Mark D. Roberts

Mark D. Roberts

How NOT to Solve Conflicts Among Christians

posted by Mark D. Roberts | 1:45am Thursday August 26, 2010

My friend “Jeff” was the pastor of a church in Southern California. He and I became friends because we shared many of the same challenges as well as the same basic faith in Jesus Christ. I always liked Jeff because he was humble, earnest, and a deeply caring servant of God.

Jeff’s church was on the conservative side, both theologically and liturgically. They had hymns and an organ, proudly so. Nevertheless, Jeff wanted to add a few more contemporary touches to the worship services, like praise songs and a more informal time of prayer. So, one Sunday, he made these slight changes. His elders were not happy with Jeff, however. At the next board meeting there was a big fight, with two or three of the elders denouncing Jeff in demeaning ways. In the end, however, the board voted to sustain what Jeff had done, much to the dismay of the minority that had opposed him.

Two days later, while Jeff was sitting in his office at church, he received an ominous looking letter from a law firm in town. Reading the letter, he was distressed to learn that one of his elders was suing him in civil court because of the changes he had made in worship. I can’t remember the specific charges, but I do well remember Jeff’s great distress over what was happening to him and his church. He just couldn’t believe that one of his elders would actually sue him over a church matter.

Since Jeff shared his plight with me eight years ago, I’ve heard other things like this. Another pastor friend of mine was sued by a former church leader for failing to lead the church in the right direction. I’ve heard of pastors who have threatened to sue members of their church when they felt they were being mistreated. And I’ve watched with concern as individual churches and denominations rush to secular courts to solve church related property issues. Sometimes this happens in my own denomination as particular churches decide to part company with us.

The problem of Christians using the legal system to deal with conflicts with other believers isn’t new. In fact this was one of the problems facing the church in Corinth in the middle of the first century A.D. We learn from 1 Corinthians 6 that one member of the church had some sort of dispute with another member. But rather than work it out within the church, one of the believers sued the other in secular court. This sort of behavior was common among the wealthy members of Corinthian society. Winning in court was usually more a matter of preserving honor than getting a financial settlement. And being held in honor was the highest value among the Corinthian elites. (Photo: This is the platform (bema in Greek) where legal disputes in Corinth were publicly adjudicated. This is the place where, in Acts 18, Paul was charged in the presence of the Corinthian proconsul.)

Acrocorinth-Bema-5.jpgBut the Apostle Paul was not pleased with what was happening in his church. Here’s what he wrote to the Corinthians:

When you have something against another Christian, why do you file a lawsuit and ask a secular court to decide the matter, instead of taking it to other Christians to decide who is right? Don’t you know that someday we Christians are going to judge the world? And since you are going to judge the world, can’t you decide these little things among yourselves? Don’t you realize that we Christians will judge angels? So you should surely be able to resolve ordinary disagreements here on earth. If you have legal disputes about such matters, why do you go to outside judges who are not respected by the church? I am saying this to shame you. Isn’t there anyone in all the church who is wise enough to decide these arguments? But instead, one Christian sues another–right in front of unbelievers! To have such lawsuits at all is a real defeat for you. Why not just accept the injustice and leave it at that? Why not let yourselves be cheated? But instead, you yourselves are the ones who do wrong and cheat even your own Christian brothers and sisters. (1 Cor 6:1-8)

What is wrong with Christians suing other Christians in court? First, there should be sufficient wisdom in the church to solve conflicts. Notice that Paul assumes that disputes among Christians are the business of the church. If a Christian brother has a conflict with another brother, that’s not a private matter. It’s something that impacts the church and is part of the church’s rightful concern.

Moreover, for Christians to sue each other in secular court looks terrible to observing unbelievers. It certainly doesn’t commend the gospel of Jesus Christ if Christians sue each other. For that matter, the desire to win and get even doesn’t reflect the cross of Christ at all. Thus Paul can end his denunciation of Corinthian lawsuits with a rather shocking statement: “To have such lawsuits at all is a real defeat for you. Why not just accept the injustice and leave it at that? Why not let yourselves be cheated?” (6:7).

Tomorrow I’ll continue this discussion about how NOT to solve conflicts among Christians.



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Ray

posted August 26, 2010 at 8:46 pm


Your friend Jeff being sued over his selection of music and the order of worship seems a bit over the top. Certainly, this is a matter that should have been resolved within the church.
However, in your comments you go on to mention matters of church property as though conflicts over real property are also matters to be decided within the church. Yes…all church related disputes between individual church members, or between congregational members of a denomination, should be resolved within the purview of the church. But the church does not have jurisdiction over matters of real property, the state does. So, if the church is unable to reach a satisfactory resolution on its own, a dispute over property ought to be taken to a state court where a jury can render a binding decision.
I only make the point of property issues because I believe that my own denomination, PCUSA, is headed for a game-changing showdown over church property sometime within the next 10 years. I do not think that the denomination will be able to resolve these issues in-house, so the secular courts will necessarily – and appropriately – come into play.
We just need to be thinking about this stuff before it blindsides us. That’s all.
Thanks for this thought provoking series.



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Den

posted October 10, 2010 at 12:31 am


The Biblical principles of reconcilling conflicts within the “church” ARE thiers to address. Why were Pauls comments so? He was concerned that they follow the right way; the important thing to see in the scripture is the way Paul is pointing to. Call it “turning the other cheek” if accepting being “cheated” isnt palatable. Arent we cheating Christ the glory due His name in ALL things including conflicts we dont resolve as we should? 1 Cor 6.1 keeps it clear. And what part does rightous have with unrightous? Think about it. Even at the cost of our personal property, risk of tainting the pride of ownership, or (fill in the blank), nothing good can possibly come from this. Carefully look at the text following 1 Cor 6.6 (9-11); to define who Paul is talking about. Clear as bell.
If its handled any other way, this is not representative of the church that Christ is building, it is something entirely opposed to God; the man-made machine, or business as some refer to called the “Church” that the unrightous sew to thier own ruin, and bring shame and dishonor to God. Seen it happen in more than one “church” prefectly portrayed to Pauls writing. Verse 5 covers it; wisdom is lacking in the places men call churches. Praise the Lord for the grace given through Paul following his rebuke – in love; 1 Cor 6.11. A stark reminder for Corinth and todays “churches” of the cleansing, sancifying, justifying work found in Jesus. All this to say, we can and should resolve conflict ourselves. The resources are there, the wisdom waits; seek it and the resolution will come. Dont have it, or enough to resolve the conflict? You dont have because you dont ask. Your conflict is your problem.



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