I know this is one of the most difficult subjects I will ever discuss
with you, but it’s so important. I hope you will allow yourself this
opportunity to consider these necessary actions for the sake of your
well-being and as well as that of your loved ones.



None of us knows exactly how or when we will die, but we all know it
will happen…someday. I believe that we should try to approach death
in the same manner that, hopefully, we approach life – intentionally
and with an effort to do as much good and as little harm as possible.
When it comes to exiting gracefully, it is best to plan for and embrace
our eventual death as consciously as possible.



Here are some steps to take in thinking about how you would like to live the last days of your life:

1.    Begin by writing out how you would want to live the last days of
your life. Where would you like to be? Who would you like to be with you? What ceremonies or rituals would you like performed? What
services or celebrations would you like held in honor of your life?
(Personally, I want the party before I go and then a great roast at my funeral…which had better be good or I’ll be back!)

2.    Create an “End of Life” Journal and write out your thoughts and
feelings about your life’s journey. Inside, you might also write a
letter to each of your loved ones. Express whatever you
need them to know so that you can both be complete when you’re gone.

3.    Discuss your wishes in detail with your spouse, trusted friend,
or family members. Ask for their support in allowing you to leave in
the manner of your choosing.

4.    Appoint someone who is emotionally willing and capable to be in
charge of your personal, medical and financial affairs. Create a file
with all of your insurance, legal and financial documents and review it
in advance with your appointed agent. Make sure this person is fully
capable of handling the responsibility of caring for your medical needs
and financial affairs.

5.    In order for your wishes to be carried out, it is important that
you complete a living will and a state approved medical directive. Prepare these legal forms
well in advance to avoid a crisis later. Without this, your family or
appointed agent will not have the legal right to make decisions on your
behalf.

6.    Share your desire to have your loved ones fully support your
wishes and not interfere with your medical directives, even if they
disagree.


7.    Discuss what you’d like to have happen as your illness
progresses. Ask your loved ones and family to be your advocate if you
cannot communicate for yourself.


8.    Discuss your end-of-life wishes with your doctor and healthcare
providers in detail. Have them explain your end-of-life choices and
options thoroughly. Make sure you discuss your pain management options
with them and give them a copy of your medical directive. Physicians
are not required to follow directives if they disagree with your
wishes, so it’s best to have a candid discussion with them and ask them
if they plan to honor your directives.

9.    You may want or need to look into hospice options in your area.
Hospice workers are highly trained, end-of-life caregivers who are
truly a gift to the dying and their loved ones during their final days.
 



10.  You may want to request a loving prayer vigil to surround
you in love and light during your transition. Death, like life, is a
spiritual journey. Although we must all someday leave this earth, we must always remember that we wherever we go, we go with God. Know
that as we leave this place and our human body, we are simply
returning to His loving arms and embracing His Greater Plan for our
spiritual unfolding.

Here’s a poem I wrote for the services of a dear friend not long ago: