We’re not brought up to say “I love me.” It can feel funny at first. And continue to feel funny for a while. I remember when I read about the importance of going to a mirror, looking into it, and saying, “I love you” to my reflection. What me? I didn’t want to look at me so how could I express love when I didn’t feel it? Still, I walked to the mirror, desperate to feel better about me. Many people tell me they feel the same way. Some close their eyes when they get to the mirror. That’s okay.
You can force yourself to do it like I did.
Even if you don’t quite feel it yet. Say it in the mirror and to yourself. The more you says it, the more you remind yourself that you want to feel self-love. The more you say it the more it will sink in. Falling in love with yourself takes time and patience. Your closed eyes may open a little as you get more comfortable. Then a little more. As you continue to do it, it will begin to feel more natural. You’ll get more comfortable with it.
Think of it as practice for real love one day and keep it up, every time you pass a mirror.
It’s a lovely day when you say “I love me” and realize that it’s true! I said it when I still hated myself. My transformation was subtle and gradual. But one day I said it and smiled. I really felt it! What a glorious moment that is! Keep saying “I love you” in the mirror and “I love me” to yourself whenever you can. Add, “I approve of myself as is.” Take note of when it finally begins to sink in that you do feel self-love. Practice does turn into real loving!
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posted January 10, 2011 at 1:53 pm
Now that I’m learning to love me, I find myself smiling a lot for no reason and realized I have not smiled like this since I was a kid. I love how it feels to be smiling and contented with my life.
I notice how many other people on the street are not smiling now and understand it does not have to be that way for any of us. For so long I thought this not smiling was just adult seriousness and that’s why everybody was so grim.
People respond nicely when you are smiling and it makes them smile too, so not only do I feel good, but I can pass it around.