When I heard the news about Britney Spears losing custody of her children, my heart fell. This reaction may seem strange to some, but watching her rise and decline in stardom for the last few years, I felt compelled to go against the grain of the media that consistently beats her down.
Yes, she has made some mistakes pre and post-motherhood, but let us all be clear that she was never stable enough to handle the responsibility of having children in the first place. Couple this with the fact that she has not been able to live a normal life away from the lens of the paparazzi or the pen of malicious writers and I think one can understand why she has fallen so far from grace.
We know that she is troubled, that she has an issue with substance abuse and alcohol and that at this moment she doesn’t even have a mother to run to. So what do you expect her to do? But let’s move on from all of this.
I do believe that there was a time when Spears meant well for her children–even in the moments when she was driving with a child in her lap–and I actually believe that she still does care for them immensely. I remember a statement that she made in June 2006 when she said that Sean Preston–her first child–is her religion. And this is where I believe she will find the peace and the resolution to all of her problems, religion.
There was a time when Spears used to seek refuge in the Lord, and I believe she must go back to those days in order to experience true restoration. Every trial and tribulation she has been through to date is because she insisted on running in the other direction instead of toward the hills from which cometh her help. But this is no different from many of our spiritual lives.
Britney Spears, like the rest of us, is only human. Matter of fact, I believe that she had a song that expressed the same sentiment–which was clearly a cry for help. She was never free from falling because we exalted her to superstar status. But maybe if she goes back to her first love, she can find the unconditional love, grace and mercy that not a single one of us–myself included–is able to give to her. And until then, my prayer will be that everyone just leaves her alone. Remember, “Judge not, so that you will not be judged.” It could be you.
Read another opinion about the Britney Spears custody case, “No Boo-Hoo for ‘Toxic’ Britney,” here.
posted October 3, 2007 at 12:46 pm
I have mixed feeling about this. I was talking to my husband about it last night.
On the one hand, I feel that Britney has the Michael Jackson syndrome of having a parent who pushed her into stardom at a young age and she was thrust into the limelight because of her god given talent.
I am not denying that she has raw talent, but I also feel that is has been manufactured by society and by the Hollywood machine.
I have predicted for a long time that it was only a matter of time before Britney broke down.
I think that in some ways she does not know how to live any other way. She does not know how to avoid the photographers. On the other hand, the only thing I think will help her at this point is to go on a trip and just get away from everything and everyone and really find her core.
I think that either through jealousy or whatever else, or because we feed off of other’s suffering, people are trashing her and ripping her through the shredder. But while the rest of us with dysfunctions have the luxury of going through those things alone, Britney has to go through it publicly. I think that we need to lay off and realize this is someone with severe mental issues who needs help.
posted October 3, 2007 at 1:11 pm
i think if some one could reach out to her be a great friend.help her reach out for right help, she may turn her life around .yes shes made plenty of numberious mistakes but who hasnt,stead of burying her help her, in her life, stay with her guide her , in gods holy name,
posted October 3, 2007 at 2:46 pm
Why cant you all just leave her alone there is no one that is perfect on this earth and she is just as normal as everyone else just that the freiken cameras are not following everyone else .. she has no privacy none let her live her life and these children belong to her stay out of her buisiness and focus on someone else these children are the ones that suffer more later in life all of their life will be broadcasted and thrown to their face and this is confidential so to whom it may concern go to hell and leave her alone worry about your life and so surely theres someone in your family that has issues so stay out of hers…………..
posted October 3, 2007 at 8:52 pm
Ok, it’s pretty cut and dry. Britney is accountable for Britney’s actions. Her lawyers can’t save her and neither can her parents. Being saved by the christian god is a matter of oppinion as well. Only Brittany can remove her head from her you-know-what and get it together. I am a young mom, now going it alone and I’m not partying and flashing my hoo-hoo all over creation and acting like a jerk, endangering my kids. She’s spoiled, selfish and yeah “Toxic”. Maybe mom and dad did push her into stardom too early, however, Britney’s not a little kid anymore and she’s perfectly capable of saying, “Enough”.
It’s called PERSONAL ACCOUNTABILITY. I know this is a virture now wasted on this sickophant society that would glorify such a female and others like her, but please, let’s not pity an adult for her stupidity and lack of selflessness it requires to be a mother. When you chose to procreate, you also chose to give of yourself until the end of your days, and guess what? It isn’t a burden. Choosing to have offspring means choosing to give of yourself because you enjoy it and you cherish the LIVES that you have brought into this world and you want to take part in something beautiful, like enriching the lives of others.
If anyone should be pitied, it should be those poor boys, not their idiot parents. Yes, Kevin is just as stupid. The chances for these boys is slim at best. Let’s do the math. You have one selfish, unstable, addicted trollop for a mother; plus one one emotionally regressed, self absorbed troglidite for a father; equals at the very best, two neglected uncherished children without a decent role model in site.
You need a license to drive a car, even to catch a fish, but not so much as a test of compentancy to have children. Sad, sad, crazy, ridiculous world we live in. I can’t even believe this is considered news.
posted October 3, 2007 at 10:37 pm
On the one hand I am more than tired of hearing about Britney Spears, Paris Hilton and all the other “party girls of Hollywood”. But on the other hand, reading some of the much more charitable takes Bleifnet supporters give her, I really do feel for her too. It is a genuine shame that any parent would lead a child into an acting career, live off of it, and then abandon any responsibility for that child when she/he looses their way.
If Britney were my “little girl” she would be living at home or in rehab so long ago she wouldn’t even remember where Hollywood was. My most pressing question is WHERE ARE HER PARENTS AND WHY HAVE THEY NOT DONE ANYTHING TO GET HER LIFE BACK IN ORDER. If they really loved her, they would have done this a very long time ago. You always do what you have to do when you are the parents.
posted October 4, 2007 at 11:07 pm
Britney is 25 years old, and way beyond her parents’ control. As the mother of a 26 year old daughter, I can now only guide her best I can and give advice when asked. It would be difficult or impossible to force my daughter into rehab or especially to live at home. I believe from what I’ve read that her parents were both caring people in her life as well as her brother and sister, both of whom still seem to have a good relationship with their parents. It looks to me like this family rift was fairly recent and stemmed from her mom and dad pushing her into that last rehab. She seems to resent them for it and blames them for most of what’s happened since. I’m not defending them for pushing her into early stardom, but truly they don’t seem to be like Lohan’s mom who lives off her daughter and has partied with underage Lindsay for years. Britney seems to have mental/substance issues and I only hope she can pull herself together. She’s alienated so many caring people from her life that she seems all alone and lost.
posted October 7, 2007 at 6:39 pm
I have to say leave her the hell alone, and let her get the help that she needs to get. I am also a young mother of two children ages 5 and 4, and I know that it’s not easy being a mother. Put your self in her shoes, would you like your life flashed across every t.v. screen in the U.S.A? All that you do wrong is advertised, but when you do something good, who writes about that? No one does!!!! So again, leave her the hell alone, and consitrate on your own screwed up lifes!!!!!!!!
posted October 9, 2007 at 8:37 am
For Ms. Spears:
We are ALL human. These words are not for those who like poking fun at individuals that are temporarily weak in their lives. Back “in the day” when I was “younger” Natalie Cole was at the top and then at the bottom of her game too. Her ups and downs involved money,drugs, instability and moreover, her child. Ms. Spears is in a major crisis and setback in her life right now. Once she seeks and finds the spiritual contentment, she will be fine again. But, of course, it has to be her doing the seeking. Psychiatrists are not going to tell her this because they want to take her money, prescribe “more” drugs, suggest for her to come back, and then somehow leak her “confidentials” to the media. This is so very, very unfair to her as a human being. However, the world strives on the downfalls and mishaps of others. But then that only reveals the two forces that are in and of the world.
posted October 9, 2007 at 3:14 pm
Just leave Ms. Spears alone. She will learn on her own. Sounds to me as if her parenting skills, or lack of, are a result of her how her mother raised her….. Ms. Spears is hurt and confused. Let her work it out.
posted October 9, 2007 at 6:37 pm
Britney Spears has made a lot of mistakes and I am feel so sorry for her.
I remember when I first heard of her and I thought, here is a beautiful girl and I hope she will make good choices in her career and make a positive impact upon our young people. But right from the beginning, however, she didn’t want to influence the kids, but she wanted to be a sex symbol. Well, the choices she made have backfired on her and she is paying dearly for those choices.
I makes me sick to see and hear people talking so crudely about her, as if they led perfect lives and it was duty to judge her and make fun of her mistakes.
Well, my friends, it is not your right to judge. She will pay in many ways for the things that she has done or not done. But wouldn’t it be wonderful, if we could see people backing her up and helping her through these trials in her life. Yes, she seems to have made some huge mistakes, but she was only a child when she was thrust into the “limelight”, and as with many child stars, she got carried away with the “hollywood” way of life.
For the most part, there is no right or wrong in the world today; nor is there any sense of morality. Everybody is doing it, so it must be okay. Hollywood stars, as well as others, are having babies before they are married and seem to think there is nothing wrong with that. They seem to even brag about it. They are living together before marriage and thinking this is okay.
Well, I have news for you. It is not right, it doesn’t matter who you are or your status in life. Immorality is wrong.
So how do we judge what is right or what is wrong when it comes to our relationships with the opposite sex? The Lord has set the standard. Just wipe the dust off your Bible and read what He has to say about these things. Then you will know for yourself, why this is wrong.
And while you are at it, check out what He says about judging others. It may amaze you. Yes, Britney has brought the negative spotlight on herself because of the choices she has made. But let’s try and support her and encourage her to get the help she needs and see if we can get her back with her children.
We are all sons and daughters of God and He loves us. He gave His Son, Jesus Christ, to sacrifice for the sins of the world. She is a beautiful daughter of God and as such she is of great worth. She, like all of us has some repenting to do. But leave the judgement to our Heavenly Father and Jesus and go about doing good in the world and making a positive influence on all with whom you come in contact.
Remember, Jesus said, “He who is not guilty, let him throw the first stone.” Where do you stand?
posted October 10, 2007 at 10:44 am
As for Britney,she needs a lot of love and maybe tough love,true she as I understand made some really big mistakes,we all make mistakes whether if it appears big or small,under eyes of god size of mistakes doesnt matter,but I believe she does need a lot of space in her life to be able to possibly figure things out in her life,I believe she had a pretty good start in her life,and she has done well to earn the Admiration of a lot of people,I always think of her as a beautiful person,she is now an adult who has been beaten down I think due to some choices that she has made and I really hope and pray for her that she would seriously seek to turn her life around with gods help,she also needs people who are really strong and true to gods conviction to help her thru this,I think its possible for Britney to get her life back stronger only if she would just realize that she has a god-given right to make healthy choices,yes people should be first,but she needs self-respect,and to realize that she does not have to be someones party girl,she needs respect from others as a respectable lady,I think only way she may possibly see the need is for Britney to get away from the very root of her problem that is destroying the life of this talented young lady and get back on her right track,she needs her bounderies,to set and to keep,I know enough that drugs and alcohol and other lifes excesses does sooner or later bring tremendous consequences and change the person other than who one truely is.
posted February 7, 2008 at 8:58 pm
Please just leave Britney alone. It’s really sad that the public cannot allow her to go through her crisis without such public humiliation. None of us are perfect. We as private citizens can go through our problems without the lime light on us and so should the same courtesy be given to her. Yes she did reach super stardom, but shouldn’t we allow her to be human, normal and just plain out— given a break. I have gone through similiar things, just as Britney has and I really think it is important to give her time to heal and get the help that she may need. Maybe she hasnt made the best decisions, but please just give her privacy, she really needs a little sympathy. We all know that she is a status symbol, but please give her the courtesy to respect her privacy and refrain from passing judgement on her. Wouldn’t we all like a little privacy if we were in her shoes? Please, just give her a break, allow her to find herself and just plain and simply regroup within herself. As it does say in the Bible, “judge not, lest ye be judged?” Maybe we all need to practice that saying. I personally don’t think that any of us are perfect enough to pass judgement on someone that really needs help. I can say this because I am an upstanding citizen with businesses of my own and yet have still had similiar problems. I myself just needed time to myself so that I could find myself and heal. So if any of you out there have a heart, please, just give her a break. She really is an outstanding entertainer who has unfortunately made some really bad decisions. Just give her a break guys. Wouldn’t you really want the same treatment.