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Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Aging Well: Interview with Dr. Jennifer Landa

Everyone wants to age well. Our culture is fixated and looking young. People worry about getting sick as they get older. So I went to Dr. Jennifer Landa to get some info on aging in the best way possible. Dr. Landa is Chief Medical Officer of BodyLogicMD–the largest national network of highly-trained physicians–and Medical Director of BodyLogicMD of Orlando. Dr. Landa is Board Certified by the American Board of Anti-Aging and Regenerative Medicine and serves as an Advanced Fellow in the Fellowship for Anti-Aging, Regenerative and Functional Medicine. And, she’s the author of The Sex Drive Solution for Women. Here’s what she has to say:

What has your experience been with people’s attitude about getting older? Most of my patients present with the attitude that they want to go down fighting. They want to keep everything as good as they can for as long as they can. Generally people are afraid of getting older. Our society values youth. There are plenty of studies that show if you look young, you’re more likely to get the job. We’re sort of all feeling this. The media puts a lot of pressure on people to be living this great life: You should be active, beautiful, this and that. These are the images we get every day. All the messages tell us young—young—young.

What are the top causes of premature death and how can it be deterred? Heart disease, diabetes, all of the diseases I call, essentially to some extent, lifestyle diseases. There’s a genetic component. You get dealt a certain deck. But there’s so much evidence now that says it’s what you do with that deck that will determine your outcome. I call them lifestyle diseases to some extent because I do believe with the proper lifestyle people can reverse what I look at as pre-disease. I have been looking at pre-diabetes for many years. Now it’s finally becoming in vogue for primary care mainstream doctors to talk about it. The endocrine society said in the last year or two that it should be standard to check a hemoglobin A1C. I’ve been checking that on every patient for ten years. Every one of my patients gets that test before they walk in the door so I can inform them whether or not they have pre-diabetes. Then I can give them steps to take.

What first steps someone should take to age the best way possible? There are tests that are determinants for heart disease and for inflammation. Inflammation is really the bottom line for all disease. If I can keep people from being inflamed, I can keep them healthy, and looking and feeling good.

What is inflammation? Inflammation is the presence of inflammatory cytokine chemical secreted throughout our bodies that induce “bad stuff.” They cause all kinds of problems. Inflammation is the presence of these chemicals throughout the body that cause a reaction. Those reactions in certain circumstance can be helpful, like if you get in an accident and get a huge wound. Inflammation is a good thing in that circumstance because it will wall off the wound, prevent bacteria and all kinds of good things. So there is a functional component to this.

But when you have this inflammation system going out of control through mechanisms like elevated blood sugar, it causes blood sugar to get worse. We know that fat is metabolically active and one of the big things it makes is inflammation, these inflammatory cytokines. So fat begets fat, basically. Being fat can keep you fat, because it produces more inflammation, which creates more fat. It’s a really bad cycle. That’s why fat is associated with heart disease, cancer, etc. You can name every disease and find that fatter people have more of them because they make more inflammation.

What are some habits you recommend people adopt in order to be their best as they age? One of the biggest thing is taking supplements. Take fish oil, which is a natural anti-inflammatory, which decreases inflammation. It’s been shown in many studies that it decreases bad things and increases good things. One study showed it decreased the risk of sudden cardiac death. It reduces the risk of Alzheimer’s and improves mood. Vitamin D is being shown to be a big cure-all as well. Besides helping bone density, in the last few years it’s been shown to decrease risk of heart disease, diabetes, Alzheimer’s disease and cancers. You should get your Vitamin D level checked and keep it in an optimal range.

How important is diet? Dietary changes are crucial. I recommend that people generally try to eliminate toxins. That includes your diet, chemicals, and cosmetics. Avoid processed food—anything in a bag, bottle, can, frozen, etc. Try to eat only fresh foods. Get rid of the white and brown foods. Most people eat way too many whole grains and that will elevate your blood sugar. No more than one to two servings a day and a serving is a piece of bread. I recommend better grains like quinoa. It gives you more bang for your nutritional buck so to speak.

Anything else? Exercise—Exercise—Exercise! Weight training is extremely important. The more muscle you create, the better you can utilize and break down blood sugar. That’s super important for keeping healthy. You’ve gotta move! It’s so integral and essential for people who want to live a long and healthy life. You need to make movement part of every day. Find ways to make it fun! And you need to have variety.

Why do you believe that integrating alternative therapies into Western healthcare is so important? It offers options that we don’t have in Western healthcare. There are downsides to Western medicine that we don’t fully acknowledge in our society. Every medication has a list of side effects as long as my arm. If you have two medications in the mix you have contra-indications and cross-reactivity and all kinds of things going on. You have to detoxify these medicines so they’re going through the liver system and it’s bogging that down and you have to detoxify everything else that’s coming at you every day. I think there ‘s a place for Western medicine. I do use my traditional medical training. But in addition, I don’t think I would be anywhere near successful as a physician without knowing what I know about prevention. A lot of people come to me on multiple medications and don’t feel good. They have some of the side effects. You want to use it judiciously. Treating the root cause instead of the symptoms. In traditional medicine your taught to memorize every disease and every symptom a person can have and then every drug you can possibly prescribe for it.

Why is it so important to maintain your whole endocrine system, especially when you get over forty? Because they all work in concert with one another. It’s like a symphony. If the woodwinds and timpani sections are off, it won’t produce as rich a melody. When everything is firing on all cylinders, so to speak, you’ll feel the best. I see physicians who just focus on one or two hormones and kind of leave the rest. The person feels okay but not as great as they could. You have to balance all the hormones because they’re made from one another. There’s a lot of complex interactions.
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Taking good care of yourself is a strong act of self-love. Learn from Dr. Jennifer Landa! She’s an expert at helping people age as gracefully and with the best healthy possible at any age.
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge–a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days–and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at http://howdoiloveme.com. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2012 HERE.

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Law of Attraction in Action: Lost & Found

This is post 188 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how.

What’s the first reaction you’d likely have if you lost something important? It’s usually a negative expressing fear of never getting it returned, anger that it happened, and beating yourself up for being careless, or worse. Our immediate response is typically:

•    “OMG I’m in trouble!”
•    “How could I do that?”
•    “ It’ will be awful trying to deal with this.”
•    “Why am I so stupid to lose my wallet.”

I had the last scenario a few days ago. I was going to the bus terminal on my way to a few days with my family. The subway near me wasn’t running so I had to grab a taxi.  I was in such a rush to not miss my bus that I wasn’t thinking or paying attention to anything other than getting out of the taxi and to the gate.

After I arrived, I went to get something out of my backpack and noticed my wallet was gone. I searched through everything, wondering where it could be. While I hoped I’d accidentally left it home, I suspected I had taken it out in the taxi and it fell on the floor when I quickly got out. I normally take my wallet when I get in.  Since I had enough cash in my pocket for my fare, I suspected I forgot my wallet was on my lap and got out of the cab juggling several bags, letting the wallet fall to the floor.

My first response was fear. I went through all the thoughts of having to cancel credit cards and the many other things I’d lose if I didn’t get it back. Fortunately, I caught myself quickly.

My first thoughts told the Universe I didn’t trust that I’d get the wallet back in tact. I looked up and gave thanks, and put it into God’s hands to get my wallet back in a good way with everything in it. I kept affirming that I trusted my wallet was in good hands and I’d get it back easily. Within an hour, I checked my email and saw one with a subject header “Lost wallet.” Reading it made me scream with joy: A guy named Michael found my wallet in the cab and did a search for my name on Google so he could reassure me fast. He included his cell number.

I immediately called and knew he was the best person to find my wallet. He assumed I’d very very worried and promised to keep it safe. I didn’t get home till Monday afternoon. Blessedly, Michael works 10 blocks from me. I called him when I got in and he offered to meet me halfway. I was fine going to his office but he was so happy to make it easy for me. I got my wallet back with nothing missing and a great feeling about humanity.

I found the blessings in the bad experience. If I hadn’t had money in my pocket for my ticket, I couldn’t have gotten where I was headed and would have had to walk home with heavy bags. And I’d have missed precious time with my family. Michael had gone to his family so I couldn’t have gotten my wallet from him right away. It also reinforced how good people can be. And most important, it strengthened my faith even more. As I affirmed getting my wallet back, I truly believed it!

The next time you lose something, or have another issue that feels awful at first, stop and bring faith into the picture. Had I kept going with my first thoughts, the Law of Attraction would have made sure I didn’t get my wallet and its contents back. Instead, I got into the emotion of KNOWING I would get it back in a good way. Faith really fuels the Law of Attraction to manifest the results you want, no matter how scary the most likely results may seem. Try it!

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE.
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge–a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days–and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at http://howdoiloveme.com. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2012 HERE.

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The Benefits of Being Happy

People tend to look for ways to feel happy, but they’re often fleeting. Often we’re so busy trying find happiness we don’t recognize it when you have it. Happiness isn’t something you build by buying stuff or adding more bells and whistles to your life. It’s a feeling of inner contentment that comes from self-acceptance.

The more you love yourself, the more happiness will come into your life. When I was a DoorMat I didn’t think I could ever be happy. I tried buying things I wanted but except for the moment of the purchase, they didn’t make me happy. I was convinced that pleasing everyone I could would make me happy but back then I didn’t realize that I left the most important person out when I did my pleasing—me! How could I be happy if I ignored my own needs??

But that’s what many of us do. We please others at our own expense and then wonder why we’re rarely happy. The key to happiness is being kind to self. That sort of kindness nourishes the soul, which creates a feeling of contentment and leads to many good things. Below is a video I found that gives the benefits of being happy. Watch it and let it motivate you to give yourself more love so you can find the kind of happiness you DESERVE!!

As someone who lived without happiness for many years in DoorMatville, I can attest how much better life is when you build happiness with self-love. Being happy is healthy for you and feels so much better than being an unhappy people pleaser. Watch this video and see why giving yourself love and creating a true inner happiness is worth it!

 

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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge–a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days–and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at http://howdoiloveme.com. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2012 HERE.

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.

Controlling Negative Emotions

Often situations that trigger anger, disappointment, frustration, sadness, etc., make us stew. People pleasers tend to do it in silence, mulling it over and over as the feelings get more intense, or go the other way and complain to any nearby ear. I did that years ago. When someone did me wrong it took over my thoughts, which created stress and other feelings in my body, which made me feel worse. Then I blamed on whatever happened—making it a vicious cycle: I felt angry, then I felt worse. The worse I felt the more angry I got.

If you don’t short circuit those cycles you can make yourself ill and, it certainly keeps happiness and other good feelings away. I know how hard it can be when someone does you wrong. I was a master complainer and stewed deeply. It didn’t feel good but I didn’t know what else to do. Now that I’ve found techniques to offset going into gripe mode, negative occurrences don’t feel nearly as bad as they used to. Here are some things to try:

•    Vent to one or two trusted people. Talk it out with JUST one or two people so you get validation for your feelings. Often you just need to know you have good reason to feel as you do. Then stifle any urges to complain indefinitely.

•    Allow yourself a good scream at home if it makes you feel better. Or punch a pillow to get some strong rage out.  Sometimes a good private vent can be very therapeutic.

•    Write all your feelings on paper as if you were writing a letter about it. Get all the details: why you have he feelings how it affected you, how it left you feeling, etc. Read it aloud a few times with emotion. Then burn it and let your emotions leave with the smoke.

•    Forgive anyone who was responsible. It can be a person, a company that did you wrong, or you may be blaming yourself. Forgive in your heart. You don’t have to directly communicate with anyone. This is for you, not other people! It’s especially important to forgive yourself. We often beat ourselves up for mistakes that create negative emotions. Forgive yourself for being human and move on. Light a candle to signify it.

Life is so much better when you have emotions under control. Otherwise they control your ability to be happy, usually keeping you from enjoying like. Next time something happens that begins to set you on a negative track, short circuit the emotions fast. Then you can move on and deal with the situation better and feel better.
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at http://howdoiloveme.com. And you can post your loving acts HERE to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE.

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.

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