Mark D. Roberts

Mark D. Roberts

In the News: Does Facebook Make Us More or Less Social?

posted by Mark D. Roberts

The hit movie, The Social Network, paints an ironic, sad picture of relationships in the age of Facebook. The creators of the most powerful social media website in the world, one that focuses on having lots of friends, are utterly unable to have true friendships. They are social failures, even though they have made billions of dollars by promoting social media. (Note: This is the vision of the movie. I am not in a place to comment on the social lives of Mark Zuckerberg and his colleagues, though the plethora of Facebook-related lawsuits suggests some measure of social ineptitude. Time Magazine’s stories associated with Zuckerberg’s title of Person of the Year 2010 reveal a much more social person than The Social Network portrays.)

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You can have hundreds or even thousands of friends on Facebook, but does that make you more social? Does Facebook contribute to deeper and wider social experience? Or does it, as many critics allege, reflect and contribute to social impoverishment?

The New York Times recently reported on a new study that seeks to answer some of these questions with actual data. “Does Facebook Make Someone Social Offline?” summarizes an academic report from the Department of Radio-Television-Film at the University of Texas in Austin.  Here’s part of the Times summary:

According to a cheery report out of the University of Texas, Austin,
Facebook actually makes us more sociable. Surveying 900 current and
recent college graduates nationwide, Craig Watkins and Erin Lee of the
Department of Radio-Television-Film at the University of Texas examined
the impact of Facebook on users’ social lives, concluding that “social
media afford opportunities for new expressions of friendship, intimacy
and community.”

The two point to young peoples’ propensity to use Facebook to stay in
touch with far-flung friends (47 percent say it’s very important) and
family members (35 percent). Four to five years ago, Dr. Watkins said,
young people’s social networks were far more limited. “It would have
been unimaginable for young people to have their family members as part
of their network.”

As you would expect, not everyone agrees with Watkins’ upbeat appraisal of the impact of Facebook. The Times article includes a quote from one informed naysayer:

Sherry Turkle, author of a new book, “Alone Together: Why We Expect
More From Technology and Less From Each Other,” said that the study
allows Facebook to define what makes for social behavior.

“I’m all for sharing photos, but you can be pro-photo sharing without
being convinced that it expands our social lives,” Dr. Turkle said.
“It’s a way of defining downwards what it means to be social.”

So what do you think? If you are a Facebook user, how has this impact your social life? Are you more social? Less social? Are you social in different ways?

And what do you observe in your friends, both tangible and digital? How has Facebook impacted their social lives? 



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Steve

posted January 31, 2011 at 3:49 pm


Mark:
I am of the opinion that Facebook may be doing two things at once; connecting us in good ways that we could not be connected before, and also disconnecting us from real human “face time”.
The up shod of this is that we will need be intentionally more relational. We will need to work at real interaction with people, because our electronic devices can easily steal this from us. I fear that the next generation is already loosing some social skills. This does not portend well for the future of society, or the church, for that matter.
For an interesting perspective, see Michel Bruner’s thoughts on the Social Network at:
http://exfontibus.wordpress.com/2011/01/23/the-speed-of-life/



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Ruud

posted February 1, 2011 at 3:56 am


I am definitely more social.
I have more knowledge of what my fellow church members do when they are not at church. During mettings I can talk to them about that.



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Marcus Goodyear

posted February 2, 2011 at 5:03 pm


I have yet to see The Social Network because I’ve read that it’s just not fair to the people involved. I need to see it though.
I will say this. I use Facebook primarily as a social tool to relate to my real friends, most of whom live within five miles of me. We joke on Facebook. Share photos. Talk about the weather and whose power went out during the freeze last night. We organize lunch dates and dinner dates and movie dates. We encourage each other.
The trick is not being so into my interactions with friends that I’m not present for my kids.
But that isn’t a problem I can blame on Facebook.



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Sheila Lagrand

posted February 2, 2011 at 6:30 pm


Marcus’ response:
“I use Facebook primarily as a social tool to relate to my real friends” is close to what I’m thinking, though our children are up and grown (and mostly gone, though we do have one boomeranger under the roof at the moment.)
I also keep in touch with a few old friends from school who I might not, otherwise. And I know more about what’s happening in the lives of family who live at a distance than I would otherwise, I think.
We still phone for big stuff. And we still plan time to spend together. The postings in between do help replace suppositions with outlines of my friends’ and family members’ lives.



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Laura Boggess

posted February 2, 2011 at 7:21 pm


Facebook has been for me a way to stay in touch with the everyday of my faraway friends, as well as family. I agree with Steve that it creates a need to be more intentional. I am very fortunate to have a network of friends who value relationship and we work hard at making ours go deeper–Facebook is only one way we stay in touch.
Thanks for provoking this thoughtful discussion!



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Adam Collings

posted February 2, 2011 at 10:21 pm


I’m not an overly social person – given the business of having young children, and the fact that many of my closest friends have moved to other places. I find social networking such as Facebook enhances my sociability. It connects me with people (even locally) who I otherwise wouldn’t maket the time for connect with. Like anything it can be mis-used and can have a negative influence, but it needn’t necessarily. Used correctly it can simply be an enhancement rather than a replacement for person-to-person socialisation.



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Marilyn

posted February 3, 2011 at 10:04 am


Facebook has its place and I am definitely more aware of what’s going on with some people than I would be without it, but I find someone posting an update that is generalized and going to all his/her friends does not translate to connectedness. I sense an increasing isolation in people who rely too heavily on social networking without sufficient other forms of connecting. And sensing this, I am way more intentional about connecting with individuals via coffee dates, email, even phone calls (which I used to avoid).
We are all learning to navigate new waters.



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deidra

posted February 3, 2011 at 10:39 pm


I was a late adopter to facebook. I just couldn’t figure out what the hype was all about. I still prefer a conversation face-to-face on a couch with a cup of tea, but the fact is that most of my friends live hundreds if not thousands of miles from me. Facebook gives me the chance to stay connected with them, and I’m not sure that would have been possible if my only option was a phone call (I’m not a phone talker either, Marilyn).
I am a fan of the art of letter writing. I think it’s fascinating how letters used to carry conversations over miles and through time, stretching out the catching up over weeks and months. Facebook captures some of the connectedness that letter writing offers – without the time and space between the interactions.



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Mark Ettinger

posted February 3, 2011 at 11:00 pm


I suppose that people, other than teenagers, are generally bored and lonely – even the married ones. They turn on Facebook and other social networks so they can imagine that they fit into the clique. It’s a way to be social without actually being social. Is that an oxymoron?
I guess that sums it up. Facebook is an oxymoron. It’s also a great place for people to try to sell themselves or their brands, under the guise of social networking. Other than that, it’s simply whatever you want it to be. Free reign – poetic license, whatever. Ultimately,a
post with the name Facebook on it, just wasted about twenty minutes of my time again. I’m in Facebook rehab – Facebook rehab – Facebook rehab.
You had to ask, didn’t you?



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Marie

posted February 4, 2011 at 7:26 am


Facebook is like anything else: whether it’s good or bad is in how you use it. Things don’t have to be just a general update to 5,000 of your closest friends; one may send private messages for more personal contact. For me, it’s been great. I’ve been able to keep in touch with family, reconnect with people I knew in school, stay in touch with former co-workers, and find people who share my interests. I’m in radio, so it’s also useful for keeping up with the music world and making friends with some wonderful people connected to it. Years ago, I couldn’t have even imagined being able to keep in touch with authors, musicians and broadcasters around the world, and now I can do that every day before breakfast! And yes, I’ve connected in person with some people I have met through FB, always with good results! While FB is not for everyone, it can be a real asset if used correctly.



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Patsy Davis

posted February 4, 2011 at 7:38 am


My name is Patsy Davis and I live in Charlotte, N.C. I AM NOT A FAN of Facebook. I find it very hard to navigate and use. I am a Yahoo.com user.



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Pastor Tony

posted February 4, 2011 at 8:02 am


I consider myself to be a social person so facebook has not made me more social. Yet I like Facebook for 3 reasons.
Primarily FB has expanded my contacts with family members. They live all over the country so it is nice to keep in touch and see new photos of nieces and nephews as they grow and hear of their doings and travels as well. This is great.
FB also allows me to preach the Bible and to opine on current events and on the culture.
Finally FB has enabled me to resume contact with old friends and new, though I must admit that my main contact with church members is still face to face, in person.
I can see the dangers of wasting too much time playing games and also of saying the wrong things or revealing private matters but overall my FB experience is positive. Those who spend too much time on FB or judge their self-worth based on their number of friends have a serious problem. They are not social. They need to be in community, in church and realting face to face with others. FB allows them hide behind a facade which is more difficult to do when interacting with others in person.



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Monica

posted February 4, 2011 at 9:52 am


I am a user of facebook but I am very guarded as to who is on my friends list. Most of them are current family or very close friends that I visit. I find it hard to accept friend request even if it is extended family when I know they do not behave appropriately. I would rather not view the profanity and other things they choose to post. As a christian it is already a challenge to walk a clean path in life in this world and I would rather not have the temptation that those individuals provide.
Most of the groups that I choose to join on facebook are faith based and I find it encouraging to view the postings and I can and do voice my belief in Christ. I voice my opinion in public as well especially when I hear someone use the Lord’s name in vain. 9 times out of 10 I will get an apology other times I get the response “Well what has He done for me?” I usually counter with “What have you done for Him?” Then it is easier to explain what He has done for them and give them the choice.



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Jan

posted February 4, 2011 at 10:54 am


Monica – You could accept the inappropiate acting Friends and then block them from your news feed. Maybe they would read a post by you that would help them.



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Maxine

posted February 4, 2011 at 12:03 pm


As was mentioned previously,facebook can be a means to keeping in touch with family and friends. It doesn’t make you more or less “social.” I am greatful to Facebook because it has re-acquainted me with old friends that I hadn’t seen in years. It also allows us to post pictures of our families which otherwise wouldn’t be seen to family and friends who live far away. Facebook is a “good” thing and I am happy to be a part of it.



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Gwnedolyns for

posted February 4, 2011 at 12:20 pm


I have positive and negative comments about Facebook. As for me, it has been a positive experience. I don’t check it that often, but I was surprised one day to see my family and people I had gone to high school had contacted me. I traveled a lot and to be abroad and able to connect with my family & friends made all the difference.
The negative is I think people try to connect with people they don’t know and call them friends! Technology has allowed us to be less social with each other. For instance, texting. As our lives get busier, technology provides us with the alternative of communicating with each other without actually talking. I prefer face to face if I had the choice. That is the best way for me. You can actually look in the person’s eyes and interact socially which is how it should be. But if that person you want to communicate with is miles or oceans away, you can still pick up your cell and make the call!



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