Two Questions of a Soon-to-be Immigrant (by Gareth Higgins)
In a few weeks, I will make a life-changing journey. After 33 years of living in Northern Ireland, and for very good reasons, I am about to become an immigrant. I'm excited about this move, not least because I believe that doing something new is one of the best ways to grow as a human being.
But two questions come to mind as I prepare myself for leaving home.
The first is, "What will it feel like to be an immigrant?" Will I be welcomed by the people in my adopted country? Will I stand out? Will I have to sell newspapers at traffic lights or wait tables in restaurants where the indigenous population refuses to work? Will I have slogans painted on the wall of my house telling me to leave? Will I have to rely on churches and charities to defend my human rights? If there is something wrong with my visa, will I be handcuffed and detained indefinitely?
In considering my own imminent immigrant status, I am very aware of how often I have failed to welcome the people who have migrated to Northern Ireland in significant numbers recently -- especially from African countries and Eastern Europe. I have not always sought to see the good in the faces of people who have arrived here, often coming from difficult circumstances. I hope people will respond differently to me as I move overseas, and help me find a sense of home when I get there -- that along with my own hopes of being treated with respect, I will learn to offer more sanctuary to people I meet.
The second question is, "What I will miss when I leave?"
Along with thoughts of my friends and loved ones, in my mind's eye I'll visualise the natural landscape -- from the reward of the view after the walk up the Silent Valley, to the way evening light hits the lough shore in Randalstown Forest. (To readers who have not yet been able to make a pilgrimage to my home country, check out this image of the Silent Valley reservoir, nestled in the Mourne Mountains of South Down. Not exactly a Himalayan range, but it's home.)
And, of course, there is our extraordinary political experiment -- the attempt to resolve a violent conflict, which at the risk of oversimplification could be described as being between Protestants who feel their identity to be British, and Catholics who consider themselves Irish, without victory or defeat, but through agreeing to disagree, to put the past behind us, and to share power for the sake of all the people.
It's got its teething problems, of course, but we are also often very hard on our politicians. This culture of "criticise first, ask questions later" is not only relevant to Northern Ireland, for we live in an age where cynicism so often trumps hope that it seems any talk about the humanity of our "enemies" is the interest only of a very small, very strange minority. But those of us who believe in the possibility of resurrection must resist the relentless undermining of kindness, hope, and the common good that appears to drive so much of our culture. And so I dare to risk the sin of overstated arrogance -- and to suggest that the land I am leaving may well have a useful story to share with the people in the land I am going to. So I want to end this post, in the midst of the busyness of putting books in boxes and finding people to whom I can donate my furniture, with the hope that we in Northern Ireland might, after decades of complicated and painful relationships, be able to commit ourselves to something simple: To decide always, before we start complaining, to try to see the good in each other.
Dr. Gareth Higgins is a writer and broadcaster from Belfast, Northern Ireland, who has worked as an academic and activist. He is the author of the insightful How Movies Helped Save My Soul: Finding Spiritual Fingerprints in Culturally Significant Films. He blogs at www.godisnotelsewhere.blogspot.com and co-presents "The Film Talk" podcast with Jett Loe at www.thefilmtalk.com.






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So, Gareth, where are emigrating to?
Posted by: Gordon | August 22, 2008 3:28 PM
I hope you will be welcomed wherever you go, but who can say? Who knows what God wants you to learn. I wouldn't want to taint your expectations in any way.
I've heard it said that culture shock doesn't happen in the first 6 months -- when everything is all new and different. Culture shock is when you realize you're stuck in this new place and there's no turning back. Stuck with all the things you don't like about your new place.
My sister -- who switched countries when she got married, misses holidays and "normal church music" more than anything. She's not terribly welcomed in many ways, since she moved to a monocultural society. New holiday traditions were fun for the first several years -- she misses Thanksgiving terribly -- and has her Bible study over for it every year. They love it, but she's exhausted because it takes a whole day to prepare a feast. And it's not a holiday there.
Do keep your paperwork up to date. That's pretty vital in having a good experience, especially with threats of terrorism everywhere. Find your local embassies and consulates and make friends with them. They are there to help you.
Best wishes on your very exciting adventure!
Posted by: frankie | August 22, 2008 4:13 PM
I was itching to discover the place to which you're emigrating. Never mind.
I 'walked out one mid-summer morning' when I was 58. Sold my flat in London and got rid of all my stuff, which I discovered I didn't really need, anyway, and came to live in a little Moroccan village. After 9 years here, the only Christian in a Muslim community, I would truly say that I never want to return to the selfishness, greed and hedonism of current British society. Culture shock ? The only shock I have had is in discovering that there are still people in this world, whilst they have no money in their pockets and wouldn't know what a credit card looks like, enjoy a serene contentment with life and are willing to share the little they have. But then, they 'make' the time to number their blessings and humbly thank their God. I wish you well for your future, Gareth.
Posted by: John | August 22, 2008 4:59 PM
Oh, my brother! My heart echoes everything you say! - and I pray that your attitude: "To decide always, before we start complaining, to try to see the good in each other" will be followed by many!
I agree with you that Ireland (and South Africa - in spite of the recent xenophobic attacks) have useful (and somewhat similar) stories to share with other countries of the world. This is not pretending that we have all the answers, nor have we reached the ideal we stand for, but all the same - we DO have SOMETHING and are striving to keep on changing for the better.
Thank you for all you write! I know you will grow in the process of adapting to your new country! Love to you! Annemie
Posted by: Annemie Bosch | August 22, 2008 5:40 PM
As one who left the shores of Ireland before you were born and who learned to survive in the waters where the Mourne sweeps, just, you would be more than welcome in my adopted home of Australia. Well, under our current administration you certainly would be and the Irish are still sufficiently quaint to be acceted by the general populace too. You could add to our long tradition of Irish influence and my local town of Yackandandah shows movies once a week in a community hall. We're only 45 minutes from where Ned Kelly had his last stand and if you lived with me, and I've got a room for you, you could wake up to a view almost as pretty as Silent Valley, have a real breakfast of potato bread, egg, bacon, and tomato [ if you're not concerned about your health], chase the kangaroos out of the paddock so as to leave feed for our alpacas and on Sunday, join our little church meeting that we hold in out home. Got a better offer? Looking forward to seeing you. On the off chance that Australia is not on the menu, I am envious of the country that is.
Gordon.
Posted by: Gordon Mullen | August 22, 2008 8:36 PM
Where 'ere you go - may you be safe and find home.
My sister left the US and moved to the UK decades ago. One of the interesting things that she found out was - and this is after the fall of Viet Nam. She was listening to different people at speakers corner in London. One English women was up there talking about how the US was wrong in the VN war. How they did this and that wrong etc. She finished and a Frenchman got up in support of what this woman had said. The crowd pelted him with old tomatoes and cabbage. My sister learned a very important lesson that day. It is OK ofr Mama to critized the kid - not the neighbor.
Journey's Mercies wherever you go - if it is in the US and in the great state of MN. I would like to welcome you personally and tip a brew or two with you.
All the Time - God is Good
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Posted by: Big guy | August 25, 2008 12:51 PM
Gareth,
Good luck, and God bless. May you be welcomed wherever you go.
Posted by: Hali | August 26, 2008 5:20 PM
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