Janice Taylor is a Weight Loss Coach and Certified Hypnotist, author, artist and motivational speaker. She is the author of Our Lady of Weight Loss: Miraculous and Motivational Musings from the Patron Saint of Permanent Fat Removal and All Is Forgiven, Move On: Our Lady of Weight Loss's 101 Fat-Burning Steps on Your Journey to Sveltesville (publication date May 15, 2008). Janice is also the creator of the popular e-newsletter Kick in the Tush Club and a 50-pound big-time-loser.
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I try to stay away from people who are unkind but sometimes they are definitely unavoidable. Usually I am too shocked to say anything. Later when I am upset and stewing about it, I remember that it says more about them than it does about me and that helps. Praying for them also helps as well but can be a challenge!
You are smashingly and stunningly beautiful now. Also BEFORE you lost weight. I just don't think you realized it then, and perhaps not accept that "old you" even now. Toxic people are sad,alas,& always among us. We are called to simply love--nothing more. But I'd add simply ignore, too! Smiling and saying, "Gee, thanks for that lovely thought!" someimes gets 'em... I feel sorry for crummy people as I'd hate to be them, nobody likes 'em,folks don't wanna be with them, and...! Keep on keeping on because you are loved, just the way you are--with your big heart, great bod, arched eyebrows, 'n curly hair!
I am becoming permanently newly thin, and enjoying the road to a new lifestyle.This article was very timely as I have begun to experience the same type of rudeness, and lack of common courtesy and sincerity in people.
Carry on anyhow, just as I will continue to do, and thank you for encouraging others.Enjoy your life to the fullest!!!
Well, I think this is clearly a positive look at human behavior. Sometimes people can use our flaws (weight issues, whatever) as a crutch for THEM to lean on - as if that's our job - and therefore feel threatened when we change and improve..who will they lean on? They don't understand that this was never a crutch situation! Lean on yourself!
(And, of course, you)
When someone says something rude to you, the best thing to do it say something nice to them back. It shocks them and deflates their negative energy. They have nothing to say back and it takes two to argue. Then smile and say have a nice day and really mean it! They hate that! All in all, be the bigger person. Show them that the stuff doesn't bother you. Most of all don't take it personally, it is all about them and not about you!
I really need your help in losing weight. I MUST lose about 15 pounds. Can you coach me????
I need your guidance to help me lose about 15 pounds.
Isn't it ironic...I have clear memories of other kids and adults ridiculing my weight from grade school years (I am now 51). These memories have never faded. It's even more ironic that if one makes signifigant changes, they are (again) the target of rudeness from others. I am in awe of Janice, and this article strenghthens my resolve to 'give myself the gift' of fat deduction by my next birthday in April of 2009. With healthy changes, I find it funny that it is necessary to develop a very thick skin.
I loved the "other cheek" technique, by pcw, "When someone says something rude to you, the best thing to do it say something nice to them back." I believe Jesus said something similar.
As an NLP Practitioner, I would, however, be mindful of "All in all, be the bigger person." for people who intend to reduce their body size. "bigger" probably meant "adult" in pcw's sentence,
and at the same time, "bigger" also means, well, bigger. And our subconscious would make us bigger - literally. Many people get heavy to "have some weight" in the conversation...
If what people say bothers you, there are several options. Why pretend? You could say "do you really want to make me cry?" as in that famous song... You could say "Ouch", with dramatic aaargh, as if you had just been hit by an arrow,
or you could mime a boomerang and laugh, or duck, and laugh, or visualize a Star Trek force field and their words bounce back, etc. Or say "is that nice?" as the mafia gangster in "Analyze this!" Or (my fave) look at them as if they were a curious insect, quite fascinating actually - and you cannot wait to see what they will do next. THAT usually astounds people.
Have fun! I hope others will have other fun ideas, this is something we all have to come to terms with. Sometimes, people are NOT NICE. Sheesh.
Angels fly because they take themselves lightly.
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When my daughter was in high school she lost 50 lbs., and her best friend (who has always been thin) made some awful comments. This group of kids were going through the "angst" of being teen agers, they hated everything, were cynical and snotty about everything. Then when my daughter felt better about herself, and felt less anger towards the world, her friend felt lost and abandoned. She resented the change of my daughter's appearance because it was a change and this girl was very insecure. My daughter has maintained an 80 lb. weight loss for 10 years, and this "friend" is an alcoholic with serious emotional issues. So when someone makes a comment about losing weight it's probably because they are screwed up emotionally, and want companions in their negative journey through life.
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