Although I am certainly not one to fall down at Oprah's feet and praise every word she says like some people, I do have to give her props for her latest public message to singer Rihanna, whose boyfriend, singer Chris Brown was recently charged with two felonies for assaulting her in February. According to recent media reports, the two singers have apparently reconciled and were spotted on vacation together.
Said Oprah, who will be devoting a episode of "The Oprah Winfrey Show" later this week to a discussion about domestic violence:
Both Chris Brown and Rihanna, if I were your friend, I'd call you up and say, 'Give it some time. Get yourself some counseling. Take care of yourself. Heal yourself first.... If a man hits you once, he will hit you again. He will hit you again.
Good for you Oprah! I really hope Rihanna listens to advice like this because I fear the next time Chris hits her, we'll be reading headlines that say "Singer Chris Brown Kills Rihanna in Fit of Rage."
Unfortunately, Gayle King, Oprah's BFF and Editor-at-Large for "O, The Oprah Magazine" has given the couple her blessing to get back together. "If you guys want to get back together, I'm OK with that," said King. "But at least take some time. I am so worried she is sending the wrong message to the young fans. And him, too!"
I, for one, am not OK with them getting back together. Sadly, Rihanna has already sent a horrible message to young women everywhere, that it's OK to accept physical abuse from one's significant other. Getting back with an abusive boyfriend--especially when the abuse was made very public--was not a very wise decision on her part. What she really needs to do is walk away and have Chris sort out his issues. Hopefully he'll have a long time to do this--from a prison cell--and could one day, in the very far future, earn Rihanna's forgiveness.
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I forgot to add if he was protecting himself why does he not have a single hair out of place.Look at her after and his after then look at their before pics. What is wrong with this picture? Hmmmm..
Phyllis
Come on, most men don't bruise from women beatings, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt. Why is it called verbal abuse and against the law when a man is saying words and screaming? Rumor has it that she hit him with her Stiletto High Heel of course you won't hear that in the media or from the Racist Oprah "Deadly Weapon". But no-matter, as a man he did go to far and should be punished and he will. I wish that he had used his strength to restrain her from throwing a fit but he didn't but rest assure he would have still been arrested for touching her. That's the way it is only in America!
As one who suffered physical abuse from my husband, I can say that Oprah's warning is right on the money. For years, I told myself that he loved me and why do I keep making him angry. Well, after 10 yrs., it finally clicked - - - get away from him. I took my son (7 yrs. old), and ran as fast as our legs could take us. I could not stand to see the damage the fighting was doing to our child. It was the best decision I ever made. True, I struggle financially for a while, but I ketp looking at the bigger picture - - - freedom! Twenty years later, my ex and I became good friends. He seeked help and got it. He became a pretty decent human being. It was too late for our relationship, but not for he and his son. He turned back into the person that I fell in love with. There were no hard feelings between us when he passed away the same time as our son was off to college. I cried and missed him terribly.
People need to stop commenting on this stuff like they were in the car. There's only one side being told because one person got battered the most. But, it is becoming more public just how the two of them used to fight and Rihanna did a lot of battering too. Honestly, I think this relationship is a disaster waiting to happen again because of both of them growing up in homes with domestic violence. They should run far away from each other cause Rihanna is rummored to be jealous, controlling, and physically violent too. Chris has already been provoked and lost control once. Who knows what will happen the next time? They need to at least take a break from each other to do some counseling for a good year---no attachment. Love and sex clouds the mind for both parties
Your Name, you're so far off the mark on this one, it's frightening. I really hope you never have any daughters.
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