Mark D. Roberts

Mark D. Roberts

Loving Like Jesus . . . Easier Said Than Done

posted by Mark D. Roberts | 1:22am Thursday September 2, 2010

1 Corinthians 13 calls us to love like Jesus. Though he is not specifically mentioned in verses 4-7, Jesus is surely the model behind Paul’s exhortation. The love of Jesus is epitomized, most of all, in the cross, in his sacrificial death for our sake. We’re to love based on this model.

Of course that’s much easier said than done. If we’re honest, we who try to follow Jesus’ example of love often come up short. In fact, sometimes we don’t even want to try and love like Jesus. Have you ever wished you didn’t have to be like Jesus? I have, many times over. I don’t like turning the other cheek and, frankly, I’m not very good at it. I don’t like having to forgive people over and over again. And that’s just the beginning. We can all talk about imitating Jesus, but really doing it, especially in the midst of conflict, is just plain tough.

I remember so well an instance in my ministry when I was working with a group in conflict. The arguments were fierce and tempers flared. People were showing selfish attitudes that seemed so unlike what we’re called to in Scripture. Finally I said to the group, “Friends, I’m hearing what you want to do in this situation, but my question is: What do you think Jesus would do here?” One woman blurted out in anger, “I don’t care what Jesus would do. I AM NOT JESUS!”

Part of me wanted to respond: “Well, that’s obvious.” But, by God’s grace, I did not pour even more fuel on the fire of her selfish anger. In fact, I did admire her ironic honesty, I’ve got to say. But it almost seemed to me as if she was saying that since she wasn’t Jesus she didn’t have to act as he would act. That’s just not adequate for a Christian. A better statement would be: “It’s really hard to be like Jesus because I am not Jesus. But I know I’m called to be like him, as tough as it can be. So, Lord, help me! HELP ME BE LIKE JESUS!”

I’ll bet I’ve prayed this prayer at least 200 times in my life, in situations where my patience has run out, where I haven’t wanted to be kind, where I have had a long record of wrongs, and where I’ve cared most of all about my own way. Sometimes, I’m sad to admit, I’ve done what comes naturally and acted in selfishness. But there have been times when I’ve sensed the Lord helping me to be like him. He’s given me patience I just don’t have. He’s helped me to subordinate my agenda to his. He’s allowed me to hear my opponent, not just as someone to be defeated in debate, but as a human being with needs, fears, hurts, and tender desires.

If you’re in the middle of conflict with other Christians right now, I can almost guarantee that you don’t want to be like Jesus. Admittedly, his way isn’t easy. But it’s the way of love, the way of peace, and the way of God.

If you have the courage to try it, take 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 and use it to measure your own attitudes and behaviors, especially in reference to those with whom you are in conflict. Have you been patient, really? Have you been kind, truly? How has your kindness been expressed to those with whom you differ? Have you been demanding your own way? Are you keeping a record of wrongs? Are you willing to endure no matter what may come your way? Think about it. Pray about it.

Tomorrow I’ll continue my investigation of 1 Corinthians 13 and its implications for conflict among Christians.  



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MARTIN S.

posted September 2, 2010 at 1:54 pm


JESUS commands us to love because
love believes, love hopes, love
endures. Make HIS love known,
give HIS love and share HIS love
selflessly! LOVE NEVER FAILS!!



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Steve Cornell

posted September 2, 2010 at 11:19 pm

Elijah A, Alexander, Jr.

posted September 5, 2010 at 8:18 am


My findings since following the life style it’s written Jesus lived, the wandering messenger, it’s easy to love like Jesus. We are always saying “give your life to christ” but do we? How often do we her “let go and let god” but do we? Making such statements but not doing it is where the problem lies.
After being what is normally called Christian most of my 28 years of life, I went into an new spiritual conception in 1973. Shortly thereafter I told god to control ever “fiber of my existence” was when I gave my live over to the anointing, when I let go and let god.
Since then, I’m only required to listen to and obey my heart’s prompting under every condition. When I see a condition appearing to be dangerous and I don’t want to react to it, I inquire of my heart what am I to do and give explanation of the conditions, usually the heart of those about to create the problem is changed and I’m spared. Other times, before know something is about to happen I am prompted to watch, and I’m able to take evasive action.
In conclusion, If we saw we are in the likeness of christ, we should give ourselves to the anointing for it to control us rather than taking control of our own lives and the love will be there for everyone equally in spite of ourselves or conditions.



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Neil Gilligan

posted September 6, 2010 at 7:26 pm


One of the things I have noticed when I minister to people today in the USA, is that when they are healed from their sickness, they cry. What doctors and drugs cannot do, Jesus Can! Jesus heals all the sick. As Mark D. Roberts quoted the woman, “I AM NOT JESUS!” so she didn’t care. I am not Jesus either, but because He wooed me to be filled by His Holy Spirit and Clothed by Power from on high…I have Jesus with me, if not Jesus, then I have His power and His authority. That is one of the best ways to love like Jesus did–heal the sick & cast out demons. My book: “Transformed by the Power of God: Learning to be Clothed in Jesus Christ” by Neil Gilligan will teach you how to be filled and clothed by the Spirit. It is a message for all believers today. Need more of Jesus? Get the book and you will have Him with you to the very end of the age, He promised (Mt 28:18).
Believers have an obligation to be distinctive from our culture. We can only be distinctive if Jesus is in us and we are in Jesus (John 15:5). That’s what my book will teach you how to have Jesus in you and how you can be in Jesus.



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Lance

posted September 7, 2010 at 7:33 am


To love like Jesus is tough. Even Jesus in the garden said, “O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou [wilt].” He felt how hard it was, yet he yeilded to the will of the Father, and that is what we must do. No we’re not Jesus, but we are called to be His disciples.
Thanks or sharing.



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