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Sunday August 2, 2009

Creativity in Counseling

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Iris Germanica (sepia)

Following is a description of some of the ways I use creativity in working with counseling clients. Perhaps some of you will find them useful. If you have experience of working with creativity in a counseling context, I'd love to hear of your experiences, either via e-mail or as a comment to this post.

More anon,
David

Writing Techniques

Memoirs of Addiction and Recovery (working with addicts, writing, and the Hero's Journey)

I often find that addicts are creative and sensitive people who grew up in the wrong place. Addiction is often a way of coping for them, one that leads, generally, to further trauma. Art, had they grown up in a different environment, might have been a way they had instead chosen to deal with their more sensitive take on the world.

I can help bring them back to the art and the energy that has been sidetracked into addiction: to redirect this energy into something that feeds rather than depletes them, heals rather than retraumatizes. A future they might not have had opens up because they learn to re-channel this energy. I see them as people who were, or could have been, on a creative or spiritual path who got diverted because of trauma, and I see addiction as the "spell" that held them there. I help them get back on their main path through letting them experience highs from being creative instead of from addictive, self-destructive behaviors.

One way I combine creativity and addiction is in writing groups I call "Memoirs of Addiction and Recovery." I create a temporary writing community that helps addicts feel accompanied on their recovery and broadens their ability to overcome discouragement and shame and to recover their true selves. I also sometimes work with clients individually, using writing in a similar way. The framework I often use is Joseph Campbell's monomyth of the Hero's Journey, which not only rescues from shame the dark period of the clients' lives, but gives them a path to go forward on where they will eventually obtain a true boon to themselves, others, or both.

Wounded Child/Inner Healer two-hands writing technique

Imagine yourself walking in a familiar place. In the distance you see someone walking toward you. When the person gets closer, you see it's a child. When still closer, you see that it is your younger self. Imagine that this child is feeling a confusing or disturbing feeling that you, yourself, are feeling. Notice how old the child is, how the child looks and acts. Imagine, as well, that you are feeling at your most compassionate and empathic. With your dominant hand, write what you would say to this child. With your non-dominant hand, imagining yourself to be this child, feeling what is bothering him or her, respond. Continue to go back and forth between dominant and non-dominant hands until you come to some resolution.

Visualization techniques

The Miracle Question (from Solution-Focused Therapy)

I have blogged about this before, but it is so helpful it seems worth repeating here.

After letting clients complain about their problems in their lives, I ask them to imagine this:

After our session, you go off and do whatever you do with the rest of the day. Tonight, you fall asleep. And while you're snoozing, a strange thing happens. The strange thing is that... a miracle occurs! The miracle is a very special one, tailored just to you. The miracle is that all your problems are solved and all your concerns are gone. Poof! But the thing is, the miracle happened while you were asleep, so you don't know anything about it. When you wake up tomorrow, you are solidly in the world of the miracle, but initially you are unaware that it has occurred. So the initial question is: Tomorrow morning, when you wake up and as you step through the day, what do you notice -- in yourself, in your surroundings, in other people -- that eventually gets you scratching your head, thinking, "Something's different about today. A miracle must have happened!"

Asking yourself this question is akin to the call to adventure on the hero's journey. It will take you into new territory, and there you will encounter struggles you might not otherwise have had to endure. But it is also the first step to finding your personal boon, and to making your miracle your reality.

The "Miracle Question" is based on the principle that we do have the answers, and it's a way to envision, while awake but in a kind of self-induced light trance, what life will be like, in great detail, when all our problems are solved. Some questions to ask yourself, after asking the Miracle Question:

- How do I feel when I open my eyes the next morning, the first morning of my miracle life?
- Am I in the same bedroom? The same house? With the same people?
- What's different as I get ready for the day?
- What's different as I walk through it, hour by hour?
- What do other people in my life notice about me that's different?
- What do I notice about them?

From the answers to these questions, which eventually give you the "Totto, we're not in Kansas anymore" feeling, a vision of life with all the problems solved is built. Then it's just a matter of working toward that "miracle," one doable step at a time.

Breaking the Trauma Re-enactment Triangle

Imagine three parts of yourself: the injured child (victim of abuse), the abuser, and a non-protecting bystander. Re-enact the trauma re-enactment triangle of abuser, victim, non-protecting bystander. Now, imagine a true protector who intervenes on your behalf, defending you against the internalized abuser. Work through this re-enactment, calling on whatever forces are needed to render the abuser harmless and the injured child self safe.

Psychodrama techniques

Sometimes I work with client to develop a "character" that is able to do or be or feel something that the client, in his or her everyday life, cannot. I work with the client to create the background, the voice, the mannerisms, the style of dress. We may even do a therapy session or part of a session with the client acting as that character. The goal is for the client to be that character in his or her life, allowing the client to do what, inside, he or she actually wants to do.

Splitting Ambivalence (a variation of Gestalt)

With a client ambivalent about something, I will often effectively divide the client into two parts (or more) and have the client move around the room, from chair to chair, speaking as first one part then the other. We treat this as a debate and it continues until all sides have fully had their say. Then, we imagine another part of has been watching this debate. That part reflects on the points each side has made, then sees if it can help the "others" come to a resolution that satisfies all sides.

Splitting Ambivalence (a variation of Focusing)

Here, the client divides into two parts, each of which has two halves -- one half that wants something for the client, the other half that doesn't want the client to have to experience something. We use Focusing to work each half of each part, until they come to a potential resolution.


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Tuesday February 17, 2009

Film: "healing image"

A little over a year ago, roughly coinciding with the 15th anniversary of my near-death experience, my good friend Larry "Doc" Pruyne completed a short film about me. It tells the story of my flower mandala images, my work as a psychotherapist, my personal journey of near-death survival, and the connections between them. As NDE anniversary number 16 approaches on February 21, 2009, I wanted to post his film here.

Larry knows my story better than anyone. He is the person who drove me home from the hospital that nearly killed me, and our friendship has been mellowing and deepening ever since. My life and his have intertwined in many ways during the past 16 years, and this film represents, in part, the product of that interweaving. It was a reluctant collaboration: Larry came into it with his own ideas of about how to tell the story, and of course so did I. The film mingles our two points of view not only about my story but also about art, healing, transformation, and storytelling itself. It is a snapshot both of the period during which it was shot and of our friendship. As we evolve, perhaps it will, too.

healing image is also the prototype for a series of films Larry is working on that that deal with art, artists, and the artistic process.


Click here to view 'healing image'

Contact:
Lawrence "Doc" Pruyne is a filmmaker and writer in the Boston area, with over 800 articles and stories published. His film healing image has been widely displayed for college audiences and at festivals, including a Best Short at the Somewhat North of Boston Film Festival. He can be reached at docpruyne1@verizon.net.

Discussion:
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Images © 2005-2009, David J. Bookbinder
'healing image' film © 2008, Lawrence Pruyne

Saturday February 7, 2009

Guest Blog Entry: Flower Essence Mandalas

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Flower Essence Mandala: Turkscap-Pansy-Dianthus

Flower Essence Mandalas
By Mary Kraemer

I use edible flowers to create by hand a mini-cosmos for healing with the medicinal and spiritual qualities of the flowers and as a mediation tool. I invite you to take a moment to absorb the imageinto your mind and body and feel its qualities transform you.

Mandala in Sanskrit means essence, or containing; also translates as circle-circumference or concentric diagram having spiritual and ritual significance in both Buddhism and Hinduism.

Flower Essence prescription of Giant Turkscap - Malvaviscus Arboreus, Pansy, Dianthus Mandala:

Meditate on the root chakra receiving healing. This essence releases pent up creative forces within the womb area and literally sets one free to dance again in life. Corrective of imbalance: connecting with their sexuality often due to abuse. Eliminates fear and greed and brings contentment. Pansy is an immune builder as it draws out from within the individual the purest quality of heart and mind. Pansy helps us to 'face' the world, thereby, strengthening our courage to share our beauty with the world. Pansy clears negative thoughts and opens the heart chakra. Dianthus at the center promotes new perspectives on seemingly endless situations.

In different spiritual traditions, mandalas are used for focusing attention; as a spiritual teaching tool; for establishing a sacred space; and as an aid to meditation and trance induction. Its symbolic nature can help one to access progressively deeper levels of the unconscious, ultimately assisting the meditator to experience a mystical sense of oneness with the ultimate unity from which the cosmos in all its manifold forms arises. The psychoanalyst Carl Jung saw the mandala as a representation of the unconscious self, and believed his paintings of mandalas enabled him to identify emotional disorders and work towards wholeness in personality.

Mandala represents the cosmos metaphysically or symbolically, a microcosm of the Universe from the human perspective and a microcosm representing various divine powers at work in the universe.

Mandalas are a sacred places reminding the viewer of the sanctity in the Universe and its potential in his or her self. The purpose being to put an end to human suffering, be enlightened and to discover divinity within one's own self.

When I created this design and shot this photo, I used what flowers I had available as well as what design I was drawn to making. I had hoped to heal others as well as myself when making it as is my intention. But it isn't till I write this that I realize this specific flower combination heals me as well. I too suffer from great bouts of fear and feel unable to dance. My situation being unemployed and a single parent makes my suffering acute as my children are in this situation as well. I really need pansy to help face this situation and clear my negative thoughts. Dianthus additionally helps me have new perspective on the situation seemingly that is endless.

Thanks for giving me a forum.

Mary Kraemer
mary@rosamilagrosa.com
512-482-0777
www.RosaMilagrosa.com

Edible Flower Photography, Edible Flower Mandalas for Cakes, Healing with Holographic Repatterning

Discussion:
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© 2009, Mary Kraemer

Thursday January 8, 2009

Learning to Fly

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Spoon Chrysanthemum

I've become relatively inactive in Beliefnet this past few months, absorbed in the other aspects of my life, but I'd like to start the New Year with a report on my personal progress on working toward the "miracle question" and its way of envisioning change.

I'm probably a 7 on the progress in my inner life (where 1 is as far as I ever was from my personal miracle, and 10 is I am there every day). Progress this past year is largely due to taking another Focusing training and finding a Focusing partner, with whom I'm starting to explore, and hopefully to release, a part of myself that has been hidden since early childhood. This is the "little boy" side, the side with much of my creativity and joy, who 20 years ago I imagined to be contained in a titanium capsule six inches thick, but who now is a very real, if still timid, presense in my life.

On the counseling business side, I'm probably also a 7. I have finished up working at the community mental health clinic I'd been working at for 3 1/2 years and am now fully in private practice in Danvers, MA. Until September, the financial side of this was going surprisingly well -- I was getting perhaps a call a week from various sources, and most of them resulted in clients coming to work with me -- but this has dropped off since the financial crash, and I need to figure out ways to generate more referrals. I'm working on it.

On the art-making and art-marketing side, I'm probably a 6. I'm still working on finding a market for the flower mandalas (and am happy to hear suggestions / make connections through this forum), but I haven't created any new mandala work in a long time, nor have I made a lot of headway in finding someone to represent me. I'm continuing work on my Independence Park project (a study of the sea, the sky, and time) and am beginning to broaden the concept in ways I find myself thinking about when I'm doing other things -- always a good sign. And I'm starting to appreciate my growing skills as a photographer. I feel that a move to a new level is afoot, though where that will take me I don't know.

On the spiritual side, I have found a group of people and a teacher who, as I've written earlier here, is combining his study of the major world's religions into a practice that draws on several traditions in an integrated way. It seems well-adapted to our times and the migration of practices from west to east and east to west. I'm not 100% sure this is the way I want to go, so I'm also planning to reconnect with the Thich Nhat Hanh sanga of which I was briefly a member several years ago. Here, too, moving to a new level is afoot.

On the personal plain, where I've been about a 3 most of the past year, I'm now about a 7.5 and moving up the scale rather quickly, having found a partner quite different from prior partners. I feel seen and connected in a new way, and I find I'm also able to process, both within myself and with her, old baggage, and I'm starting to let it go. In part, this process is due to who each of us is, but it is also helped by my work as a counselor. I seem consistently to be taking insights from my personal work into my practice and vice-versa, so that each enriches the other.

Overall, I'd say I'm a 7, and on the threshhold of a major move up, as the various threads of myself and my life that I've been working on integrating since my near-death experience seem, finally, to be coming together. As Tom Petty said in "Learning to Fly," the future is wide open....

More anon,
- David

Discussion:
Art, Healing, and Transformation group
Flower Mandalas Project group
Cultivating Creativity group

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Saturday November 8, 2008

Spiritual Questing, Near-Death Experiences, and the Global Village

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Sun Wheel I mandala

In some ways my experience of the heart of Beliefnet has been tangential. Focused mainly on art and healing, I have paid less than full attention to the remarkable phenomonen of Beliefnet itself and it's intermixing of so many spiritual paths.

No more!

This is a little story of where I've been and where I think I'm going, spiritually. I'd be grateful to hear from others about their own journeys.

Although I was raised Jewish, I have not been active in that faith since my Bar Mitzvah. Growing up Jewish in a mostly non-Jewish community, where Judaism was largely ignored and sometimes scorned, led me to becoming an alienated Jew who, at an early age, wished he could be something else. (My mother once told me that I came home from Kindergarten one December day and declared, "I'm not Jewish, I'm Christmas!) It must have been cushing to see, as the years passed, that I couln't be "Christmas" no matter how hard I tried.

So, if I couldn't be "Christmas," and Judaism did not satisfy me, I needed to become something else. But the only religions I was exposed to in my home town near Buffalo, NY, were Judaism and Christianity. Unable to find my way into either, in my teenage years I drifted into agnosticism and what I see, in retrospect, as a sense of spiritual isolation.

That began to change in college, where I was exposed to the radical inversion of Judeo-Christianity in William Blake's "The Marriage of Heaven and Hell," a poem which began my lifelong quest for a spiritual practice and a spiritual home. I soon found Buddhism, Hinduism, and Sufism; learned Transcendental Meditation; sought draft counseling from the Quakers and briefly attended their meetings; visited Unitarian churches; and attempted to find some personal connection to communities that practiced in these traditions. Yet, nothing seemed quite right, and by my early 20s my spiritual quest had reached what felt like a dead end. I retreated, again, to a vaguely spiritual kind of agnosticism. And, again, to a sense of spiritual isolation.

My near-death experience at 41 put me back on a spiritual quest, and with much more urgency. I found that the "me" I was before my brush with death was not quite the "me" I was afterward. It's hard to summarize the changes. Some of them were transitory. For the first several months, I felt possessed of a powerful energy I had never experienced before. I knew who was calling when the phone rang, and letters with infrequent correspondents crossed in the mail. I felt as if I literally had a power I could direct with my hands, like bolts of electricity issuing forth from my palms and fingers. As I became increasingly involved in the activities of daily life, however, this psychic sense gradually faded.

Other changes seem to have become a permanent part of my character. One, common to almost all near-death experiencers I have met, is that I no longer fear death itself. Although mine wasn't one of the blissful near-death experiences I have since read about, neither was it at all frightening; it was, rather, by far the calmest moment of my life, deeply centering. I also returned with a sense of purpose, of living on borrowed time that I had better make the most of. Just prior to blacking out, I had seen a series of line charts in my mind, each one representing how close to my true path I had been in all the major areas of my life. At the moment of blacking out, I saw on each of these charts a break, followed by an upward trend moving into the future. I was flooded with a sense that I knew what to do with my life, at last, and hoped for a chance to complete it.

The path I envisioned 15 years ago has been much more complex than I imagined it to be in that moment, and much more difficult, but it has led me to re-discovering myself as a photographer and thinking of myself as an artist; to redirecting my vocation to healing; and to actively searching for a spiritual practice and community. I have been on retreats with Thich Nhat Hanh, have attended weekly Unitarian services, have revisited Judaism in various forms, have received a Sufi name and practiced Wazifas, and have studied the works of several teachers of various other branches of the world's religions. Yet I have not been able to find one place that feels like home. Always there is a foreign part I can't relate to, much like the Hebrew I listened to, uncomprehendingly, on Saturday mornings as a child. Or there is a sense of not-quite-fitting, of being the ugly duckling.

Until now.

Recently, my psychotherapy mentor, a man who for 45 years has been studying most of the world's great religions, has begun to integrate teachings from all these wise traditions into a single forum. He has created a spiritual teaching center where any and all of the spiritual teachings of humanity can find a home. This feels right, to me. Although it goes against the oft-repeated notion that "the man who chases two rabbits catches none" -- the idea that one must, as I was recently told by a Lama from California, choose one path and one teacher -- I feel a kinship with this group of spiritual seekers unlike anything I have felt before. There are, I have felt for decades, many paths up the mountain, but it is the same mountain.

This is, to me, the beginning stage of a true spiritual integration.

I believe that the spiritual landscape is changing, much as the racial landscape has changed, perhaps forever, with the election of a mixed-race President. For many years, there has been a global interchange of religions and spiritual traditions. The West has been flooded with the influences and traditions of the East, as in the prior several centuries the West brought (and sometimes forced) it's traditions on the East. Meditation and Yoga, for instance, have become part of our mainstream, and with these practices came many of the teachings that accompanied them. Through modern media -- radio, television, and now especially the Internet -- we have all, everywhere, the opportunity to be exposed to the accumulated wisdom of humankind. We are not limited to the traditions in our neighborhood or village, or of our forefathers. We live in the Global Village that Marshall McLuhan predicted in the early 60s, and we can learn from all of its teachers, everywhere.

Beliefnet, it now occurs to me, is a big part of this intermixing, a place within the Global Village where not only can anyone find a spiritual home, but also where we can visit all the other neighborhoods and, in so doing, achieve spiritual enrichment unattainable until the present moment.

So. That's where I'm at in my spiritual quest. I'll keep you posted on future developments and, I hope, you'll do the same.

More anon,
David

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Monday October 27, 2008

Flower Mandala: California Poppy

California Poppy I Discussion: Art, Healing, and Transformation group Flower Mandalas Project group Cultivating Creativity group Request a 15 Flower Mandalas screensaver: Fifteen Flower Mandalas © 2008, David J. Bookbinder...

Monday April 7, 2008

Art & the Art of Managing Pain: Billy Bob Beamer

Art & the Art of Managing Pain by Billy Bob Beamer Much of this article first appeared in FMOnline I graduated from college in the early 70s, having completed a degree in sociology, with a focus in the sociology...

Friday April 4, 2008

Another Train

Another Train... Recently, the song "Another Train," by British balladeer Pete Morton, has been going through my head repeatedly, particularly the chorus: "There's another train, there always is. Maybe the next one is yours, step up and climb aboard......

Tuesday March 25, 2008

Painting Mandalas: Ofira Oriel

Mandalas by Ofira Oriel Ofira Oriel is an Israeli artist and teacher. She is a graduate of Hadassah College in Jerusalem and of the Ramat Hasharon Seminary for Teachers of Art. She also has a degree in Education for...

Wednesday February 27, 2008

The 'Meaning' of Fifteen Flower Mandalas

Fifteen Flower Mandalas I'd like to take this space to thank those of you who have downloaded my free Fifteen Flower Mandalas screensaver, and particularly those who have written back. The responses so far have been interesting. Until now,...

Monday February 18, 2008

Fifteen Flower Mandalas: A Re-Birthday Screensaver

Fifteen Flower Mandalas Fifteen years ago this Thursday, I nearly bled to death in an Albany, NY, hospital. During that event, I had a near-death experience which set me on my current spiritual and artistic path. In commemoration of...

Thursday February 14, 2008

Flower Mandala: Orange Zinnia I valentine

Orange Zinnia I Happy Valentine's Day to all my readers, and thanks for helping build a community around art, healing, and transformation. More anon, - David Discussion: Art, Healing, and Transformation group Flower Mandalas Project group © 2008, David...

Wednesday February 6, 2008

On Spirituality, Literature and Healing: Tom Neufer Emswiler

Stained Glass, Toronto, Ontario (Click here for a "mandalaized" view) Tom Neufer Emswiler is a retired United Methodist minister who has been teaching courses in literature and spirituality. He speaks, here, of his background as a minister and his...

Sunday January 13, 2008

Soul Mandalas

This is another in a series of articles by guest authors or artists. D. Kristen Herrington is an artist, writer, and Reiki master/teacher from Round Rock, Texas. Here, she tells the story of her Soul Mandalas. Kristen Herrington's Soul mandala...

Friday January 11, 2008

Iris Germanica I (and another invitation)

Above is the Iris Germanica I flower mandala (which I'd love to have your comments on, either here or in the Flower Mandalas Project group). Here is the invitation: Although the Beliefnet.com home page calls me an "expert," I'm...

Tuesday January 8, 2008

Categories: Art, Healing, Transformation

A Few Words from a Documentary Photographer: Ernest Morin

This is the second in a series of posts by guest authors/artists. Ernest Morin started making photographs in 1978. He takes black-and-white pictures with a wide variety of film cameras and is among the best portrait and documentary photographers I...

Saturday December 29, 2007

Categories: Art, Healing, Transformation

How "The Matrix" Changed My Life

Do not try to bend the spoon; that's impossible. Instead only try to realize the truth: There is no spoon. Then you'll see that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself. - The Matrix One...

Saturday December 22, 2007

Mandalas and Sacred Geometry: A Conversation with Vandorn Hinnant

This is an announcement of the first of what I hope will be a series of online discussions/interviews with people involved in art and transformation. Vandorn Hinnant is a visual artist currently living in Greensboro, North Carolina. His artwork...

Sunday December 16, 2007

Flower Mandalas, Time Travel, and Self-Healing

You yourself, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your love and affections. - Buddha I am large, I contain multitudes. - Walt Whitman My work with mandalas has been, in itself, helpful in activating an inner...

Tuesday December 11, 2007

Self-Transformation and the Hero's Journey

What does not change is the will to change. - Charles Olson Joseph Campbell's book The Hero With a Thousand Faces describes the archetypal hero's journey. In it, Campbell distills the wisdom of a collection of myths, folktales, and...

Saturday December 8, 2007

Flower Mandalas: Self-Communion

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. -Carl Jung I began the Flower Mandalas project in the midst of a long illness. Initially it was a...

Sunday December 2, 2007

Flower Mandalas: My story

I am a psychotherapist, photographer/digital artist, and writer. I was born in Buffalo, New York, in 1951. I started photographing in high school where, as yearbook editor, I took most of the candid and "art" pictures. After college, I...

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I am a psychotherapist, photographer, digital artist, and writer living near Boston, Massachusetts. As a therapist, I work primarily with artists, children and families, and people with addictive behaviors. Like Carl Jung, one of the fathers of modern psychology, I believe art can be a pathway to the essential Self and foster personal and global transformation.

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