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Wednesday June 24, 2009

Categories: Arts and Media

Can a bunny be enlightened? I give you the Buddha Bunny...

This year at the Burning Man Project, a 20 foot bunny is going to seek enlightenment.

How do I know this? Well, last year I contributed a leaf to a New York based multi-media art project I thought was cool called arbor animus. The creation was a "Spirited, or Courageous Tree, is a 16-foot-tall, multimedia, fully-interactive, artistic representation of an American Willow tree, evoking the theme of the American Dream. " Each donor got a leaf on the tree with an image that they felt evoked their notion of the American Dream.

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Ten percent of the funds raised for the project went to support The Center for the New American Dream which is a non-profit organization which works to help Americans consume responsibly to protect the environment, enhance quality of life, and promote social justice.

So I was quite surprised when I looked in my inbox on Tuesday, still trying to figure out what I would write for the blog this week, when I discovered that this year Animus is going to build a 20 foot tall meditating rabbit sitting in full lotus position. Here is the description of the Buddha Bunny:


Wednesday June 17, 2009

Categories: Right Lifestyle

You are not your khakis

I'm on vacation this week - here is one of my favorites previously published on our old blog site:

"I'm breaking my attachment to physical power and possessions because only through destroying myself can I discover the greater power of my spirit" ~Tyler Durden - Fight Club

While I chastise myself not being more imaginative than quoting Fight Club, when I am feeling very anti-materialistic or anti-consumer culture, it is quotes from the book/movie that always pop into my mind. But I do love the irony that Fight Club rails against consumerism, material goods, and promotes the destruction of the self and yet manages to inspire the opposite in the legions of fans who buy things in order to express that Fight Club somehow represents who they are. And it is this push away and pull towards objects that I want to address.

While we may rail against consumerism, sometimes we are just pulled to certain material things. They bring us joy and excitement.  Aaron C. Ahuvia argues in his article, Beyond the Extended Self: Loved Objects and Consumers' Identity Narratives, that some "loved" objects that we own help us create a coherent story of ourselves. Loved objects and activities help to structure our social relationships and support our well-being. Objects can tell stories. They can hold family histories. They can represent friendships and symbolize marriages. They recreate our culture. We pass them down from generation to generation.

I can find beauty and love embedded in objects - from amazing works of art to my father's neckties. However I have a hard time putting my finger on the point when this craving for objects goes from meaningful storytelling, family heirlooms, or culture regeneration to excessive disposable waste. When do objects become disposable? When do they go from loved items to just the latest fashion trend?

I know people who love shoes. I mean really love shoes. To them, they are loved objects of intense personal meaning. They tell a story ("I bought those shoes for a party in the Spring of 1986 at a wonderful store in Paris"). They can't be replaced. They are seen as works of art and beauty. But how long will they last? How many pairs of shoes can you love? How many resources did they use up? Are you really your shoes?

Do we truly work towards giving up all material objects in our lives? Do we learn to no longer express our "selves" through material objects? Do we give up the history and meanings that arise from objects as well as the meanings are embedded onto them by our minds and collective culture? What would that look like?

"The liberator who destroys my property, is fighting to save my spirit. The teacher who clears all possessions from my path will set me free." ~Tyler Durden, Fight Club

Wednesday June 10, 2009

Mindful wedding planning part two: Ceremony reading

Following up on last week's post, here is a wonderful reading I ran across while looking for something that reflected our values to be read during the ceremony. It reminded me of some of the previous discussions we have had on the Buddhist approach to marriage:



From "Gift From The Sea" by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

"When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides."



Wednesday June 3, 2009

Categories: Right Lifestyle

Mindful wedding planning in thought and in reality

Despite Christie Brinkley's recent pessimistic advice where she stated, "Right at the beginning of a relationship, I would formalize an exit strategy," I am going to get married in 10 days on June 13, 2009. I am in the midst of wedding countdown insanity, with many little things that need to be taken care of. It is crazy to think I have been putting this event together for at least 9 months now.

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Photo courtesy of fotographix.ca

Some of the hardest, but most rewarding, parts so far has been trying to make our wedding (and our future marriage) something that truly reflects our values. Being conscious of what we wanted instead of just mindlessly going along with tradition. If and when we chose to go with the classics (such as having maids of honor and best men), we did it intentionally.


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