our "delicate" moments. My husband wanted to take a class at the local college. I wanted to repaint the apartment. To do either one would put off any number of other projects/pleasures we'd had in mind.

Tuesday October 20, 2009

Medical Marijuana: Hey, Man, Does The Fed's New Policy Bum You Out?

Me? I think marijuana should be subject to the same laws as alcohol. The way I see it, they're similarly dangerous--so regulate pot, make it aboveboard, (or, if that's too radical, available by prescription only in every state), remove the stigma, take the drug cartels out of the equation. Oh, and also, how about making alcohol a bit harder for kids to get, while we're at it? Or at least educating them better about its dangers?

Monday October 19, 2009

Racy Halloween Costumes For Kids: Outrageous, Sad, And... Inevitable?

Sexy Halloween costumes for kids are more fashionable than ever. Is this a trend parents can prevent? Should manufacturers be held accountable for marketing such costumes to tweens and even younger children?

Sunday October 18, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Balloon Boy Charges Expected To Be Filed: Justice For The Family That Cried 'Balloon'?

Looks like it's official: Balloon Boy was a hoax. Or at least, authorities are charging the Heene family with perpetrating one. Are you angry? Crying out for blood? Do you feel the Heene family exploited Falcon and their other children for gain, and is this a trend we're seeing more and more in these reality-show-ridden times?

Saturday October 17, 2009

Small-Time Ethics: Are My Priorities In Life Out Of Whack?

Ah, folks. In a world full of Louisiana officials who won't marry interracial couples, celebrity chefs battling it out with their fiancees, boys failing to fly off in balloons, and politicians winning premature prizes, why is it I care so much more about my own little quibbles?

Friday October 16, 2009

Falcon Heene: The Boy Who Cried 'Balloon'?

Questions are being raised about the Heene family. Apparently, they're known for their showmanship, publicity seeking, and have appeared on reality shows more than once. Is Balloon Boy a hoax? Was this all a publicity stunt? Falcon Heene's CNN comments leave one questioning.

Wednesday October 14, 2009

Does Courtesy Fall By The Wayside During A Stressful Day?

Short answer? For me, yes. And apparently, so does bloggery. I'd like to apologize for being light on the ethical pondering the last couple days, folks. It's been a heckuva week at work, and I've been so swamped I'm literally...

Tuesday October 13, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

The Car Accident That Wasn't

Yesterday I almost got in an accident. Worst part was, it was pretty clearly my fault. I was in unfamiliar territory, and I realized at the last second that I needed to be in the left lane, the turning lane,...

Saturday October 10, 2009

Should We Vaccinate Health Care Workers For Swine Flu Whether They Like It Or Not?

Health care workers are on the front lines of the battle against H1N1 this year. So why not look at the question of whether it ought to be mandatory for them to receive swine flu vaccinations using a military...

Friday October 9, 2009

NASA's LCROSS Moon Bombing Mission: A Bit Egregious?

Not content with the destruction on our own world, we now lob explosives at other celestial bodies. What a piece of work is man. Just kidding. I think it's marvelous we're studying water content on the moon, and I'm excited...

Friday October 9, 2009

Friday Failure: Just Because You Can, Doesn't Mean You Should

That's one of my favorite sayings. Now, I'm not a slogan sort of a gal. I hate aphorisms as much as I love alliteration. But I really think it's great advice in so many situations. Like: just because you can...

Thursday October 8, 2009

Nice People Rock... And I Want Them To Know It!

I just have to give a shout out to a woman named LuJean. I don't know her last name, but I do know she's the single nicest, most helpful sales lady I've ever run across at Macy's. We all know how...

Wednesday October 7, 2009

Office Politics: How Do You Work With Someone Who's "Impossible"?

Ever wondered whether you're speaking different languages (or inhabiting different planets) when you're trying to communicate with a particular coworker-who-shall-not-be-named? Ever felt like tearing your hair out (or theirs) every time you're forced to cooperate with a certain so-and-so on...

Monday October 5, 2009

Judge Not... Or Not?

We shouldn't make snap decisions, right? At least, that's the message I believe one of our commenters was trying to get across when he (or she) wrote in response to our David Letterman post, "Hero Or Creep": Might there...

Friday October 2, 2009

Getting the Last Word: Petty, But So Desperately Satisfying

Today in the grocery store checkout line, a regal-looking elderly woman gave me a hard time. It burned me up so much I walked out of there fuming and practically muttering to myself, rehashing the incident and thinking, boy,...

Friday October 2, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

David Letterman: Hero Or Creep?

By now you've probably heard: David Letterman's been the victim of a blackmail attempt to extort $ 2 million to keep quiet about sexual affairs he had with female staffers. Instead, Letterman chose to go on the air and, well,...

Thursday October 1, 2009

Child Adopted Then Returned: Did Anita Tedaldi Do The Right Thing?

Oh, boy do I not want to blog about this. Talk about a topic where I know not whereof I speak... Anita Tedaldi, who first posted an essay about her experiences as the adoptive mother of baby "D" in the...

Wednesday September 30, 2009

Earthquake, Tsunami Strike American Samoa: Will You Reach Out A Hand To Aid Those Suffering This Faraway Disaster?

It's being reported upwards of a hundred lives may have been lost in Samoa and American Samoa, tiny South Pacific islands far, far away from most of us (assuming you're a continental American reading this). Closer to home, floods...

Tuesday September 29, 2009

Voting, Great And Small

Today in NYC there's a primary runoff election to decide who'll be the next democratic candidates for city comptroller and public advocate. And, in a city of 8 million, something like a whopping 170,000 are expected to vote. As the...

Monday September 28, 2009

Save The Boobs: PSA Or TMI?

I'm on the fence about in-your-face public service announcements, as my prior post on sugary soda indicates. But this one, called "Save the Boobs", which you can watch on ABC News, really takes shock ads to a new level. Jiggling breasts,...

Sunday September 27, 2009

Polanski Arrested En Route To Zurich Film Festival: Belated Justice?

According to CNN, legendary film director Roman Polanski was on his way to receive a lifetime achievement award in Switzerland when he was grabbed up by police on a warrant issued in 1978. Said the Zurich Film Festival that is now sans...

Saturday September 26, 2009

Here's To "Justice!" Harvard Moral Philosophy Class To Appear On PBS!

Fascinating news! I just read that PBS will air a series based on an edited version of a wildly popular Harvard philosophy class on ethics and morality. The class, called "Justice: What's the Right Thing to Do?" is the brainchild...

Saturday September 26, 2009

Fighting In Front Of The Kids: Never, Sometimes, Or... They'll Get Over It?

I'd like to pose a question for all the parents out there -- and for all those who lived through tough family situations as they were growing up. Is it OK for parents to fight in front of their kids?I'm no...

Thursday September 24, 2009

Do We Need The Ten Commandments To Lead Ethical Lives?

I'd have to say... no. I mean, I had to look them up to be sure I knew them all correctly (I didn't), and I still consider myself a fairly ethical person. Heck, even some of our most outspoken bible-thumping political...

Wednesday September 23, 2009

What-If Wednesday: When A Friend Does A Disappearing Act, Should You Seek Them Out?

Ever had a friend who simply vanishes from time to time? Well, I've got three. Yes, three. And not just acquaintances, but dear, close friends. We'll be gabbing on the phone, emailing, hanging out and doing girl stuff like bffs...

Wednesday September 23, 2009

ABC's "Cougar Town" Begs The Question: Are Cougars Victimless Predators?

Yeah, yeah, guys have been robbing the cradle since before there were cradles. But do we like it when they're the culprits? Noooo. We scorn "trophy wives" (a hideous moniker for women to throw at other women, IMO) and look...

Saturday September 19, 2009

Pedicures: Why Do They Make Me Uneasy?

Call it a case of white liberal guilt, but I'm uncomfy getting pedicures.I love how they look, and I'm hopeless at giving them to myself. Since I was a kid, I've tried; tongue caught fast between teeth, brow furrowed with...

Thursday September 17, 2009

Annie Le's Murder: A Case Of Workplace Violence?

As lab tech Raymond Clark III appeared in a New Haven court today to be charged with the murder of 24-year-old Annie Le, killed by "traumatic asphyxiation" just days before she was to be married and found stuffed in a wall...

Wednesday September 16, 2009

What-If Wednesday: Would You Get In The Middle Of A School Bus Fight?

In the news yesterday, a video surfaced of a kid getting viciously beaten on his school bus in Bellville, Illinois. Other children watched, some cheering, others standing by, others still laughing. One or two looked like they possible wanted to step in,...

Tuesday September 15, 2009

I Wish Everyone Would Shut Up About Patrick Swayze

But it's not because I didn't like him. I actually loved the guy, as much as one can love an actor one doesn't know personally. I thought he was great, sexy, funny, a man's man and a woman's heartthrob. I...

Tuesday September 15, 2009

If Obama Calls Kanye A Jackass Off The Record, Does It Make A Sound?

It does if Terry Moran (Moron?) tweets it.So, the civility debate rages (ironically) on. And as everyone's buzzing, the president's now caught up in it, having remarked off the record in a CNBC interview that he thought Kanye West was...

Tuesday September 15, 2009

Friends And Money: An Uneasy Mix

Neither a borrower nor a lender be,For loan oft loses both itself and friend,And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry.Polonius, Hamlet Act 1, scene 3, 75-77Good advice from one of Shakespeare's flightier characters.This weekend a good friend and I were...

Friday September 11, 2009

Failure Friday: I'm A Pessimist

Is pessimism a moral issue? I am honestly not sure. I think it is a character issue, however, and for today, for me, that's close enough.Why do I want to talk about it? Because "Failure Friday" is where we discuss...

Thursday September 10, 2009

"You Lie!" No, YOU Shame Your Country, Joe Wilson.

Yelling "You lie!" at your president during an address to the joint session of congress. Just... wow. Does disrespect come any more egregious, more shameful, more heinous? If it does, I can't imagine it.Is it because our president is young?...

Wednesday September 9, 2009

Is It Our Civic Duty To Watch President Obama's Health Care Speech To Congress?

Whether you're for it or against it, odds are, you feel passionately about health care reform. But how many of us have even made the attempt to dive into the 1,000-odd page health care reform bill H.R. 3200 "America's Affordable...

Tuesday September 8, 2009

Will You Still Eat Eggs? A Vegetarian Responds

When I posted "Grist For The Mill" a few days ago, I expected it to be controversial. You can't talk about the sad practice of grinding up male baby chicks in egg hatcheries and say you still plan to...

Saturday September 5, 2009

People of Wal-Mart: Watch Your Backs

"A whole website just to laugh at discount shoppers?" you scoff? Why, yes. Apparently, so. I decided I had to run a mention of the site, PeopleOfWalmart.com, after a commenter on our own blog said: "Has anyone ever noticed this...

Thursday September 3, 2009

Grist For The Mill: Knowing Male Chicks Are Tossed Alive Into Grinders, Will You Still Eat Eggs?

Short answer? Yes, I will. An animal rights activist group, Mercy For Animals, brought to light a video of unwanted male chicks at the Hy-Line Hatchery of West Des Moines, Iowa, being tossed alive into grinders because they are...

Thursday September 3, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Underground Ethics: A Subway Series. Part IV: Is Chivalry Dead? And If So, Are We Glad?

Our fellow Beliefnet blogger and editor, Valerie Reiss, just sent me a link and a question: Is chivalry dead on the subway? Why is she asking? Apparently, NY Times city blogger Lynn Harris has had a hard time getting a seat offered to...

Wednesday September 2, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Levi Johnston: At It Again

Apparently, Levi Johnston is all over Vanity Fair, not having exhausted his 15 minutes (or our patience) *quite* yet. Or perhaps with Labor Day coming late this year, it's just a slow news start for September?In any case, he's spilling...

Wednesday September 2, 2009

What-If Wednesday: Would You Skip Work On Your Birthday?

When I ran the idea for this post by Paddy, she snorted and said, "Ha, do people really?" And I mumbled something like, "Er, I'm sure some unethical crumb bums must." (Skip work on their birthdays, that is.)Truth is, I...

Tuesday September 1, 2009

Do We Need To Be Shocked (Or Grossed) Out Of Our Sugar Habit?

Public health announcements: they make me vastly uneasy. And none more so than the new NYC anti-soda campaign, which actually just makes me vastly queasy:Do we really need some in-your-face ad agency terrifying us with PSAs à la the text-messaging teenagers car crash video that...

Sunday August 30, 2009

Jaycee Lee Dugard: Should We Be Nosier Neighbors?

One pictures the kidnapping of young Jaycee Lee Dugard, pictures the little girl snatched from her family, and the mind simply goes blank with horror. Worse--unimaginable even--is the 18 years of slavery and sexual torture she must have endured in that...

Friday August 28, 2009

Failure Friday: I Ignore Unpleasant Things

At the risk of living up to our "popcorn" reputation, here's a truly trivial confession: There are days when I walk right past stuff I simply don't wish to see.Like the cat puke I don't want to clean.We've got two...

Thursday August 27, 2009

Can You Sue For Anorexia? Apparently, Yes. But Should You?

Last week, the Associated Press reported the story of a Pittsburgh mother who is suing her daughter's school district under Title IX after her daughter developed an eating disorder. The disorder, she claims, came about because of bullying by boys...

Wednesday August 26, 2009

Remembering Ted Kennedy: Are We Doing It Right?

It is seldom that we lose someone of such legendary stature as Senator Edward M. Kennedy. Though the media may try to play up every death as a Cronkite or a Mother Theresa, I honestly don't feel the need...

Tuesday August 25, 2009

How To Say "I Quit"--And How NOT To

First off, don't do what I did. I think I have mentioned the mean boss I once had. Well, after several months of being browbeat, the day came when I couldn't take it another minute.  What'd I do? I...

Monday August 24, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Enjoying Chores *Is* Possible. Who Knew?

The other night I was driving home with my husband from the cottage owned by my extended family. It was late, and we had a lot of Sunday stuff still to take care of: laundry, food to plan for the...

Sunday August 23, 2009

Caster Semenya: Should We Take "Her" Word For It?

What is gender? Apparently, as the case of South African runner Caster Semenya is proving, it's less absolute than penis versus vagina. As controversy swirls over whether the gold-medal-winning 18-year-old is wholly female, I wondered, should it even matter? Assuming...

Friday August 21, 2009

"Skanks In NYC" Blogger Unmasked As 29-Year-Old Rosemary Port. Liskula Cohen Can Rest Easy Now, But Maybe The Rest Of Us Should Start Worrying.

So much for my hopes the 'unmasking' of the anonymous blogger in the Liskula Cohen defamation lawsuit would remain between the two parties and their lawyers.   The blogger's name was revealed today as Rosemary Port, a 29-year-old acquaintance of Ms....

Friday August 21, 2009

Failure Friday: I Ratted Out Penelope Cruz & Javier Bardem To A Paparazzi

As a Native New Yorker, I pride myself on being cool when I have a celebrity sighting. But there was no being cool yesterday as I sashayed past Penny Cruz and her beau Javier Bardem on a Manhattan sidewalk....

Thursday August 20, 2009

Can Liars Become Leaders? Disgraced Reporter Jayson Blair Is Now... A Life Coach?!?

The AP is reporting disgraced ex-reporter Jayson Blair - famous for plagiarizing (and in some cases, completely fabricating) the news while a New York Times reporter back in 2003 - has a new career these days: Life Coach. Blair, who...

Wednesday August 19, 2009

Barney Frank Town Hall Video: Was His Response Appropriate or Unethical?

I have to admit, I got quite an ethically-challenged guffaw out of Barney Frank's comments to the woman who compared President Obama's healthcare plans to a 'Nazi policy'. Take a look at the video and see for yourself: I don't mind...

Wednesday August 19, 2009

Google Forced to Reveal Blogger's Identity After "Skank" Comment Riles Model: Ethical Or Anti-Freedom Of Speech?

Liskula Cohen, a NY model whose face has graced the cover of Vogue, among other mags, didn't appreciate being called a "skank" - and worse - by an anonymous blogger on the website "Skanks In NYC" (since defunct). So she...

Wednesday August 19, 2009

What-If Wednesday: Would You Steal Office Supplies?

Studies show something like 60% of employees have stolen from the place where they work. Whether it's something little like a box of paperclips or a Post-It pad, or something big like that awesome ergonomic chair the boss is always swiveling...

Tuesday August 18, 2009

Woman Pregnant With 12 Babies: Outrageous Or Awesome?

Never mind the stretch marks; what on earth is this woman thinking? If the UK's Sun can be believed, a Tunisian woman is vowing to carry all twelve fetuses to term after having several heartbreaking miscarriages in the past.Honestly, in...

Friday August 14, 2009

Tasered Mom Sues Cop--I Should Hope So!

According to this MSNBC article, Audra Harmon, a 38-year-old mother of three, was stopped, Tasered, handcuffed, and arrested while her kids were left frightened and unattended in her minivan for something like 40 minutes.  The incident began like this, Harmon told...

Friday August 14, 2009

Failure Friday: I Jump To Conclusions

Ass. U. Me. Mostly me.This week I made a jerk of myself when, all impatient, I emailed a clothing company to which I had returned a couple pairs of jeans, wanting to know where my refund was.Now, I had every right...

Wednesday August 12, 2009

Health Care Reform: An Ethical Issue?

I've been hesitant to wade into any discussion of health care reform because, frankly, it feels too big for me. For a lot of Americans, I suspect. And besides, what exactly are the ethical angles to examine? Too many...

Tuesday August 11, 2009

Dirty Laundry: An Open Letter to the Laundry Room Goniff

An Open Letter to the Laundry Room Goniff:  WTF, lady (or gent)? Not only did you at one point apparently, inexplicably, open my dryer and let some of my socks and towels fall outside it in a heap, you then...

Monday August 10, 2009

Moral Monday: Speaking Truth To Power

Doing the right thing. Speaking up. Looking out for those less able to defend themselves. These are qualities embodied by a man I grew up knowing, and, throughout high school, was proud to call my friend.  In fact, he...

Friday August 7, 2009

Failure Friday: Whining 101

So, I whine. When I was a kid, my parents even had a name for my kvetching ways: "the wip." As in, I would pooch out my lower lip as far as possible (which in my case was rather astonishingly...

Wednesday August 5, 2009

What-If Wednesday: Would You Stop A Crime?

Thanks again are due to our Beliefnet Entertainment Editor for this one. She emailed me the other day with the following ethical dilemma. While shopping with her fiance, she saw a well-to-do woman with two preteen daughters 'forget' to pay...

Tuesday August 4, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

The Thank-You Note Nazi

I have a friend I affectionately refer to as "the Thank-You Note Nazi." No sooner does she return from a dinner party than she dispatches an elegant and exquisitely chosen card expressing the most effusive (and quite sincere, as...

Monday August 3, 2009

How NOT To Behave At A Funeral: Ryan O'Neal Hits On Daughter Tatum At Farrah Fawcett's Grave

Sometimes a headline says it all. Or at least enough of it to make you mildly ill. Apparently, Ryan O'Neal freely admits to having accidentally propositioned his own offspring, estranged daughter Tatum O'Neal, during Farrah Fawcett's funeral. Yuck. So much...

Wednesday July 29, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

A Wee Bit of Unethical Self-Promotion: Hillary's In the Huffington Post!

Forgive me, gentle readers. It is, perhaps, questionable to flog one's external publications on a blog concerning itself primarily with ethics, but I simply had to share the news: An article I've written, entitled "90 Salads in 90 Days" is...

Wednesday July 29, 2009

What-If Wednesday: How Far Out Of Your Way Would You Go To Do A Good Deed?

We're rolling out another new feature here at Everyday Ethics... "What-If Wednesdays." You know the game; you've probably played it with your friends a time or two, asking questions like, "What if you had to choose -- Brad Pitt or George...

Monday July 27, 2009

New Feature! Moral Monday: A Tip of My Ethical Hat to Folks Fighting the Good Fight

I get tired of always ragging on people for ethical faux pas. Sometimes I want to focus on what folks are doing right. So today I'm inaugurating a new feature: "Moral Monday." From now on, on Mondays (whenever possible)...

Saturday July 25, 2009

Being Mean To Telemarketers: Unethical Or Understandable?

I was just on my way out the door, rushed for time as usual, when the phone rang. Caller ID said, "000-000-0000." I had a pretty good idea who it'd be (in a general sense) but I was expecting...

Friday July 24, 2009

Did President Obama "Act Stupidly" or Speak Skillfully by Weighing In On Professor Gates' Arrest?

I don't feel it's my place to get into the rights and wrongs of Skip Gates' arrest. I honestly think it's a case of he-said, he-said, and while I tend to think there are very few times arresting a guy...

Tuesday July 21, 2009

Erin Andrews Peephole Video: Are Gawkers Getting What They Deserve?

Today the New York Post reported that looky-loos trying to get an eyeful of ESPN reporter Erin Andrews, who was apparently filmed in a state of undress without her knowledge or consent through the peephole of her hotel room, went...

Monday July 20, 2009

Chris Brown Apologizes To Rihanna...On Video Tape.

Take a look at this videotaped apology Chris Brown just came out with to address the 2009 Grammy Awards Eve beating of his girlfriend, singer Rihanna. I'm curious... after watching it, do you think he's sincere? And, if you think he...

Monday July 20, 2009

Mission To Mars: Mankind's Next Giant Leap, Or The Last Thing We Need To Be Worrying About?

As human beings, it's in our natures to dream big. And as a species, we've done some astonishing things. Today, for instance, marks the 40th anniversary of the first lunar landing and moon walk--a mission we achieved, in part,...

Saturday July 18, 2009

Amazon Kindles Outrage With Ironic Removal of Orwell Titles

I've coveted the Kindle since Amazon first came out with them. My apartment is overflowing with books, and I'm forced to carry an ENORMOUS purse to and fro because I refuse to leave the house without a book. I literally don't...

Friday July 17, 2009

Obama's Speech to the NAACP: Preachy or Pitch-Perfect?

President Obama spoke at the NAACP last night, thanking them for the work the organization has done that broke barriers and helped get him elected. He also urged African Americans to take responsibility for their own future success, saying, "Your...

Thursday July 16, 2009

Is Internet Surfing at Work a Right, a Privilege, or a Big No-No?

Hi all. A quick shout out here from Hillary land. I just started a short temp assignment on top of my other gigs, and while I was drumming my fingernails waiting to get set up with the internet so I...

Tuesday July 14, 2009

Assisted Suicide Tourism: A One-Way Trip With A Whole Lotta Baggage

The case of British conductor Sir Edward Downes and his wife Joan, who, it was reported today, traveled to a Swiss clinic to avail themselves of legally assisted suicide, is raising ethical, legal and moral questions worldwide. Edward, 85, had...

Monday July 13, 2009

Levi Johnston: Media Whore Or Palin Family Confessor?

Is he seeking revenge or defending his good name? To hear Levi tell it, he's just clearing the air. Take a look at this clip from msnbc: Wow, he's got a ton to say about the personal finances of the Palin...

Monday July 13, 2009

Journalistic Narcissism: Unethical or Merely Inevitable?

Nar-cis-sism  [nahr-suh-siz-em]  -noun1. inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity.2. Psychoanalysis. erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development. Is it unethical for the news to become...

Saturday July 11, 2009

Kill All the Lawyers? Maybe Not...

Is it ethical to sue? And if so, when?My husband and I were discussing this issue last night. I promise I'll get to the reason for the picture you see to your left in a second, but let me preface...

Friday July 10, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

Obama Ogles Ass? Nah, but Sleazy Sarkozy Sure Did.

There's been a lot of back and forth in the office today about the proper way to appreciate a woman's, er... 'assets'. Naturally, it was brought on by the pictures of Presidents Obama and Sarkozy apparently staring at the rear...

Friday July 10, 2009

Categories: By Hillary Fields

From Sotomayor to Swim Clubs, Are Exclusive Clubs Unethical?

Apparently, in Philadelphia, a big scandal has brewed over a local day camp that contracted with a private club to use their pool facilities. After some members complained (and allegedly were heard uttering racist remarks in terrible fear of seven-year-old...

Thursday July 9, 2009

Gal Throws "Abortion Party" to Pay For Abortion, Guy Blogs About It

People keep sending me the oddest ethical issues. Like this one, which came by way of a pal living in Prague. She stumbled across a blog post written by a guy who had been invited to--get this--an abortion party....

Wednesday July 8, 2009

Is it Unethical to Live an Inauthentic life?

Sorry, folks, I'm in an existential angst mood today, perhaps even an existential crisis mood. I'm feeling like a phony, if only in the sense that my day-to-day existence feels inauthentic. But by inauthentic, what do I actually mean? Well, I've...

Tuesday July 7, 2009

Washington Post Whores (Excuse Me, "Salons") Itself Out For Profit?

 I know the newspaper business is hurting, and hurting bad... but when it comes to journalistic ethics, the Washington Post is supposed to be among the finest institutions in the nation, if not the world. But now, the people...

Monday July 6, 2009

Racism in the Workplace: What Do You Do When a Coworker Makes Off-Color Remarks?

Recently, I put out a call amongst my acquaintance for their everyday ethical dilemmas. A friend brought me a great one--What do you do when someone at work is a racist?The gist of her email (which she asked me not...

Thursday July 2, 2009

Morality: Does It Come From the Heart or the Head?

I came across an interesting argument today by way of a friend, who sent me a link to an article in Fast Company magazine. I thought I'd share it because it asks an important question: are we ethical for logical...

Wednesday July 1, 2009

Underground Ethics: A Subway Series. Part III: Would You Let Your Kid Ride the Train Alone?

This mom did. She let her 9-year-old son ride the NYC subway alone, giving him 20 bucks, a map and a Metrocard, along with some words of advice. Why? Because he wanted to.Lenore Skenazy is a writer and mother of...

Tuesday June 30, 2009

The Supreme Court, Sonia Sotomayor, Reversals and Reverse Discrimination

It's hard for someone like me, with no legal background, to understand the intricacies of yesterday's Supreme Court decision about the New Haven, Conn. firefighters' discrimination (or so-called  'reverse discrimination') lawsuit.   Obviously, there's more going on here than...

Monday June 29, 2009

My Sexist Doctor: A Love-Hate Relationship

So I have this great doctor. He cured my migraines (well, made them a lot better) when no one else could. My mom, who's suffered similar headaches for decades, swears by him. And he's a really nice guy. He's charming,...

Friday June 26, 2009

Are Michael Jackson Jokes Suddenly "Bad"?

Come on... you know you've told one or two Michael Jackson jokes over the years. The self-proclaimed "King of Pop" has been such a startling public figure--with his bizarre plastic surgeries, his wild and wacky but undeniably trend-setting outfits, his...

Thursday June 25, 2009

June 26 is "Take Your Dog To Work" Day. Cute. But is it Ethical?

I don't love dogs. Don't get me wrong--I like 'em fine. I may even coo over a particularly cute one (or a homely one--somehow the homely ones touch my heart more than the handsome ones), but I don't have a...

Tuesday June 23, 2009

56 Star Tattoo Teen Comes Clean; Admits She Lied to 'Save Face'

Regrets, I've had a few. But perhaps none so visible as those of Belgian teenager Kimberley Vlaminck, who claimed last week to have 'fallen asleep' in the tattooist's chair and woken up with 56 stars tattooed across her face when...

Tuesday June 23, 2009

Steve Jobs Liver Transplant--Is That Ethical?

UPDATE: Interesting NY Times article asking some of the same questions as my original post about Steve Jobs' liver transplant. Check the NY Times piece out! Because of this article, and because of the many comments I received on my own,...

Monday June 22, 2009

Blog Commenting Courtesy... Do Bloggers Have a Right To Expect It?

I received a lot of flack for my last post. And I'm willing to admit I may just have deserved some of it. I was called out for failing to 'do my research' and 'being ignorant' when I drew a...

Friday June 19, 2009

Iran and North Korea In the News: Does Caring Oblige Us To Take a Stand?

I was out of town for a couple of days, and apparently while I was away, Iran went (more) insane, and North Korea decided Hawaii might make a nice Fourth of July nuclear missile target.  Greeeaat. Maybe I should have...

Thursday June 18, 2009

Facebook: Is It OK to "Friend" An Old Flame?

I know, I know--we talk a lot about Facebook on this blog. I suppose that's because Facebook and other sites like it have become the engines of social interaction and social networking for our generation. And, out of everyday social...

Monday June 15, 2009

How Sacred Is the U.S. Mail... When It's Your Husband's?

Here's my quandary.  It's been a long day.  I'm tired and grumpy.  My husband, who usually brings the mail upstairs, is home sick so I'm the one swinging by our building's mailboxes on the way back from work.  This in...

Saturday June 13, 2009

An Ethical Update--It's Working! I'm Blogging My Way To Becoming a Better Woman

Guess what? After my post on my failure as a recycler, I actually began to do much, much better at recycling. I now manage to remember semi-regularly to bring a 'green' bag with me when I shop. And, after I...

Thursday June 11, 2009

World Science Festival Hits New York City--Yippie!

No dilemmas today, just a shout-out to the second annual World Science Festival, being held this weekend here in New York. My hubby is SO excited. He loves anything connected to the world of ideas. And as a former...

Wednesday June 10, 2009

Do We Tip To BE Generous, Or To SEEM Generous?

And does the intent matter? I'm settling in to do some writing at my local coffee joint, getting all prepared to talk...you know...ethics 'n' stuff. I make sure I buy enough (a black & white cookie and a large decaf...

Tuesday June 9, 2009

Good Neighbors: Respect Privacy, or Leap In to Lend a Hand?

My neighbor has OCD--a fact I just recently learned. For the longest time I believed she simply hated me, or that she thought I was a psycho, and here's why: she wouldn't get on the elevator with me. We'd...

Monday June 8, 2009

When Do You Tell a Friend Her Boyfriend's a Jerk?

When I say this happened to a friend and not me, I really actually mean it. My friend had a dinner party at her summer place with some old friends--two couples, plus herself and her own boyfriend. Drinks went around...

Sunday June 7, 2009

Thai Rath Publishes Carradine Hanging Photo, Sparks Outrage

I haven't blogged about the David Carradine story up 'til now, because, well, I thought it was somewhat unethical to dredge the actor's death into the public spotlight more than it already was (if that were possible). I'm of the...

Friday June 5, 2009

When Does Bad Etiquette Become Immorality? On the Subway, of Course.

I'm pleased to announce that Part II of our Underground Ethics "Subway Series" comes to you from our very first guest blogger: Beliefnet's own Entertainment Editor, Dena Ross. I asked Dena to write a post for us because, well, Dena has...

Wednesday June 3, 2009

The Great Guilt Debate: Is Using Emotional Blackmail to Get What You Want Unethical?

"Not if you're Jewish," is my mom's answer. And indeed, it's been my experience that we Jews ingest guilt with our mother's milk (not that I'd know, since my mother didn't find it 'convenient' to breast-feed me [ha, see what...

Wednesday June 3, 2009

The Goode Family: Does Being Ethical Mean Being Annoying?

Mike Judge's newest animated sit-com, The Goode Family, which premiered last week on ABC, is all about the eponymous Goode family, do-gooders who are always trying to do the 'right' thing and be responsible. Their PC intentions lead to ridiculous scenarios...

Tuesday June 2, 2009

JD Salinger CATCHER IN THE RYE Sequel--Whether He Likes It Or Not?

Word is spreading that reclusive author JD Salinger, author of the seminal book "The Catcher in the Rye," filed suit in U.S. Federal Court in Manhattan yesterday over an anonymous author's unauthorized so-called 'sequel.' The writer, going by the name...

Monday June 1, 2009

Dating Rules Follow-Up: When Is It OK to Stick Your Nose In?

Paddy's recent post about how to date honestly (or too honestly) got me thinking about relationships, intentions, and the perils of long-term commitment, particularly when cultural, religious, and social mores collide. Her post asks us whether 'tis better to be...

Monday June 1, 2009

Underground Ethics: A Subway Series. Part I: How the Emergency Gate Shames Me

Welcome to Part I of our exciting new series, Underground Ethics. As the name implies, we'll be talking about things that take place far below the day-lit realm, things dark and ugly, seamy and salacious, perhaps unholy. Yes, that's...

Thursday May 28, 2009

Controversy Over New Hugging Trend Among Teens Leads to Hug Bans in High Schools

Yep, that's right, now affection is illegal. The New York Times today reported on the new fad for hugging among teens in an article entitled For Teenagers, Hello Means 'How About a Hug?'Kids these days are embracing all over the...

Thursday May 28, 2009

Is the Lottery Ethical?

There's a lot of chatter on the 'net today about the lottery. Seems someone from South Dakota just won the Florida lottery, to the tune of 222 million dollars.Nice going. I'm sure that unnamed person will suddenly have a lot of...

Tuesday May 26, 2009

13-Year-Old Daniel Hauser Refusing Chemo On Religious Grounds; Court Orders Treatment

Over the past couple of weeks, the news has been filled with headlines about 13-year-old Daniel Hauser, a Minnesota boy diagnosed with Hodgkin's lymphoma. Citing religious grounds (the family are members of the Nemenhah Band of Native Americans, who are...

Monday May 25, 2009

The Weekend Wuss-Out--Musings On the Ethics & Responsibilities of Friendship

This Memorial Day Weekend has been a long and busy one for my family. My brother's wedding took place (yippie! Mazel Tov, guys) so I spent the last three days in a flurry of bachelorette parties, rehearsals, rehearsal dinners, and...

Sunday May 24, 2009

A Bernie Madoff Schadenfreude Story

Schadenfreude-nounsatisfaction or pleasure felt at someone else's misfortune. I once had a boss so mean I woke up in dread each morning, and lay awake every night fearfully, fantasizing about what terrors lay ahead for me the next day....

Saturday May 23, 2009

Why Can't I Recycle? A Case of Grocery Bag Guilt

Why, oh why, am I so completely and utterly incapable of remembering to bring recyclable bags with me to the grocery store? It's not like I haven't got any.... Heck, I have canvas totes from conventions past and beach vacations...

Tuesday May 19, 2009

Pregnant At 66...?!?

I was just watching this Diane Sawyer clip (see video embedded below) on ABC News about the 66-year-old British woman, Elizabeth Adeney, now 8 months pregnant and soon to become the UK's oldest-ever mother. She's a successful career woman who chose...

Monday May 18, 2009

Keeping the Tags On That Dress--Just In Case

My brother's wedding is right around the corner, and what do you know, I'm a bridesmaid. Luckily, my fantastic sister-in-law-to-be chose a great dress for her bridesmaids (thank you!), which is very wearable and wasn't too expensive either. Just another...

Thursday May 14, 2009

Oprah Apologizes to Memoirist Frey. Too Little, Too Late?

I can't believe Oprah Winfrey has apologized to author James Frey after the way she skewered him on her 2006 show for fictionalizing parts of his bestselling memoir. But that's what Vanity Fair is reporting has happened, at least according...

Thursday May 14, 2009

Credit Card Responsibility--Yours, Mine, and Theirs

So I'm sitting at home watching President Obama's Town Hall speech about credit card debt. Having just spent half the morning on the phone dealing with my credit card company, trying to get my card information straightened out, I'm fed...

Wednesday May 13, 2009

The Acupuncture Appointment From Hell--And How I Weaseled Out of Another.

Today I took the coward's way out. Two days ago, I had an appointment with an acupuncturist--someone I hadn't been to before. I'd been suffering from migraines, and was told the treatment might be a good holistic alternative to some heavy-duty...

Tuesday May 12, 2009

Swine Flu Ethics ?!?

Here's a sniffly, sneezy, gross, icky, potentially deadly (but thankfully so far mild) hot topic to talk about. The ethics of swine flu. Oh, excuse me, Obama administration and U.S. Pork Industry... H1N1 Influenza.Vice President Biden stirred up controversy recently with ill-considered...

Monday May 11, 2009

Dropping the F-Bomb--Or Not. Is it Sometimes More Ethical To Have a Dirty Mouth?

I didn't expect my first post to excite much controversy--from my friends, at least. But to my surprise, even my mother, who was in part the subject of it, had a criticism. "Nice post," she said. "But it would have...

Friday May 8, 2009

Carrie Prejean--Role Model or Rogue Model?

  Every day, it seems there's another Carrie Prejean story in the news. For those who haven't been paying attention (and I kinda wish I was one of you), she's the Miss USA pageant contestant from California whose answer...

Thursday May 7, 2009

Manners or Me First? A Tale of Ethics and the Native New Yorker

By way of introduction, I'd like to share a little about myself. (I'd promise not to do it again, but I undoubtedly will.) I was raised by a family who assumed I'd always instinctively understand the difference between right...

Advertisement

Search This Blog

feed icon Subscribe

RSS Feed

Receive updates from Everyday Ethics

About Everyday Ethics

This blog is all about ethics. It's also about us--ordinary people facing ordinary situations. It's about asking ourselves the hard questions: What responsibility do we bear in our interactions (and yes, confrontations) with the people we meet? How do we best respond to those around us in a way that leaves us feeling good about ourselves and confident our behavior has done no harm? Have we helped or hurt our fellows in these moments? It's our belief that by asking some big questions (and some little ones too) we can grow as humans. We're glad you're along for the ride!

About the Authors

Hillary Fields
Hillary Fields is a New York-based writer, editor and web producer.
» Posts by Hillary Fields
Padmini Mangunta
Padmini Mangunta is a writer and editor with a Journalism degree from the University of Missouri-Columbia.
» Posts by Padmini Mangunta
More »

Ethics and Family

Islam
Beliefnet's Family Values Toolkit offers age-specific resources to help kids navigate difficult decisions.
View the Toolkit

Advertisement


About Beliefnet

Our mission is to help people like you find, and walk, a spiritual path that will bring comfort, hope, clarity, strength, and happiness. More about Beliefnet.

Legal

Copyright © Beliefnet, Inc. and/or its licensors. All rights reserved. Use of this site is subject to Terms of Service and to our Privacy Policy. Constructed by Beliefnet.

Advertisement

Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.