What Halliburton of the spirit will win the bidding for the reconstruction of Britney Spears? The pop star was taken to Cedars-Sinai Hospital last night for an evaluation after a bizarre standoff in which she refused to turn over her children to her ex-husband’s bodyguards, per their custody agreement; but, she can’t stay there forever. Could it be Scientology? EST? Joel Osteen? The Dalai Lama? Buddha? Yoga? Oprah? How about a good old, run-of-the-mill therapist?
While various reports state that Britney was “under the influence” during the altercation, TMZ.com’s “well-placed sources” report that “what happened last night is not rooted in drugs, and that of late, her mental state has deteriorated to the point that what happened at her home was not unexpected” and that she is on a “5150 hold,” meaning “there’s evidence she’s a danger to herself or others.” In fact, the same sources have been telling TMZ.com for months that Brit-Brit’s erratic behavior is not due to a drug or alcohol problem, but her increasingly deteriorating mental health.
Unfortunately for Ms. Spears, having a drug and alcohol problem is far more acceptable in this country than having a mental health crisis. According to the National Mental Health Awareness Campaign, nearly two-thirds of all people with a diagnosable mental disorder do not seek treatment due to the stigma surrounding mental health issues. And that doesn’t even take into consideration those who cannot afford treatment due to lack of health insurance.
If it’s so difficult for the typical American to seek out mental health help, imagine being a celebrity with the self- and media-imposed sense of perfection and/or narcissism keeping you from admitting any weakness or illness. Remember in 2000 when Mariah Carey checked herself in to Connecticut’s Silver Hill Hospital for “exhaustion” and became the punch line du jour for the late night comics? Meanwhile, a European acquaintance of mine was recently given three weeks of paid vacation for suffering from job related stress and had no problems telling everyone exactly that.
Sure, Britney’s already the butt of a million and one jokes, but could it be possibly more beneficial to her career to spin her antics as drug-and-alcohol-induced with a spiritual or twelve-step solution rather than a struggle with a mental health disorder? Unfortunately, being a pop star/pop tart battling depression doesn’t quite lend itself to the mystique of a Kurt Vonnegut taking on the “noonday demon.”
Admittedly, I’ll rubberneck at celebrity misfortune with the best of them, but I sincerely want the Britney circus to come to an end. Perhaps with her seemingly level-headed father at her side – who was properly outraged at Jamie Lynn’s pregnancy and that his ex-wife agreed to sell the story, Britney will be able to seek out the help and support that she needs, not just some self-help guru or ephemeral existential plaster. I truly hope she does; to have Britney make a comeback and be as open about her mental health struggles as she has recently been with showing the public her underwear, or lack thereof, would be a tremendous help and inspiration for regular Americans battling depression.
posted January 4, 2008 at 7:40 pm
I have a mental illness too. However I do not use anything in my life as an excuse to not seek out treatment for my mental wellness when I know that it is needed. It is quite obvious from her obnoxious behavior on stage that she is going way overboard and she does need to seek treatment voluntarily before she is forced to. In my opinion, she is not mentally stable enough and carrying on as she does on stage is not what I feel would warrant her a suitable parent – mental illness or not! Sincerely Charmaine Jensen-Voisine
posted January 5, 2008 at 12:22 am
The LAST thing Ms. Spears needs is a typical therapist. They’ll just invent new diseases to keep her addicted to them and the pills that always follow. What she needs is a solid Church body to be a memeber of. K-Fed too. If you read the DSM-IV – the mind-altering holy book of psychology – EVERYONE on earth has a mental illness. What Britney needs is to be shown right FROM wrong. She will NEVER get that “in therapy.” Christians nationwide should pray for her intensely. It is not too late for her OR her sister. Only death makes it too late. IF, Britney could become a good role model for our youth (which she will never accomplish following humanistic psychology), thousands and thousands of young lives could and would be saved, including hers. I sat down with my just barely pre-teen daughter and explained to her why we would prefer that she no longer watch Zoe 101, as the Spears girls are very harmful to her and to other young people, and supporting them in making money and promoting their bad behaviors would be dishonest and un-Christian AND would do no good for anyone. She asked me why these girls didn’t go to a good Church and have better friends. I reminded her of the narrow gate and the wide gate parable. She understood better than I could have hoped. We are also going to pray for the Spears sisters. So much could be made better if the turned their lives over to Christ Jesus.
posted January 5, 2008 at 6:27 pm
You know, Britney, I hate to say this has done it to herself. The reason being that she had everything handed to her on a silver platter and then when she turned legal age, it started to unravel. This last year proved that she has issues that she needs to face and she better face them soon otherwise, she will turn into a statistic like the late Freddie Prinze, a person with a life of promise ended it all 31 years ago. I remembered the day he killed himself because it was rainy, like this here in So Cal.
I know they all grew up in a Christian home, but (And I’m not saying that Mrs. Spears trained her children correctly, because I believe she did the best she could) if you don’t train them up in the ways of the Lord, they will nine times out of ten will not depart from that training or they will remember the time they went to church and accepted christ as their savior.
I just pray that they fully turn their lives fully over to the Lord and also pray that will go to a church that stresses accountablity for their lives.
posted January 5, 2008 at 7:28 pm
Having left a so-called church like the ones described by the above writer, all I can say is that I am delighted to have escaped the closed minded hypocritical ignorance so prevalent in many, if not most of these churches.
Young females that I interacted with were treated as stupid and dumb from day one and had their fragile sense-of-self shattered by being told that they MUST submit to being dominated by sexist males and that if they DID dare to think for themselves, ask questions, etc they were(are) labeled as ‘trouble makers’–and worse.
What is the difference between females whose sense of self is continually shattered by ignorant, closed minded sexistclerics and/or females suffering from low self esteem by being forced to submit to arranged marriages, submit to having to wear hadors/head coverings when they go outside, having to submit to being escorted by a male relative everywhere they go, not being permitted to drive cars, and, in many more primitive areas, not being allowed to go to school to begin with!
Obviously, Britney has been subjected to more at such a tender age than many females are subjected to in an entire life time…..
So, yes, give Britney a good therapist that can help her put her shattered life back together even if NOT as a Fundamentalist Christian; give Britney a good therapist that can help her restore a sense of self that doesn’t need the crutches of drugs, alcohol, food or whatever; give Britney a good therapist that can help her recover!
posted January 6, 2008 at 9:37 am
It’s highly likely that Britney is suffering from both a mental disorder (such as bi-polar disorder, another name for manic/depression) as well as substance addition. They often go hand in hand, the sufferer using drugs and/or alcohol to self medicate. Whatever the case, her antics played out on the international media is a true tragedy waiting to happen, and I think most thinking people know this. Unless there is a true sprititual intervention of some sort, and hopefully soon, something truely terrible is going to happen. Since “Dr.” Phil will be broadcasting her (which will benefit him, and I think only him) I don’t think he is the answer. Pray for Britney and her family. She is in denial, and is surrounded by users.
posted January 7, 2008 at 8:53 am
Ms. Spears,
I’ve never seen you performand nor did I know who you were until recently. I’m sorry that you are having so much problems in your life, I don’t judge you in any way, shape or form but have you ever thought about praying to God for help?
I hope Ms Spears that you will be able resolve your problems amd one day have custody of your children.
posted January 7, 2008 at 10:49 am
When my son was seven years old, I had the privilege of praying with him to accept Jesus as his savior. At the age of nineteen, he left for the Marine Corp – becoming a religious lay leader. When he was twenty, he tried to hang himself and was diagnosed with a severe and persistent mental illness. For six long years, he refused any type of treatment, walking out on his church, the Christian counselors, his family, his life. On May 5 this year, we will celebrate one year of sanity with him. Not because he’s returned to church. Not because he’s a “better” believer. Because he’s now on medication and is in ongoing counseling.
He is still saved. He still believes in God, and is removing the blackness that hid God from him.
He’s not going back to church yet because of the awful stigma and rejection he felt when he was diagnosed. If anything, now he is getting a better handle on God’s grace and love. It is from God, not from people.
To say that Brittany can choose to change the bizarre behavior that led to last week’s public showdown, is like tell someone with diabetes if they would only buck up, pull themselves up by their bootstraps, and live a sinless life, they would be rid of diabetes. To say that someone who uses antipyschotic medications is a victim of drug companies greed, is like saying the person with diabetes is a similar victim because they take insulin.
No doubt, we need to pray for the Spears family. No doubt, each one of them needs to know God’s grace and love. It appears they also need the salvation only Jesus can give. In addition, Brittany needs pray that she and her family will accept that she is very ill and needs medical help. We can also pray for her to have physical healing form the illness she has.
But, we don’t need to condemn her to a life of stigma by condemning her further.
Susan K. Stewart
http://www.family-4-family.com
posted January 7, 2008 at 4:22 pm
Spinning her situation toward a drug/alcohol problem might be beneficial in terms of public perception because the public understands substance abuse more than it grasps mental disorder. Stated too simply, a drug problem can be fixed with rehab. The crazies? I don’t know…that’s forever.
Certainly when it comes to celebrities, we accept, or at least expect substance abuse more readily than a mental disorder. We wonder what could possibly be so difficult about a celebrity’s life. What’s she got to be depressed about…all that money. She’s got it made.
Public perception aside, the cure, if there is one is pretty much the same regardless of what’s wrong with Brittany. She needs to be sequestered from the influences that helped bring her to this state. That’s rehab if it’s drugs. It’s quiet time with a professional if she’s got a wire crossed. If she’s allowed to avoid her pain
in the same way she has been for the past few years, she’s going to repeat this cycle.
posted January 7, 2008 at 6:41 pm
It is impossible for any of us to say what is the exact problem Brittany. And most likely it is not a single one. Her situation is really none of our business and I strongly doubt it will make any difference in how mental illness or substance abuse is perceived.
I hope for the day when she is able to move out of the spotlight this way and tend to her life. It is possible to be a celebrity and live quietly — but it requires be willing to be more ordinary, a tough thing for somone used to the spotlight..
posted January 7, 2008 at 7:50 pm
Imagine if you will for a moment…living any moment of your life out in the public eye with photographers around you and tabloids writing about you practically every moment of your day…then pick a particularly horrible moment (how about in your teen years or your 20′s or even…for some…early thirties and some even older)and think about it…how would you have reacted in that moment?…how would you have been perceived?…ever acted really out of control? (or had someone perceive you as so even if you didn’t think so)…ever done anything that you weren’t exactly proud of?…something that you would like the whole world to know about…blow by blow?…ever had annoying people get on your nerves and give them the evil eye?…ever get rebellious…even some mothers who had children to young and too close together?…these are questions I like to put to myself regarding these kinds of situations…the reality is that all we know about this is what we hear…from my perspective…Brittney is a beloved child of the universe…all the things that have brought her to this point are many but inconsequential to me as far as her ultimate healing…they are a part of her life path…and being a mother of 3 daughters…I just want to love her up…and tell her that no matter how bleak things may seem right now…she is going to be OK…she will survive…because I know she has an amazing soul that will come forth and give her great strength…and for me…as far as Dr. Phil goes…when I heard he went to her…I had tears in my eyes…not because I think he is the answer to all prayers…but because he did something…he went, and in my opinion…in so doing said he cared about her…her situation…that he valued her life…he did what I could not do…I want to think he did it for all the best reasons (and I hold that in the light to be so)…For myself…from this day forward…I hold Brittney and her young sons and all the players involved in this situation in the light…I see her happy…healthy…whole ….and completely in tune with her soul…her true self …and all the relationships of her life peaceful and loving…and may it be so…and so it is
posted January 8, 2008 at 4:47 am
Our projections of our own weaknesses cause us to by voyeurs of others travails. We are equally weak in the act of judging. Go home, be quiet, pray for Brittney, and mind your own business. Message from God
posted January 8, 2008 at 7:00 am
Dear Michael, the lacivious licentious and mocking world of Noah’s day and Sodom and Gomorrah perpetuated by Hollywood is IN our homes. Can’t God do the same thing to LA and this culture of promiscuity that he did to Sodom and Gomorrah? We’re not getting it Michael, and are still going astray. Our families are broken, the role models are porn stars and perverted sex and our children are dying and becoming like Brittney more and more every day. Isn’t it time for a restart? Will praying work? It seems we want Depakote and excuses more than we want God.
posted January 8, 2008 at 8:25 am
I dont realy care about whats happening to this prick of yours!!!
i know a lot of poor people diying out there through lack of food.But you people dont care but you are happy to wasting time talking about a girl who doesnot know how to handle her own personal life.She is far far behind humans
posted January 8, 2008 at 10:07 am
It could be possible that her pregnancies triggered Post Partum(sp) depression, which untreated, may have gotten worse to the point that we are seeing now with her. Think Brooke Sheilds, if you will.
I, personally, feel really sorry for this young girl and her children. She needs help.
posted January 8, 2008 at 10:29 am
She may have Post Partum Depression. I don’t remeber her being in trouble like this before she had children. I know two things you go to when you have depression – that’s drugs and alcohol. I hope she gets better. Peace and Blessings.
posted January 8, 2008 at 10:49 am
Abundance08, bless you for pulling the plank out of your own eye; may humble prayer dislodge the sliver in Brittney’s.
As for Dr. Phil motives, I’m not as charitable as you are. Celebrity seems to be a very specific curse, and Dr. Phil’s attempt to “rescue” Brittney amidst the roiling depravity that is the paparazzi suggests we direct a few prayers his way as well.
posted January 8, 2008 at 12:08 pm
she was broke down by fedderhole——–he knew what he was doing to her from the day he met her–he tricked her–he made sure he would be set for life and never have to work, and needed those two tax deductions as pawns,,, this is all his fault–she is weak minded due to him and just needs some strenghtening up… she needs to pull herself together and get her kids and boot feederhole every chance she gets–and how can anyone—not her– anyone— drive with idiots surrounding the car—the press has alot of fault here and laws should be made the press may never approach a star or their vehicle without permission. i think a little religion and a stable support group will bring this girl back…and fedderhole should just get a job.
posted January 8, 2008 at 12:16 pm
I can’t understand why these people who are doing all these wild things to get attention are even getting the time of day.
Couldn’t our time be spent to make our world better other than publicizing people like Britney, and others?
posted January 8, 2008 at 12:35 pm
Brittney Spears is “mentally absent” rather than mentally ill or addicted to drugs. Happens all the time to these no-talent “celebrities” who get rich for doing nothing worthwhile.
posted January 8, 2008 at 12:37 pm
What she needs is a 3mo stay in a mental hospital
why do I say that because I was in much worse shape than she is & I went to Woodview Calabasses they are the best they brought me back to life please tell her& herfamiley about this wonderful hospital.This is her only hope & it works. Thanks for listening to me.
Sincerely
Rita
posted January 8, 2008 at 12:58 pm
What is wrong with you people? If you knew anything about Bi-polar or anyone with it you would know that she has had it for a while. It is the most treatable of all mental diseases but it has the most suicides. She couldn’t dance on MTV because she could not focus enough because of depression. I would like everyone who is really concerned about this young talented woman to research Bi-polar ie:manic-Depression. Really look. It is NOT her fault. Those decisions seen normal to her. What she has felt for so long is how she thinks everyone feels so she thinks she doesn’t need help.
Like knows like, I am Bi-polar and I could see in Britney starting two years ago. It hits its peak usually at 25 years of age.She needs the right medications and therpy.
Everything she has done this past year was because of mania. You make outragious decisions and you CAN’T control it unless you know what you are fighting against. Meaning outragious spending, inappropriate sexuality, rage, partying to excess, trying to treat the illness with alcohol and drugs, ect ect ect. The good part about mania is the creativeness you have, like painting, writing, drawing, performing, not keeping normal sleeping hours so you can finish work, having a happy outragious feeling, ect ect ect. And if you are like me they can be mixed, having both creative and feel depressed at the same time. It’s different for everyone and DO NOT get better when you ignore it.
My x-hubby made me have a breakdown at 25yrs old. Long story. But Kevin and having the children kicked in this disease. Kevin is wrong, wrong, wrong, and will have to pay one day in this life or the other.
NOW–those kids have a great chance of inheriting this disease because Britney has it.
posted January 8, 2008 at 1:46 pm
Good for U Cynthia…and I know just the right group, http://www.Dangerousmen.com. They’ll show her what he’s done to her! And help her get it together and forget him!
posted January 8, 2008 at 2:11 pm
Brittnay our favorite .she lives at Kentwood .La. [Louisiana]and Knows no stangers
posted January 8, 2008 at 3:36 pm
I know from personal experience, you have to WANT to quit not NEED to quit. other then it will not work for anyone. But I’m tired of everyone judgeing her, there are alot worse mothers out there then her, or addicts or mentally disturbed ones, then her. The minute her guard seen her doing her doing drugs, he should have turned her in then because then he is being a codependent which is just like him giving her the drug and letting her do it.
I say LEAVE HER ALONE AND STOP JUDGEING HER!!! He’s at the edge at the building almost ready to jump and EVERYONE is telling her too. News, reporters, nosey people like that. She WILL come aroung if EVERYONE leave her alone. No one cared when she was good, now that she is bad, they do care.
posted January 8, 2008 at 3:50 pm
HEY, BRITNEY SPEARS………..
HEY I KNOW LIFE IS TOUGH BUT YOU NEED GET OVER I….YOU HAVE YOUR KIDS NEED YOU THE MOST. BRITNEY I KNOW YOU COME FROM FAMILY OF CHURCH
THAT LOVE SERVICE THE LORD.BUT I KNOW THAT GOD SEEN WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH JUST ASK GOD FOR HE HELP AND GUIDE YOU THROUGH ALL THE THING GOING ROUND YOUR LIFE. BRITNEY YOU WILL NEVER FIND ANY ANSWER OUT THERE BUT GOD GOT ASNWER YOU NEED. I SEE YOU ON T.V. AND SEEN WHAT YOU GOING THROUGH YOU DO NOT NEED ALLL THAT. YOU NEED PUT GOD FIRST IN YOUR LIFE AND WORK YOUR WAY HELP YOUR CHILDREN. BECAUSE YOUR KIDS NEED THEIR MOTHER NOT BRITNEY FAMOUS ONE THAT THE WORLD WANT HER TO BE.
YOUR NEED YOU THE MOST THAN YOUR FANS THAT MAKE YOU FAMOUS.
I HOPE YOU MAKE BETTER FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR KIDS.
BRITNEY READ THE WORD THAT IN THE BIBLE YOU WILL FIND YOUR WAY BACK. BUT THIS TIME YOU HAVE GOD IN YOUR SIDE AND YOUR KIDS.
YOU WILL BE NEVER ALONE.
GOD BLESS LOVE FROM A GOOD SERVICE OF GOD…
posted January 8, 2008 at 4:05 pm
I Think Britney Needs Far More Help Than The News Crew Can Give Her,Leave Britney Alone And Let Her Get The Help She So Badly Needs,To Help Her Be The Mother She Can Be For Her Children,Britney Is Caught Up Into The Night Life She Cant Get The Help She Needs In Jail,BRITNEY GET HELP DEAR.
posted January 8, 2008 at 5:26 pm
Her early fame and money caused her problems, She is addicted and mentally ill.And now her sister is joining her. The entire family needs professional help.She needs to have driving license taken away nd a nanny that answers to child welfare, so Brittney can not fire her
posted January 8, 2008 at 7:47 pm
This young woman is so desperate. Her actions have gone from ludicrous to frightening. She needs to be hospitalized and treated so that she can regain her health and take charge of her life. It’s easy as an outsider to point fingers at her family, particularly since Jamie Lynn’s pregnancy was announced, but let’s not get into name-calling and judging. This family needs spiritual support through the trials they are facing. Britney needs treatment and professional help, and the entire family needs prayers and caring thoughts. They’ve got mine.
posted January 8, 2008 at 8:39 pm
IMO, there’s no way to know what is the truth of her problem: drugs, fame, trauma, mental illness, a mixture of all 3, something else? Unfortunately, given the nature of today’s media, they focus 100% on what will seem the most sensational for today.
Given her fame & fortune, it’s hard for me to feel any sympathy for her she is more than capable of paying for therapy/treatment. A role model for others re: mental illness? Hardly, as the average person, who is most in need of therapy/treatment, is the least likely to be able to get it today.
posted January 8, 2008 at 8:46 pm
I agree with Peggy early fame and money caused her problems, but not only that her mother is to blame also. I think, no I know her mother fell in love with the idea that her daughter was famous and she wanted to be part of it all she wanted to be in the lime light too. I’ve seen pics of her w/ Brit and her friends partying till the wee hours of the night, and I’ve read that she even calls Brit’s friends on thier cells to see see what they are up too.
I think alot has to with the crowd you hang out with for example Paris Hilton she not not the type of girlfriend I would approve of as a friend for my daughter. She needs to be admiited for addiction and pshyciatric help also who knows maybe she’s bipolar. let’s not forget the press either they need to give her what if they were in her shoes how would they feel. Thats all i gotta say.
posted January 8, 2008 at 8:50 pm
To all of the people who really care for Britney, PLEASE PRAY FOR HER. For all of the Reiki Masters that know this poor girl, SEND SOME HEALING ENERGY to this fellow human sister.
Now, please people, LEAVE THIS GIRL ALONE.
I do believe that she has some kind of mental disorder, and I blame it on the father of her children and on her mother. If her children father care about their children, he could be more freaking reasonable and stayed with her that night and let her spend more time with her children obviously he only care about her money.
To Britney: Honey, don’t let anyone take what you have, the people that are ruining your life if because you give them the power to do it. You are smart, talented and beautiful. PLEASE concentrate in getting help and getting better then you will be able to recuperate your self and your children. I will be praying for you and I will be sending you distance energy healing so that you can get better.
md
posted January 8, 2008 at 9:47 pm
When you asked the queation of is she mentally ill or drug addict? My answer is that she should be placed in a facility where they can find out what her problems really are and then she, along with the right people fix the problems. Because, at the rate that she is going, she will lose her children and loved ones, but most of all she will lose herself in the process. She used to be a decent girl singer.
posted January 8, 2008 at 9:52 pm
Britney may in fact not be as BAD as she is being presented to be by the MEDIA FRENZY and all the so-called psych experts who are making comments. I think the person who could help her is Madonna. Look at the rebellion she had and lived out while becoming rich and famous and look at how her life has changed for the better. She is smart about how to manipulate the media thru controversial lyrics and videos because the REAL TRUTH is that BAD PUBLICITY creates more interest than GOOD PUBLICITY unless of course you are Angelina Jolee and Brad Pitt! Britney LOVES ATTENTION because as a young girl that is what fed her machine to become successful. Like a child she acts out to get attention! If Kevin Feterline would have stopped his substance abuse and become the man of the family he could have helped her mature and become a good mother and wife. I think the media circus should leave her alone but that will never happen since they make money from spinning all the stories in magazines and TV shows. Perhaps if she could have some space to just be herself without so much criticism she would be able to figure things out and become a better person all by herself. If she is bi-polar there is medicine for that but most of these people medicate themself and shun any psych help as allot of that heavy medication turns people into zombies. Hell half of the world takes Prozac for God’s sake when they could just relax and smoke some pot and become peaceful, eat something and read a good spiritual book in the privacy and comfort of their own home. Yes, this is the answer for Britney….try that! Britney is not crazy, she is not a sleeze, she is not stupid and she is not an addict. I’m sure she loves her son’s very much and that is the reason she locked herself in her room with her son because she didn’t want him to leave to go see daddy. She probably still loves Kevin if the truth be known and that may have a tremendous impact on her irrational behavior. No one can help someone heal a BROKEN HEART only time does that! People need to send POSITIVE thoughts and PRAYERS her way as there is too much negativity about her in the MEDIA and really they are to blame for allot of her behavior. How much of an impact would POSITIVE behavior have in the Tabloids and shows like Access Hollywood and Entertainment Tonite? They can’t sinsationalize GOOD BEHAVIOR and make any money for their stories that way!! I say everyone just leave her alone including her parents, and stop trying to force your ideas and advise down her throat when all she wants to do is be left alone to make her own decisions as an adult. Remember people learn from their mistakes! She is just learning now that’s all! For God’s sake leave Britney alone!!!!!!!!!
posted January 8, 2008 at 10:34 pm
i just want to say that this young lady needs a break from the media
and to go along with what dr phil has to offer her he is a smart man and i know he will be a great help ….. i wish i could afford him i am clinically depressed and know what she is probably feeling and it is not at all funny so all you media people give this beautiful women a fighting chance to get help for herself pleeeese………….
and britney i will put you on our prayer list at church as well as pray myself for you …… take the chance and get help for yourself so you can enjoy your two babies and life again…. remember to love yourself first and to hell with everyone else right now iam here for you if you want a new and very caring older friend who is going thru this too …… and to tell you the truth i really didnt know you until i heard the news the other day but iam here for you sweety
take care cause you have so much to live for still……
i;ll be praying for you ……. good luck
lots of love
denise
posted January 8, 2008 at 11:15 pm
MY DEAR BRITNEY I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR & READ ABOUT YOUR FALL OUT. HOWEVER THE MADIA HAS NOT BEEN FAIR AND INSTEAD OF HELPING YOU THEY ADDED TO YOUR DOWN FALL.
HOW EVER AT 83 BEING AN OLD LADY, I HAVE HEARD ABOUT YOU THRU MY GRANGAUGHTERS, WHOM YOU WERE THEIR I DOL AND EVEN TRYING TI IMITATE YOUR SINGING, PLEASE- PLEASE- LISTEN TO YOUR HEART AND GET MEDICAL HELP FOR YOU TO RECOVER AND BE STRONG AND FIGHT FOR YOUR CHILDREN, THEY ARE WORTH TO HAVE A MOMMY AND TO KNOW THAT THEY ARE WANTED & LOVE.
YOU WERE SUCH AN INSPERATION AT ONE TIME TO TEEN GIRLS YOU COULD AGAIN BE THERE TO INSPIRE THEM TO TELL YOUR STORY TO THEM TO BE STRONG AND SAY NO TO DRUG & ALCOHOL. GOE BLESS & BE WITH YOU BRITNEY YOU WILL BE IN MY PRAYERS AND ALSO IN PRAYERS WITH MY CHURCH PRAYER GROUP.
I R EALLY LIKE YOUR STYLE OF SINGING AND YOU COULD ONCE AGAIN BE THE STAR THAT YOU WERE.
J.D.L.T.
posted January 8, 2008 at 11:43 pm
just an FYI…Addiction is a mental illness. Frequently what you refer to as mental illness(e.g. BiPolar Disorder, Depression, Anxiety, Schizophrenia) is comorbid with drug and alcohol abuse and addiction.
Patients with the afformentioned disorders may turn to drugs and alcohol to “self-medicate”. Also, many don’t seek help because they don’t know they are sick.
These disorders are very abstract and I find it disturbing that they get thrown around so loosely in the media!
posted January 8, 2008 at 11:45 pm
I feel Britney Spears will need help first and foremost to tear down the wall of denial which I believe protected her attitude of entitlement.
She is another example of someone breaking down under the pressure of living with that awful self worth ‘breaker”, which is being admired for what she can do, rather than being valued for her humanity.
I truly believe if she entered and would complete a long term treatment program,she could turn the corner.Twenty eight days won’t do it,and I hope she gets the help she needs, because she is tremendously talented, and of course lovely,and could really become a light.
posted January 9, 2008 at 7:44 am
I feel so sorry for Miss Spears. I hope that she gets the help she needs. I fear she may end up taking her own life. People with mental health issues should check out their local chapter of NAMI (national alliace for the mentally ill) they do a great deal to work against stigma. I get so upset when people feel they have to hide who they are because of the ignorance that runs rampant about mental health. Educate yourselves people…..look up NAMI ,look at what your legislators are doing and if it isn’t enough,write and call them!! Anyway,I am prying for her….I hope she recovers soon and makes a huge comeback. K-Fed is a jerk. The only reason he wants those kids is to get Britneys money. Notice how he never tried to get custofy of Shar Jacksons children? He makes me sick as does Paris Hilton who was hanging out with him while he is causing her supposed “friend” so much grief. You know it is true,the songs Britney has done have really been looks into her world and how she was feeling,she has been overwhelmed for a long time.
posted January 9, 2008 at 4:57 pm
The world is changing as we live in it,eh? What has happened here is a young girl embracing fame and then not knowing how to handle it. Fame may get you recognized and a lot of money. It does not give one humility, balance, strength and so on if it was not instilled there in the first place.
Today we are more aware of mental issues and what-have-you that Britney needs to surround herself with people who genuinely care about her and her well-being. NOT her pocketbook. Does her Mother and K-Fed come to mind? It’s sickening right there– that those you feel love you are truly there with ulterior motives. I think they should be getting help as well.
Britney, please breathe deep and look inward and you will find the answer. It’s NOT with the Paris Hiltons of the world or K-Feds. You will hopefully make a turn-around and see for yourself where you went where you should not be and go where your talents lead you and are appreciated.
Much health and happiness to you, your children, and pets.
posted January 9, 2008 at 5:58 pm
Dearest Britney:
I am part of the Hollywood Prayer Team. You are on my list for prayer.
I hope you know how much you are loved. Please get the treatment you need and the theropy. If you have a chemical imbalence it;s not your fault. I have had both addiction and sever clinical depression. I was not wanting to stay in hospital, however, after hearing my psychiotrist tell me he could help me, I was willing to try anything to get out of that “hole”.
I pray you will stay in contact with you cousin at Belair Pres. She will be able to hook you up with someone who is willing and waiting to teach you and encourage you. I know! They have done it before. But, first, please, get the help you need and stick with it. You won’t be sorry.
Love with understanding
Penny
posted January 9, 2008 at 8:24 pm
Brit dont listen to any ones thoughts,feelings or ideas of everything you have been through.
You should strive to be who you want to be and not be afraid to set your goals to find it.
You will learn the older you get. In the mean time,you will hear so many peoples ideas,opions and “a way to be” so to speak.Just think positive,be what and who you are striving for in life,and dont be afraid to stand on your own and say what you want.
Dont let any ones negative feelings sway you for what you really are seeking and need in life.
posted January 10, 2008 at 10:53 am
Hi britney i hope you no that the world resevce it’s on and you are not part of it. if you were they would have receieved you. but they dont.but there’s’ one who had always recieved you.he has recieved the hole world but pepole do what they wont it’s there choice and i hope you know what i’m talking about. and look at how the world have done you when you need them. they are not there for you but jesus will be there no matter how many mistakes you have made. we all have made them mistakes and we are still making them; mistakes. love you always jayden
posted January 10, 2008 at 1:00 pm
When I see this poor child go through the things that she has suffered from I have no choice but to blame the public and our obsession with celebrities to a large extent for her melt down and her current problems of addiction and mental instability.
We have taken a little girl and placed her in a position that would drive even the strongest of us into a state of total insanity. From the time she was 4 years old she has been in front of the camera and in the public eye. She has had no private life and has no time to learn to deal with all the pressure involved with this mess. Being hounded by fans for autographs all the time, never having a chance to go shopping or out to eat without the damn cameras in her face, people chasing her and taking pictures all the time have made it impossible for her to live any kind of “a normal life”.
As a parent I have always wanted my child to have the best of luck in anything she does but also I wanted to protect her always from those that would try and expose her to the general public. I put a lot of the blame for her current condition on Britney’s parents because instead of them protecting her as a child they thrust her into the limelight in order to live the life of luxury off the sweat of their own child. I have always found this to be reprehensible for any parent to take advantage of a child that way and since she was placed in this position you have the beginning of the breakdown of Britney Spears.
Having no chance to be a child, to do the normal child things like slumber parties, school dances or any of the other activities most children take for granted began the damaged life of this poor girl and lay the ground work for all the people that have taken advantage of her since. Think of the string of people that have been a part of her spiral to where she has bottomed out, her parents, her management, her boyfriends who have ridden her fame to boost their own, and eventually the man that has ruined her life completely.. Kevin Fedderline.
Not only did he take her fame and try to make some of his own (not even her fame and her money was not enough to make his career because of his lack of talent)but when filing for divorce ask for alimony because he could not live the life he had become accustomed to otherwise. What kind of man takes his wifes money for his own personal gain instead of trying to make his own living. Being a human sponge and taking her for all he can get from her has been a contibuting factor in her downfall and now with the loss of her children I fear there is no help for her without serious and heart felt intervention by her loved ones.
Although her current mental state warranted her needing a chapparone with her boys there are many things that have yet to be considered that should be now explored in an attempt to help her cope with her life and allow her to resume the roll of mother to her children. Taking into consideration that she had 2 male children I have to wonder if any of the doctors that have been so happy to take her money and declare her healed have considered that she is suffering from post pardom depression. With the problems so many women face after having a male child I have to wonder if she has not suffered the same mental problems that hormone imbalance causes with testosterone withdrawl can cause. I would hope that the mental health professionals will consider all possible causes and will attempt to heal her this time instead of simply drying her out and setting her free again.
Mental illness and alcohol abuse are things that I know a great deal about because I have suffered from both and it is a very lonely place when you have to deal with it alone. Trying to tell your friends or family what is wrong becomes impossible when you are not sure yourself what is happening. I spent a large majority of my life living with untreated mental illness and it is a very deep and dark place that you go to when your life seems to be falling apart. You try to fix it but your mind is so messed up that what you think will make it right or put you on the path to correcting it will actually make it worse. I have lost many loved ones because I was unable to deal with life in a positive and healthy way. Alcohol was always a way of escape for me because I felt that if I didn’t like who I was atthe time that if I could ply myself with alcohol I could become someone that others would like but it was just an excuse and I find now that I have been sober for 15 years that I was only kidding myself but I can also see why celebrities like Britney drink, do drugs and act eccentric when in public.. they are trying to enjoy their life but instead have cameras following them all the time in an attempt to satisfy the cravings of we, the general public, for dirty on those that we see as idols.
I guess there is a sadistic pleasure that we as the common people find in seeing those who share celebrity status fall because it shows us that they are not perfect however we seem to hold them at far higher standards than we do ourselves. Is it because they are in the public eye or that they are people that we idolize? Are they not allowed to be human because they are celebrities? I think we as their fans need to show support instead of giving criticism to those that offer us so much joy and ask so little in return. Those that have entertained us and have shown us love through their efforts need to know that we accept them as human beings and that we still love them when they show vulnerability for they are still the same people, they just need our love and support in their time of need.
Britney, I for one want to offer you my best and my prayers that you will find your way back so that you can enjoy the life you deserve with your kids. Whether you ever perform again or not I will always be a fan and a solid supporter of you in every way. Your life has been hard since you were a small child and have never had the chance to learn how to balance career and home life all I can say is I hope that you somehow find that place that will allow you to seperate these two entities and become whole again. Those that criticize you and ridicule you are not true fans or even friends but everyone finds some of these people in their lives, it is how you learn to handle them that will help you to heal and become the force you once were in the entertainment industry and in real life. My love and my prayers are with you always.
posted January 15, 2008 at 4:21 pm
She was the butt of jokes and some of my own commentaries, but when I finally heard about her breakdown, I realised that she more than likely is having mental breakdowns…and think they’re worsse than Mariah Carey’s.
posted January 19, 2008 at 7:11 am
Yes, why it is okay to mock and vilify people searching mental healp? It is okay to drink or drug yourself, but not to suffer from illness YOU CANNOT HELP! In the world of entertainment – especially horror – the sewers can spill their waste freely, what come to the vilifying mentally ill as the inhuman monsters. Gross…
posted February 15, 2008 at 8:34 am
have u ever had your children taken away from u,,,???
i have and it will drive you nuts,,, makes you pull at straws and do stupid stuff,its hard to understand unless you have been there,,, you feel you have no control over anything including yourself,, i was not able to see my son for 18 months because i spanked him when he was nine years old,,cruel?? yes for me and my son, i was a basket case ,, and yes sometimes life isnt fair,,, but sometimes we have to just suck it up and hold on,, because this too shall pass,,,,
posted February 19, 2008 at 2:02 pm
I truly agree with the comments made form Rick above, 100% i whould re-write everything.
Britney, if you read this, take a moment to read how much you worry your true fans, the ones that don’t make fun of you, but feel pretty sad everytime we have to see your kids pictures or you doing something wrong on every cover of a magazine. i am a mother as well, about your age and i see your kids eyes and they brake my heart. i would do anything for my daugther ANYTHING!, i know you can be a good mother as well because God granted you with that blessing, and God doesn’t make mistakes.-
You can start by picking up whatever’s left and start forming a new better life with your kids, prove the world you are BRITNEY SPEARS, prove the media you hit the ground hard… but picked YOURSELF up and made it thru. You are a beautiful women, you have talent, and girl i’m sure theres people out there that want to see you HAPPY and ENJOY life the way GOD wants you 2, i definetly want to see that happen, i wanna see you perform again, i wanna see you with your kids having fun in the beach, disneyland you name it, make them proud of you, of who you really are inside and not the one the media made out of you… always remember that it’s you responsability to make somebody out of those boys…
And take care because we really care for you, and if we didn’t we would not be waisting our time writting to you, because we really don’t know if you will ever see this.
But we will keep praying.
posted March 8, 2008 at 2:43 pm
I feel really sad at what our world has come to. We put these stars as idols and the Bible says let there be no Idols. We can’t get enough of them. We read every little thing into their lives then we criticize them for not being perfect. We’re all not perfect, but God created us in his image. He gave us each a talent and we can share our talents as pleasing to the Lord. I myself am guilty of following peoples lives. I’m learning not to cast judgment on them and pray for them. If they have become someone I feel I need to follow then that’s when I pray for myself as well. Britney is a beautifull women. I hope that she will find somebody that actually cares about her well being and get her the help she needs. It would be a great blessing to see her get the proper help and get her life back on track. Let’s all pray that we will get to witness the work of our Father in Heaven on her life.
posted September 29, 2008 at 10:59 pm
i CAN IDENTIFY WITH bRITTANY. i AND MY DAUGHTER SUFFER FROM DEPRESSIVE. wE SHOULD HELO AND PRAY FOR PEOPLE WITH THIS DISORDER.